Izimfihlo Ezingu-10 Ezivela Emindenini Yesimanje Ephumelelayo

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• Zazise Izikhathi
• Abangani Babalulekile
• Yazisa Abantu Ngalokho Abayikho
• Jabulela Isikhathi Samanje-Hhayi Isikhathi Se-Pinterest
• Ngomsebenzi Omncane, Bakwethu Can Yibani Abangane Benu
• Amasiko Ayamangalisa
• Ungacabangi-Yenza nje
• Amalebula awasho lutho
• Phinda ucabange Umqondo Wekhaya
• Konke Kumayelana Nothando
• Buyekeza kwe-

Umqondo womndeni wendabuko, wenuzi usuphelelwe yisikhathi iminyaka. Esikhundleni salo kunemindeni yesimanje-eyabo bonke osayizi, imibala, nezinhlanganisela zokukhulisa izingane. Abagcini ngokuba yinto ejwayelekile, kepha futhi lokho okubizwa ngokuthi "umehluko" kubenza babe namandla amakhulu futhi bajabule. Lapha, izimfihlo eziyishumi zokuphumelela ezinkulu "imindeni yesimanje" ifundile-ukuthi bonke abantu bangafaka isicelo ezimpilweni zabo.

Zazise Izikhathi

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U-Anna Whiston Donaldson, i-blogger e-An Inch of Grey nombhali wesimemo esizayo Inyoni Engavamile, wezwa ubuhlungu lapho indodana yakhe, uJack, iminza eminyakeni emithathu edlule. “Usizi yisikhathi sezinxushunxushu nokudumazeka okukhulu ngoba umhlaba njengoba nazi usushintshe unomphelo,” kuchaza yena. Futhi nakuba kuwumuzwa ongenakuzisiza ukwazi ukuthi awukwazi ukulawula impilo yakho, kuhlale kukhona amahlaza ethemba nokuba nethemba, usho kanje. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi isimo sakho sinjani, zinike isikhathi sokwazisa ngaso sonke isikhathi. U-Donaldson uthi ukulahlekelwa okuthile okuyigugu kuye-ngenkathi kudabukisa ngendlela emangalisayo-kumkhumbuza ukuthi abambelele ezindaweni ezikhanyayo lapho ungakwazi khona.

Abangani Babalulekile

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Ngesikhathi sekwedlule usizi lwendodana kaDonaldson, wathola ukuthi ukusekelwa-okuncane nokukhulu okuvela kubangani kusize umndeni wakhe ukuthi uhlale untanta. Isifundo: Awukho umndeni oyisiqhingi, futhi ukuba nenethiwekhi yokwesekwa enkulu ngangokunokwenzeka kunikeza umndeni wakho isisekelo osidingayo. Futhi lokho kusebenza ngazo zombili izindlela: Yazi umndeni obhekene nesikhathi esinzima? Esikhundleni sokubuza ukuthi yini ongayenza, yehlisa isidlo sakusihlwa, unikeze amahora okunakekela izingane, noma ubanike isitifiketi sesipho ngoba nje. Umzamo owengeziwe owenzayo ekugcineni ubudlelwane (obuhle, hhayi obukukhiphayo), uzozizwa uxhumeke kakhudlwana, kukhumbuza uJoseph Mallet, isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo somtholampilo esinelayisense eCoral Gables, FL.

Yazisa Abantu Ngalokho Abayikho

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“Ngesikhathi indodana yami, uMax, kutholakala ukuthi inokukhubazeka kobuchopho ngemva nje kokuzalwa kwayo, ngangifisa sengathi ingahamba futhi ikhulume ngesikhathi esifanayo nezinye izingane,” kusho u-Ellen Seidman, obhala ngebhulogi ngomndeni wakhe ku-LoveThatMax.com. "Kodwa manje, ukwaneliseka ngamaqiniso ethu namakhono ethu - futhi hhayi ngaso sonke isikhathi ukukhathazeka ngentuthuko - kugcwele impilo yethu yomndeni," kuchaza uSeidman. Impela kungaba nzima ukuthi umama wakho angazihluphi ngokukhuluma ngamalungiselelo ezihlalo zomshado wakho noma ukuthi ubaba wakho akuxube nodadewenu kaningi-kodwa esikhundleni sokudikibala, khumbula ukuthi zonke izinto ezingezinhle zabo zibenza babe umngane womshado. bangabantu abahlukile.

