Izindlela eziyi-10 zokuQondana, abantu beCisgender ukuba babe ngabalingani abangcono ekuziqhenyeni

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• Ukuziqhenya kuyashintsha… nakhu okumele ucabangele
• 1. Zibuze ukuthi kungani uhlanganyela
• Imibuzo okufanele uyibuze:
  
• 2. I-Google ngaphambi kokuya futhi ulondoloze imibuzo ngokuzayo
• Ukufundwa kwe-LGBTQ + ngaphambi kokuya ekuziqhenyeni:
  
• 3. Photograph mindfully - noma nje musa nhlobo
• 4. Thatha isihlalo sangemuva
• 5. Yiba nomusa
• 6. Zazise ngezabizwana zakho
• Ukuletha izabizwana, ungathi:
  
• 7. Qaphela ulimi lwakho
• 8. Nikela ezinhlanganweni ze-LGBTQ +
• Cabanga ukunikela ku:
  
• 9. Letha izingane zakho
• 10. Zithokozise

Sekuyiminyaka engama-49 kwenzeka umbukiso wokuqala wokuziqhenya, kodwa ngaphambi kokuba kube khona ukuQhosha, kwakukhona iShiwallwall Riots, umzuzwana emlandweni lapho umphakathi we-LGBTQ + ulwa khona nokuhlukunyezwa kwamaphoyisa nokucindezelwa ngokomthetho. Kulo nyaka kugujwa iminyaka engama-50 seziThuthu zaseStonewall.

"Iziteleka zaseStonewall zaqala ngoJuni 28, 1969, zaholela ezinsukwini ezintathu zokubhikisha kanye nodlame lokulwa nabomthetho ngaphandle kweStonewall Inn kuChristopher Street eNew York City," kuchaza umholi womphakathi we-LGBTQ +, uFernando Z. Lopez, umqondisi omkhulu weSan Ukuziqhenya kukaDiego. "Le micimbi ibhekwa njengokuzalwa nokuzala kwenhlangano yamalungelo ezitabane e-United States."

Namuhla, kunemicimbi engaphezu kuka-1 000 Yokuziqhenya ebanjelwe emadolobheni emhlabeni wonke njengesivumelwano semizamo eqhubekayo yemiphakathi ye-LGBTQ + yokulwa nengcindezelo nokungabekezelelani. Ngenkathi kube nenqubekela phambili, ubungqingili kanye ne-transphobia kuseyinkinga ehlelekile e-United States nasemhlabeni jikelele.

Eminyakeni emihlanu edlule, sibone udlame olubulalayo kubantu be-LGBTQ + e-United States:

• ukudutshulwa kwenqwaba yeklabhu yasebusuku ngo-2016
• abantu be-transgender abavinjelwe ebusosheni ngaphansi kokuphathwa kukaMongameli Trump
• okungenani kubulawe abantu abangama-26 ku-2018, iningi labo bekungabantu besifazane abamnyama, nokushona okungenani kwe-10 transgender kuze kube manje ku-2019
• uhlelo lukaTrump-Pence lokususa ukuvikelwa kokucwaswa kwe-LGBTQ ekunakekelweni kwezempilo

Yingakho uLopez ethi: "Lesi sikhumbuzo seminyaka engama-50 siyingqophamlando ebalulekile kumphakathi we-LGBTQ + futhi njengoba kunikezwe ukuhlaselwa kwakamuva nokwamanje kwamalungelo e-LGBTQ +, kubaluleke kakhulu njengangaphambili." Ngakho-ke ngesikhathi sokuziqhenya kulo nyaka, abantu bazomasha bagubhe futhi baphinde balwe - nokulwa nodlame nokubandlululwa emsebenzini, ngelungelo lokusebenza ngokusobala kwezempi kanye nokuthola ukunakekelwa kwezempilo, nokwamukelwa okwandisiwe, ngokuphelele.

Ukuziqhenya kuyashintsha… nakhu okumele ucabangele

“Eminyakeni engama-20 edlule, Ukuziqhenya bekuyimpelasonto yabantu be-LGBTQ + nabangane bethu abakhulu. Bekuyiphathi emnandi impela, futhi bekuyithuba lokugubha futhi ube yilokho okukhona endaweni ezwakale iphephile, ”kusho umongameli we-FUSE Marketing Group nommeli we-LGBTQ +, uStephen Brown. “Manje, ukuziqhenya kubukeka kwehlukile.”

