Yini ethi 'Bridgerton' Engalungile Ngocansi - nokuthi Kungani Kubalulekile

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• Indlela yokukhipha akuyona indlela esebenzayo yokulawula ukubeletha.
• Ukuhlolela igazi ngeke kukutshele uma ukhulelwe.
• Ungase ungakwazi ukwenza i-orgasm izikhathi zokushaya indlwabu okokuqala ngqa.
• Akufanele weqe ukuyochama ngemva kocansi.
• Ungahle ungabi ne-libido efanayo nomlingani wakho - futhi lokho kulungile.
• Ucansi aludingi ukusuka ku-0 kuye ku-100.
• Ungahle ungabi ne-orgasm kuphela kusukela ekungeneni.
• Imvume ibalulekile.
• Buyekeza kwe-

Imizuzu emithathu nje esiqeshini sokuqala se UBridgerton, futhi ungasho ukuthi ulungele ukudla okubabayo. Kuwo wonke uchungechunge olushisa izikhotha lweShondaland lweShondaland, uhlangatshezwa yizimfucumfucu ezisemafulethini aqinile okhuni, izitebhisi zobulili bomlomo ezitebhisini nasezitebhisini, nasezinqeni eziningi.

Futhi ngenkathi uchungechunge luqinisekile ukuthi iqhinga lokwenza izethameli zishise futhi zikhathazeke (noma okungenani, zithokoziswe ngobumnene ngesihle esishisayo sesikhathi seRegency), akusho ngaso sonke isikhathi ukukhombisa ucansi ngendlela enembile - noma engokoqobo - . Kunjalo, UBridgerton kwakungahloselwe ukuba yisigaba socansi, kodwa kwabanye abantu, kungase kufeze injongo efanayo. Izifundazwe ezingama-28 kuphela kanye neSifunda sase-Columbia ezidinga ukuthi kokubili imfundo yezocansi kanye ne-HIV kufundiswe ezikoleni zomphakathi, ngokusho kwe-Guttmacher Institute, inhlangano yocwaningo nenqubomgomo ezibophezele ekuthuthukiseni impilo namalungelo ocansi nokuzala. Kulezo zifundazwe, yigunya le-17 kuphela eligunyaza ukuthi le mfundo inembe ngokwezokwelapha, ngokusho kwesikhungo. (Okuhlobene: Imfundo Yezocansi E-U.S Iphukile - Isondlo Sifuna Ukulungisa)

Ukugcwalisa lelo gebe olwazini, ama-Millennials amaningi ahlela kumathelevishini awo. Ucwaningo lwango-2018 lwabaneminyaka engu-18 kuya kwengama-29 ubudala luthole ukuthi iningi lababambiqhaza lithole iningi lemfundo yabo yezocansi kulokho abakubone ku-TV noma abakufunde ngosiko lwe-pop. "Imfundo ingase ingabi kuyo yonke indawo, kodwa abezindaba bakhona," kusho uJanielle Bryan, M.P.H., udokotela wezempilo yomphakathi kanye nothisha wezocansi. "Kwezinye izingane kanye nabantu abadala abasebasha, yilokho kuphela ucansi abalutholayo, ngakho uma lunembe kakhudlwana, lufundisa kakhulu - futhi uma ngithi luyafundisa, angiqondile ukubhora - kungcono. Ukumelela kubalulekile. izinto eziningi, futhi lokho kuhlanganisa nocansi. "

Lokho akusho ukuthi kufanele ususe Bridgerton - noma yiluphi olunye uchungechunge lwe-sexy olungelona iqiniso - lusuka emugqeni wakho we-Netflix ngokuphelele. Esikhundleni salokho, thatha izigcawu ze-racy ozibonayo ngohlamvu lukasawoti. "Kubaluleke ngempela ukukhumbula ukuthi lolu ucansi oluhleliwe," kusho u-Jack Pearson, Ph.D., uchwepheshe wezokwelapha wasendlini e-Natural Cycles, uhlelo lokusebenza lokulawula inzalo nokulandelela inzalo. "Ngicabanga ukuthi kubalulekile ukuvuma ukuthi ubulili bangempela buyiningi kakhulu [oluyinkimbinkimbi] ... futhi ngeke ngilusebenzise njengesisekelo sokuqhathanisa nhlobo. Kufanele uthathe ugqozi kuyo, kodwa hhayi ukuthi uyisebenzisele ukwahlulela ukuthi uqhuba kanjani ekamelweni lokulala. ”

Ngokuzayo uma uzingela ukuze ubukele umdlalo odla ubhedu onyakeni - kungakhathaliseki ukuthi owokubuka kwakho kokuqala noma okwesine - gcina lokhu kungalungile. nemidwebo engeyona engokoqobo yezocansi engqondweni.

