Omama abayi-20 Benza Okungokoqobo Ngomzimba Wabo Wokuthunyelwa Kwengane (futhi Asikhulumi Ngesisindo)

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• Ukuphendula komzimba okuyinqaba
• 1. Ukuphola ngokoqobo
• 2. I-Engorgement iyakweleta
• 3. Shwi nomjuluko
• 4. Iphathi Pee
• 5. Ukuphulukisa isihogo
• 6. Ama-twirls nama-curls
• 7. Bye, izinwele
• 8. Bleh, ukudla
• 9. Ukugeza igazi
• 10. Izitho eziwayo
• 11. Imigodi enukayo
• Izinkinga zokuphakela
• 12. Izingono zezingono nokuningi
• 13. Ukuncipha kwangemva kokubeletha?
• 14. Amandla ngokusebenzisa
• Izinselelo ezingokomzwelo
• 15. Izinyembezi nokwesaba
• 16. I-PPD engalindelekile
• 17. Ukukhathazeka ngemuva kokubeletha
• 18. Kodwa kuthiwani ngami?
• 19. Mama shame
• Isithombe somzimba
• 20. Akukho ukushaya
• Ukuthatha

Kusukela emigodini enukayo kuya ekulahlekelweni izinwele (ingasaphathwa eyokukhathazeka nezinyembezi ezingalawuleki), ushintsho lwangemva kokubeletha ngokomzimba nangokwengqondo ongase uhlangabezane nalo lungamangaza. Sizokunikeza iskole ukuze ungathuki kangako.

Akunandaba ukuthi ufunda kangakanani, ukhuluma nobani abangani bomama, noma ngisho nobuchopho obungakanani bama-doulas obukhethayo, kunzima ukwazi kahle ukuthi umsebenzi wakho nokubeletha kuzokwehla kanjani.

Ngaphandle kwalokho, akekho umama omusha onebhola le-crystal elimkhombisa ukuthi impilo izobukeka kanjani njengosuku, isonto, noma izinyanga ezimbalwa ngemuva kokubeletha. Kanye nenjabulo yokwamukela ingane yakho emhlabeni kuza iphakethe lezinhlobonhlobo ezahlukahlukene zezinselele zangemva kokubeletha. Ngicela, sithwale amakhanda ngokuzayo?

Yizwa ukuthi laba mama abangama-20 bathini ngezimpawu zangemva kokubeletha ezibamangaze kakhulu.

Ukuphendula komzimba okuyinqaba

1. Ukuphola ngokoqobo

“Ngibe nokuqhaqhazela okungalawuleki [ngemuva kokubeletha] ngemuva nje kokubekwa kwendodakazi yami esifubeni sami. Ababelethisi bami bathi yonke i-adrenaline emzimbeni wakho ngenkathi ucindezela ingayidala uma uyeka. Bekusendle. ” - UHannah B., eSouth Carolina

Ithiphu yepro: Zama ukukhululeka, njengoba ukuzama ukulawula ukuqhaqhazela kumane kwenze kube kubi kakhulu - bese ucela izingubo zokulala ezingeziwe (noma ulethe ezakho zivela ekhaya), uma ungazinikwanga ngokuzenzekelayo.

2. I-Engorgement iyakweleta

"Angizange ngincelise ibele ngenxa yezizathu zokwelashwa, futhi ngangingazi ukuthi kungaba buhlungu kangakanani emzimbeni wami ukungakhishwa lelo bisi." - Leigh H., eNingizimu Carolina

Ithiphu yeseluleko: Ukukhiqizwa kobisi kuzoma uma ungakuvezi noma ubuhlengikazi, kepha okwamanje, ungaphatha i-engorgement ngokuthatha imishanguzo yezinhlungu evunyelwe i-doc yakho nokufaka iphakethe elibandayo emabeleni akho imizuzu eyi-15 ngesikhathi njalo ngehora njengoba kudingeka.

