Abanye Abantu Abakhubazekile Baqhumisa I-‘Queer Eye. ’Kepha Ngaphandle Kokukhuluma Ngobuhlanga, Kuphuthelwa Iphuzu

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• Njengoba ubuka isiqephu semizuzu ecishe ibe ngama-49, awukwazi ukuzibamba ubonge ubuntu bukaWesley obukhanyayo.
• Kungaba nzima ukucabanga-ke ukuthi kungani lesi siqephu sakhipha impikiswano engaka kumalungu angewona aMnyama omphakathi okhubazekile.
• 1. Ukushesha (kanye nokulangazelela) abizwa ngakho - nokuthi labo bahlaziyi bavela kubani - kwakutshela yena
• 2. Lokhu kusabela kwenzeke ngaphambi kokuthi uWesley akhulume ngokuhlangenwe nakho kwakhe
• 3. Asikho isikhala esabanjelwa uhambo lukaWesley lokwamukelwa
• 4. Ababiziwe basula izindlela ezehlukile ezimelwe ngazo amadoda amnyama kulesi siqephu
• 5. Ukubaluleka kokusekelwa ngunina kwahlukaniswa ngokungeyikho ngokuhlangenwe nakho kwabanakekeli besifazane abaMnyama
• 6. Lesi siqephu besibaluleke kakhulu kobaba abaMnyama, ikakhulukazi obaba abaMnyama abakhubazekile
• 7. Umthelela lesi siqephu (ne-callout) esaba nawo kubantu abaMnyama abakhubazekile awuzange ubhekwe
• Lapho ngikhuluma noWesley, ngambuza ukuthi unamaphi amagama ngamadoda akhubazekile aMnyama. Impendulo yakhe? "Zithole ungubani."

Isizini entsha yochungechunge lwasekuqaleni lweNetflix i- “Queer Eye” ithole ukunakwa okuningi kwakamuva okuvela emphakathini okhubazekile, njengoba ifaka indoda ekhubazekile emnyama okuthiwa uWesley Hamilton waseKansas City, eMissouri.

UWesley waphila impilo yokuzichaza “njengomfana omubi” waze wadutshulwa esiswini eneminyaka engama-24 ubudala. Kuso sonke lesi siqephu, uWesley wabelana ngokushintsha kwempilo yakhe nendlela abheka ngayo izinto, kufaka phakathi indlela abuka ngayo umzimba wakhe osanda kukhubazeka.

Ngokuhamba kweminyaka engu-7, uWesley wayeka "ukushaya imilenze yakhe phezulu ngoba yayingelutho" wasungula inhlangano engenzi nzuzo i-Disabled But Not Really, inhlangano enikela ngezinhlelo zokudla okunomsoco nokuqina okuhlose ukunika amandla abakhubazekile.

Njengoba ubuka isiqephu semizuzu ecishe ibe ngama-49, awukwazi ukuzibamba ubonge ubuntu bukaWesley obukhanyayo.

Kusukela ekumoyizelweni nasekuhlekeni kwakhe ekuzimiseleni kwakhe ukuzama izinto ezintsha, ukuxhumana akwenzayo neFab Five njengoba ngamunye eguqula isitayela sakhe nekhaya bekuqabula ukubukwa.

Simbona evivinya izingubo ayecabanga ukuthi ngeke akwazi ukuzigqoka ngenxa yesihlalo sakhe esinamasondo; simbuka ehlanganyela izikhathi ezisengozini noTan noKaramo, ephonsela inselelo imibono ejwayelekile yohlobo lobudoda lwama-stoic, olungenamizwa.

Siphinde futhi sibone uhlelo lokusekelwa lothando oluzungeze uWesley, kusukela ekuvoteleni kwakhe futhi umama oziqhenyayo ongapheli kuya endodakazini yakhe embheka njengoSuperman.

Kuzo zonke lezi zizathu nokunye okuningi, lesi siqephu sihamba ngempela futhi siphonsela inselelo imibono eminingi eyeqisayo uWesley - njengendoda emnyama, ekhubazekile - abhekana nayo usuku nosuku.

Kungaba nzima ukucabanga-ke ukuthi kungani lesi siqephu sakhipha impikiswano engaka kumalungu angewona aMnyama omphakathi okhubazekile.

Kwakunezinxushunxushu ezazingabaza igama lenhlangano kaWesley, ngokwesibonelo, ngokukhathazeka ngokuthi lesi siqephu singalimaza kanjani umbono jikelele wokukhubazeka kuzethameli ezingakhubazekile.

Lokhu kuhlaziywa kuvele ngaphambi kokuthi isiqephu sikhonjiswe. Yize kunjalo bathole ukudonsa ezinkundleni zokuxhumana naphezu kwalokho.