Njengoba imicimbi yokuziqhenya ikhula, kube khona abantu abangaphandle komphakathi we-LGBTQ + ababa khona - futhi kwesinye isikhathi, ngenxa yezizathu ezingezinhloso ezinhle, njengezaba zokuya ephathini nokuphuza noma ukumane ubukele abantu.

“Imicimbi yokuziqhenya ayenzelwa abantu abaqondile, ama-cisgender. Ngokungafani nezikhala nemicimbi eminingi abahamba kuyo nangaphakathi, i-Pride ayigxilile noma ihloselwe abantu abaqondile be-cisgender kanye nokuhlangenwe nakho kwabo, ”kusho u-Amy Boyajian, ongumsunguli kanye no-CEO we-Wild Flower, i-online shop toy toy boutique esanda kukhishwa isidlidlizi sokuqala esingenabulili, u-Enby.

Ngenkathi Ukuziqhenya kungenjalo ngoba abantu abaqondile be-cisgender, ababambisene ne-LGBTQA + bamukelekile impela. “Ngifuna wonke umuntu aye kuPride. Abantu be-LGBTQ + nabalingani abaqondile ngokufanayo, ”kusho uJ.R.Grey, umbhali wezindlovukazi ezizimele ezinze eMiami, eFlorida. “Ngifuna ababambisene nabo beze bezobungaza nathi. Woza uzosikhombisa ukuthi uyasihlonipha futhi uyasithanda ukuthi singobani. ”

Kepha, badinga ukulandela lokho akubiza ngokuthi "umthetho wenombolo eyodwa" wokuziqhenya: "Hlonipha bonke abantu babo bonke ubulili nabesilisa abakhona."

Kusho ukuthini lokho futhi kubukeka kanjani lapho sisebenza? Sebenzisa lo mhlahlandlela wezinyathelo eziyishumi ukukusiza ukuthi ube umlingani ohloniphayo nosekelayo lapho uhambele i-Pride-the ally the LGBTQ + community needs and deserves.

1. Zibuze ukuthi kungani uhlanganyela

Ukuziqhenya akuyona indawo yokubuka nokubuka abantu. Futhi, akuyona indawo yokukhothoza okuqukethwe kwendaba ye-Instagram (engagcina iphikiswa). Njengoba uBoyajian esho, “Ngicabanga ukuthi, abantu abaxakekile kufanele bazibuze imibuzo embalwa ngaphambi kokuya.”

Imibuzo okufanele uyibuze:

• Ngabe ngizoziqhenya ngokusebenzisa abantu abathandekayo njengomthombo wokuzijabulisa kwami?
• Ngiyawazi yini umlando wokuziqhenya nokuthi kungani lo mgubho ubalulekile emphakathini we-queer?
• Ngabe ngiwumlingani wangempela womphakathi we-LGBTQ +?

"Le mibuzo ingasiza abantu ukuthi bacabangisise ngezinhloso zabo ukuze baqiniseke ukuthi bangena esikhaleni se-Pride ngengqondo nangamabomu," kusho uBoyajian.

Uma uzoziqhenya ukukhombisa ukwesekwa kwakho futhi uyakwazi ukungena esikhaleni ngokuqonda ukuthi yini iPride nokuthi kungani kubalulekile ukuthulisa abantu, wamukelekile!

2. I-Google ngaphambi kokuya futhi ulondoloze imibuzo ngokuzayo

Ingabe unombuzo mayelana nobulili, ubulili, noma ukuziqhenya? I-Google ngaphambi kokuthi uhambe. Akuwona umsebenzi womphakathi omnyama ukuba ngothisha, ikakhulukazi ePride. Kungaphuma kungazweli futhi kungathandeki ukubuza umuntu mayelana nokuthi, ukusetshenziswa kocansi olumaphakathi, phakathi kombukiso (kanye nanoma yisiphi esinye isikhathi).

