Umhlahlandlela Wabaqalayo We-Spooning

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• Yini iphuzu?
• Ikhipha ama-hormone azizwa kahle
• Kungakusiza ulale
• Kuyazipholela
• Kwandisa ukusondelana
• Ingabe kuyinto yocansi?
• Ungakwenza kanjani
• Ingabe kunendaba ukuthi ubani isipuni esikhulu noma esincane?
• Ngabe isisimamise kangakanani isikhundla sokulala?
• Ukwehluka kokuzama
• Ibhola nesipuni
• Isipuni esikhulu nesipuni sengane
• Izipuni ekhabetheni
• Ispork
• Shintsha izindima
• Isikhathi sokuqhubeka uma ...
• Usenele ‘ngengalo efile’
• Udinga indawo eyengeziwe yokuphefumula
• Ushise kakhulu nje
• Ezinye izindlela okufanele uzicabangele
• Cradle
• Ubheke phansi Y
• Onodoli bamaphepha
• Okubalulekile

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Noma ngabe kukhonjiswa nge-movie noma izingxoxo zansuku zonke phakathi kwabangane, i-spooning ivame ukugqamisa uhlu lokuma kwezithandani.

Kepha uwukhipha kanjani “kwesokudla”? Futhi yiziphi ezinye izinketho zemibhangqwana efuna isikhathi sokubopha ebusuku?

Qhubeka ufunde ngakho konke odinga ukukwazi ngezinkezo ezinkulu nezinkezo ezincane.

Yini iphuzu?

Ukuthwebula akuyona nje indlela yokuzizwa usondelene nozakwethu - {textend} empeleni kuxhumene nenqwaba yezinzuzo zezempilo.

Ikhipha ama-hormone azizwa kahle

I-Oxytocin, eyaziwa ngothando njenge-cuddle chemical noma i-hormone yothando, kuthiwa iyadedelwa lapho abantu ababili befaka isipuni. Kanjalo ne-dopamine ne-serotonin.

Ihomoni i-oxytocin ingakhuthaza ukubopha futhi ihlotshaniswa nezinye izinzuzo eziningi, kufaka phakathi ukukhululeka kobuhlungu nokucindezeleka.

I-Dopamine, okwamanje, ivela ngezenzo ezinomvuzo. Futhi i-serotonin ingasiza ekulawuleni yonke into kusuka esimeni sokudla kuze kube sesifiso nasekulaleni.

Kungakusiza ulale

Uma kunzima ukulala, abanye basikisela ukuthi i-oxytocin ingadlala indima enenzuzo - {textend} ikakhulukazi kulabo abanezimo ezinjengokuphefumula kokulala.

Akukaqondakali ukuthi kungani noma kanjani, kepha kufanelekile ukukhumbula noma kunjalo.

Kuyazipholela

Ukuthwebula kuthiwa kusiza uhlelo lwezinzwa lukhululeke futhi kunciphise umfutho wegazi, kuvumela abantu ukuthi bezwe bezolile.

Kwandisa ukusondelana

Kuzwakala kusobala, kepha ukulala eduze kozakwethu kungathuthukisa isibopho - {textend} kokubili ngokomzimba nangokomzwelo - {textend} phakathi kwakho.

Eqinisweni, lesi yisona sizathu esenza imibhangqwana emisha eminingi ikhethe ukukhetha isipuni ubusuku ngabunye.

Ingabe kuyinto yocansi?

Akunjalo ngempela. Abanye abantu bamane bathande ukulala kulesi sikhundla futhi bangasihlanganisi nocansi.

Kepha, uma bobabili abantu bekhululekile, ukusondelana kwe-spooning kungaholela ezenzweni zocansi.

Lokhu akudingeki ukuthi kubandakanye ukuya ocansini noma kokuya ocansini okungangeni, yize i-spooning iyisikhundla esihle lapho ungenawo amandla amaningi. Esikhundleni salokho, bangafaka amathoyizi noma iminwe.

Isenzo sokungena singadinga ukulungiswa komzimba omncane, ikakhulukazi uma nobabili niphakeme ngokuphelele.

Hlala uxhumana nomlingani wakho, futhi nazise lapho izinto zizizwa zilungile.

Ungakwenza kanjani

Indlela engcono yokuchaza ukucheba kungukuthi ulale ngohlangothi bese usonga umlingani wakho ngokunganga okukhulu, nengalo yakho ilele okhalweni lwabo.

Noma, uma uyisipuni esincane, umlingani wakho uzokugona.

Uzobe ubhekene ngendlela efanayo ukuze ungeke ukwazi ukubona ubuso bomunye nomunye, kepha isikhundla sisakuvumela ukuthi nisondelane.

Ukuhlakanipha ngomlenze, yenza noma yini ozizwa ukhululekile.

Ingabe kunendaba ukuthi ubani isipuni esikhulu noma esincane?

Ngokweqile, umuntu omude uthatha indima yesipuni esikhulu, njengoba kubonakala njengokukhululeka ngaleyo ndlela.

Kepha awukho umthetho onzima futhi osheshayo. Noma imuphi umuntu angaba yisipuni esikhulu noma esincane, kungakhathalekile ubulili noma ukuma kwabo.

Kumane kuyindaba yokuthandayo. Isibonelo, abanye bakuthola kududuza ngokwengeziwe ukuba yisipuni esincane. Abanye bathanda "ukuvikela" umlingani wabo endaweni enkulu yesipuni.

Ngabe isisimamise kangakanani isikhundla sokulala?

Ngokwethembeka, ukufaka isipuni ubusuku bonke kungangakhululeki. Izintamo nezingalo kungaba buhlungu futhi kuzizwe kunqenqemeni, ingasaphathwa eyokushisa okukhiqizwa yimizimba emibili efudumele.