Indlela yokukhipha akuyona indlela esebenzayo yokulawula ukubeletha.

Ekuqaleni kwesizini, uSimon Basset, iDuke yaseHastings ebukekayo futhi ehehayo, ufunga ukuthi ngeke aphinde abe nezingane zokulwa nobaba wakhe nokuqeda ngempumelelo umndeni wakhe. Ngakho-ke ngobusuku obekulindelwe uSimon nonkosikazi wakhe omusha, uDaphne Bridgerton, baqedela umshado wabo, uMbusi ukhipha lokho obekuzoba yisiginesha yakhe ukuhamba kuyo yonke isizini: ukukhipha ipipi lakhe kuDaphne ngaphambi nje kokukhishwa.

Ukukhishwa kungenzeka ukuthi kwakuyindlela eyamukelekayo yokulawula inzalo emuva ngekhulu le-19, kodwa uPearson uthi akuyona indlela esebenzayo yokuvimbela inzalo ngezindinganiso zanamuhla. "Isidoda singaba khona ku-pre-cum, futhi uma kukhona, kunethuba lokuthi ukukhulelwa kuzokwenzeka," uyachaza. “[Lokhu kungenzeka futhi] uma owesilisa engakhiphanga ngokushesha ngokwanele futhi empeleni wakhiphela wonke noma izingxenye zesidoda kowesifazane.”

Eqinisweni, cishe abantu abangama-22 kwabangu-100 abasebenzisa indlela yokuhoxa bayakhulelwa minyaka yonke, ngokusho kweHhovisi Lezabesifazane. (Yebo, lokho kuhle kakhulu.) Ngakho-ke uma uzama ngenkuthalo ukuvimbela ukukhulelwa, xoxa nodokotela wakho ngezinye izindlela zokulawula inzalo ezifakazelwa ukuthi zisebenza kangcono, njengamadivayisi we-intrauterine, izivimbelinzalo zomlomo, izindandatho zesitho sangasese sowesifazane, noma amabala esikhumba.

Ukuhlolela igazi ngeke kukutshele uma ukhulelwe.

Ngokushesha ngemva kokuba uMarina Thompson efikile esithabathabeni somuzi wase-Featherington, ubonakale emba amashidi akhe ematasa efuna igazi, okuwuphawu lokuthi isikhathi sakhe sase sifikile ubusuku bonke. Ngeshwa lomuntu osanda kufika edolobheni, amashidi kaMarina amhlophe qhwa njengeqhwa elisanda kuwa, okuthi ngo-1813, lithathwe njengesibonakaliso esichazayo ukuthi ukhulelwe.

Kodwa ukuphuthelwa ukuvakasha kuka-Anti u-Flo akusho ngokuzenzakalelayo ukuthi “unengane,” njengoba uMarina ekubeka. "Noma ngubani onomjikelezo kungenzeka ukuthi abe nokuya esikhathini ngokungafanele ngezikhathi ezithile, ngakho-ke ukweqa eziphethweni uma ungazange wophe ngaphezu kwamasonto amane kungakutatazelisa ngaphandle kwesizathu," kusho uPearson. "Empeleni, isifundo se-Natural Cycle ne-University College London, ebibheka imijikelezo engaphezu kuka-600,000, sithole ukuthi munye kuphela kwabesifazane abayisishiyagalombili othole umjikelezo wezinsuku ezingama-28." Ngenkathi izimo ezibucayi zezokwelapha ezifana ne-polycystic ovary syndrome, i-endometriosis, ne-fibroids zingakubambezela isikhathi sakho, ngisho nezinguquko ezincane empilweni yakho, njengokuncipha, ukunciphisa isimiso sakho sokuzivocavoca umzimba, noma ukubhekana nengcindezi kungathinta umjikelezo wakho, ngokusho kweCleveland Umtholampilo.

Ukungasho, kungenzeka ukuthi uzwe ukuphuma kwegazi noma ukubonwa masishane phakathi ne-trimester yokuqala, ikakhulukazi lapho iqanda elikhulelwe liqala ukunamathela odongeni lwesibeletho (ukufakelwa kwe-aka), uma wenza ucansi, une-infection, noma ama-hormone akho ziyashintshashintsha, ngokusho kwe-US National Library of Medicine. Ngeza kokuthi ezinye zezimpawu zokuqala zokukhulelwa zingafana nezimpawu ze-PMS - kufaka phakathi isicanucanu, ukukhathala, nobubele besifuba - futhi kungaba nzima ukusho ukuthi ukhulelwe noma awusekelwe ku-intuition noma isikhathi sokulandela wedwa , kusho uPearson. "Kodwa ukuthatha leso sivivinyo sokukhulelwa nokuzama ukubona uchwepheshe wakho wezokunakekelwa kwezempilo kungakutholela impendulo eqondile lapho," uyanezela.

