Dokotela othandekayo, Ngeke Ngiwafake Amabhokisi Wakho Wokuhlola, kodwa Ingabe Uzohlola Elami?

-Delile

• Odokotela abaningi abanakho ukuqeqeshwa uma kukhulunywa ngokunakekela abantu abangama-transgender
• Sonke sinamandla okwenza ushintsho oluncane nomehluko omkhulu

“Kodwa umuhle kakhulu. Kungani ungakwenza lokho? ”

Ngenkathi lawo mazwi ephuma emlonyeni wakhe, umzimba wami washesha wagcwala futhi umgodi wesicanucanu wacwila esiswini sami. Yonke imibuzo engiyilungiselele ekhanda lami ngaphambi kokuqokwa yanyamalala. Ngokungazelelwe ngazizwa ngingaphephile - hhayi ngokwenyama, kodwa ngokomzwelo.

Ngaleso sikhathi, ngangicabanga ukuqondanisa ngokomzimba umzimba wami nobunikazi bami bobulili obungeyona inkambiso. Konke engangikufuna kwakungukufunda kabanzi nge-testosterone.

Lesi bekuyisinyathelo sokuqala engisithathe ukuqoqa imininingwane ngemiphumela yama-hormone abesilisa nabesifazane abesilisa nabesifazane ngemuva kokubuza ubulili bami nokulwa ne-dysphoria yezobulili iminyaka engaphezu kwemibili. Kepha esikhundleni sokuzwa ukukhululeka nenqubekela phambili, ngazizwa nginqotshiwe futhi ngingenathemba.

Nganginamahloni ngendlela engangikukala ngayo ukuqeqeshwa nesipiliyoni umhlinzeki wokunakekelwa okuyisisekelo anaso ngesihloko sobulili kanye nempilo ye-transgender. Wayengumuntu wokuqala engake ngamtshela - ngaphambi kwabazali bami, ngaphambi komlingani wami, ngaphambi kwabangane bami. Cishe ubengakwazi lokho… futhi namanje akakwazi.

Odokotela abaningi abanakho ukuqeqeshwa uma kukhulunywa ngokunakekela abantu abangama-transgender

Kutholwe ukuthi kwabaphenduli bezokwelapha abangama-411 abasebenza (abezokwelapha), cishe amaphesenti angama-80 aselaphe umuntu oguqula ubulili, kepha amaphesenti angama-80.6 akakaze athole noma yiluphi uqeqesho ngokunakekela abantu abangama-transgender.

Abahlengikazi babezethemba kakhulu noma ngandlela thile ngokwezincazelo (amaphesenti angama-77.1), bethatha umlando (amaphesenti angama-63.3), futhi bebeka ama-hormone (amaphesenti angama-64.8). Kepha ukuzethemba okuphansi kubikwe ngaphandle kwendawo yamahomoni.

Uma kukhulunywa ngokunakekelwa kwezempilo okuqinisekisa ubulili, ukukhathazeka kwethu akukhona nje ukungenelela kwezokwelapha. Ubulili bungaphezulu kakhulu komuthi nemizimba yethu. Umkhuba wokusebenzisa igama lomuntu oqinisekisiwe kanye nesabizwana kungaba ukungenelela okulinganayo njengamandla futhi okubalulekile njengamahomoni. Ukube ngangikwazi konke lokhu eminyakeni emihlanu eyedlule, mhlawumbe ngangizobheka izinto ngokwehlukile.

Manje, ngaphambi kokuba ngibonane nodokotela omusha, ngishayela ucingo ihhovisi.

Ngishayela ukuthola ukuthi umkhuba nomhlinzeki banolwazi yini ngeziguli ezingama-transgender. Uma kungenjalo, kulungile. Ngimane ngilungise engikulindele. Lapho ngisehhovisi likadokotela, akuwona umsebenzi wami ukufundisa. Lapho ngingena, izingqinamba zithi abasebenzi basehhovisi bazongibona kuphela njengowesilisa noma owesifazane.

Lesi akusona isigameko esizimele. Ku-2015 US Transgender Survey, amaphesenti angama-33 abike ukuthi abe nesipiliyoni okungenani esisodwa esibi nodokotela noma omunye umhlinzeki wezokunakekelwa kwezempilo ohlobene nokuba yi-transgender, kufaka phakathi:

• Amaphesenti angama-24 kufanele ngifundise umhlinzeki ngabantu abangama-transgender ukuze bathole ukunakekelwa okufanele
• Amaphesenti ayi-15 ukubuzwa imibuzo ehlaselayo noma engenasidingo mayelana nokuba yinjubaqa, engahlobene nesizathu sokuvakasha
• 8% ukwenqatshwa kwezokunakekelwa kwezempilo okuhlobene nenguquko

Lapho ngigcwalisa amafomu okudla futhi ngingaziboni izinketho zokukhombisa ubulili bami obungasetshenziswanga, ngicabanga ukuthi lokho kusho ukuthi umhlinzeki nabasebenzi bezokwelapha kungenzeka bangabi nalwazi mayelana nokuthi yini ubulili obungenakubalwa noma bungazweli kulolu daba. Akekho ozobuza ngezabizwana zami noma igama eliqinisekisiwe (ngokungafani nelomthetho).