Akuyona into engavamile ukushintsha isikhundla ngemuva kwehora noma amabili.Kepha uma ufuna ukukwenza ubusuku bonke, zama ukuhambisa izingalo zakho endaweni ekahle.

Ungafaka futhi umcamelo ngaphansi kwezitho zakho ukuze ugweme ukuqaqamba nobuhlungu.

Ukwehluka kokuzama

Kwesinye isikhathi, ukhezo lwendabuko alusebenzi nje. Nazi izikhundla ezimbalwa ezifanayo ezingazizwa zingcono.

Ibhola nesipuni

Kulesi sikhundla, bobabili abantu bahlala bethambekele ohlangothini. Kepha isipuni esincane sigobeka njengengane, sivumela isipuni esikhulu ukuthi selule imilenze yabo.

Isipuni esikhulu nesipuni sengane

Lokhu kubandakanya ukusondelana okulinganayo, kepha bobabili abalingani babhekana.

Isipuni esikhulu sihlala kahle endaweni efanayo ngenkathi isipuni esincane siphenduka sibheke kubo, silele endaweni yesisu. Isipuni esikhulu singabe sesimbamba omncane.

Izipuni ekhabetheni

Uma nobabili ningathandi ukulala eceleni, lesi sikhundla kungaba ngesenu.

Ukungena kuso, isipuni esikhulu kumele silale phansi emhlane wabo. Omncane ube eselala ebheke phezulu phezu kwesipuni esikhulu, ebeka ikhanda labo esiswini somunye. Ukuthi niyangana yini kukuwe ngokuphelele.

Ispork

Ngena endaweni ye-spooning yakudala, kepha bopha imilenze yakho. Lokhu kungathatha ukuvivinya okuthile ngaphambi kokuthi ukhukhuleke ngokunethezeka.

Shintsha izindima

Ukushintsha izindima kungasiza ukwenza izinto zibe zinhle. Ngeke nje ingeze okunamandla okwengeziwe ebudlelwaneni bakho, kepha ivumela bobabili abantu ukuthi bathole izinzuzo zesipuni esikhulu nesincane.

Kepha uma nobabili nijabule ngezingxenye enizikhethile, ningakhathazeki. Akukho lutho olungalungile ngokunamathela kulokho okwaziyo!

Isikhathi sokuqhubeka uma ...

Okungako njengokufaka isipuni kungaba yinduduzo, isikhundla singaba nokwehla kwaso.

Usenele ‘ngengalo efile’

Izinkezo ezinkulu zingavuka njalo ngengalo efile. Isisindo somzimba womuntu engalweni amahora angu-8 siqonde singavimbela ukuhamba kwegazi, ngokungangabazeki okuholela ekubeni ndikindiki nezikhonkwane nezinaliti ezesabekayo.

Udinga indawo eyengeziwe yokuphefumula

Abanye abantu bahlangana komunye. Badinga indawo yokwelula futhi abathandi ikhanda eligcwele izinwele ebusweni babo.

Ukubona njengokulala kubaluleke kakhulu, alikho ihlazo ngokuqamba amanga ngendlela ezizwa ikhululekile.

Uma umlingani wakho ebonakala ecasukile ukuguquka kwenhliziyo, khuluma nabo. Mhlawumbe ungafaka isipuni imizuzu embalwa ubusuku ngabunye ukugcina ukusondelana.

Ushise kakhulu nje

Ebusika, i-spooning ingaba yinto enhle, yokufudumala. Kepha lapho kushisa izinyanga ezishisayo, ingasheshe ijuluke futhi ingabekezeleleki.

Ukufuna isikhala ngesikhathi sasebusuku kuyinto ozoxoxa ngayo nomlingani wakho. Ngeke wazi, bangavumelana nawe.

Ezinye izindlela okufanele uzicabangele

Uma i-spooning yakudala nokuhlukahluka kwayo kungekwakho, lezi zikhundla ezilandelayo zingakhuthaza ukusondelana - {textend} okwamanje okunethezekile - {textend} ukulala ebusuku.

Cradle

Umuntu oyedwa ulala elele ngomhlane kanti umlingani wakhe ulele ngohlangothi, ubeke ikhanda lakhe esifubeni somunye.

Lokho okwenzayo ngezingalo nemilenze yakho kukuwe. Abanye abantu bayathanda ukuzihlanganisa, kanti abanye bakhetha ukugcina izitho zihlukene.

Ubheke phansi Y

Isimo sokukhulula ngokwengeziwe, lokhu kubandakanya ukubhekana nezikhombisi-ndlela eziphambene nokuthinta imihlane engezansi.

Ukungena kulolu hlobo lwe-Y kushiya izingalo nemilenze kumahhala futhi kunciphisa ubunzima bentamo.

Onodoli bamaphepha

Ukulala eceleni akuyona eyabo bonke abantu. Uma wena nomlingani wakho ningabalandeli, zama ukulala ngomhlane izingalo noma imilenze yakho kuthinta.

Ukuze wandise ukusondelana, zama ukubambana ngezandla.

Okubalulekile

Uma kukhulunywa ngokulala eceleni komlingani, ukuthinta nganoma iyiphi indlela kungaqinisa isibopho sakho.

Yize i-spooning ibonwa njengeyona ndlela ethandwa kakhulu yokusondelana ebusuku, akukhona ukunambitheka kwawo wonke umuntu.

Ukuhluka kwesikhundla sakudala kungasiza. Kepha, uma kungenjalo, khetha leyo ezizwa ikhululekile kakhulu kuwe nakuzakwenu. Ungahlala ubophezela lapho uvukile!

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