Kusho Ukuthini Ukuthintwa Yindlala?

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• Kwenzenjani?
• Linda, lokho kuyinto yangempela?
• Ingabe kusebenza kuphela ekuthinteni inkanuko?
• Kungani ukuthinta kubalulekile?
• Wazi kanjani uma uthintwa yindlala?
• Kuthiwani uma ungakuthandi ikakhulukazi ukuthintwa - usengathintwa yindlala?
• Yini ongayenza ukusiza ukwanelisa lesi sifiso?
• Yini ongayenza ukukhuthaza ukuthinta kothando osukwini lwakho nosuku?
• Okwakho
• Okwabathandekayo bakho
• Okubalulekile

Kwenzenjani?

Abantu banentambo yokuthintwa. Kusukela ekuzalweni kuze kube sosukwini lokufa, isidingo sethu sokuthintana ngokomzimba sihlala sikhona.

Ukuthintwa yindlala - okwaziwa nangokuthi ukulamba kwesikhumba noma ukuncishwa kokuthinta - kwenzeka lapho umuntu ehlangabezana nokuthintana okuncane kokungathinti kwezinye izinto eziphilayo.

Linda, lokho kuyinto yangempela?

Ngempela. Isimo sibonakala sijwayeleke kakhulu emazweni asecindezela kakhulu.

Isibonelo, iFrance yatholakala ingenye yezindawo ezazithinta kakhulu, kuyilapho i-United States yavela ngaphansi kohlu.

Noma ngabe lokhu kungenxa yokwanda kokusetshenziswa kobuchwepheshe, ukwesaba ukuthinta kubhekwa njengokungafanele, noma izici ezilula zamasiko, akekho onesiqiniseko.

Kepha ucwaningo luthole ukuthi ukuphuthelwa ukuthintwa okujwayelekile komuntu kungaba nemiphumela emibi futhi ehlala isikhathi eside.

Ingabe kusebenza kuphela ekuthinteni inkanuko?

Ngokuqinisekile akunjalo. Noma yikuphi futhi konke ukuthinta okuhle kubhekwa njengokuzuzisayo. Ukulahlekelwa ukuxhawulwa emsebenzini, ukwangana ngobungane, noma ukushaywa emhlane kungaholela ekuzweleni ngokulamba.

Vele, kuhlobene nokuthinta inkanuko, njengokubamba izandla, ukunwaya emuva, nokuhlikihla izinyawo, nakho.

Kepha ososayensi bathole ukuthi isiphetho sezinzwa, esibiziwe, sikhona ukusiqaphela noma yini ifomu lokuthinta kahle.

Eqinisweni, ngokusho kocwaningo lwango-2017, i- is between 3 and 5 centimeters per second.

Lokhu kukhipha i-oxytocin, eyaziwa nangokuthi "i-hormone yothando."

Kungani ukuthinta kubalulekile?

Ukuxhumana kwesikhumba nesikhumba kubalulekile hhayi kuphela empilweni yengqondo nengokomzwelo, kepha nempilo engokomzimba.

Uma uzizwa ukhithika ngaphansi noma ucindezelwa, umzimba ukhipha i-hormone yokucindezeleka i-cortisol. Enye yezinto ezinkulu ukuthinta ongakwenza ukucindezeleka okunjalo, okuvumela amasosha omzimba ukuthi asebenze ngendlela efanele.

Ukuthinta nakho, njengokushaya kwenhliziyo yakho nomfutho wegazi.

Ikwenza lokho ngokuvuselela izingcindezi zokuthola ingcindezi ezihambisa amasiginali ku-vagus nerve. Le nzwa ixhuma ubuchopho nomzimba wonke. Isebenzisa amasiginali ukwehlisa ijubane lesistimu yezinzwa.

Empilweni yokuqala, ukuthinta kucatshangwa ukuthi kubalulekile ekwakheni ubudlelwano obunempilo ngokuvuselela izindlela ze-oxytocin, i-serotonin yemvelo elwa nokudangala, kanye ne-chemical chemical dopamine.

Futhi, kubhekana nesizungu. Ngisho nokuthinta okuncane okuvela kumuntu ongamazi kufanele kunciphise imizwa yokukhishwa emphakathini.

Wazi kanjani uma uthintwa yindlala?

Ayikho indlela eqondile yokwazi. Kodwa ngamafuphi, ungazizwa unesizungu esikhulu noma uncishwe uthando.

Lezi zimpawu zingahlanganiswa no:

• imizwa yokudangala
• ukukhathazeka
• ukucindezeleka
• ukwaneliseka kobudlelwano obuphansi
• ubunzima bokulala
• ukuthambekela kokugwema okunamathiselwe okuphephile

Ungase futhi ngokungazi wenze izinto ukulingisa ukuthinta, njengokuthatha okugeza okude noma okushisayo, ukusonga izingubo zokulala, nokubamba isilwane.

Kuthiwani uma ungakuthandi ikakhulukazi ukuthintwa - usengathintwa yindlala?

