Yazi Ukuhamba Kwakho: Zishintsha Kanjani Izikhathi Njengoba Ukhula

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• Ukusakaza inkathi yesikhathi
• Thatha ubuhlungu ngokungathi sína, noma usemncane
• AmaTweens nentsha: Imvamisa kuyangcola, kepha akukho lutho okufanele ube namahloni ngalo
• Ama-20s: Ukungena emgodini
• Ubulili besikhathi: Ukuba noma ukungabi nakho
• Lapho izimpawu zingasho okuthile okungaphezulu
• Ama-30s: Isikhwama esixubekile, kepha sicishe sibe ngcwele
• Isikhathi senkulumo yokukhulelwa
• Isikhathi sokuqeda isikhathi
• Ama-40s: Ukudlala umdlalo wokuqagela
• Ama-50s: Letha ukunqamuka kokuya esikhathini

Ukusakaza inkathi yesikhathi

Nayi inhlebo encane yakho: UCourtney Cox waba ngumuntu wokuqala ukubiza inkathi isikhathi kuthelevishini kazwelonke. Unyaka? 1985.

I-taboo yokuya esikhathini ibiyinto kudala ngaphambi kweminyaka yama-80s, noma kunjalo. Kunamasiko amaningi omphakathi, amasiko, nenkolo emhlabeni wonke athi yini engenziwa nengenziwa ngesikhathi. Futhi isiko le-pop nalo belingenamusa ngokulinganayo.

Ngokujabulisayo izinto zihamba kancane, kepha okuningi kusasele kungafuneki. Enye yezindlela zokuchitha lesi sikhathi esingajwayelekile ukuthi ukhulume nje ngaso - sikubize ngokuthi kuyini.

Akusilo "u-anti Flo ozokuvakasha," "leso sikhathi senyanga," noma "isonto loshaka." Kuyisikhathi.

Kukhona igazi nobuhlungu futhi ngezinye izikhathi ukukhululeka noma ukudabuka, futhi ngezinye izikhathi konke lokho ngasikhathi sinye. (Futhi enye into: Akuyona imikhiqizo yenhlanzeko yabesifazane, iyimikhiqizo yokuya esikhathini.)

Sifinyelele kudokotela nenqwaba yabantu abanezibeletho ukuthola phansi ukuthi kunjani ukuba nesikhathi - kusukela ekuthomeni ukuya esikhathini sokuya esikhathini nakho konke okuphakathi.

Thatha ubuhlungu ngokungathi sína, noma usemncane

Ngaphambi kokuba siqale, kungenzeka ukuthi iningi lethu elinesibeletho ubuhlungu bethu abuzange buthathwe ngokungathi sína. Mhlawumbe wafundiswa ukuthi lokhu bekuzokwenzeka kanjani ukuthi izikhathi zibe khona. Kodwa ubuhlungu bakho bubalulekile.

Uma uhlangabezana nanoma ikuphi kwalokhu okulandelayo noma esikhathini sakho, unganqikazi ukufuna umhlinzeki wezokunakekelwa kwempilo:

• ubuhlungu esifundeni se-pelvic
• izikhathi ezibuhlungu
• ubuhlungu beqolo
• ubuhlungu esiswini esingezansi
• izinkathi ezinde
• izikhathi ezinzima

Lezi zimpawu kungenzeka zikhombe ekuyeni esikhathini.

Eziningi zezifo ezivamile zokuya esikhathini zitholakala kamuva empilweni, njengaseminyakeni yama-20s noma engama-30. Kodwa lokho akusho ukuthi empeleni baqala ukwenzeka ngaleso sikhathi - kulapho udokotela akuqinisekisa khona.

Unganqikazi ukuthola usizo, noma ngabe umdala kangakanani. Ufanelwe ukwelashwa.

AmaTweens nentsha: Imvamisa kuyangcola, kepha akukho lutho okufanele ube namahloni ngalo

Ngokwesilinganiso, abantu base-United States bathola isikhathi sabo sokuqala ngasikhathi sinye. Kodwa lokho kumane nje kuyisilinganiso. Ukube ubumdala noma ubemncane ngeminyaka embalwa, lokho kuvamile, futhi.

Iminyaka obuyiyo lapho uqala ukuthola isikhathi sakho incike koku, njenge-genetics yakho, inkomba yomzimba (BMI), ukudla okudlayo, ukuvivinya umzimba kangakanani, nokuthi uhlala kuphi.