Ngakho-ke kubalulekile ukuthi ababambisene ngqo benze ucwaningo lwabo esikhundleni sokumane bathembele kumngane wabo we-queer ukuphendula yonke imibuzo yabo ngomlando we-LGBTQ +, ubulili, kanye nezocansi, kusho uBoyajian.

“Ukuza etafuleni usulwenzile ucwaningo lwakho kukhombisa ukutshalwa kwezimali ku-LGBTQ +, okudlulela ngale kokuziqhenya,” kusho uBoyajian. Kunezinsizakusebenza ezitholakalela labo abanentshisekelo yokufunda, kufaka phakathi izikhungo zakho zendawo ze-LGBTQ +, imicimbi yonyaka wonke kanye ne-inthanethi. Izindatshana ezingezansi zeHealthline ziyindawo enhle yokuqala:

Ukufundwa kwe-LGBTQ + ngaphambi kokuya ekuziqhenyeni:

• Kusho Ukuthini Ukuhlukumeza Othile
• Sicela Uyeke Ukubuza Abantu be-LGBTQ + Mayelana Nempilo Yabo Yezocansi
• Ungakhuluma Kanjani Kubantu Abangama-Transgender futhi Abangabambisani
• Kusho Ukuthini Ukuba Ngungqingili Noma Bi?
• Uyini Umehluko Phakathi Kobulili Nobulili
• Kusho Ukuthini Ukukhomba NjengoGenderqueer?

Njengoba uLopez esho, "Kulungile ukucela usizo nokuholwa, kepha ukulindela umngane / umngane we-LGBTQ ukwazi konke futhi azimisele ukukufundisa akucabangeli." Isixazululo esisodwa ukuzibamba ekubuzeni iningi lemibuzo yakho kuze kufike ngemuva kokuziqhenya.

“Kwabaningi bethu, Ukuziqhenya kungaba yisikhathi senkululeko lapho kungadingeki ukuthi sichaze noma sifihle izinto ezithile ngathi. Impilo inzima, futhi iyingozi nakubantu abacindezelekileyo, ngakho-ke uPride angazizwa ekhululekile kulobo buhlungu. Ukuthi kufanele uzichaze wena nokuthi ungubani noma ubunikazi babanye ku-Pride kwabanye kuyaphikisana nenkululeko yosuku olumele, ”kusho uBoyajian.

3. Photograph mindfully - noma nje musa nhlobo

Yize ungahle uthande ukuthatha isikhathi, kubalulekile ukuthi uqaphele lapho uthatha izithombe zabanye abantu kanye nabahambele iPride. Ngenkathi umbukiso neminye imicimbi yokuziqhenya ingahle ibonakale njengesithombe esihle, akuwona wonke umuntu ofuna ukuthathwa izithombe.

Cabanga ngokulandelayo: Kungani ngithatha lesi sithombe? Ngabe ngikwenzela ukwenza umbukwane noma ihlaya ngomuntu futhi / noma lokho okugqokile? Ngabe ukuthatha nokuthumela lesi sithombe kuyavumelana? Ngabe ukuthatha nokuthumela kwami ​​lesi sithombe kungenzeka "kuphume" kothile noma kuthinte isimo sabo somsebenzi, ukuphepha, noma impilo?

Ngoba umuntu othile uhambela Ukuziqhenya, akusho ukuthi uzizwa ekhululekile ukwabelana ngalokho nomhlaba. Bangaba khona ngasese, futhi izithombe zingababeka engcupheni.

Ngakho-ke uma uzothatha izithombe zomuntu njalo cela imvume yakhe kuqala, noma umane ungathathi izithombe zabanye nhlobo - futhi ujabulele umgubho! Abantu abaningi bazokuthokozela kakhulu ukuthatha isithombe nawe, noma ukuthwetshulwa izithombe, kepha ukubuza ngaphambi kwesikhathi kukhombisa izinga eliyisisekelo lenhlonipho.

4. Thatha isihlalo sangemuva

Ukuziqhenya kumayelana nokugubha nokunika amandla umphakathi we-LGBT +, ungasusi kuwo. Futhi lokho kusho ukwenza indawo ebonakalayo yabantu be-LGBTQ + e-Pride ukuze bazigubhe.