Jabulela Isikhathi Samanje-Hhayi Isikhathi Se-Pinterest

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“Ngesinye isikhathi, saqasha amabhayisikili epaki nehhanisi lezingane likaMax, kodwa lapho siwagibela ngempela, umyeni wami wathola ukuthi uMax wayesinda kakhulu ukuba angadonsa imizuzu engaphezu kwembalwa,” kukhumbula uSeidman. "Kodwa lokho akubanga nandaba. Okwakubalulekile ukuthi sibe nesikhathi esimnandi ngesikhathi sisenza." Zama le nselele: Chitha usuku nabantu obathandayo ngaphandle I-Instagramming, i-tweeting, noma yenza noma ikuphi ukuvuselelwa kwezokuxhumana, iphakamisa uMallet. Impela, uma uthola isibhamu esihle, sabelane ngaso ngosuku noma ezimbili kamuva, kepha umane ugcine ukugxila lapho ukhona manje ingase ikwenze ujabulele isikhathi samanje nakakhulu.

Ngomsebenzi Omncane, Bakwethu Can Yibani Abangane Benu

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UJessica Bruno, obhuloga ku-gengenerationsoneroof.com, uhlala nomyeni wakhe, izingane, abazali nogogo nomkhulu. Futhi nakuba kuba nokungavumelani ngezikhathi ezithile, ukuhlala nomkhaya omningi kunezinzuzo eziningi kakhulu kunezithiyo. "Ujwayele ukubona abazali bakho, ikakhulukazi, ngamehlo ahlukile lapho usumdala futhi ungumama kunalapho wawuyingane. Manje, ngibabona njengabangane!" Ngokusobala, wonke umuntu unobudlelwano obuhlukile nabantu bakhe, futhi kwesinye isikhathi, kungaba yinto engcono kakhulu, ehlakaniphile, ukuthi ubagcine bekude, kukhumbuza uMallet. "Ukufunda indlela yokuxhumana nabazali bakho lapho usukhulile kuyikhono." Ukubazisa (ngomoya ophansi) ukuthi izenzo zabo zikwenza uzizwe-okungukuthi, uchaze ukuthi uyasazisa iseluleko sabo, kepha kwesinye isikhathi ukusithola ungacelwanga kukwenza kube sengathi bayakwahlulela-kungaba isinyathelo esikhulu ekukhulumeni njengabantu abadala.

Amasiko Ayamangalisa

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Njalo ngoMgqibelo ebusuku, umndeni wakwaBruno uhlala phansi udle ndawonye. Akukona lokho kuphela, kodwa uBruno uthole ukuthi ukulungiselela ngaphambi kokudla kwakusihlwa kuyisikhathi esihle sokuba yena nonina babophele izindlela zokupheka. "Mina nomama sihlanganyela izikhathi eziningi zokupheka ndawonye ebengeke zenzeke ukube sihlala ngokwehlukana," kuchaza uBruno. Kwenze kukusebenzele: Mema wonke umuntu ukuba eze emidlalweni yebhodi yangoMgqibelo ntambama noma ube nomkhuba wokuthumela incwadi kumshana wakho okude njalo ngoLwesihlanu. Akunandaba ukuthi kuncane kangakanani, amasiko angasiza ukuqinisa imindeni ndawonye-noma ngabe niqhelelene.