Eminyakeni embalwa yokuqala, kujwayelekile ukuthi isikhathi sakho sibe ngokungajwayelekile futhi singalindelekile. Ungahamba izinyanga ungazi lutho ngalo bese uqhuma, izimpophoma ezibomvu zeNiagara.

"Ukuya esikhathini, ukuqala kwama-mens, kukhombisa kakhulu ukunqamuka kokuya esikhathini ngoba ekuqaleni, futhi ekugcineni, asivusi," kusho uMary Jane Minkin, MD, uprofesa wezokwelapha we-OB-GYN kanye nesayensi yokuzala eYale School Wezokwelapha.

Umjikelezo wethu wokuya esikhathini ubuswa ama-hormone ethu. Okuhlangenwe nakho komzimba kwenkathi - ukopha, amajaqamba, ukuguquka kwemizwelo, amabele amathenda - konke kwehla kuye enanini lamahomoni umzimba wethu eliwakhiphayo nganoma yisiphi isikhathi. Futhi ama-hormone amabili ikakhulukazi ayalela umjikelezo wethu.

"I-Estrogen ivusa ukukhula kocezu lwesibeletho, kuyilapho i-progesterone ilawula lokho kukhula," kusho uMinkin. “Uma singavuthisi amaqanda, asinakho ukulawula okulawula i-progesterone. Ngakho-ke ungathola lezi zikhathi zewilly-nilly. Bayafika, abeza. Bese kuba khona ukuphuma kwegazi okunzima, okuvela ngezikhathi ezithile. ”

UKatia Najd waqala ukuya esikhathini eminyakeni embalwa edlule lapho eneminyaka engu-15. Ekuqaleni wahlangabezana nomjikelezo ongajwayelekile - yize wawujwayelekile -.

"Isikhathi sami sasikhanya kakhulu ekuqaleni futhi sithatha cishe isonto nohhafu," kusho uNajd. "Ngangiba nokuya esikhathini cishe kabili ngenyanga, yingakho nginqume ukuthi ngisebenzise iphilisi ukuze ngililawule."

Kuvamile ukuzizwa unamahloni, udidekile, futhi ukhungathekile mayelana nesikhathi sakho ekuqaleni. Okunengqondo ephelele. Kungokuhlangenwe nakho okusha sha, okungajwayelekile okubandakanya okuyingxenye esondelene kakhulu yomzimba wakho.

“Ngangikusaba kakhulu ukuvuza esikoleni samabanga aphakathi (ngangingakaqali ngisho nokuya esikhathini, kodwa nganginovalo lokuthi ngizoqala bese ngivuza) kangangokuthi ngangizoya endlini yangasese njengaso sonke isigamu sehora ukuyobheka nje,” kusho yena. U-Erin Trowbridge. "Bengihlala ngisesaba ngezinto ezinjengalezo iminyaka."

Ekhula engumSulumane, uHannah Said wayengavunyelwe ukuthandaza noma ukuzila ukudla ngesikhathi seRamadan ngesikhathi esesikhathini. Uthi lokhu kumenze wangazizwa kahle, ikakhulukazi uma esondelene nabanye abantu abakholwayo. Kodwa ngenxa yokwesekwa nguyise, akazange afake inhlamba kakhulu.

Uthi: “Ubaba wami waba ngumuntu wokuqala owaziyo ukuthi ngangiya esikhathini futhi wangithengela amapayipi. "Ngakho-ke bekulokhu kuyinto engikhululekile ukukhuluma ngayo, ikakhulukazi ngabesilisa."

Ngokufanayo, uNajd ubala ukwesekwa komndeni wakhe njengesinye sezizathu zokuthi angazizwa kabi ngesikhathi sakhe.

Uthi: “Nginodadewethu ababili abadala, ngakho ngangikujwayele ukuzwa ngakho ngaphambi kokuba ngiqale. "Yinto wonke umuntu wesifazane anayo, ngakho-ke akuyona into okufanele ube namahloni ngayo."

Ama-20s: Ukungena emgodini

Ngakho-ke, izinkathi zigcwele yonke indawo ekuqaleni. Kepha kuthiwani ngesikhashana esithe xaxa?

Ama-20s akho yi-heyday yakho yokuzala. Lesi yisikhathi lapho umzimba wakho ulungele kakhulu ukuba nengane. Kubantu abaningi lokhu kusho ukuthi imijikelezo yabo izoba ejwayelekile kakhulu.