“KwaPride, ubudlelwano bumayelana nokuphakamisa abantu be-LGBTQ +, basivulele indawo, hhayi ukulawula indawo. Kunalokho ngesikhathi sokuziqhenya sicela ababambisene nabo basenzele isikhala, ”kusho uLopez. Lokho kufaka isikhala somzimba, njengokungathathi umugqa wangaphambili. Noma ngisho umugqa wesibili noma wesithathu. Esikhundleni salokho, nikeza lezo zihlalo eziphambili kumphakathi we-LGBTQ +.

Qiniseka ukuthi ubheka amakhasi omcimbi ngaphambi kokuvela nawo. "Abahleli bemikhosi bahle kakhulu ngokuchaza okufanele ulindele ukukubona nokwenziwa emibukisweni yabo nasemikhosini kumawebhusayithi abo nasemakhasini ezinkundla zokuxhumana, nokuthi ubani owamukelekile," kusho uGary Costa, umqondisi omkhulu weGolden Rainbow, inhlangano lokho kusiza ukuhlinzeka ngezindlu, imfundo, kanye nosizo oluqondile lwezezimali kwabesilisa, abesifazane, nezingane eziphila ne-HIV / AIDS eNevada.

Futhi khumbula ukuthi akuzona zonke izikhala noma imicimbi ngesikhathi sokuziqhenya evulekele ababambisene nabo. Isibonelo, imicimbi engabizwa nge-Leather Bars, Dyke Marches, Bear Parties, Trans Marches, Disability Pride Parades, S&M Balls, kanye ne-QPOC Picnics imvamisa ayivulelwanga imibimbi. Uma kwenzeka ungaqiniseki, vele ubuze umgqugquzeli noma ilungu lomphakathi uma kulungile ukuthi ube khona, futhi uhloniphe impendulo yabo.

5. Yiba nomusa

Ukuqala, lokho kusho ukulahla ukucabanga (noma ukwesaba) kokuthi umuntu ongazikhombisi njengobungqingili uzokhangwa nguwe. "Indlela nje yokuthi akubona bonke abantu bobulili obuhlukile abakhangwa yibo bonke abantu bobulili obuhlukile, ukuba seduze nomuntu okhangwe ubulili obukuyo akuqinisekisi ukuthi lowo muntu uzokuhlasela," kusho uchwepheshe we-LGBTQ + uKryss Shane, MS, I-MSW, i-LSW, i-LMSW.

Lokho kusho ukuthi, inani elithile lokudlala ngothando liyenzeka ekuziqhenyeni ngoba kuyindlela enhle yokuthi abantu abafunayo bahlangane nabanye abantu. “Uma uzokwamukela uthando oluthile olungafuneki, yehla ngenhlonipho ngendlela obungeke uthande ngayo nganoma yimuphi umuntu ongakhangi kuye. Ukuheha iQueer, uthando nothando akulona iphutha ngakho ungakuthathi kanjalo, ”kusho uBoyajian.

Okubi kakhulu, "ungazingeli" abantu abangakusiza uphile ngemicabango yakho. Ukuziqhenya akuyona indawo yemibhangqwana eqondile yokuthola isondo lesithathu. Futhi akuyona indawo yabantu abaqondile ukuthola izithandani ezibusayo ezizobuka ziye ocansini ngoba "ubulokhu ufuna ukwazi."

6. Zazise ngezabizwana zakho

Awukwazi ukutshela umuntu ubulili, ubulili, noma izabizwana ngokumane ubabheke. "Kungcono ungalokothi uthathe izabizwana noma ubunikazi obuthandwa yinoma ngubani," kuchaza uBoyajian. Uma wenza kanjalo, uzibeka engozini yokuzihlukanisa okungaba yimbangela enkulu futhi okuhlukumezayo.

Esikhundleni sokucabanga, vele ubuze - kepha qiniseka ukuthi wethula izabizwana zakho kuqala. Le yindlela yokukhombisa abanye ukuthi ungumlingani ngempela, futhi uyahlonipha futhi uhloniphe bonke ubunikazi bobulili. Futhi ngemuva kokuthi omunye umuntu esho izabizwana zabo, mbonge bese uqhubekela phambili - ungaphawuli ngezabizwana zawo noma ubuze ukuthi kungani bezisebenzisa. Lo mkhuba omuhle wokuba sezinsukwini ezingama-365 ngonyaka, kodwa kubaluleke kakhulu ekuziqhenyeni.

