Ukucindezelwa kweSidestep, Shaya Ukudinwa, Futhi Ube Nakho Konke — Ngempela!

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Yize engumama ezinganeni ezimbili ezinkulu nomqondisi weGreater Good Science Center ehlonishwayo e-University of California eBerkeley, isazi sezokuhlalisana kwabantu uChristine Carter, Ph.D., wayehlala egula futhi ecindezelekile. Ngakho-ke wazimisela ukuthola ukuthi angaba kanjani nakho konke ngempela—umndeni ojabulayo, umsebenzi owanelisayo, kanye nenhlalakahle ukuze uwujabulele. Ngaphambi kwencwadi yakhe entsha, Indawo Emnandi, kusukela ngoJanuwari 20, sakhuluma noDkt Carter ukuthola ukuthi yini ayifundile, nokuthi yisiphi iseluleko okufanele asinikeze.

Isimo: Yini eyaphefumulela incwadi yakho?

UDkt Christine Carter (CC): Ngingumuntu ophelelwa isikhathi ngokweqile, futhi ngifuna ukuphelela. Futhi ngemva kweminyaka eyishumi ngifunda ucwaningo olumayelana nenjabulo, imizwa eyakhayo, nokusebenza kwekhethelo [esikhungweni seSayensi Esihle Kakhulu sase-UC Berkeley], ngaba nesikhathi esabisayo sezempilo. Nganginakho konke—izingane ezinhle, ukuphila komkhaya okuhle, umsebenzi owanelisayo—kodwa ngangigula ngaso sonke isikhathi, futhi ngangihlale ngikhungathekile. (Bazalwane abaphelelisi, lalela phezulu: Nazi Izizathu ezi-3 Zokungabi Ngaphelele.)

Wonke umuntu engakhuluma naye ngalokhu wathi kuzomele ngiyeke okuthile, engingeke ngikuthole konke. Kepha ngicabange, Uma Mina ngeke ngiphumelele, ngijabule, futhi ngibe nempilo ngasikhathi sinye, futhi bengikufunda lokhu okweminyaka eyishumi-bese bonke abesifazane behlulwa! Ngakho-ke ngiqale ukuhlola umgwaqo wonke amasu engangiqeqesha abanye ngawo eSikhungweni ukuthola ukuthi amandla ami onke ayaphi, futhi incwadi yazalwa ngalokho.

Isimo: Futhi yini oyitholile?

CC: Isiko lethu lisitshela ukuthi ukuba matasa kuwuphawu lokubaluleka. Uma ungaphelelwa amandla, akufanele ukuthi usebenze kanzima ngokwanele. Kepha kuyinto eyodwa ukuphumelela, futhi kungenye futhi ukuba nempilo eyanele noma ube namandla anele okujabulela impumelelo yakho. Ngigcine ngakha kabusha kabusha impilo yami eyodwa ngesikhathi. Futhi ezinye zezinguquko yizinto ezilula ezibonakala ngathi ziyisayensi yezinto ezisobala ngokusobala. Kepha bathwala ukuphinda-ngoba bayasebenza ngempela!

Isimo: Manje yiziphi izeluleko ongazinikeza umuntu ozizwa ecindezeleke ngokuphelele futhi ekhungathekile?

CC: Okokuqala, yazisa imizwa yakho. Ukusabela okungokwemvelo kwabesifazane ekukhathazekeni ukumelana nakho noma ukukududula. Kodwa ucwaningo lubonisa ukuthi uma senza lokho, izimpawu ezingokomzimba zokucindezeleka ziba zimbi kakhulu. Ngakho-ke ngokungamelani, empeleni uvumela imizwa iphele.

Okulandelayo, finyelela izinto ezakhayo-uhlu lwadlalwayo olugcwele izingoma ezijabulisayo, izithombe ezinhle zezilwane, inkondlo ekhuthazayo. Lezi zinhlobo zokuphumula okuphuthumayo kwempendulo yakho yokulwa noma indiza; bazofiphaza ukujikeleza kwengcindezi yakho ngokuletha imizwa emihle esikhundleni salokho. (Lolu hlu lwadlalwayo lwe-Get-Happy-and-Fit-With-Pharrell Workout kufanele lwenze ubuqili!)

Lapho-ke lapho usuzizwa ungcono, isinyathelo sokugcina ukuvimbela ingcindezi ekunqandeni isipele. Ukwenza lokho, udinga ukuthatha izinyathelo ezisebenzayo ekwehliseni ukuchichima kwengqondo, noma inani lolwazi nezingcindezi ozithathayo. (Ukungezwani kwakho kungase kudale umonakalo omkhulu kunalokho okubonayo. Nazi Izindlela Eziyi-10 Eziyinqaba Umzimba Wakho Osabela Ngazo Ekucindezelekeni.)