3. Shwi nomjuluko

“Kwaphela amasonto amabili ngibelethe ngijuluka njengomjuluko ebusuku. Bengidinga ukushintsha izingubo zami namashidi embhede phakathi kwamabili, bengimanzi te. ” - UCainlin D., eSouth Carolina

Ithiphu yepro: Amazinga aphansi e-estrogen nomzamo womzimba wokuzisusa kuketshezi olweqile kungadala ukujuluka ebusuku noma ukushisa okushisayo ngemuva kokubeletha. Ukunqanda konke lokho kuconsa, zama ukuphuza amanzi abandayo (azovimbela ukoma) futhi wenze konke okusemandleni akho ukuphumula ngokwenza ukuzindla noma izindlela zokuphefumula ezijulile.

4. Iphathi Pee

“Bengingazi ukuthi ngiyobe ngilawulwa yi-zero bladder ngokoqobo emasontweni ambalwa okuqala ngemuva kokuzalwa kwesitho sangasese sowesifazane. Ngikhumbula ngihleka okuthile esibhedlela ngivele ngichame ngingakwazi ukuyeka! ” - ULauren B., eMassachusetts

Ithiphu yepro: Uma ubhekene nobunzima bokungalawuleki noma ezinye izingqinamba zangaphansi ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa nangemva kokukhulelwa, ungahle wenze kahle ukubona udokotela wezitho zomzimba ongakusiza ukuthi uqhamuke nohlelo lomdlalo oluhlosiwe lokuqinisa le misipha ebalulekile ethintekayo ukukhulelwa kanye ukubeletha.

5. Ukuphulukisa isihogo

“Ngifisa sengathi ngabe bengazi ukuthi ukwelashwa kungathatha isikhathi esingakanani. Ngangidwengula iziqu zesithathu ngeyami yokuqala. Ngakhala ngesikhathi socansi izinyanga eziyi-7. Ngangifuna ukukhasa ngiphume esikhunjeni sami. Kwakunzima. Futhi wonke umuntu wayelokhu engitshela ukuthi bekufanele ngabe sekulungile emasontweni ayisithupha. ”- UBrittany G., eMassachusetts

Ithiphu yepro: Yize ukukhala kuyinto ejwayelekile ngokuphelele, kungathatha izinyanga ukuthi kuphole izinyembezi zangasese ezimbi, futhi ubuhlungu akuyona into okufanele ichithwe. Ukuzivocavoca kwe-pelvic floor kungathuthukisa ukusakazeka futhi kunciphise ukuvuvukala nobuhlungu.

6. Ama-twirls nama-curls

“Izinwele zami, ebelokhu zigundiwe ngokwemvelo, ziqale ukukhula ngepini ziqonde. Ngemuva kokuthi ngiyekile ukuncelisa, cishe unyaka nohhafu kamuva, kwaphinde kwasonga futhi. Lokhu kwenzeke ngababili bami bokuqala, futhi njengamanje ngiphakathi kwakho nenombolo yesithathu. ” - U-Aria E., eNew Hampshire

Ithiphu yepro: Amahomoni afana ne-estrogen angathinta ukuthungwa kwezinwele zakho ngemuva kokubeletha. Ngenkathi usuka ku-'80s Cher uye kuKim K. kungahle kubonakale kungahambi kahle, uzozamazama ngokungenaphutha noma yisiphi isitayela.

7. Bye, izinwele

"Ngifisa sengathi ngabe ngangazi ngokulahleka kwezinwele okunamandla nokuthi kuzoshintsha unwele lwami unomphela." - U-Ashleigh B., eTexas

Ithiphu yepro: Ukulahleka kwezinwele kwangemva kokubeletha, okubangelwa ukwehla kwamazinga e-estrogen, kuvame ukuxazululwa ngokuhamba kwesikhathi. Kepha uma uqhubeka, noma ukhathazekile, khuluma nodokotela wakho ukukhipha noma yiziphi izinkinga ezisemqoka, njenge-hypothyroidism noma i-iron deficiency anemia.