Ukuletha izabizwana, ungathi:

• "Igama lami nginguGabrielle futhi ngisebenzisa izabizwana zakhe."
• “Ngiyajabula ukukwazi, [X]. NginguGabrielle futhi izabizwana zami nguyena. Okungokwakho? ”

"Ngokwami, ngaso sonke isikhathi kufanele ngilungise abantu ngezabizwana zami ngakho-ke kuba nomthelela omkhulu uma umuntu ezethula ngezabizwana afakiwe," kusho uBoyajian. "Kimi, lokhu kukhombisa inhlonipho nokukhululeka ukufunda ngobuyena."

Kulelo phuzu elifanayo, ungacabangi ukuthi eminye imibhangqwana "ebukeka" iqondile. Khumbula ukuthi okukodwa noma kokubili kungaba yi-bi, pan, transgender, noma okungeyona kanambambili. Ngokuyisisekelo, ungacabangi lutho ngoba, ... uyazi isisho esidala.

7. Qaphela ulimi lwakho

Embukisweni wokuziqhenya, ungezwa abantu bezibiza bona kanye nabangane babo amagama athathwa njengolulazayo, noma ngaphambili abethathwa njengolulazayo. Lokho akusho ukuthi noma ngubani angamemeza noma yini ayifunayo. Njengomlingani, kufanele angikaze sebenzisa la magama. Uma usazibuza ukuthi kungani, nansi incazelo:

Abantu bomphakathi we-LGBTQ + basebenzisa lawa magama njengendlela yokubuyisa okuthile okwakusetshenziswe ngaphambilini njengesichilo esibuhlungu kubo noma kuwo wonke umphakathi we-LGBTQ + lokhu kuvame ukubhekwa njengesenzo samandla.

Njengobambisene naye, awukwazi ukusiza ukubuyisa igama elisetshenziswe ngokumelene neqembu lobunikazi okungelona elakho. Ngakho-ke abalingani abasebenzisa la magama babhekwa njengesenzo sobudlova. Futhi uma ungenaso isiqiniseko sokuthi igama lilungile noma cha ulisebenzise, ​​vele ungalisho nakancane.

8. Nikela ezinhlanganweni ze-LGBTQ +

Ngaphandle kokuhambela imicimbi yokuziqhenya, zibuze ukuthi yini enye oyenzayo noma ongayenzela umphakathi we-LGBTQ +, kuphakamisa uShane.“Uma uzimisele ukukhokhela indawo yokupaka noma i-Uber, gqoka isikibha sothingo noma ubuhlalu obuthambile, bese udansa lapho kuhamba khona izindiza embukisweni, ngingakhuthaza kuphela ukuthi nawe uzimisele ngokufanayo ukuxhasa lowo mphakathi lapho kungamnandi kangako futhi kunokubengezela okuncane. ”

Kuze kube yileso sikhathi, uLopez uthi: "Sicela ababambisene nathi ukuthi banikele ngezinhloso zethu, izinhlangano zosizo kanye namaqembu ethu."

Cabanga ukunikela ku:

• Abantu be-LGBTQ + ngqo ngeVenmo, iCash-App, nePatreon
• noma iyiphi yalezi zinhlangano ze-LGBTQ +
• isikhungo sakho se-LGBTQ + sendawo

Uma ungenazo izimali zokunikela, uBoyajian uphakamisa ukucabanga ngezinye izindlela ongasekela ngazo umphakathi. "Lokho kungaba ukuya embukisweni ongenangqondo futhi unikeze abagibeli abagibelayo nababuya ezikhaleni, uvikele abantu abasebenza emabhikishini aphikisana ne-LGBTQ + nalabo abazama ukusilimaza emicimbini yokuziqhenya nakwezinye izindlela, noma ukusitholela amanzi."

