Ucansi Luthinta Kanjani Imizwelo Yakho? Izinto eziyi-12 okufanele uzazi ngokuheha nokuvuka

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• Izinto zokuqala kuqala: Ubulili busho izinto ezihlukile kubantu abahlukile
• Phezu kwezinkolelo-ze, ubulili bakho abuhlangene nakancane nempendulo yakho engokomzwelo ebulilini
• Abanye abantu badinga ukuheha ngokomzwelo ukuze bahehe ngokomzimba
• Abanye bathola ukuthi ukwenza ngokuheha ngokomzimba kungaholela ekukhangeni ngokomzwelo
• Abanye bangathola ukuthi ukukhangana ngokomzwelo nangokomzimba kusebenza emiphakathini emibili ehluke ngokuphelele
• Kungakhathalekile ukuthi unamuphi umbono, ubulili nemizwa kuthinta izindlela ezifanayo ebuchosheni
• Ngaphezu kwalokho, iningi labantu lihlangabezana nemizwa efanayo ngesikhathi sokwenza ucansi nokukhululwa
• Kuyafaneleka futhi ukuqaphela ukuthi ukuvuswa kocansi kungavala izingxenye ze-prefrontal cortex
• Ukuthembela ku-Oxytocin nakho kuyinto
• Abaphenyi basakhipha okuguqukayo okwehlukile kunkanuko, ukukhanga, nokulingana kokunamathiselwe
• Uma ufuna ukuhlukanisa ubulili nemizwa
• Uma ufuna ukujulisa ubudlelwano phakathi kocansi nemizwa
• Okubalulekile

Izinto zokuqala kuqala: Ubulili busho izinto ezihlukile kubantu abahlukile

Ubulili bungaba ukubonakaliswa kokugcina kothando nezithandani. Noma i-roller coaster engokomzwelo. Noma isidambisi somoya. Noma kumayelana nokuzala. Noma kumane kuyisikhathi esihle. Kungaba zonke lezi zinto nokuningi.

Ubulili busho izinto ezihlukile kubantu abahlukene. Futhi noma ngabe kusho ukuthini kuwe akuhlali njalo, futhi.

Kungasho izinto ezahlukahlukene ezindaweni ezihlukene empilweni yakho, noma kusuka osukwini olulodwa kuye kolandelayo.

Futhi uyazi ini? Konke kuvamile ngokuphelele.

Phezu kwezinkolelo-ze, ubulili bakho abuhlangene nakancane nempendulo yakho engokomzwelo ebulilini

Abesifazane basemsizweni wemizwa yabo e-roller-coaster; amadoda alawula ngokuqinile imizwa embalwa anayo. Okungenani yilokho ukuhlakanipha okuthandwayo obekungaba khona ukuthi sikholelwe.

Le mibono inezimpande ezijulile, kepha abantu bayinkimbinkimbi kakhulu kunalokho.

Kube khona abanye abasikisela ukuthi abesifazane bachazeka kakhulu ngemizwa, okungenani e-United States nakwamanye amazwe aseNtshonalanga Yurophu.

Baphinde basikisela ukuthi amadoda anempendulo efanayo noma enkulu yomzimba ezicindezelweni ezingokomzwelo.

Lo mehluko ungadalwa ithonya lesiko esiphila kulo. Mhlawumbe besivele sisebenza kulokho esatshelwa ukuthi kwamukelekile.

Kulezi zinsuku, abantu abathambekele ekuhambisaneni nezigaba ezilula zobulili.

Noma ngabe ubulili bakho nokuthi ububeka obala noma cha, impendulo yakho engokomzwelo kwezocansi ingeyakho ngokukhethekile.

Abanye abantu badinga ukuheha ngokomzwelo ukuze bahehe ngokomzimba

Ngabe udinga ukuzwa izinga elithile lokuheha ngokomzwelo ngaphambi kokuthi noma imuphi umqondo wezocansi ungene engqondweni yakho? Uma lokho kuzwakala njengawe, awuwedwa neze.