Isimo: Futhi ukwenza kanjani lokho?

CC: Ngokwethembeka, akekho othanda ukukuzwa, kepha indlela ephezulu ukuvala ifoni yakho. Cabanga ngamandla akho njengebhaluni eligcwele. Ngaso sonke isikhathi uma uhlola i-imeyili yakho, uhlelo lomsebenzi, noma okuphakelayo kwe-Twitter ocingweni lwakho, kudala ukuvuza okunensa kwebhaluni. Ekugcineni, uzokwehliswa ngokuphelele. Uma wehlisa ifoni yakho amandla-futhi ngiqonde ukuthi ngokweqiniso, kufanele, empeleni, uvale ngokoqobo ifoni yakho-uzinike ithuba lokugcwalisa ibhaluni kabusha. (Funda kabanzi mayelana nokuthi Iselula Yakho Isonakalisa kanjani Isikhathi Sakho Sokuphumula, nokuthi yini okufanele uyenze ngakho.)

Umumo: Lowo umude kakhulu wabesifazane abaningi-kubandakanya nami! Ingabe zikhona izikhathi ezithile lapho kubaluleke kakhulu ukukhipha khona?

CC: Yebo! Izandla zibheke phansi, uma usembhedeni. Leso yisikhathi lapho kufanele uphumule khona, ongeke ukwazi ukukwenza uma usocingweni. Ngincoma nokuthi abesifazane bathenge iwashi le-alamu langempela, elidala ngakho-ke akudingeki basebenzise i-alamu yefoni yabo, ebalinga ukuthi bahlole i-imeyili yabo kuqala. (Thola ukuthi kungani abantu abazolile Bengalali Namaseli abo-nezinye izimfihlo eziyi-7 abazi.)

Umumo: Yini enye ongayenza ukuze wehlise ngokweqile ukuqonda kwakho?

CC: Okukhulu ukwenza lokho engikubiza ngokuthi "ukuvula i-autopilot." Ucwaningo lubonisa ukuthi amaphesenti angu-95 omsebenzi wobuchopho wethu uqulekile: Uma ushayela futhi ubona othile ewela umgwaqo phambi kwakho, ushaya amakhefu ngokuzenzakalelayo, isibonelo. Ngakho-ke cabanga ngazo zonke izinto ongadingi ukuzenza ngokuqaphela usuku lonke, njengomkhuba wakho wasekuseni. Ngabe wenza izinto ezifanayo ngokulandelana nsuku zonke-up, ikhofi, ijimu, ishawa? Noma uvuka ucabange, Ingabe kufanele ngizivocavoce namuhla ekuseni, noma kamuva? Ingabe kufanele ngenze ikhofi manje, noma ngemva kokugeza kwami?

Ngifundisa abantu kabanzi ukuthi ungakwenza kanjani lokhu kuwebhusayithi yami (ungabhalisa mahhala). Nsuku zonke, ngithumela i-imeyili enemininingwane yesinyathelo esincane ongasithatha ukuze uqondise imizila yakho.

Isimo: Yisiphi isinyathelo esincane kakhulu umuntu angasithatha esizoba nomthelela omkhulu enjabulweni yakhe yansuku zonke kanye namazinga okucindezeleka?

CC: Ngingasho ukusungula uhlelo lokuzivocavoca "olungcono kunalutho" oluthatha isikhathi esingaphansi kwemizuzu emihlanu ukukwenza, izinsuku lapho ungeke ufike ejimini. Imayini ingama-squats angama-25, ama-push-up angama-20, nepulangwe lomzuzu owodwa; kungithatha imizuzu emithathu, kepha kuyasebenza. Ngitshelwe ukuthi "nginezingalo zikaMichelle Obama" phambilini, futhi yilokhu kuphela ukuzilolonga komzimba engikwenzayo! (Funda ukuthi kungani Ukuvivinya umzimba kungukhiye webhalansi yokusebenza-kwempilo lapha.) Futhi kanye ngosuku, cabanga ngokuthile noma okuthile okubongayo. Ucwaningo lubonisa ukubonga kuyisisekelo senjabulo yomuntu siqu.

Ukuze ufunde kabanzi mayelana nokuphunyuka "ogibeni lokuxakeka" bese uthola okujabulisayo, ongakhathazekile kangako, thenga ikhophi yencwadi entsha kaDkt. Carter Indawo Emnandi: Ungayithola Kanjani iGroove Yakho Ekhaya Nasemsebenzini, iyathengiswa ngoJanuwari 20.

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