8. Bleh, ukudla

“Ngangingenaso isifiso sokudla ngemuva kokuzalwa kwami ​​kathathu. Konke engangikufunda kusengaphambili kwangenza ngacabanga ukuthi ukudla kwakuzoba yinto enhle kunazo zonke ezake zenzeka, futhi ngangidinga ukuhlelelwa ukudla okunethezeka okukhulu, kodwa empeleni kwakudingeka ngiphoqe ukudla. ” - UMollie R., eSouth Carolina

Ithiphu yepro: Kokubili ukuguqulwa kwama-hormone nokudangala kwangemva kokubeletha kungaba yimpande yesifiso esincane ngemuva kokubeletha. Uma isifiso sakho sokudla singabuyeli emuva kungakapheli isonto ubelethile, thintana nomhlinzeki wakho wezokunakekelwa kwempilo.

9. Ukugeza igazi

“Akekho ongitshele ukuthi kuzothatha isikhathi esingakanani ukululama ekuklebhuleni kangaka. Ukuthi ungopha kuze kufike kumaviki ayisithupha ngqo. Ngokuyinhloko, usesimweni sokusinda ngemva nje kokubeletha. ” - UJenni Q., ​​eColorado

Ithiphu yepro: Yize kungeyona neze ipikinikini, ukuphuma kwegazi ngemuva kokubeletha kuyinto ejwayelekile - njengokugqoka amaphedi wokumunca. Kepha hheyi, okungenani omama be-celeb abanjengo-Amy Schumer noChrissy Teigen sebephendule ama-undies ngemuva kokubeletha aba isitatimende semfashini.

10. Izitho eziwayo

“Bengingazi ukuthi yini i-prolapse nokuthi izitho ezazihloselwe ukuhlala ngaphakathi emzimbeni wakho zingawa empeleni. Okuthakazelisa nakakhulu, ukuthi bambalwa kanjani odokotela ababenolwazi kepha bangaki abesifazane abatholwayo. Kuthinte yonke imikhakha yempilo yami. ” - U-Adrienne R., eMassachusetts

Ithiphu yepro: Ukwelashwa akudingeki ngaso sonke isikhathi ngesibeletho esiphumile, kepha izinketho ezingezona ezokuhlinzwa zifaka phakathi izivivinyo zepilvic kanye nokugqoka i-pessary, ithuluzi elisiza ukuzinzisa isibeletho nomlomo wesibeletho.

11. Imigodi enukayo

"Lapho ama-hormone ami eguquka ngemuva kokulunyulwa, amakhwapha ami anuka ngamandla ama-skunks ayinkulungwane!" - UMelissa R., Minnesota

Ithiphu yepro: Usuvele uyazi ukuthi ungasebenzisa i-deodorant noma i-antiperspirants ukunciphisa lelo phunga elibi, kepha ungazama ne-DIY deodorant, futhi.

Izinkinga zokuphakela

12. Izingono zezingono nokuningi

“Kungimangazile ukuthi kunzima kangakanani ukuncelisa ibele. Ufunda izincwadi bese ucabanga ukuthi zimane zishibhile. Kepha isikhathi esiningi, kunokunye okuningi. Bekufanele ngisebenzise isihlangu sezingono ngeyami yokuqala emasontweni ambalwa okuqala, bese kuthi, bakhathazekile ngokuthola kwakhe isisindo, ngakho-ke bafuna ngimpompe. Amaphampu awakaze asebenze kahle. Angikaze ngithole ukuhlala kangako. Kodwa ngangazi ukuthi ngiyamfunza ngoba uma ngilinda ngangifakwa. Ngenombolo yesibili yengane, bekubushelelezi kakhulu, futhi wenza nje ukuqasha futhi wondle wazuza. Kodwa-ke, ukupompa akuzange kuthole okuningi. " - UMegan L., eMaryland

Ithiphu yepro: Uma uzizwa ukhungathekile maqondana nokuncelisa, cabanga ukusebenza nomuntu ngamunye nomxhumanisi we-lactation, okungambozwa ngumshwalense wakho.

