Imfihlo Yokuphila Isikhathi Eside Kungaba Esimweni Sakho Sobudlelwano

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U-Emma Morano uneminyaka eyi-117 (yebo, ikhulu neshumi nesikhombisa!), futhi njengamanje ungumuntu omdala kunabo bonke eMhlabeni. Owesifazane wase-Italy, owazalwa ngo-1899, usanda kugubha usuku lwakhe lokuzalwa ngoNovemba 27 futhi wakhuluma ngakho konke akholelwa ukuthi kudingayo ukuze abe umuntu ongaphezu kwekhulu leminyaka.

Impendulo ingase ikumangaze. Cha, akuyona i-kale, kodwa kunalokho "ukungashadi," kusho uMorano njengoba kubikwe yi-Independent. UMorano uhlale yedwa kusukela ngo-1938 lapho eshiya umyeni wakhe owayenodlame ngemuva nje kokushona kwendodana yakhe eyayiselusana.

Kuvela ukuthi isayensi ikhombisa ukuthi ukungashadi empeleni kunikeza inqwaba yezinzuzo zezempilo okuthi, uma uzengeza, kungaholela empilweni ende. Komunye, abesifazane abasanda kushada bavame ukukhuluphala besuka elulwaneni, ngokusho kocwaningo luka-2014 olushicilelwe kujenali. Isithombe Somzimba. Futhi, empeleni, ungase ube Okuningi okungenzeka ukuthi ukhuluphale ebuhlotsheni obujabulisayo kunalokho oyikho koya eningizimu (ekuqaleni komshado wakho, okungenani), ngokolunye ucwaningo olushicilelwe kujenali. I-Psychology yezempilo. Nakuba ukuzuza "isisindo sobudlelwane" ngeke kukubulale, ukukhuluphala ngokweqile kwandisa ingozi yakho yezinkinga eziningi zezokwelapha kusukela kuhlobo lwesifo sikashukela sohlobo 2, umfutho wegazi ophakeme, nesifo senhliziyo kuya ezinhlotsheni ezithile zomdlavuza, i-osteoarthritis, nesibindi kanye isifo sezinso, ngokweNational Institutes of Diabetes and Digestive and Kidney Disease. Ukuhumusha: akukuhle, uma ufuna ukuphila ukuze ubone amakhulu amathathu eminyaka, njengoMorano.

Okwesibili, ukudabuka kwenhliziyo kuyinto yangempela - futhi asisho nje ngokomfanekiso. Ukuba ebudlelwaneni obunobuthi kunamandla okulimaza inhliziyo yakho ngokoqobo. Imishado engajabulile yayihlotshaniswa nengozi enkulu yesifo senhliziyo nemithambo yegazi, ngokusho kocwaningo olwanyatheliswa kuyi- Ijenali Yezempilo Nokuziphatha Komphakathi.

Futhi, okwesithathu, kungenzeka ukuthi ujabule wedwa. Into "enamandla, ezimele engadingi owesilisa" empeleni iyiqiniso impela; Ucwaningo lwaseNew Zealand luthole ukuthi abantu abangashadile abathanda ukugwema izingxabano nokungaboni ngaso linye bajabule njengalabo abasebudlelwaneni. Ingasaphathwa eyokuba wedwa kukwenza ube nesibindi-ikakhulukazi uma uvela ebudlelwaneni obunamadwala, njengoMorano: "Ukusinda kumuzwa onjalo futhi uzihlalele wedwa, ngaphandle kokuphinda ushade noma uthole omunye umlingani osemthethweni ukuze akusekele, kukhombisa ukuthi unamandla amakhulu impela, "kusho uSarah Bennett, ababambisene naye F * CK UTHANDO: Iseluleko esisodwa Esinengqondo Sokuthola Ubudlelwano Ohlala Njalo (Ithenda lokuthinta). "Kungenzeka ukuthi, ukube bekungafanele athole amandla okushiya umyeni wakhe, ubengeke afunde ukuthi angaphila kanjani isikhathi eside njengoba enesikhathi, isikhathi."

Ngaphezu kwalokho, ukucindezeleka emshadweni (okuthi, masikhulume iqiniso, okunzima ukukugwema) kuhlotshaniswa nokucindezeleka futhi kungase kunciphise ikhono lakho lokujabula ngezinto ezinhle, ngokolunye ucwaningo olwanyatheliswa ku- I-Psychophysiology.

"Abantu bahlale bezimisele ngokuthola umuntu ukuze bangafi bengashadile futhi bebodwa, kodwa lo wesifazane uyisibonelo esiphilayo sokuthi kungani leso sisusa siwubuwula; kungcono ukuphila impilo ende, ejabulisayo njengomuntu ongashadile kunokuba uhlale nothile. , ikakhulukazi onodlame, ukuze ungabhekani nokufa wedwa, "kusho uBennett.

Shayela izintombi zakho, pop ibhodlela le-bubbly, bese ufaka uBeyonce: sekuyisikhathi sokuthi ~ zonke izintokazi ezingashadile ~ zigubhe.

Kepha linda, akusikho lokho: Kunezizathu ezengeziwe zokungashadi zingcono empilweni yakho futhi nezindlela eziningi ubuhlobo bakho bungaxakaniseka ngayo.

Ngakho-ke, yebo, uMorano ubekade ethanda okuthile. Futhi uma uzibuza ukuthi yisiphi esinye iseluleko anaso sokuphila impilo ende? Kokunye, yidla amaqanda amaningi. Udla amaqanda amabili aluhlaza neqanda elilodwa eliphekiwe nsuku zonke kusukela eneminyaka engu-20 (ngenxa yokutholakala ukuthi une-anemia). Lokho, futhi udla amakhukhi (ibhalansi, duh) futhi uyayiyeka inyama (ngoba othile umtshele ukuthi idala umdlavuza). Ngaphandle kwalokho? Qhubeka wenze lowo mdanso "Single Ladies". (Futhi kini nonke mantombazane eninendandatho, ningawabhali lawo maphepha edivosi okwamanje. Nazi ezinye izindlela ubudlelwano benu obuthuthukisa ngazo impilo yenu. Konke kumayelana nombono, bantu.)

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