Ukukhulisa Izingane Lapho Une-HIV: Okudingeka Ukwazi

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• Isileti esihlanzekile sokufundisa
• Ukukhuluma ngocansi akulula
• Ukwabelana ngesimo sakho esidlangalaleni
• Yigciwane nje
• I-HIV nokukhulelwa
• Ukudla okudlela endlini

Ngemuva kokufunda ukuthi ngine-HIV ngineminyaka engama-45, kwadingeka ngenze isinqumo sokuthi ngizotshela bani. Uma kukhulunywa ngokwabelana ngokuxilongwa kwami ​​nezingane zami, ngangazi ukuthi nginenketho eyodwa kuphela.

Ngaleso sikhathi, izingane zami zazineminyaka engu-15, 12, no-8, futhi kwakungukusabela kwamadolo ukubatshela ukuthi ngine-HIV. Bengigula kusofa amasonto futhi sonke besikhathazekile ngokwazi imbangela yokugula kwami.

Kungakapheli nemizuzu engama-30 yocingo olushintshe impilo yami, ingane yami eneminyaka engu-15 yayisocingweni lwayo ifuna izimpendulo ku-inthanethi. Ngikhumbula ethi, "Mama, ngeke ufe kulokhu." Bengicabanga ukuthi ngiyazi nge-HIV, kodwa ngokungalindelekile ukuthola ukuthi isemzimbeni wakho kuguqula umbono wakho kakhulu.

Okuxakayo-ke ukuthi kwakuwukuziphatha kahle kwengane yami enganginamathela kukho ukuze ngithole induduzo kulezo zikhathi zokuqala zokufunda ukuthi ngangine-HIV.

Nakhu ukuthi ngikhulume kanjani nezingane zami ngokuxilongwa kwami, nokuthi yini okufanele ngiyazi ngokuba nezingane lapho une-HIV.

Isileti esihlanzekile sokufundisa

Endodakazini yami eneminyaka engu-12 nendodana eneminyaka engu-8 ubudala, i-HIV yayingelutho ngaphandle kwezinhlamvu ezintathu. Ukubafundisa ngaphandle kwenhlangano yehlazo bekuyithuba ebingalindelekile, kodwa kube yinhlanhla.

Ngachaza ukuthi i-HIV yigciwane elalihlasela amangqamuzana amahle emzimbeni wami, nokuthi ngizoqala ukuthatha imishanguzo kungekudala ukubuyisela emuva leyo nqubo. Ngokwemvelo, ngisebenzise isifaniso sePac-Man ukubasiza ukuba babone ngeso lengqondo indima yomuthi uma kuqhathaniswa negciwane. Ukungafihli lutho kwanginikeza impumuzo ngokwazi ukuthi ngangidala okujwayelekile lapho ngikhuluma nge-HIV.

Ingxenye ekhohlisayo ibichaza ukuthi umama wakuthola kanjani lokhu emzimbeni wakhe.

Ukukhuluma ngocansi akulula

Selokhu ngakhumbula, ngangazi ukuthi ngizovuleleka kakhulu ezinganeni zami zesikhathi esizayo ngocansi. Kepha-ke ngibe nezingane futhi lokho kwaphuma ngqo ngefasitela.

Ukukhuluma ngocansi nezingane zakho kunzima. Yingxenye yakho ozifihla njengomama. Uma kukhulunywa ngemizimba yabo, uba nohlobo lwethemba lokuthi bakuthola bebodwa. Manje, ngangibhekene nokuchaza ukuthi ngiyithola kanjani i-HIV.

Emantombazaneni ami, ngahlanganyela ukuthi ngathola igciwane lesandulela ngculaza ngocansi nesoka lami langaphambili futhi ngalishiya lapho. Indodana yami beyazi ukuthi ivela kulowo mlingani, kepha ngakhetha ukugcina ukuthi "kanjani" kungacaci. Eminyakeni emine edlule, uzwile ukugembula ngokudluliswa kwegciwane lesandulela ngculaza ngenxa yokumela kwami ​​futhi ngokuqinisekile ukuhlanganisile okubili nokukabili.

Ukwabelana ngesimo sakho esidlangalaleni

Ukube bengigcina isimo sami siyimfihlo futhi ngingenakho ukusekelwa yizingane zami, angicabangi ukuthi bengizoba sesidlangalaleni njenganamuhla.