Mhlawumbe udinga ukuxhuma ezingeni likamoya. Mhlawumbe kungumqondo wabo noma iqiniso lokuthi wabelana ngamafilosofi ayisisekelo okuphila.

Mhlawumbe uzwe lelo thamu lokuqala lesasasa lapho bekuhlekisa ’uze ukhale.

Noma kuyindaba ye je ne sais quoi - leyo nto ethile ongeke wayibeka ngamagama, kepha uyazi uma kwenzeka.

Ufuna ukusondelana. Lapho nje imizwa yakho isiseduze futhi wenze ukuxhumana okungokomzwelo, ungaqala ukuzizwa uvukile ngokomzimba.

Ngaphandle kwaleyo ndawo, awungeni ocansini nje. Ungene ekwenzeni uthando.

Abanye bathola ukuthi ukwenza ngokuheha ngokomzimba kungaholela ekukhangeni ngokomzwelo

Abanye abantu badonswa ndawonye njengamazibuthe.

Kukhona ukusabela kwamakhemikhali, indlala, isifiso somzimba sokuthola umzimba nomunye umuntu. Kuyinkanuko.

Lapho i-chemistry phakathi kwabantu ilungile, ukuthola umzimba kungakhula kube okuningi kakhulu.

Ukubuyekezwa kokubuyela emuva kuka-2012 kutholakale izindawo ezimbili zobuchopho ezilandelela ukuqhubekela phambili kusuka esifiso sobulili ukuthanda. Esinye yisikhubekiso. Itholakala ku-cortex yobuchopho.

Enye i-striatum. Itholakala ngaphakathi kobuchopho bangaphambili. Kuyathakazelisa ukuthi i-striatum nayo ihlotshaniswa nokulutha kwezidakamizwa.

Uthando nesifiso sobulili kusebenze izingxenye ezahlukahlukene ze-striatum.

Ucansi nokudla kungezinye zezinto ezijabulisayo ezisebenzisa ingxenye yenkanuko. Inqubo yokwenza isimo - somvuzo nenani - kusebenze ingxenye yothando.

Njengoba isifiso sobulili siklonyeliswa, kuba umkhuba omncane, okungaholela phansi endleleni yothando.

Njengoba imizwa yenkanuko iqala ukuphenduka uthando, kungena enye indawo ye-striatum.

Abanye bangathola ukuthi ukukhangana ngokomzwelo nangokomzimba kusebenza emiphakathini emibili ehluke ngokuphelele

Abantu izidalwa eziyinkimbinkimbi ezinezendlalelo eziningi.

Kwabanye bethu, kunemigqa ecacile ehlukanisayo phakathi kokuheha okungokomzwelo nokuheha ngokomzimba. Azihlangani ngempela.

Ungahehwa ngokomzwelo kothile ngaphandle kokuba nesifiso sokuya ocansini. Noma unokuheha ngokomzimba okushaya ingqondo komunye umuntu ongakwenzeli wena ngokomzwelo.

Ngisho nasebudlelwaneni besikhathi eside, abantu bangashintshana phakathi kokwenza uthando nokwenza ucansi - noma ukuyeka ukwenza ucansi ngokuphelele - futhi lokho kulungile.

Kungakhathalekile ukuthi unamuphi umbono, ubulili nemizwa kuthinta izindlela ezifanayo ebuchosheni

Ucwaningo lwango-2018 luphakamisa ukuxhumana okuhlangene phakathi kwezinqubo zobuchopho zocansi, ezingokomzwelo nezokuzala ezihlobene nohlelo lwe-endocrine futhi, ikakhulukazi, i-hormone ebizwa nge-kisspeptin.

Ngokuya ngebhulogi le-Tufts University le-neuroscience, ukuvuswa kocansi akwenzeki ngaphandle, kepha kumongo.

Kubandakanya izinqubo zokuqonda, zomzimba, nezinzwa, konke okubandakanya futhi okuthonywe yimizwa. Yenza umqondo.