Ngilindele ukuphathwa kabi.

Futhi kulezi zimo, ngikhetha ukubeka phambili ukukhathazeka kwami ​​kwezokwelapha ngaphezu kokufundisa abahlinzeki. Kulezi zimo, ngibeka imizwa yami eceleni ukuze kubhekwane nezinkinga zezokwelapha. Lokhu kuyiqiniso lami kukho konke ukuqokwa kwezempilo noma kwengqondo ngaphandle kwemitholampilo egxile ebulilini.

Sonke sinamandla okwenza ushintsho oluncane nomehluko omkhulu

Ngifisa sengathi bonke abahlinzeki bokunakekelwa kwezempilo bakubonile ukubaluleka kolimi kanye nokwamukelwa kokwehluka kobulili lapho besebenzisana nomphakathi othutha. Impilo konke kuhlanganisa, kusuka ku-ego kuya emzimbeni, negama eliqinisekisiwe kuma-hormone. Akukona okomuthi kuphela.

Sisesikhathini emlandweni lapho ukuqwashisa kwamasiko ethu nokuqonda ngobunikazi be-transgender kanye nezinto ezingezona ezebhizinisi kudlula kakhulu amandla ezinhlelo zethu zokuziphendulela nokuqinisekisa ubukhona bazo. Kunolwazi olwanele nemfundo etholakalayo ukuze abantu bazi ngobulili obudlulayo nobungeyona inkomba. Kodwa-ke asikho isidingo sokuthi lokhu kwazisa nokuzwela kusetshenziswe kuzilungiselelo zokunakekelwa kwezempilo.

Yini engakhuthaza ochwepheshe, hhayi ezweni lokunakekelwa kwezempilo kuphela, ukuthi bashintshe?

Akukona ukwakhiwa kabusha okuphelele. Ngisho nangezinhloso ezinhle kakhulu zochwepheshe, ukucwasa komuntu siqu nokucwasa kuhlala kukhona. Kepha kunezindlela zokubonisa uzwela. Izinto ezincane emhlabeni wobulili zenza a enkulu umehluko, njengo:

• Ukubeka izimpawu noma izinto zokumaketha egumbini lokulinda ezikhombisa bonke ubulili zamukelekile.
• Ukuqinisekisa amafomu ahlukanisa ubulili obabelwe nobunikazi bobulili.
• Ukunikeza isikhala esizinikezele kumafomu wokudla wegama (uma ahlukile kwegama elisemthethweni), izabizwana, nobulili (owesilisa, owesifazane, owedlulayo, ongabhalisi, nokunye).
• Kubuza yena wonke umuntu (hhayi nje abantu abadlulayo noma abantu abangabhalisi) ukuthi bathanda ukubizwa kanjani.
• Ukuqasha abantu abangaguquki noma abesilisa nabesifazane. Ukuzibona ubonakala emuva kungaba usizo olukhulu.
• Ukulungisa nokuxolisa ngephutha usebenzisa igama elingalungile noma isimemezelo.

Ngibheka emuva kulokho kuhlangana nodokotela futhi ngiyabona ngokucacile ukuthi engangikudinga kulowo mzuzu kwakungeyona imininingwane ngamahomoni. Ngangidinga ihhovisi likadokotela wami ukuze ngibe yindawo ephephile ngesikhathi lapho ngangingalungele ukwabelana ngalolu lwazi kwenye indawo.

Bengidinga ukuthi udokotela avume ukuthi ngingubani kungenzeka ukuthi ngihlukile “ocansini” obhalwe ohlwini lwami lwezokwelapha. Esikhundleni sokubuza ukuthi kungani, isitatimende esilula njengalesi besingenza umehluko: “Ngiyabonga ngokuza kimi nombuzo wakho. Ngiyabona ukuthi akulula ngaso sonke isikhathi ukuvela phambili ukubuza lezi zinhlobo zezinto. Kuzwakala sengathi ubuza okuthile ngobulili bakho. Ngingajabula ukukuxhasa ekutholeni ulwazi nezinsizakusebenza. Ungangitshela okwengeziwe mayelana nokuthi kwenzeka kanjani ukuthi ucabangele i-testosterone? ”

Akukona ukuphelela, kepha ukwenza umzamo. Ulwazi lunamandla kakhulu lapho lusetshenziswa. Ushintsho inqubo engeke iqale kuze kube yilapho othile eqala ukubaluleka kwayo.

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