Kodwa-ke, ngenkathi amalungu omphakathi akhubazekile aqala ukubuka lesi siqephu, abaningi babona ukuthi "ukushisa okushisayo" okuvela ezinkundleni zokuxhumana kwehlulekile ukubheka ubunzima bokuba ngabamnyama nabakhubazekile.

Ngakho-ke, yini ngempela eyayilahlekile? Ngikhulume ngamaphimbo amane avelele emphakathini wokukhubazeka, osuse izingxoxo nge "Queer Eye" kusuka ekuthukutheleleni okungaqondisiwe kuya ekugxileni kokuhlangenwe nakho kwabantu abamnyama abakhubazekile.

Ukubona kwabo kusikhumbuza ngezindlela eziningi, ngisho nasezikhungweni “ezinenqubekela phambili”, lapho abantu abakhubazekile abaMnyama beqhutshelwa phambili emaphethelweni.

1. Ukushesha (kanye nokulangazelela) abizwa ngakho - nokuthi labo bahlaziyi bavela kubani - kwakutshela yena

Njengoba uKeah Brown, umbhali nentatheli echaza, "Kuyathakazelisa ukuthi umphakathi weqa ngokushesha kangakanani umphimbo wabantu abamnyama abakhubazekile esikhundleni sokucabanga… ukuthi kumele kube njani ukusebenza ngokungazithembi nokuzonda kwakho."

Umphumela? Abantu abangaphandle komphakathi kaWesley (futhi ngokwengezwa, ulwazi oluphilayo) babenze izinqumo ngomsebenzi wakhe kanye neminikelo yakhe, besula ubunzima obuza nobuzwe bakhe.

"Kwakunabantu abadumile abangebona abamnyama abanemibala futhi amalungu omphakathi amhlophe ayejabule ngethuba lokumcekela phansi ngemicu kuTwitter nakuFacebook," kusho uKeah. "Kungenze ngabuza ukuthi basibona kanjani abanye, uyazi?"

2. Lokhu kusabela kwenzeke ngaphambi kokuthi uWesley akhulume ngokuhlangenwe nakho kwakhe

“Abantu bagxume ngempela isibhamu. Basheshe bayiqhela le ndoda bengakasiboni nesiqephu, ”kusho uKeah.

Okuningi kwalokho kusebenza kabusha kwabavela kubagxeki abenza ukucabanga ngegama le-Wesley's elingenzi nzuzo, Khubazekile Kodwa Hhayi Ngempela.

“Ngiyakuqonda ukuthi igama lebhizinisi lakhe alilihle, kepha ngaphezulu, ucela into efanayo esiyicelayo sonke: ukuzimela nokuhlonishwa. Kungikhumbuze impela ukuthi umphakathi unobuhlanga obuningi ongasebenza ngabo, ”kusho uKeah.

Ngibe nethuba lokuxoxa noWesley ngokwenzeka emuva emsebenzini wakhe nangesiqephu sakhe. Engikufundile ukuthi uWesley uyazi kakhulu ngalokhu kuxokozela, kodwa akanankinga ngakho.

“Ngichaza ukuthi yini Ukukhubazeka Kodwa Hhayi Ngempela. Nginika abantu amandla ngokuqina nokudla okunempilo ngoba kungiphe amandla, ”usho kanje.

Lapho uWesley ekhubazeka, wabona ukuthi uzikhawulela ngalokho acabanga ukuthi umuntu okhubazekile - ngokungangabazeki waziswa ukungabonakali kwabantu ababukeka njengaye. Ukuqina nokudla okunempilo yindlela akuthola ngayo ukuzethemba nesibindi manje anaso eminyakeni engu-7 ngemuva kwalolo suku olubi.

Umsebenzi wakhe ukudala isikhala sabanye abantu abakhubazekile ukuze bathole umphakathi ngalezo zindlela ezimnikeze ithuba lokukhululeka esikhunjeni sakhe - okusho ukuthi kulahlekile ngenkathi kugxekwa kahle ngaphambi kokuba azichaze lowo mbono.

3. Asikho isikhala esabanjelwa uhambo lukaWesley lokwamukelwa

Ukubiyelwa kokukhubazeka kukaWesley kubunjwe yindlela afunde ngayo ukuthanda umzimba wakhe omnyama okhubazekile. Ukuba ngumuntu owayethole ukukhubazeka kwakhe kamuva empilweni, ukuqonda kukaWesley nakho kuyavela, njengoba sizibonele ngokwethu ekulandiseni kulesi siqephu.