“Njengoba umuntu evuthwa ngokwengeziwe edlula esigabeni sokuqala ukuya esikhathini, aqala ukuphuma ngamaqanda. Uma uqala ukuphuma ngamaqanda, uvimba noma yini engajwayelekile, uqala ukuba nemijikelezo ejwayelekile yanyanga zonke, ”kusho uMinkin.

Kepha uma uku-20s wakho, ungahle ufunde lo mqondo: "Akunandlela yokuthi ngibe nezingane nganoma yisiphi isikhathi kungekudala!" Iqiniso: ukuba nezingane kunanini ngaphambili.

Kungakho abantu abaningi abaseminyakeni yabo yama-20s beqhubeka nokusebenzisa ukubeletha noma ukungena kukho. I-BC ingaqhubeka nokulawula umjikelezo wakho ukube ibigcwele yonke indawo ngaphambili. Noma kunjalo, kungathatha isikhashana ukuthola uhlobo olulungile lwe-BC.

Kepha kuya ngohlobo lokuvimbela inzalo kanye nomuntu, ukuqala kwe-BC nakho kungadala zonke izinhlobo zezinguquko - ezinye zimbi ngokwanele ukuthi umuntu azishintshe.

U-Aleta Pierce, 28, ubesebenzisa i-IUD yethusi yokulawula inzalo iminyaka engaphezu kwemihlanu. “[Isikhathi sami sokuya esikhathini] saba nzima kakhulu ngemuva kokuthola i-IUD yethusi. Ngaphambili, ngenkathi ngisebenzisa izinhlobo zokuvimbela inzalo ngama-hormone (iNuvaRing, iphilisi), yayikhanya kakhulu futhi ingenazimpawu. ”

Ubulili besikhathi: Ukuba noma ukungabi nakho

Phakathi kweminyaka engama-20 nengama-29, kungaba yisikhathi esibalulekile sokuthola ukuthi ungumuntu omdala - kufaka phakathi ukuthi hlobo luni locansi oluzizwa lumnandi. Kwabaningi, lokhu kufaka phakathi ukunquma ukuthi bazizwa kanjani mayelana nesikhathi socansi.

U-Eliza Milio, oneminyaka engu-28 ubudala uthi: “Sengikhululeke manje uma ngiya ocansini ngezikhathi ezithile kunangesikhathi esedlule. Ngivame ukukhanyiswa kakhulu ekuqaleni komjikelezo. Kodwa-ke, akuvamile ukuthi ngiye ocansini lapho ngisezinsukwini ezimbili ezisinda kakhulu zomjikelezo wami ngoba ngiyakhukhumala futhi ngicindezeleke kangangokuthi engifuna ukukwenza nje ngukudla u-ayisikhilimu ngezingubo zokujuluka. Hhayi impela. ”

KuNicole Sheldon, oneminyaka engu-27, ukuya ocansini ngezikhathi ezithile ulungile ngokuhamba esikhathini esedlule.

“Ukuya ocansini ngezikhathi ezithile akuyona into engizibandakanya nayo kaningi. Bengijwayele ukuba nakho okuningi ngisemncane, kepha manje kubonakala kubheda kakhulu ngaphandle uma ngigeza, ”usho kanje.

Awudingi ukugwema ukuya ocansini ngezikhathi ezithile uma ungafuni, noma kunjalo. Kuphephile ukuba nakho - okucashile nje kwesinye isikhathi. Yenza okuzwakala kukuhle kuwe nakumlingani wakho.

Lapho izimpawu zingasho okuthile okungaphezulu

Ama-20s imvamisa ayiminyaka eyishumi lapho abantu abaningi beqaphela ngokwengeziwe ukuthi izimpawu zabo zingaba yisibonakaliso sesimo sokuya esikhathini, njenge:

• i-polycystic ovary syndrome (i-PCOS)
• i-endometriosis
• i-fibroids
• i-premenstrual syndrome noma i-PMDD
• imijikelezo yokopha engavamile
• izikhathi ezibuhlungu (i-dysmenorrhea)

Uma usenezinhlungu, ukugeleza okusindayo okukhulu, izinkathi ezinde, noma yini enye ebonakala imnandi noma ivaliwe ngokujwayelekile, funa umhlinzeki wezokunakekelwa kwempilo.

Ama-30s: Isikhwama esixubekile, kepha sicishe sibe ngcwele

Ama-30s akho kungenzeka abe yisikhwama esixubekile uma kuziwa esikhathini sakho. Ekuqaleni kweminyaka eyishumi, kungenzeka ukuthi usavuthisa amaqanda njalo futhi ungalindela ukuthi isikhathi sakho sifane kakhulu nangesikhathi sineminyaka engama-20.

