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• Ama-stereotypes mayelana nokwenziwa kobulili besilisa
• Abesilisa bacabanga ngocansi usuku lonke
• Amadoda ashaya indlwabu kaningi kunabesifazane
• Abesilisa bavame ukuthatha imizuzu emi-2 kuya kwengu-7 ukuya kwi-orgasm
• Abesilisa bavulekele kakhulu ukuya ocansini nabantu abayitoho
• Imibhangqwana yabesilisa abayizitabane iba nobulili obuningi kunabashadile
• Abesilisa bathandana kancane kunabesifazane
• Ukushayela ucansi nobuchopho
• I-testosterone
• Ukulahleka kwe-libido
• Umbono

Imibono yokushayela ocansini besilisa

Kunezinkolelo-ze eziningi eziveza amadoda njengemishini ethanda ucansi. Izincwadi, izinhlelo zethelevishini, nama-movie kuvame ukufaka abalingiswa namaphoyinti okuqamba amadoda acabanga ukuthi amadoda ayazihlanya ngocansi kanti abesifazane bakhathalela ezothando kuphela.

Kodwa ingabe kuyiqiniso? Yini esikwaziyo ngokuqhutshwa kobulili besilisa?

Ama-stereotypes mayelana nokwenziwa kobulili besilisa

Ngakho-ke yiziphi izinkolelo-mbono mayelana nokuqhutshwa kobulili besilisa okuyiqiniso? Ngabe amadoda aqhathaniswa kanjani nabesifazane? Ake sibheke lezi zinganekwane ezidumile mayelana nobulili besilisa.

Abesilisa bacabanga ngocansi usuku lonke

Ucwaningo lwakamuva olwenziwe e-Ohio State University lwabafundi abangaphezu kuka-200 lususa inkolelo-ze edumile yokuthi amadoda acabanga ngocansi njalo ngemizuzwana eyisikhombisa. Lokho kungasho imicabango engu-8 000 emahoreni angu-16 okuvuka! Izinsizwa ezikulesi sifundo zibike imicabango yocansi izikhathi ezingama-19 ngosuku ngokwesilinganiso. Abesifazane abasebasha ocwaningweni babike isilinganiso semicabango eyi-10 ngocansi ngosuku.

Ngakho-ke ingabe amadoda acabanga ngocansi ngokuphindwe kabili kunabesifazane? Yebo, ucwaningo luphakamise nokuthi abesilisa bacabanga ngokudla futhi balale kaningi kunabesifazane. Kungenzeka ukuthi amadoda akhululeke kakhudlwana ngokucabanga ngocansi futhi abike imicabango yawo. UTerri Fisher, umbhali oholayo walolu cwaningo, uthi abantu ababike ukuthi bakhululekile kwezocansi ohlwini lwemibuzo lwesifundo kungenzeka ukuthi bacabange njalo ngocansi.

Amadoda ashaya indlwabu kaningi kunabesifazane

Ocwaningweni olwenziwa ngo-2009 kubantu abadala abangama-600 eGuangzhou, eChina, amaphesenti angama-48.8 abesifazane kanye namaphesenti angama-68.7 abesilisa babika ukuthi bashaya indlwabu. Ucwaningo luphakamise nokuthi inani elikhulu labantu abadala linombono ongemuhle ngokushaya indlwabu, ikakhulukazi abesifazane.

Abesilisa bavame ukuthatha imizuzu emi-2 kuya kwengu-7 ukuya kwi-orgasm

UMasters noJohnson, abacwaningi ababili bezocansi ababalulekile, basikisela iModeli Yesigaba Esine yokuqonda umjikelezo wokuphendula ngezocansi:

1. injabulo
2. ithafa
3. isitho
4. isinqumo

UMasters noJohnson bagomela ukuthi abesilisa nabesifazane bobabili bahlangabezana nalezi zigaba ngesikhathi sokwenza ucansi. Kepha ubude besigaba ngasinye buhluka kakhulu kumuntu nomuntu. Ukunquma ukuthi kuthatha isikhathi esingakanani owesilisa noma owesifazane ukuya kwi-orgasm kunzima ngoba isigaba senjabulo nesigaba sethafa singaqala imizuzu eminingana noma amahora ambalwa ngaphambi kokuba umuntu afike kuvuthondaba.

Abesilisa bavulekele kakhulu ukuya ocansini nabantu abayitoho

iphakamisa ukuthi abesilisa bazimisele kakhulu kunabesifazane ukuzibandakanya ocansini nabantu abayitoho. Ocwaningweni, abesilisa abayi-6 nabesifazane abayi-8 basondela kwabesilisa abayi-162 nabesifazane abayi-119 ekilabhini yasebusuku noma ekolishi. Bakhiphe isimemo sobulili obungathandeki. Inani eliphakeme kakhulu lamadoda lamukele lesi sipho kunabesifazane.

Kodwa-ke, engxenyeni yesibili yocwaningo olufanayo olwenziwe yilaba bacwaningi, abesifazane babonakala bezimisele ngokwengeziwe ukwamukela izimemo zocansi olungakahleleki lapho besendaweni ephephile. Abesifazane nabesilisa bakhonjiswa izithombe zabakhongi futhi babuza ukuthi ngabe bazovuma yini noma cha ukulala nomuntu ongathandani naye. Umehluko wobulili ezimpendulweni wanyamalala lapho abesifazane bezwa ukuthi basesimweni esiphephile.

Umehluko phakathi kwalezi zifundo ezimbili uphakamisa ukuthi izici zamasiko njengezinkambiso zomphakathi zingaba nomthelela omkhulu endleleni amadoda nabesifazane abafuna ngayo ubudlelwano bezocansi.