UMaelee Johnson, umsunguli we-ChronicLoaf kanye nommeli wamalungelo abakhubazekile, uphawula ngohambo uWesley abekade ekulo: “Uma ubona umuntu ofana noWesley owakhubazeka kamuva empilweni, kufanele ucabange ngemiphumela yalokho. Isibonelo, waqala ibhizinisi lakhe ngenkathi enza ulwazi lwangaphakathi kanye nenqubo yokwamukela ubunikazi bakhe obusha bokukhubazeka. ”

"Incazelo yegama lebhizinisi lakhe ingashintsha futhi ikhule naye, futhi lokho kuhle futhi kuyaqondakala," kuqhuba uMaelee. "Nathi emphakathini okhubazekile kufanele sikuqonde lokho."

UHeather Watkins, ummeli wamalungelo abantu abakhubazekile, naye usho okufanayo. "UWesley ubuye abe yingxenye yemibuthano yokukhuthaza ejwayele ukuxhuma / ukuhlangana nabanye abantu ababekelwe eceleni, lokhu kunginika isithombe sokuthi uzoqhubeka nokwandisa ukuzazi kwakhe," kuphawula yena. "Akukho nolimi lwakhe nokungazithembi okulinganiselwe okunginikeze izikhathi ezinzima ngoba usendleleni."

4. Ababiziwe basula izindlela ezehlukile ezimelwe ngazo amadoda amnyama kulesi siqephu

Izigcawu ezazigqame kwabaningi bethu kwakuyilapho amadoda aMnyama eveza amaqiniso awo komunye nomunye.

Ukusebenzisana phakathi kukaKaramo noWesley ikakhulukazi kunikeze umbono onamandla wobudoda obuMnyama nokuba sengozini. UKaramo uvule isikhala esiphephile sokuthi uWesley abelane ngaso mayelana nokulimala kwakhe, ukwelashwa, nokuba ngcono kwakhe, futhi wamnika amandla okubhekana nale ndoda eyamdubula.

Ukuba sengozini okubonisiwe akuvamile ngokudabukisayo kuthelevishini phakathi kwamadoda amabili aMnyama, isenzeko esifanele ukusi bona esikrinini esincane.

Ku-André Daughtry, umsakazi weTwitch, ukuhwebelana phakathi kwamadoda aMnyama kulolu hlelo bekungumbono wokuphola. "Ukusebenzisana kukaWesley noKaramo kwakuyisambulo," esho. “Kwakukuhle futhi kuthinta inhliziyo ukukubona. Amandla abo athule nokuzihlanganisa kwabo kuyisisekelo sawo wonke amadoda amnyama ukuwalandela. ”

UHeather naye unanela lo muzwa, namandla awo okuguqula. “Ingxoxo eyenziwe nguKaramo ingaba ngumbukiso wonke uqobo lwayo. Lolo bekunguvo olubucayi, [futhi] bekuyinto ejabulisayo - futhi wamxolela, ”kusho uHeather. “Uphinde waveza nokwazi ngokuziphendulela ngokugcwele ngempilo yakhe nangezimo zakhe. Lokhu kukhulu kakhulu; lobu ubulungiswa bokubuyisela esimeni esifanele. Lokhu kwakuphulukisa. ”

5. Ukubaluleka kokusekelwa ngunina kwahlukaniswa ngokungeyikho ngokuhlangenwe nakho kwabanakekeli besifazane abaMnyama

Umama kaWesley wayebambe iqhaza elibalulekile ekululameni kwakhe futhi wayefuna ukuqiniseka ukuthi uWesley unamathuluzi awadingayo ukuze aphile ngokuzimela.

Ekupheleni kwesiqephu, uWesley ubonge umama wakhe. Ngenkathi abanye abantu babecabanga ukuthi ukugxila kwakhe kwinkululeko kwakusho ukuthi ukunakekelwa kwaba umthwalo - nokuthi uWesley wakuqinisa ngokumbonga - laba bantu baphuthelwa ukuthi kungani lezo zigcawu zibaluleke kakhulu emindenini yabamnyama.

UHeather uchaza izikhala: “Ngokombono wami njengomama nomnakekeli womzali osekhulile, nokwazi ukuthi abesifazane abaNsundu bavame ukungabhalwa noma babizwe ngokuthi 'banamandla,' njengokungathi asikaze sibe namakhefu noma sibe nezinhlungu, lokhu kuzwakale njengokubonga okumnandi . ”

"Kwesinye isikhathi ukubonga okulula okugcwaliswe ngokuthi" Ngiyazi ukuthi ubenomhlane wami futhi uzinike isikhathi sakho esiningi, isikhathi, futhi wanginakekela ’kungaba ukuthula nomcamelo ongaphumula kuwo,” usho kanje.

6. Lesi siqephu besibaluleke kakhulu kobaba abaMnyama, ikakhulukazi obaba abaMnyama abakhubazekile

Kuyaqabukela ngendlela emangalisayo lapho ukukhubazeka nobaba kubonakala nhlobo, ikakhulukazi lezo zikhathi ezibandakanya amadoda akhubazekile aMnyama.