Ungacabangi-Yenza nje

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Umama osebenzayo UTina Fey Kubonakala sengathi ungowesifazane omkhulu-kodwa ukwenze kwacaca ukuthi akayona enye into. Esikhundleni salokho, ushona ngosuku ngalunye bese eluthathela. Ngokusho kukaFey, "Ngicabanga ukuthi wonke umama osebenzayo cishe uzizwa into efanayo: Udlula ezingxenyeni ezinkulu zesikhathi lapho ucabanga ukuthi lokhu akunakwenzeka ... bese uqhubeka uhamba, futhi wenza okungenakwenzeka." Vele, lokho akusho ukuthi kufanele uziphoqelele ekukhathaleni, kepha uma ufuna ukwenza okuthile, kwenze!

Amalebula awasho lutho

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Eminyakeni emibili edlule, isitshudeni sase-Iowa u-Zach Wahls sathola ukunakwa ezweni lonke lapho isiqeshana sakhe sikhuluma neKomidi Lezobulungiswa lase-Iowa House mayelana nokuvinjelwa okuhlongozwayo kokushada kwezitabane sisakazeka. Njengoba echaza: "Angikaze ngibhekane nomuntu owaqaphela ngokuzimela ukuthi ngikhuliswe umbhangqwana ongqingili. Futhi uyazi ukuthi kungani? Ngoba ukuziphatha ngokobulili kwabazali bami kuye kwaba nomthelela we-zero kokuqukethwe komlingiswa wami. " Isifundo: Uzozwa izinkolelo-ze zanoma yiluphi uhlobo lomndeni, kodwa zinjalo nje-izinkolelo-ze-Futhi hhayi uhlobo oluthile lwemihlahlandlela yokuthi umndeni wakho "kufanele" noma "akufanele" ubukeke kanjani noma ube njani. Futhi ekupheleni kosuku, noma ngabe uzizwa kanjani ngomndeni wakho, uwena lowo okumele aziphendulele ngempilo yakho.

Phinda ucabange Umqondo Wekhaya

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I- Jolie-Pitts' kungaba izinkanyezi ezingama-megawatt, kepha banomuzwa wokuthi kubalulekile ukuthi izingane zabo zazi ukuthi ziyingxenye encane yendawo yonke. “Ngicabanga ukuthi [izingane zethu] zibona umhlaba njengekhaya lazo,” kusho u-Angie esikhathini esidlule. "Ngike ngabona uMaddox egijima ezimakethe zase-Addis Ababa [e-Ethiopia] futhi angaboni ukuthi umpofu kakhulu, noma ukuthi wonke umuntu ungowase-Afrika noma ungowase-Asia. Akusho lutho kuyena." Asisho ukuthi kufanele ulingise le ndlela yokuphila ye-glam fam, kodwa ukwazisa ukuthi sifana kanjani sonke ekupheleni kosuku kuyisifundo esihle ngombono wabo. noma yikuphi umndeni.

Konke Kumayelana Nothando

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Ekupheleni kosuku, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ubani osemkhayeni wakho, into ebaluleke kakhulu indlela ozizwa ngayo ngabo. Kuchaza umlingisi uMaria Bello, kuye New York Times Ikholomu Yothando Lwanamuhla, "Noma ubani engimthandayo, noma kunjalo ngiyabathanda, noma ngabe balala embhedeni wami noma cha, noma ngenza umsebenzi wesikole nabo noma ngihlanganyela nengane nabo, uthando luthando… mhlawumbe, ekugcineni, 'usuku lwanamuhla umndeni' uwumndeni othembeke kakhulu." Ubudlelwano begazi kanye nezihlahla zomndeni zizohlala zinendawo, kodwa kukhona okumele kushiwo ukuze kuchazwe umndeni kukho eyakho ngokwemibandela nanoma ubani onomuzwa wokuthi ukufanelekele ngokwanele ukuwela ngaphansi kwaleso sihloko.

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