Abanye abantu baxhumanisa ukuthinta ngokuthembana. Uma bengamethembi umuntu, mancane amathuba okuthi bafuna lowo muntu amthinte. Kodwa lokho akusho ukuthi abazilangazeleli izinzuzo zokwangana noma ukuxhawulana.

Ukungathandi ukuthinta kwesinye isikhathi kubikwa ngabantu ku-spectrum se-neurodiverse nalabo abakhomba njenge-asexual.

Kepha futhi kungangumphumela wokuhlangenwe nakho kobuntwana. Ngo-2012, ucwaningo olushicilelwe kwi-Comprehensive Psychology lwathola ukuthi abantu ababazali babo babebagona njalo baba namathuba amaningi okugona abantu sebekhulile.

Ukwehluleka ukuzwa ukuthintwa okuvamile njalo njengengane kungathinta futhi, kulimaze ukusondelana namakhono ezenhlalo - yize lokhu kungelona iqiniso kuwo wonke umuntu.

Yini ongayenza ukusiza ukwanelisa lesi sifiso?

Indlala yokuthinta akudingeki ukuthi ihlale ingunaphakade. Nazi ezinye izindlela ezilula zokwamukela uthando olwengeziwe empilweni yakho manje:

• Zama ukubhucungwa. Noma ngabe ubuza othandekayo noma uvakashele uchwepheshe, ukubhucungwa kuyindlela efakazelwe yokuphumula futhi ujabulele izinzuzo zokuthinta omunye umuntu.
• Chitha isikhathi esithile sekhwalithi nezilwane. Imvamisa ukujabula kakhulu ukugonwa, izilwane ezifuywayo ziyindlela elula yokuthambisa. Uma ungenayo, kungani ungavakasheli ikhefi yekati?
• Qeda izinzipho zakho. Kunganakwa kalula, i-manicure noma i-pedicure izokunikeza ukuxhumana komuntu okudingayo, nokubukeka okusha kokuqalisa.
• Vakashela indawo yokwenza izinwele. Uma ungakuthandi ukusika, zibhukhele ukugeza nokuwasha ukuze uziphumulele ekugcineni.
• Funda ukudansa. Imidanso ethile efana netango ayisebenzi ngaphandle kokuthintana nesikhumba nesikhumba. Ngeke uqede kuphela indlala yakho yokuthinta, uzophinde uthathe ikhono elisha le-rad.
• Iya emcimbini wokugonana. Yebo, lezi zingokoqobo. Futhi cha, azixakile njengoba zizwakala. Uma ukuzijabulisa ngenkathi ugonona kungeyona eyakho, zama ukucela usizo lwe-cuddler yobuchwepheshe esikhundleni salokho.

Yini ongayenza ukukhuthaza ukuthinta kothando osukwini lwakho nosuku?

Uyazi ukuthi ungayiqeda kanjani imizwa ebanjwe yindlala esikhathini esifushane, kepha kuthiwani ngesikhathi eside?

Ukugcina ukuthinta okuvamile kulula kakhulu uma ukukhuthaza empilweni yakho yansuku zonke. Nawa amathiphu ambalwa.

Okwakho

• Hlala eduze nabantu obathandayo. Esikhundleni sokusakazeka kusofa, yenza umzamo wokubamba ngesikhathi sakho seNetflix.
• Bingelela abantu ngokuxhawula noma ngokugona. Ngokusobala, ungamcindezeli omunye umuntu ngaphandle kwendawo yabo yokunethezeka.
• Hug abantu okungenani imizuzwana engama-20. Lokhu kuthiwa yiphuzu lapho abantu bekhipha khona i-oxytocin. Uma ukhathazekile ukuthi i-hug yakho kungenzeka ingaphindiselwa, buza abantu ukuthi bangathanda yini ukwangana esikhundleni sokungena ngokuzenzakalela esisodwa.
• Sebenzisa ukuthinta noma kunini lapho kufanele khona. Ukuvulekela ukuthinta kuzokhuthaza abanye ukuthi bakunikeze. Ebudlelwaneni bezothando, bambana ngezandla noma nigonane. Kuma-platonic, qinisekisa abantu ngokuthinta ingalo noma ukubamba ngemuva. Futhi, qiniseka ukuthi abanye abantu bakhululekile ngaphambi kokuqhubeka.

Okwabathandekayo bakho

• Banikeze ukuthinta okuningi okuhle. Lokhu kungahle kusuka ekushayweni okuncane kuya ekugoneni ngokugcwele izikhathi ezimbalwa ngosuku.
• Gwema ukuhlobanisa ukuthinta nokunganaki. Ungancishi noma uphushe noma wenze noma yini esusa ukudlidlizela okuhle kokuthintana ngokomzimba.
• Vumela izingane zisondele kuwe njalo ngangokunokwenzeka. Ukuvumela ingane yakho ukuthi ihlale ethangeni lakho noma imthambise ngobumnene ingane yakho kungayiphathisa ukuthi iziphathe ngendlela efanayo empilweni yakamuva.

Okubalulekile

Uma uzizwa uthintwa yindlala, awukasivali isiphetho sakho. Kunezindlela eziningi zokushaya lesi simo futhi uvuselele ukuthinta okuhle, okunothando kulabo abaseduze kwakho.

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