U-André uveza ukuthi ukubuka uWesley engubaba kumnika kanjani ithemba: “Ngokubona uWesley nendodakazi yakhe, uNevaeh, angibonanga lutho ngaphandle kwamathuba okuthi ngelinye ilanga ngibe nenhlanhla yokuthola izingane.

“Ngiyabona ukuthi iyatholakala futhi ayiqhelile. Ukuba ngumzali okhubazekile kufanele kwenziwe ngendlela eyejwayelekile futhi kuphakanyiswe. ”

UHeather wabelana ngokuthi kungani ukukhonjiswa kukababa-ndodakazi okwenziwa kube okujwayelekile kwaba namandla ngokwawo. "Ukuba ngubaba omnyama okhubazekile ondodakazi yakhe imbona njengeqhawe lakhe kwakuthinta inhliziyo, [kwakungafani] nemifanekiso eminingi kababa nendodakazi eveza izithombe."

Ngalo mqondo, lesi siqephu siveza obaba abaMnyama abakhubazekile njengoWesley hhayi njengoMunye, kodwa njengoba benjalo: abazali abakholekayo nabanothando.

7. Umthelela lesi siqephu (ne-callout) esaba nawo kubantu abaMnyama abakhubazekile awuzange ubhekwe

Njengowesifazane omnyama okhubazekile, ngabona iningi lamadoda akhubazekile aMnyama engakhula nawo eWesley. Abesilisa abebezama ukuziveza emhlabeni lapho bengakholelwa khona ukuthi uhlobo lwabo lobudoda boMnyama lwalonakele ngoba babekhubazekile.

Lawo madoda ayentula ukubonakala kwabesilisa abaKhubazekile abakhubazekile okwakungaveza umqondo wokuziqhenya ababewudinga ukuzethemba emizimbeni nasezingqondweni zabo.

U-André uchaza ukuthi kungani ukubona uWesley ku- "Queer Eye" kwakubalulekile kuye kulesi sigaba sempilo: "Ngangihlobene nomzabalazo kaWesley wokuzithola esolwandle lobunikazi obuMnyama nobudoda obunobuthi. Ngihlobene nokuphakama kwakhe nokwehla kwakhe nomuzwa wokufeza okuthile lapho eqala ukuthola izwi lakhe. ”

Lapho ebuzwa ukuthi wayezothini kuWesley maqondana nokuhlukumezeka, u-André wamkhuthaza ukuba “angabanaki labo abangayiqondi indlela yakhe yokuphila. Wenza kahle ekuhloleni ubudlelwano bakhe nokukhubazeka nomphakathi, kanye nobumnyama bakhe nokuba ngubaba. Akukho okulula noma okuza nomhlahlandlela wesinyathelo nesinyathelo sokuthi wenzeni. ”

Lapho ngikhuluma noWesley, ngambuza ukuthi unamaphi amagama ngamadoda akhubazekile aMnyama. Impendulo yakhe? "Zithole ungubani."

Njengoba kufakazelwa ukubonakala kwakhe ku- “Queer Eye,” uWesley ubona abantu abaKhubazekile abaMnyama njengabanamandla amakhulu. Kusukela emsebenzini wakhe, ufinyelela emphakathini wabantu abakhubazekile izikhala eziningi ezingazinaki noma ezingafinyeleli nje kuzo.

"Ngasinda ngalobobusuku ngesizathu," kusho uWesley. Lowo mbono ube nomthelela omkhulu ekutheni uyibuka kanjani impilo yakhe, umzimba wakhe okhubazekile oMnyama, kanye nomthelela afuna ukuba nawo emphakathini onganakwa futhi ongamelwe kahle.

Lesi siqephu se- "Queer Eye" sivule umnyango wengxoxo ebidingeka kakhulu mayelana nokulwa nobumnyama, ukuhlangana, kanye nokubheka imibono yabakhubazekile abaMnyama.

Masethembe ukuthi sizokwazi ukuhlakanipha futhi singaqhubeki nokudlula noma ukusula izingxenye zomphakathi wethu lapho kufanele kube ngamazwi abo - yebo, amazwi afana ncamashi nakaWesley - phambili.

UVilissa Thompson, i-LMSW, ungusonhlalakahle onomqondo ovamile waseNingizimu Carolina. Ramp Izwi Lakho! yinhlangano yakhe lapho axoxa khona ngezinto ezibalulekile kuye njengowesifazane omnyama okhubazekile, kufaka phakathi ukuhlangana, ubuhlanga, ezombusazwe, nokuthi kungani enza ukungahambi kahle enza inkinga enhle. Mthole ku-Twitter @VilissaThompson, @RampYourVoice, naku @WheelDealPod.