Lokhu kungafaka nokuqinisekisa ukuthi imicimbi yokuziqhenya iyatholakala kubantu abakhubazekile be-LGBTQ +, ukuphakamisa amazwi omphakathi we-LGBTQ + ngokubhala kabusha / ukubhala kabusha okuqukethwe kwabo, nokuvala abantu abenza amahlaya nge- "Straight Pride" noma ngenye indlela yokuhlekisa / ukwehlisa isithunzi / ukufaka omunye umphakathi we-LGBTQ + .

9. Letha izingane zakho

Uma ungumzali, ungahle uzibuze, "Kufanele ngilethe ingane yami ekuziqhenyeni?" Impendulo inguyebo! Inqobo nje uma ukhululekile ukwenza njalo futhi nonke nikulungele ukuletha intshisekelo nokuxhaswa kwenu.

“Ukuziqhenya kungaba yisikhathi esihle sokufunda ezinganeni nasebantwaneni,” kusho uBoyajian. “Ukubona abantu abadala bethandana kuyinto ejwayelekile kanti nokumisa uthando lwanamuhla kubalulekile. Ukubonisa abasha ukuthi ukumangala kungaba yinto enhle kumane nje kuyikuqinisekisa ukuthi bakhula babe yilokho abafuna ukuba yikho ngaphandle kokwahlulela. ”

Yiba nengxoxo nezingane zakho kuqala, kusho u-Antioco Carrillo, umqondisi omkhulu we-Aid for AIDS yaseNevada. “Bachazele ukuthi ucebe kanjani futhi wehlukene kanjani umphakathi wethu nokuthi kungafani kanjani ukuthola ithuba lokuya emcimbini lapho wonke umuntu amukelwa ngeqiniso. Chaza ngendlela abayiqonda ngayo futhi bakhumbule ukuthi kunethuba lokuthi bangaba yi-LGBTQ + ngokwabo. ”

UCosta uyavuma, enezela: “Ngokuqondene nokuthi ungazichazela kanjani izingane zakho lokho ezizokubona akufanele kwehluke kunalokho umuntu angasabela kanjani uma izingane zibona into ezingakaze ziyibone ku-TV noma kumabhayisikobho ngaphambili. Umyalezo kufanele uhlale uthi 'uthando luhle'. ”

Encazelweni yakho, beka ukuziqhenya kumongo. Chaza ukubaluleka komlando nokubaluleka kokuziqhenya, kusho uShane. Imininingwane engaphezulu ongayinika ingane yakho ngaphambi kwesikhathi, iyoba ngcono. "Ngenkathi umbukiso wokuziqhenya umnandi kakhulu ngothingo obuningi nomculo, uma izingane zakho zingaqondi ukuthi kukhona okungaphezulu kokumane uzijabulisa, ulahlekelwa yithuba lokuzinikeza imininingwane eyigugu ngokumangazayo," esho.

10. Zithokozise

Uma uya kuQhosha, hamba uyozijabulisa! “Yibani nesikhathi esimnandi, ukudansa, ukuthethisa nokujabula, zijabulise, umangale ngenani labantu abasekela umphakathi we-LGBTQ + nokuba yibo uqobo,” kukhuthaza uBrown.

“Umbukiso wokuziqhenya uwukugubha uthando nokwamukelwa, futhi amalungu ahlukene aluveza lolo thando ngezindlela ezahlukene,” kusho uBrown. "Uma ubonakala kubaluleke kakhulu ukukugcina lokho engqondweni ngaso sonke isikhathi." Futhi uma wenza kanjalo, maningi amathuba okuthi uzobe usekela i-LGBTQ + ngobuhlakani nangenhlonipho.

Khumbula nje, ababambisene nawe, “Sikudinga unyaka wonke. Asikwazi ukuwunqoba lo mzabalazo ngaphandle kwakho. Ukusekela umphakathi we-LGBTQ nokuba umlingani wangempela ngeke nje kusho ukufaka amasokisi othingo lwenkosazana kanye ngonyaka, ”kusho uLopez. “Sidinga ukuthi uzoma nathi nathi unyaka wonke. Qasha thina emabhizinisini akho. Khetha abantu abazophasa izinqubomgomo ezakha ukulingana kwe-LGBTQ. Sekela amabhizinisi aphethwe yi-LGBTQ. Yeka ukuhlukumeza nokuhlukumeza emikhondweni yakho noma nini lapho uhlangabezana nakho. ”

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