Ungase ungakwazi ukwenza i-orgasm izikhathi zokushaya indlwabu okokuqala ngqa.

Kungekudala ngemuva kokuthi uSimon etshele uDaphne ngenjabulo yokuzithinta phakathi kwemilenze yakho, amaDuchess esizayo alala embhedeni wakhe ukuze azihlole kancane. Futhi kungakashayi sikhathi lapho egijimisa iminwe yakhe amathole akhe nangaphansi kwengubo yakhe yokulala, uvuthwa okokuqala ngqa.

IRL, okokuqala uzama ukushaya indlwabu cishe ngeke kufane nokuka-Daphne. "Wonke umuntu wehlukile, futhi umzimba wawo wonke umuntu wehlukile," kusho uBryan. "Angizukusho ukuthi bekungeke kwenzeke ngokushesha okungako, kodwa uma umuntu eshaya indlwabu okokuqala, imvamisa kuncike ekutheni ujwayelene kanjani nomzimba wakhe nokuthi wazi kangakanani ngaye."

Yingakho uBryan encoma abantu beminyaka yonke ukuthi bathathe isibuko esiphathwa ngesandla bese banikeza indawo yabo engezansi ukubukeka okuhle, okunzima ngaphambi kokuzenzela. Ngokuzinika isikhathi sokufunda ukwakheka komzimba wakho - kufaka phakathi lapho zonke izingxenye zomzimba wakho sangasese itholakala nokuthi ibukeka kanjani - ngeke kudingeke ukuthi umbe uzungeze ufuna i-clitoris nezinye izindawo ezizwa kamnandi ngenkathi uzama ukuzikhuthaza. Umphumela ongaba khona: U-Os osheshayo nonamandla, kusho uBryan.

Kwirekhodi, kuyinto ejwayelekile ngokuphelele ukushaya indlwabu hhayi kuvuthondaba nakancane, kunezela uBryan. “Ngisho noma unolwazi oluthe xaxa ngawe, kwesinye isikhathi akulona usuku,” kusho yena. “Nansi into ngemizimba: Benza noma yini abafuna ukuyenza. Akusho ukuthi okokuqala [ushaya indlwabu] uzoba ne-orgasm, futhi akusho ukuthi okweshumi uzoba ne-orgasm. "

Akufanele weqe ukuyochama ngemva kocansi.

Izethameli * ngobuchwepheshe * azikaze ziyibone imikhuba yabalingiswa yangemva kokugqashuka, kodwa kuphephile ukucabanga ukuthi kungenzeka zingafiki endlini yangasese ngokushesha ngemuva kokwenza uthando. Kodwa ukwenza kanjalo kuyindlela eyinhloko yokuvimbela ukutheleleka kwe-urinary tract (UTI), engakhula lapho amabhaktheriya engena esinyeni sakho, ngokusho kwe-OWH.

Nakhu ukuthi kusebenza kanjani: Ngesikhathi socansi neminye imisebenzi efriziwe, engenalo ibhulukwe, amabhaktheriya avela esithweni sangasese nakwindunu angadlulisela kwi-urethra (ishubhu elisuka esinyeni lapho umchamo uphuma khona emzimbeni wakho). Lapho, ingaphindaphindeka futhi ibangele ukuvuvukala, okungase kubangele ubuhlungu noma ukushisa lapho uchama kanye nesifiso sokuchama kaningi (nakuba ungaphumi umchamo omningi) - izimpawu ze-UTI, ngokusho kwe-OWH. Kuvela ukuthi, uDaphne utshela uSimon ukuthi "wamshisa" ngaphambi kokuba bagxume amathambo omunye nomunye okokuqala kwakuyisibonakaliso.

Lokho kusho ukuthi, ukulandela ucansi kungasiza ekuvikeleni kuma-UTIs, ngokusho kocwaningo olushicilelwe ku- Ijenali ye-Clinical Epidemiology. Eqinisweni, ucwaningo oluhlukile lubonise ukuthi ezinyangeni eziyisithupha ngemva kokuba abesifazane abenza ucansi bathuthukise i-UTI yabo yokuqala, izehlakalo zokutheleleka kwesibili zaziphansi phakathi kwalabo ababika ukuchama ngemva kocansi. “Ukuchama ngemuva kocansi kuyasiza nje ukukhipha umchamo, lapho ipipi liphuma khona, ”kuchaza uPearson."Kusiza nje noma yimaphi amabhaktheriya okungenzeka ukuthi aqhutshelwe phezulu laphaya aphume." (Okuhlobene: Ungaya ocansini ne-UTI?)