Ngaphezu kwalokho, iningi labantu lihlangabezana nemizwa efanayo ngesikhathi sokwenza ucansi nokukhululwa

Ukushesha kwamahomoni abandakanyeka kwezocansi kusho ukuthi imizwa ethile ijwayelekile ngesikhathi sokuya ocansini noma ngokushesha.

Akekho ozwa yonke imizwa ngaso sonke isikhathi, kunjalo.

Phakathi kokuhle kakhulu kukhona:

• injabulo
• ukukhishwa okuphelele
• ukuphumula nokuzola
• ukwaneliseka

Ngokuya ngezimo, ungahle ube nemizwa engaphansi kwemizwa emihle, efana nale:

• ukuba sengozini
• amahloni
• icala
• ukuzizwa ukhungathekile ngokomzimba noma ngokomzwelo

Uma une-postcoital dysphoria, ungahle uzizwe udabukile, ukhathazekile noma ukhala ngemuva kocansi.

Kuyafaneleka futhi ukuqaphela ukuthi ukuvuswa kocansi kungavala izingxenye ze-prefrontal cortex

Asikuboni njalo uma kwenzeka kithina, kepha kusobala ngokubheka emuva. Akuyona into eqanjiwe yesayensi noma yefantasy. Kuyiqiniso impela.

Ukuvuswa kwezocansi kungakhubaza izingxenye zobuchopho ezikusiza ukuthi ucabange ngokujulile futhi uziphathe njengomuntu onengqondo.

Yebo, empeleni ushiya izinzwa zakho.

Ukwahlulela okuhle nokucabanga kulahlekile esifisweni socansi, kukhukhulwe yinjabulo yakho konke.

Lapho ubuyela emuva eqinisweni, ungazibuza, ngokuzisola noma ngamahloni, ukuthi ubucabangani.

Ukusikisela: Ubungekho.

Ukuthembela ku-Oxytocin nakho kuyinto

I-Oxytocin iyi-hormone ekhiqizwa kwi-hypothalamus, evula amasango ezikhukhula lapho wenza ucansi.

Lokho kushesha kwe-oxytocin kuyabandakanyeka engxenyeni ebonakalayo yocansi. Kungakhuphula futhi imizwa efana nothando, uthando nokujabula.

Ifanelwe idumela layo njenge-hormone yothando. Maye, ungabanjwa umuzwa noma umdlandla oqondile ngothando.

I-Oxytocin ikugcina ubuyela kokunye.

Abaphenyi basakhipha okuguqukayo okwehlukile kunkanuko, ukukhanga, nokulingana kokunamathiselwe

I-biology yenkanuko, ukukhanga, nokunamathiselwe akulula neze. AmaHormone ngokuqinisekile adlala indima.

Ngokuvamile, inkanuko iqhutshwa yi-testosterone ne-estrogen, ngaphandle kobulili. Futhi inkanuko iqhutshwa ukufisa kocansi.

Ukuheha kuqhutshwa yi-dopamine, norepinephrine, ne-serotonin.

Ukuheha kungahle noma kungabandakanyi inkanuko, kepha isikhungo semivuzo yobuchopho siyisici. Yingakho uthola konke ukugcona noma uzizwe sengathi uhamba emoyeni esigabeni sokuqala kobudlelwano.

Okunamathiselwe kuqhutshwa yi-oxytocin ne-vasopressin. Yilokho okubeka isiteji sobudlelwano besibopho nobude besikhathi eside.

Kukhona ukugqagqana kwamahomoni, amazinga ama-hormone ayahlukahluka, futhi kukhona okuningi kakhulu kunalokho.

Masibhekane nakho: Ubulili nothando kuyinkimbinkimbi. Simane nje sibheke phezulu kwalokho okwenza abantu bakitaze.

Ososayensi phakathi kwethu bayaqhubeka nokuhlola izimfihlakalo zezifiso zethu zobulili nemizwa nokuthi zidlala kanjani komunye nomunye.

Kodwa-ke kungenzeka ngokuphelele ukuthi asisoze saxazulula isibalo, sishiya okuthile okuncane emcabangweni.