Imibhangqwana yabesilisa abayizitabane iba nobulili obuningi kunabashadile

Le nkolelo kunzima ukuyifakazela noma ukuyilahla. Abesilisa abayizitabane nabesifazane abathandana nabobulili obufanayo banokuhlangenwe nakho okuhlukahlukene kwezocansi njengabesilisa nabesifazane abesilisa nabesifazane. Amadoda angama-gay angashadile ahlala emadolobheni asemadolobheni anedumela lokuba nenani elikhulu labalingani. Kepha abesilisa abayizitabane bahlanganyela kuzo zonke izinhlobo zobudlelwano.

Izithandani ezingongqingili zingase zibe nezincazelo ezingafani mayelana nokuthi “ucansi” lusho ukuthini kuzo. Abanye abashadikazi abathandana nabobulili obufanayo basebenzisa amathoyizi ocansi ukuhlanganyela ekuhlanganyeleni. Eminye imibhangqwana engongqingili ithatha ucansi njengokushayana indlwabu noma ukuphulula.

Abesilisa bathandana kancane kunabesifazane

Njengoba kuphakanyisiwe yiMasters and Johnson's Four-Phase Model, injabulo yezocansi yehlukile kuwo wonke umuntu. Imithombo yokuvuka ingahluka kakhulu kumuntu nomuntu. Imikhuba nezenzo zocansi ezijwayele ukwenziwa zivame ukubumba indlela abesilisa nabesifazane abathola ngayo ucansi futhi zingaba nomthelela endleleni abakubika ngayo ocwaningweni. Lokhu kwenza kube nzima ukufakazela ngokwesayensi ukuthi abesilisa abathandi ukuvuswa kothando.

Ukushayela ucansi nobuchopho

Ukuya ocansini kuvame ukuchazwa njenge-libido. Akunasilinganiso senombolo se-libido. Esikhundleni salokho, ukushayela ubulili kuyaqondakala ngokwemigomo efanele. Isibonelo, i-libido ephansi isho ukuthi i- kwehlile intshisekelo noma isifiso kwezocansi.

I-libido yesilisa ihlala ezindaweni ezimbili zobuchopho: i-cortex yobuchopho kanye nohlelo lwe-limbic. Lezi zingxenye zobuchopho zibalulekile ekuqhutshweni kocansi kowesilisa nokusebenza. Zibaluleke kakhulu, empeleni, ukuthi indoda ingaba ne-orgasm ngokumane icabange noma iphuphe mayelana nokuhlangenwe nakho kocansi.

I-cerebral cortex yinto empunga eyakha ungqimba olungaphandle lobuchopho. Kuyingxenye yobuchopho bakho obhekene nemisebenzi ephakeme njengokuhlela nokucabanga. Lokhu kuhlanganisa ukucabanga ngocansi. Lapho uvuswa, amasiginali avela ku-cerebral cortex angaxhumana nezinye izingxenye zobuchopho nezinzwa. Eminye yalezi zinzwa isheshisa izinga lokushaya kwenhliziyo yakho nokugeleza kwegazi kuya ezithweni zakho zangasese. Bakhombisa nenqubo edala ukwakhiwa.

Uhlelo lwe-limbic lubandakanya izingxenye eziningi zobuchopho: i-hippocampus, i-hypothalamus ne-amygdala, nezinye. Lezi zingxenye zibandakanyeka ngokomzwelo, ukugqugquzela, kanye nokushayela ucansi. Abaphenyi bathola ukuthi ukubuka izithombe ezivusa inkanuko kwandise umsebenzi ku-amygdalae yamadoda ukwedlula eyabesifazane. Kodwa-ke, kunezingxenye eziningi zobuchopho ezithintekayo ekuphenduleni ngokocansi, ngakho-ke lokhu kutholwa akusho ukuthi amadoda avuswa kalula kunabesifazane.

I-testosterone

I-testosterone yi-hormone ehlotshaniswa kakhulu nokuqhutshwa kobulili besilisa. Ikhiqizwe ikakhulukazi emasendeni, i-testosterone inendima ebalulekile emisebenzini eminingi yomzimba, kufaka phakathi:

• ukuthuthukiswa kwezitho zobulili zesilisa
• ukukhula kwezinwele zomzimba
• ukukhula kwamathambo nokukhula kwemisipha
• ukujula kwezwi ngesikhathi sokuthomba
• ukukhiqizwa kwesidoda
• ukukhiqizwa kwamangqamuzana abomvu egazi

Amazinga aphansi e-testosterone avame ukuboshelwa ku-libido ephansi. Amazinga e-testosterone athambekele ekubeni phezulu ekuseni futhi aphansi ebusuku. Empilweni yomuntu wesilisa, amazinga akhe e-testosterone aphezulu kakhulu eminyakeni yakhe yobudala engamashumi amabili, ngemuva kwalokho aqala ukwehla kancane.

Ukulahleka kwe-libido

Ukushayela ucansi kungancipha ngeminyaka. Kepha kwesinye isikhathi ukulahleka kwe-libido kuboshelwe esimeni esingaphansi. Okulandelayo kungadala ukwehla kwe-sex drive:

Umbono

Ngabe ukushayela kobulili besilisa kuyahamba? Kwabesilisa abaningi, i-libido ayisoze yaphela ngokuphelele. Kwabesilisa abaningi, i-libido ngokuqinisekile izoshintsha ngokuhamba kwesikhathi. Indlela owenza ngayo nothando nokujabulela ucansi nayo izoshintsha ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, kanjalo nemvamisa. Kepha ucansi nokusondelana kungaba yingxenye ejabulisayo yokuguga.