Kunesizathu Esenza Sithande Ukuchofoza Izinto Ezinkulu Ku-inthanethi

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I-inthanethi ikuvumela ukuthi ubheke kalula izinto ongeke ukwazi ukuzibona i-IRL, njenge-Taj Mahal, i-audition tape endala ka-Rachel McAdams, noma ikati elidlala nge-hedgehog. Bese kuba khona nezithombe ongasheshi ukwabelana ngazo kuFaceook-amanxeba anegciwane, ukuqhuma kwama-cysts, amathambo aphukile anamathela esikhunjeni ... Ew! Futhi-ke silokhu siqhubeka ngokuchofoza.

Ukuhlola izinto ezingajwayelekile ku-inthanethi kungakwenza uzizwe ucanucanu, ukhathazekile, unamahloni...futhi ujabule. Kwenzekani ngalesi sifiso? Kukhona i-psychology ecacile kulesi senzo, ochwepheshe bathi, kanye nokubaluleka kwezinto eziphilayo. Incazelo ingakwenza uzizwe ungconywana ngomlando wesiphequluli sakho.

Uma kuqhathaniswa nenjabulo, ukudabuka, ukwesaba nentukuthelo, ukunengeka kubonakala sekwephuzile enqubeni yokukhula kwengane, kusho u-Alexander J.Skolnick, Ph.D., uprofesa osizayo we-psychology eSaint Joseph's University. "Eminyakeni emibili, abazali basebenzisa ukunengeka lapho ingane iqeqeshwa endlini yangasese," esho. “Bazothi, ‘Ungadlali ngendle yakho, ungayithinti, imbi.” Umqondo ofanayo wokuhlazisa usetshenziswa ekuchameni enabukeni, ukufaka ukudla ezinweleni zabo, ukuzama ukudla ukungcola, kanye nokudla okungcolile. okuningi kakhulu. (Njengokuthi, ukudla ukudla ngemuva kokukulahla. Uma ukhuluma ngakho, thola ukuthi Isayensi Ithini Ngomthetho Wesibili wesi-5.)

"Umqondo wokuziphendukela kwemvelo uthi, yini okusebenzayo ngokunengeka? Kusigcina siphephile," kuqhubeka uSkolnick. "Ukudla okubolile kunokunambitheka okumuncu, okubabayo, futhi lokho kuyinkomba kithi. Siyakukhafula." Ukunambitheka okuyinqaba nephunga elibi kukuvikela ekudleni amagciwane angase akugulise. Izithombe noma amavidiyo ezinxeba asebenza ngenhloso efanayo. USkolnick uvame ukukhahlela elinye lamakilasi akhe wezengqondo ngokukhuthaza abafundi ukuthi bangafuni ku-Google image search "bahlukane nokulunywa yisicabucabu" - yize kunjalo, bayakwenza, futhi ungahle ube khona manje. "Kwesinye isikhathi siyanengeka lapho sibona umuntu enezinhlayiya ezibomvu noma ama-welts. Asifuni ukuma eduze kwabo. Lokho kunyanya kusigcina siphephile ezintweni ezithathelwanayo."

Ngakho uma lokho kuchaza ukuthi kungani sidinga ukunengeka, kungani sikwenza njenge ukunengeka (uyazi ukuthi uchofoze ukudlala ku okungenani ividiyo eyodwa ekhinyabeza okuvele kokuphakelayo kwakho kwe-Facebook)? UClark McCauley, Ph.D., uprofesa wezengqondo eBryn Mawr College, unemibono ethile. "Kuyafana nokuthi kungani abantu behamba ngama-roller coasters. Uzizwa usaba, nakuba wazi ukuthi uphephile," usho kanje. "Uthola inani elikhulu lokuvuka kubo." Yiqiniso, ukuvukwa inkanuko engokomzimba akubhekiseli nje ocansini; cabanga ngayo yonke imisebenzi eyahlukene eyenza ukuphefumula nokuphefumula kwenhliziyo. "I-Arousal inengxenye enhle, njengoba ishaya ngale ndlela yomvuzo," uyachaza. (Okuchaza zonke Izizathu Eziyinqaba Othanda Amapaki Wokuzijabulisa.)

USkolnick ubuye aqhathanise izinto ezinkulu zeGoogling nokubuka i-movie esabisayo. Iphuzu lonke ukuzikhulula endaweni elawulwa ngokuphelele, evikelekile-awusoze ngempela engozini. I-inthanethi, vele, iyenza iphephe nakakhulu-konke okumele ukwenze ukuvala ngefasitela bese into esabekayo inyamalala. Futhi, akekho noyedwa owake adinga ukwazi ukuthi ukhethe ukubheka kuqala, inqobo nje uma uhlikihla umlando wesiphequluli sakho.

Asibona bonke abafuna ukwesaba, noma ama-freaks alokho. USkolnick ukholelwa ukuthi lesi sidingo kuGoogle singabanjiswa nelukuluku lokwazi lomuntu. "Sifuna ukwazi ukuthi yini embi kakhulu lapho, yini embi lapho," esho. Uma kukhulunywa ngezisu ezingajwayelekile zocansi, "awufuni bukela izenzo zocansi, ufuna nje ukwazi ukuthi yini ekhona lapho," kuchaza uSkolnick. (Funda kabanzi mayelana ne-Your Brain On A Sex Fetish.)

Uma usazizwa ukhathazekile ngesizukulwane esikhuliswe ngamanxeba anegciwane kanye ne-porn eyinqaba, qiniseka ukuthi i-intanethi ingaba yintsha, kepha isidingo sezinto ezimbi kakhulukazi. "Abantu abaziphethe kabi ngokwengeziwe," kusho uMcCauley. "Abahlukile, kepha ukufinyeleleka kwabo kwehlukile." Ngakho-ke noma ngabe ukhathazeke kakhulu ngokufunda izindaba ezi-creepy kuReddit, yazi ukuthi ukhokho wakho ubengaxhunywa ngendlela efanayo. Okuhlukile nje ukuthi uyakwazi 'ukusula umlando' ngemuva kokuzitika.

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