13. Ukuncipha kwangemva kokubeletha?

"Ngifisa sengathi bengingazi ukuthi ngenkathi uncelisa ekuqaleni, uba nezingcindezi bese wopha ngoba isibeletho sakho siyancipha." - U-Emma L., eFlorida

Ithiphu yepro: Njengoba uncelisa, umzimba wakho ukhiqiza i-hormone oxytocin, eyaziwa ngokuthi "i-cuddle hormone." Kodwa inhloso yayo akuyona yonke efudumele futhi engacabangi: Kungadala nokuphambana kwesibeletho nokopha.

14. Amandla ngokusebenzisa

“Amabubu ami abuhlungu kakhulu njengoba nginikeza amandla ngesikhathi sokuncelisa ibele. Ekugcineni, ngagcina ngezela futhi ngaba ngumhlengikazi. Ngifisa sengathi abantu abaningi bebengathi lokhu kulungile esikhundleni sokwahlulela bangitshele ukuthi ngizame kakhulu ebuhlengikazi. Ngiyafisa futhi ukuthi abantu bangangeseka kakhulu. Ngikhuthaza omama ukuthi banamathele ndawonye futhi bathole usizo uma beludinga. ” - Katie P., eVirginia

Ithiphu yepro: Khumbula ukuthi noma ngabe yini oyizwayo, wonke umzali nengane bahlukile, futhi fed kungcono kakhulu.

Izinselelo ezingokomzwelo

15. Izinyembezi nokwesaba

“Isikhathi esingangenyanga ngibeletha, noma nini lapho ngangibuka esibukweni, ngangivele ngiqale ukukhala. Ngasizathu simbe ngazizwa sengathi ngilahlekelwe ingane yami - angizange - ngoba ngangingasamthwali esiswini. Ukucindezeleka kwangemva kokubeletha akulona ihlaya! Ngangazi ukuthi kungaba kubi futhi ngaxwayiswa ngabanye omama nabahlinzeki bezempilo kodwa ngangazi ukuthi babucayi kangakanani. ” - USuzhanna D., eSouth Carolina

16. I-PPD engalindelekile

“Ukucindezeleka kwami ​​kwangemva kokubeletha kwakungafani neze ne-PPD yendabuko wonke umuntu akhuluma ngayo. Angizange ngiyizonde ingane yami. Eqinisweni, bengingafuni lutho ngaphandle kokuthatha ingane yami ngiyocasha ngingaphinde ngibuyele emsebenzini futhi. Benginomona ngokuthi umyeni wami ube ubaba ohlala ekhaya. ” - UCori A., e-Arkansas

Ithiphu yepro: Uma ucabanga ukuthi unokudangala kwangemva kokubeletha, ungabi namahloni okukhuluma nodokotela wakho ngezimpawu zakho. Bangakudlulisela kumelaphi noma ezinye izinsiza zasendaweni. Ochwepheshe bangakusiza ukuthi uze nohlelo lokwelashwa olwenzelwe wena.

17. Ukukhathazeka ngemuva kokubeletha

“Ngifisa sengathi ngabe ngangazi ngokukhathazeka kwangemva kokubeletha. Ngangazi konke nge-PPD, kepha ngemuva kokuthi ngithole ingane yami yesithathu kwaze kwaba ngihlolwa amasonto ayisithupha lapho ngangizincokolela ngokuthi ngizoba 'nesidleke sekwephuzile,' ngoba ngazizwa nginesidingo sokuhlela kabusha ifriji lami ngo-3 ekuseni, futhi udokotela wami wayefana nokuthi, 'Yebo… kukhona amaphilisi alokho.' Ngangingalali, ngoba nganginovalo lokuthi uzoyeka ukuphefumula ngokuzuma, futhi lapho ngilala, ngangiphupha ukuthi ushonile. Ngikusho konke lokhu ngokuhlala kwakhe kwi-NICU, okungenzeka ukuthi bekuyimbangela, kepha bengingazi ukuthi kufanele ngilashelwe i-PPA / PTSD.Ngilahlekelwe yingxenye yami kulawo masonto ayisithupha engisazama ukululama eminyakeni emithathu kamuva. ” - U-Chelsea W., eFlorida

Ithiphu yepro: Uma ukhathazekile ungaba nokukhathazeka ngemuva kokubeletha, khuluma nodokotela wakho ngezindlela zokwelashwa, kufaka phakathi ukwelashwa nemithi ehlosiwe.