Kwabanye, lokhu kungasho ubuhlungu. Futhi okuningi.

“[Ngizwa] ukugwazwa, amajaqamba aqeda amandla emgogodleni wami ophansi nasemaceleni amaqanda, amabele athambile nokuqwasha ezinsukwini ezandulelayo, kanye namagagasi amakhulu emizwelo, angenze ngakhala lapho kwehla isigqoko,” kusho uMarisa Formosa, 31.

Kepha ngaphandle kokungaphatheki kahle komzimba okulethwa yisikhathi sakhe, uFormosa uzizwa exhumene ngokomzwelo nomjikelezo wakhe wanyanga zonke.

Uthi: "Eminyakeni edlule, ngibe nokuziqhenya okukhulu nokuzivikela esikhathini sami," esho. “Cishe kungcwele kimi. Ngikholwa ukuthi ingibopha emhlabeni, ezinkathini zonyaka, emaphethini ayindilinga nasemijikelezweni yempilo nokufa. Ngakho ukunengeka kwamasiko nokuhlazeka kwezikhathi, engikufake ngaphakathi njengomuntu olandelayo, kuyangicasula. ”

Isikhathi senkulumo yokukhulelwa

Imizimba yethu ingahle ilungele izingane ezineminyaka engama-20, kodwa lokho akusho ukuthi thina sonke sinjalo. Eqinisweni, izinga lokuzala labesifazane be-cis e-United States ngaphezu kwama-30 ngo-2016.

Ukukhulelwa kungenza inombolo emzimbeni. Izinguquko azinakubalwa futhi zihluke kakhulu kumuntu ngamunye. Kodwa kunento eyodwa eqinisekile: Akekho othola isikhathi sakhe ngenkathi ekhulelwe. (Noma ukubonwa okuthile kungenzeka).

Ezinyangeni ngqo ngemuva kokubeletha, ungathola isikhathi sakho ngokushesha, noma kungathatha izinyanga ukubuya.

UMinkin uchaza ukuthi ukubuya kwesikhathi komuntu kuncike kakhulu ekutheni ngabe bancelisa ibele kuphela, bengeza ngefomula, noma basebenzisa ifomula kuphela.

"Uma uncelisa, wenza i-hormone eningi ebizwa nge-prolactin," kusho uMinkin. "I-Prolactin icindezela ukwakheka kwe-estrogen yakho futhi ikugcina ungakhulelwa."

Ku-Allison Martin, oneminyaka engama-31 ubudala, ukubeletha kwakuyindlela evumayo yokugeleza kwakhe okusindayo ngokwemvelo. Kepha lapho isikhathi sakhe sibuyile, sabuya nempindiselo.

"Kube nezinyanga eziyisithupha ezikhazimulayo ngaphandle kwesikhathi ngenxa yokuncelisa," esho. “Kodwa manje ukuphuma kwami ​​igazi ebusuku kunzima kakhulu kwesinye isikhathi ngiye ngilale ngethawula ukuvikela amashidi anegazi. Lokhu kuvamise ukuba kube ngumjikelezo wobusuku obubili nje kuphela, futhi ngisanda kuthola amaphakethe wezimbongolo ezaziwa umhlaba wonke. Isixazulule le nkinga! ”

Isikhathi sokuqeda isikhathi

Kwabanye, ama-30s aphakathi nendawo kuze kube sekwephuzile yi-kickoff ohambweni olusha sha: i-perimenopause.

Ichazwe njengeminyaka engu-8 kuye kwengu-10 eholela ekunqamukeni kokuya esikhathini, i-perimenopause ingumphumela womzimba wakho okhiqiza i-estrogen ne-progesterone encane.

"Ekugcineni umuntu uzofika esikhathini lapho benza i-estrogen ngaphandle kokwenza i-progesterone, noma bakhulise ulwelwesi lwesibeletho ngaphandle kolawulo," kusho uMinkin. "Ngakho-ke futhi ungaba nalezi zindlela zokuphambana kopha."

Yize kuyinto ejwayelekile ngokuphelele ukuqala isikhathi sokuya esikhathini kuma-30s akho, iningi labantu lizongena ebunzimeni balo eminyakeni engama-40.

Futhi njengenjwayelo, uma uzwa ubuhlungu noma okuthile kungazwakali kahle, bhuka i-aphoyintimenti ne-doc.