Abantu abaningi abaphila negciwane lesandulela ngculaza kufanele bamelane nesifiso sokucobelelana ngolwazi lwabo futhi banciphise ukucwaswa kubangani babo, umndeni, abantu abasebenza nabo noma ezinkundleni zokuxhumana. Lokhu kungenxa yokuthi izingane zabo azazi noma sezikhulile ngokwanele ukuthi zingaqonda ukucwaswa futhi zibuze ukuthi abazali bazo bathule ngenhlalakahle yabo. Abazali bangakhetha futhi ukuhlala ngasese ukuvikela izingane zabo emiphumeleni emibi yenhlamba.

Nginenhlanhla yokuthi izingane zami zazi kusukela zisencane ukuthi i-HIV akuyona into eyayiyiyo eminyakeni yama-80 kanye nama-90. Asibhekene nesigwebo sentambo namuhla. Igciwane lesandulela ngculaza yisimo esingalapheki esingapheli.

Ngokuxhumana kwami ​​nentsha esikoleni engisebenza kuso, ngibonile ukuthi iningi labo alazi ukuthi iyini i-HIV. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, intsha eningi efuna iseluleko ngemithombo yami yezokuxhumana ikhathazeka ngokuthi "izobamba" i-HIV ekuqabangeni futhi ingafa. Ngokusobala, lokhu akulona iqiniso.

Iminyaka engamashumi amathathu nanhlanu yokucwaswa kunzima ukuyinyakazisa, futhi i-inthanethi ayenzi ngaso sonke isikhathi i-HIV. Izingane kufanele zifunde ezikoleni zazo ngokuthi iyini i-HIV namuhla.

Izingane zethu zifanelwe ulwazi lwamanje ukushintsha ingxoxo nge-HIV. Lokhu kungasiyisa endaweni yokuvikela nokugcina njengendlela yokuqeda leli gciwane.

Yigciwane nje

Ukusho ukuthi unenkukhu, umkhuhlane noma umkhuhlane ovamile awunanhlamba. Singabelana ngalolu lwazi kalula ngaphandle kokukhathazeka ngokuthi abanye bazocabangani noma bazothini.

Ngakolunye uhlangothi, igciwane lesandulela ngculaza lingelinye lamagciwane athwala isigcwagcwa - ikakhulu ngenxa yokuthi lingadluliselwa ngokuxhumana ngokocansi noma ngokuhlanganyela izinaliti. Kepha ngemithi yanamuhla, ukuhlangana akunasisekelo, kuyalimaza futhi kungenzeka kube yingozi.

Izingane zami zibona i-HIV njengephilisi engiliphuzayo hhayi okunye. Bayakwazi ukulungisa abangane babo lapho abazali balabo bangane bedlulise imininingwane engalungile noma eyingozi.

Endlini yethu, sikugcina kulula futhi sincokola ngakho. Indodana yami izothi angikwazi ukukhotha u-ayisikhilimu wakhe ngoba akafuni ukuthola i-HIV kimi. Sibe sesihleka, bese ngithatha u-ayisikhilimu wakhe.

Ukwenza ukukhanya kobuze balokho okuhlangenwe nakho kuyindlela yethu yokuhlekisa ngegciwane elingasakwazi ukungihleka usulu.

I-HIV nokukhulelwa

Okungaziwa ngabantu abaningi ukuthi kungaphepha kakhulu ukuba nezingane uma une-HIV. Yize lokhu bekungekhona okuhlangenwe nakho kwami, ngiyazi abesifazane abaningi abane-HIV abaye bakhulelwa ngempumelelo ngaphandle kwezinkinga.

Lapho belashwa futhi bengatholakali, abesifazane bangabeletha izitho zangasese eziphephile kanye nezinsana eziphilile ezingenayo i-HIV. Abanye besifazane abazi ukuthi bane-HIV baze bakhulelwe, kanti abanye bathola igciwane ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa. Uma owesilisa ephila negciwane lesandulela ngculaza, mancane amathuba okuthi adlulisele leli gciwane kumlingani wesifazane nasezinganeni ezisanda kuzalwa.

Kunoma ikuphi, kuncane kakhulu ukukhathazeka ngengozi yokudlulisela lapho uselashwa.

Ukudla okudlela endlini

Ukushintsha indlela umhlaba obona ngayo i-HIV kuqala ngesizukulwane esisha ngasinye. Uma singenzi imizamo yokufundisa izingane zethu ngaleli gciwane, ukucwaswa ngeke kuphele.

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