Qonda ukuthi kungani ezinye izingane zingenalo uthando (futhi ungazibopheli)

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• Yini inkinga yokunamathisela esebenzayo
• Izimbangela Zokuphazamiseka Okunamathiselwe Okusebenzayo
• Izimpawu Eziyinhloko nokuthi Ungazibona Kanjani
• Injani impatho

Ezinye izingane azithandani kangako futhi zinobunzima ekunikezeni nasekwamukeleni uthando, zibonakala sengathi ziyabanda kancane, njengoba ziba nokuzivikela ngokwengqondo, okungadalwa yizimo ezihlukumezayo noma ezinzima, njengokulahlwa ngabazali bazo noma ukuhlushwa udlame lwasekhaya. , Ngokwesibonelo.

Lokhu kuvikela ngokwengqondo kuyisifo esibizwa ngeReactive Attachment Disorder, esivame ukuvela ngenxa yokuhlukunyezwa noma ukuhlukunyezwa kwezingane futhi esivame kakhulu ezinganeni ezihlala emakhaya ezintandane ngenxa yobudlelwano obungebuhle bemizwa abanabo nabazali bazo.

Yini inkinga yokunamathisela esebenzayo

I-Reactive Attachment Disorder ithinta ikakhulukazi izingane nezingane, kuphazamisa indlela okwakhiwa ngayo izibopho nobudlelwano, kanti izingane ezinalesi sifo ziyabanda, zinamahloni, zikhathazekile futhi azinamathele emoyeni.

Ingane enesifo sokunamathisela esisebenzayo ayikwazi ukwelashwa ngokuphelele, kepha ngokulandela okuqondile ingakhula ngokujwayelekile, isungule ubudlelwane bokuthembana kuyo yonke impilo yayo.

Izimbangela Zokuphazamiseka Okunamathiselwe Okusebenzayo

Lesi sifo sivame ukuvela ebuntwaneni futhi singaba nezimbangela eziningi ezibandakanya:

• Ukuhlukunyezwa noma ukuhlukunyezwa kwengane ngesikhathi sobuntwana;
• Ukushiywa noma ukulahlekelwa ngabazali;
• Ukuziphatha ngodlame noma nobutha ngabazali noma abanakekeli;
• Izinguquko eziphindiwe zabanakekeli, isibonelo, ukusuka ekhaya lezintandane noma emndenini kaningana;
• Ukukhula ezindaweni ezikhawulela ithuba lokusungula okunamathiselwe, njengezikhungo ezinezingane eziningi nabanakekeli abambalwa.

Lesi sifo siba khona ikakhulukazi lapho izingane ezineminyaka engaphansi kwengu-5 zihlukumezeka ngandlela thile nomndeni, noma uma ziyizisulu zokuphathwa kabi, ukuhlukunyezwa noma ukunganakwa ngesikhathi sobuntwana.

Izimpawu Eziyinhloko nokuthi Ungazibona Kanjani

Ezinye zezimpawu ezingakhombisa ukuba khona kwalesi sifo ezinganeni, ebusheni noma kubantu abadala zifaka:

• Ukuzizwa ulahliwe futhi ulahliwe;
• Ubumpofu obuthintekayo, obonisa ubunzima ekuboniseni uthando;
• Ukungabi nozwela;
• Ukungavikeleki nokuzehlukanisa;
• Amahloni nokuhoxa;
• Ulaka olubhekiswe kwabanye nasemhlabeni;
• Ukukhathazeka nokungezwani.

Lapho lokhu kuphazamiseka kwenzeka enganeni, kujwayelekile ukuphuza ukukhala, ukuba nesimo esibi, ukugwema uthando lwabazali, ukujabulela ukuba wedwa noma ukugwema ukubheka iso. Esinye sezibonakaliso zokuqala eziyisixwayiso kubazali yilapho ingane ingahlukanisi phakathi kukanina noma ubaba nabantu engabazi, akukho ukusondelana okukhethekile, njengoba bekulindelekile.

Injani impatho

I-Reactive Attachment Disorder idinga ukwelashwa uchwepheshe oqeqeshiwe noma oqeqeshiwe, njengoba kunjalo ngudokotela wezifo zengqondo noma isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo, esizosiza ingane ukuthi yakhe izibopho nomndeni nomphakathi.

Ngaphezu kwalokho, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi abazali noma ababheki bengane nabo bathole ukuqeqeshwa, ukwelulekwa noma ukwelashwa, ukuze bafunde ukubhekana nengane nesimo.

Ezinganeni ezihlala emakhaya ezintandane, ukuqashwa kwabasebenzi bezenhlalakahle nakho kungasiza ekuqondeni lokhu kuphazamiseka namasu ukuze kunqotshwe, kwenze ingane ikwazi ukunikeza nokwamukela uthando.