Ungahle ungabi ne-libido efanayo nomlingani wakho - futhi lokho kulungile.

Ukukubeka nje, uSimon noDaphne baya kuwo njengonogwaja phakathi nesikhathi sabo sangemva komshado. Futhi kukho konke ukuhlangana kocansi umbukiso okukhombisa, bobabili uDuke noDuchess bavuliwe ngokulinganayo futhi bakulungele ukungena ebhizinisini. I-Spoiler: Lo mdlalo owenziwe e-libido ezulwini akuyona into eyenzeka kaningi empilweni yangempela - futhi lokho kulungile, kusho uBryan.

"Ucansi luqala engqondweni, ngakho-ke uma ucindezelekile ngokuthile, lokho kungalahla i-libido," uyachaza. "Futhi uma ungakhulumi [ushintsho lwakho ku-libido] kumlingani wakho, bavele bazame ukweqa amathambo akho, cishe ngeke kuhambe kahle njengoba kwenzeka UBridgerton.”

Kubalulekile futhi ukukhumbula ukuthi uma uhlala ungekho esimeni lapho umlingani wakho ekulungele ukuthola ama-frisky, akusho ukuthi awuneme ngempilo yakho yezocansi noma i-S.O yakho, kusho uBryan. “Abanye abantu banomuzwa wokuthi uma wenqaba ubulili, uyabenqaba, kanti akunjalo,” kuchaza yena. “Ungamthanda umuntu othandana naye, unakekele isithandwa sakho, uthandeke ocansini nophathina wakho, noshintsho ekuthandeni kwakho akukushintshi lokho. Akukhulunywa ngabo - yisenzo uqobo. "

Ukuze uqinisekise ukuthi nina nobabili nisekhasini elilodwa, bakhumbuze ukuthi abayona inkinga, bese uqala ingxoxo nabo mayelana nokuthi yini ngempela ekuvimbayo, kusho uBryan. Ukuchaza noma yini eyenzeka ekhanda lakho eshintsha isimo sakho sengqondo kungakusiza wena nomlingani wakho nithole izindlela zokuxazulula izinkinga zenu, ezingakusiza ukuthi ubuyisele i-libido yakho esimweni sakho esivamile, uthi. (Okuhlobene: Ukuqonda lezi zinhlobo ezi-2 zesifiso sobulili kuzokusiza uzizwe ulawula i-libido yakho)

Ucansi aludingi ukusuka ku-0 kuye ku-100.

Bridgerton’s itulo lingahle lihambe kancane, kepha izigcawu zocansi ziyashesha - zishesha kakhulu kangangokuba uSimon noDaphne beqa umdlalo ongaphambili bese begxumela ngqo ekungeneni. Le duo ingahle ivuswe ngokwanele ukuyithola kahle cishe kumasekhondi amahlanu ngemuva kokuqabulana, kepha kumbukeli ojwayelekile, kungadingeka isikhathi esinde sokuzifudumeza.

“Ngivame ukuthi isitho esikhulu socansi siphakathi kwezindlebe zakho,” kusho uBryan. “Ngakho-ke uma ungavuselelwanga ngokwengqondo, kungenzeka ukuthi awuvuselelwanga ngokomzimba, futhi kungangakhululeki ngoba umzimba wakho awukhiqizi ukuthambisa okungokwemvelo [ngaleso sikhathi]. Kukhona ithuba elihle uma ungavuswanga, ukungena kungaba buhlungu ngoba [isitho sakho sangasese] sizoma. ” (Ngemuva kwakho konke, uDaphne noSimon babengenayo i-lube ematafuleni abo ombhede.)

Ukuchitha imizuzu eyengeziwe ku-foreplay kungakulungiselela ngokwengqondo nangokomzimba isenzo esikhulu. Futhi, ukudlala kusengaphambili kungaba usizo uma uzibandakanya nomlingani omusha futhi usazama ukufunda umzimba womunye, akuthandayo, nangakuthandi, kusho uBryan. "Ngenxa yokuthi i-foreplay ngokuvamile ihamba kancane, uyakwazi ukuba nezingxoxo futhi uqondise umlingani wakho ngaphambi kokungena ekungeneni," uyachaza.

Ungahle ungabi ne-orgasm kuphela kusukela ekungeneni.