Ama-40s: Ukudlala umdlalo wokuqagela

Ngeke nje ubalekele ama-40s akho ngaphandle kokulahlekelwa ama-undies ambalwa ngoba, ngokufana neminyaka ngemuva kwesikhathi sakho sokuqala, ukuphela kwesikhathi kuphathelene nokopha okungahleliwe nokungaqondakali.

Esikhathini esiningi sempilo yakhe yokukhula, u-Amanda Baker wayazi ukuthi yini okumele ayilindele esikhathini sakhe. Wopha izinsuku ezine, okokuqala kwaba ukusinda kakhulu futhi ezintathu ezilandelayo zancipha kancane kancane. Kwathi lapho eneminyaka engama-45 weqiwa yisikhathi.

“Bengilokhu ngiyingozi kusukela lapho, ngibona cishe nsuku zonke, noma ukugeleza kwegazi okungalindelekile okungahleliwe, ukuphuma nje kohlobo oluthile. Kuleli sonto kube nokopha kakhulu namahlule amakhulu, angangesundu, ”kusho uBaker.

Yize ama-40s kuyisikhathi esivamile sokunqamuka kwesikhathi, uMinkin uxwayisa ngokuthi izikhathi ezingajwayelekile zodwa azanele ukusho ngokuqinisekile ukuthi othile uyabhekana nakho.

Uma usola ukuthi une-perimenopausal, bheka ezinye izimpawu nezimpawu ezihambisanayo, njenge:

• isitho sangasese sowesifazane esomile ngokweqile
• ukushisa okushisayo
• Ukugodola nokujuluka ebusuku
• inkathazo yokulala
• imood and downs and emotional
• ukuzuza kwesisindo
• ukuncipha kwezinwele nesikhumba esomile
• ukulahlekelwa ukugcwala kwamabele

Akudingeki ukuthi ubize udokotela wakho lapho uqala i-perimenopause, kepha bangakunikeza umuthi uma kudingeka. Ama-go-tos ajwayelekile - ukuzivocavoca kaningi kunalokho, ukudla kahle, ukulala kahle- kungenza lukhulu ekuthuthukiseni izimpawu.

Ama-50s: Letha ukunqamuka kokuya esikhathini

Iningi lochwepheshe liyavuma ukuthi umuntu unenkathi yokuya esikhathini ngokusemthethweni lapho engenasikhathi sezinyanga eziyi-12 zilandelana. E-United States, lokhu kwenzeka, ngokwesilinganiso, eneminyaka engama-51.

Iningi labantu lingalindela ukuthi izimpawu zabo zesikhathi sokuphumula zizolula phakathi nawo-50s abo njengoba besondela ekupheleni kwe-ovulation. Abanye bayeka ukuya esikhathini ngaphambi kwesikhathi noma kamuva kakhulu.

U-Aileen Raulin, oneminyaka engama-64 ubudala, waya esikhathini sokuya esikhathini lapho eneminyaka engama-50 ubudala. Nakuba engasayi esikhathini njalo ngenyanga, usabhekana nokushintshashintsha kwama-hormone.

URaulin uthi: “Ngaphambi kokunqamuka kokuya esikhathini, ngangizizwa ngicasukile futhi ngangiba nengcindezi yokungakwazi ukuzibamba. “Manje ngisabona leso sikhathi sokutatazela njalo ngenyanga, futhi kufanele ngigqoke iphedi.”

UMinkin uthi uma nje umuntu enamaqanda, kungenzeka ukuthi abone umsebenzi othile wamahomoni. Yize iningi labantu abangaphezu kweminyaka engama-60, ngeke kube khona msebenzi omningi nhlobo.

Ukudlulela esikhathini sokuya esikhathini kungaba i-roller coaster engokomzwelo, hhayi nje ngenxa yokushintshashintsha kwamahomoni. Ukumelwa kwamasiko kwabantu abanqamuka esikhathini kunzima ukuthola. Imvamisa kuzwakala njengendaba okungafanele sikhulume ngayo.

Ake sikushintshe lokho.

Akudingeki senze noma yini enye ukwedlula ukuthembeka nokuzethemba kwethu, njengoba kwenza uViola Davis muva nje lapho echaza ukunqamuka kokuya esikhathini. (Ukuthi uJimmy Kimmel kwadingeka ambuze ngencazelo yokunqamuka kokuya esikhathini kungenye indaba.)

Ukukhuluma ngokugeleza kwakho, noma ngabe unayo noma cha, kukusiza ukuthi uzazi.

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