18. Kodwa kuthiwani ngami?

“Ukungabibikho kobuthongo obukhulu kwangenza ngaba nemibono ngobusuku obubodwa. Ngifisa ngabe bengazi ukuthi kulungile ukucela usizo, ukuthi ukhohlwa kanjani ukuzinakekela (ukukhohlwa ukugeza, ukudla, njll.), Ukuthi wonke umuntu ukhathazeke kangakanani ngengane kangangokuba abantu bakhohlwe ukuthi umzimba wakho uyalulama isenzakalo esikhulu esibuhlungu. ” - U-Amanda M., Nevada

Ithiphu yepro: Unganqikazi ukufinyelela futhi ucele ukwesekwa kumndeni nabangane ukuze kuzuze umzimba nengqondo yakho. Impela, kunomuntu omusha othandekayo emhlabeni - sibonga umzimba wakho okhuthazelela ukukhulelwa nokubeletha, nokungeyona into yokuthimula nakho. Ufanelwe ukuphumula, isikhathi sokuphulukiswa, nalo lonke usizo.

19. Mama shame

“Bengingazilungiselele ukuhlazeka kukamama noma abantu abahlala benombono wokuthi ngizoyikhulisa kanjani ingane yami. Ngiyazama ukungakuvumeli lokho kufike kimi, kodwa kuyangikhathaza! Indodana yami ijabule futhi inempilo futhi esikhundleni sokukhuthazwa noma ukushayelwa ihlombe, kwesinye isikhathi kuzwakala njengomsebenzi ongabongi. Kodwa indodana yami iyabonga, futhi ngiyithanda kakhulu ngalokho! ”- UBriSha Jak, eMaryland

Ithiphu yepro: Yazi ukuthi iningi lobudedengu obucelwa kuwe ukuqagela kwabanye abantu ngokungazethembi kwabo. Akuyena, yibo.

Isithombe somzimba

20. Akukho ukushaya

“Ngangingazi ukuthi kuthatha isikhathi esingakanani ngempela‘ ukubuyela emuva. ’Ngangimncane impela ngaphambi kokukhulelwa. Wonke umuntu wayehlale engitshela ukuthi ngizobuyela kanjani emuva. Sasihlele umshado wethu izinyanga ezi-6 ngemuva kokubeletha, futhi ngangivele ngiyithengile ingubo. Nginezinyanga eziyi-7 ngibeletha futhi namanje ungangeni engutsheni. Ngempela angicabangi ukuthi umzimba wami uyoke ufane. Kwakuwukubukeka ebusweni ngemuva kokuzwa njalo ukuthi ngizoba kanjani 'yisisu sonke' futhi 'ngibuyele emuva.' ”- UMeagan K., e-Arizona

Ithiphu yepro: Yize kungaba nzima ukuhlunga umsindo othi "bounce back", yenza okusemandleni akho ukugxila ohambweni lwakho. Umzimba wakho wehlukile manje ngoba kufakazele ukuthi unamandla amakhulu. Thatha isikhathi sakho, noma ngabe lokho kufunda incwadi (inoveli yabantu abadala, okungukuthi!) Ubhalisela ikilasi elisha lokuzivocavoca, noma uphume uyodla isidlo sakusihlwa, futhi ungazibambi kanzima.

Ukuthatha

Okuhlangenwe nakho komama ngamunye emva kokubeletha kanye nezinguquko ezingokomzwelo, zomzimba nezingqondo obhekana nazo ngemuva kokuzalwa kuhlukile.

Kepha noma ngabe izinto zikufaka umoya, zasendle, noma ziyinkimbinkimbi kangakanani, ungaduduzeka ngokwazi ukuthi awuwedwa.

Futhi alikho nakancane ihlazo lokuncika kulabo obathandayo, abangani, nakumhlinzeki wakho wezokunakekelwa kwempilo ngosizo lomuntu ngamunye oludingayo.

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