Uma ufuna ukuhlukanisa ubulili nemizwa

Kunezizathu eziningi zokuthi kungani ungahle uthande ukuhlukanisa ngokocansi nemizwa.

Kungumqondo omuhle ukuhlola isisusa sakho ngakho-ke, uma kudingeka, ungabhekana nanoma yiziphi izingqinamba ezingaxazululiwe.

Kunoma ikuphi, akukho okulungile noma okungalungile lapha. Awukhiyelwanga kundlela eyodwa yokuphila impilo yakho yonke.

Uma ufuna ubudlelwano obungajwayelekile noma isimo "sabangane abanezinzuzo", nazi iziphakamiso:

• Okokuqala nokubaluleke kakhulu, thembeka komunye umuntu. Kulungile kuphela.
• Khuluma ngalokho okuvumayo - futhi ongathandi - ukunikela ngokomzimba nangokomzwelo, kanye nokuthi ulindeleni ukubuyiselwa.
• Xoxa ngokulawulwa kokuzalwa kanye nemikhuba yocansi ephephile.
• Sebenzani ndawonye ekusunguleni imithetho ukugwema ukunamathela ngokweqile noma ukuncika komunye nomunye.
• Khuluma ngalokho ozokwenza uma omunye wenu eqala ukufuna okuthile okwengeziwe.

Hlala wazi ukuthi noma ngabe uhlelani noma unaka kangakanani, imizwa ingaqhakaza noma kunjalo. Imizwelo ihlekisa ngaleyo ndlela.

Uma ufuna ukujulisa ubudlelwano phakathi kocansi nemizwa

Ngakho-ke, ngaphandle kwamahomoni kanye nebhayoloji yakho konke, mhlawumbe udinga okuthile okuzosiza ekuqiniseni isibopho.

Nazi ezinye izindlela zokuqalisa:

• Ungavumeli ukusondelana ngokomzimba kube yinto yangemuva, into oyenzayo njengoba isikhathi sivuma. Luhlele. Yenza usuku. Yibeke eqhulwini.
• Faka ukuthintana kothando usuku lonke. Bambana ngezandla. Shaya ingalo. Hug. Ganga phezulu. Nikezane massage. Ukuthinta akudingeki ukuthi kuholele ocansini zisuka. Ukulindela okuncane kuhamba ibanga elide.
• Mthinte emehlweni bese uyibamba. Kwenze lokhu kaningi - uma uvumelana, uma ungavumelani, lapho wabelana ngamahlaya angaphakathi, nalapho impilo iba nzima.
• Vumela ukuqapha kwakho. Yiba sengozini ngokomzwelo futhi utholakale komunye nomunye. Yiba umuntu wabo.
• Qabula. Qabula ngempela. Futhi zinike isikhathi sakho ngakho.
• Khuluma ngemizwa yakho. Ithi "ngiyakuthanda" uma uzizwa kanjalo.
• Yini okuvula? Ukukhanya kwamakhandlela, umculo ovusa inkanuko, ukucwilisa isikhathi eside kubhavu oshisayo? Noma ngabe yini, zinike isikhathi sokusetha isiteji bese ungena esimeni sengqondo.
• Dlulisa izifiso zakho zomzimba. Shintshanani ngokuholelana kokunye enikuthandayo.
• Lapho izinto ziba ngokomzimba, vula izingqondo zakho. Thinta, ubone, uzwe, uhoge, futhi unambithe ngayo yonke imicu yobuntu bakho.
• Ngempela ube khona okwamanje nalomuntu ofuna ukuba sesikhathini nawe. Akungabikho okunye. Futhi ngazo zonke izindlela, cisha i-TV nomakhalekhukhwini ngesikhathi sakho ndawonye.

Okubalulekile

Ake sibhekane nakho. Umhlaba ubungaba yisicefe uma sonke sizizwa ngendlela efanayo. Uma kukhulunywa ngocansi nemizwa, ayikho indlela efanele yokuzizwa. Iba uwena nje.