Ngokugxumela kumdlalo wangaphambili, kungenzeka futhi ukuthi u-Daphne uphuthelwe ukuzuza ama-Os amakhulu uDuke avame ukuwathola ngesenzo se-PIV. ICYDK, ikota yesithathu yamadoda ithi ifinyelela kuvuthondaba cishe ngaso sonke isikhathi uma iya ocansini, uma kuqhathaniswa namaphesenti angama-28 kuphela abesifazane, ngokusho kocwaningo lwaseLovehoney lwabantu abangu-4 400. Ngaphezu kwalokho, amaphesenti angama-18.4 kuphela wabesifazane abahloliwe abike ukuthi ukuya ocansini kukodwa "kwakwanele" ngokwanele kwi-orgasm, ngokusho kocwaningo lwabesifazane abangaphezu kwenkulungwane abashicilelwe ku Ijenali Yezokwelapha Nezokwelapha.

Manje kwenza ukhiphe abanye besifazane? Ukugqugquzelwa kwe-Clitoral, kungaba ngabo ngokwabo noma ngabalingani babo, kanye nocansi lomlomo, ngokocwaningo oluncane lwabesifazane abathandana nobulili obuhlukile - senza ukuthi uDaphne abonakale engavamile ukuzwa ngesikhathi socansi, yingakho ukuntuleka okuphelele kwama-orgasm wesifazane okwenzeka ochungechungeni. (Iqiniso lokuthi igebe le-orgasm liyaqhubeka ngisho nase-erotica ehloswe kakhulu kwabesifazane i-ol enkulu' ukububula.)

Futhi ngaphandle kwesigcawu sakhe sokushaya indlwabu, isikhathi kuphela lapho kubukeka njengokungathi u-Daphne uba ne-orgasm ngempela ngesikhathi somncintiswano wokugcina, izikhathi ngemva kokuvuma ukuhlala ndawonye nokudala umndeni. Njengoba ukukhala kukhuphuka, lo mbhangqwana ubonakala ufinyelela umvuthwandaba ngesikhathi esifanayo. Kungenzeka impela ukufeza i-orgasm IRL engaqondakali ngasikhathi sinye, kepha kudinga ukuzijwayeza (vele ubuze lo mbhali okwenze kwaba yisinqumo sakhe sonyaka omusha). Futhi, akunakwenzeka ukuthi kuzokwenzeka ngemuva kwemizuzwana engama-20 yokusunduza. Ngokwenhlolovo ye-Lovehoney, engxenyeni yezigameko ze-orgasm okwabelwana ngazo, umuntu oyedwa uvame ukufinyelela "iphuzu lokuvusa" futhi udinga ukulinda umlingani wakhe ukuthi abambe. I-TL; I-DR: Wena kanye ne-orgasm eyabiwe yomlingani wakho kungathatha isikhathi eside ukufeza kunoDuke noDuchess abaphelele.

Imvume ibalulekile.

Ngokushesha ngemva kokuba uDaphne ethole ukuthi ukukhulelwa kwenzeka kanjani nokuthi uSimon *angakwazi* ukuba nezingane (akafuni nje), uqhubeka nokwakha esinye sezigcawu eziphikisana kakhulu zochungechunge: Phakathi nocansi, ama-Duchess aphakamisa. yena uqobo phezu kwesitayela senkomo kaSimon futhi, lapho esezothela umchamo, uyenqaba ukumvumela ukuba akhiphe - indlela yakhe yokuvimbela inzalo. Ngemuva kwemizuzwana, uyabubula, "Ungakwenza kanjani?"

Ngenkathi uSimon evuma ukuya ocansini, wavuma hhayi imvume yokungena ngaphakathi kuDaphne, kusho uBryan. Khumbula, uDaphne wayazi wayengafuni ukuba nezingane (nakuba kwakungezona izizathu eziqondile zokuthi kungani). Futhi noma ngabe uMbusi akazange amemeze ngokukhethekile, "Cha, yeka," yena wenza ithi, "linda, linda, Daphne," futhi ubukeka engakhululekile neze ngokungakwazi ukuhoxa. "Ngakho-ke ngenkathi uSimon engamnikanga imininingwane eyanele [ngalokhu kukhetha ukungabi nezingane] ukuze athathe isinqumo esinolwazi, akekho umuntu ovunyelwe ukwephula imingcele yakho ngoba ingabasebenzeli," kusho uBryan. Imvume, Ngempela? Futhi, Ungayicela Kanjani Futhi Nini)

Phakathi nanoma yikuphi ukuhlangana ngokocansi, ukucela imvume njalo kubalulekile. Buza umlingani wakho ukuthi ngabe bazimisele yini ngalesi senzo ngaphambi uyaqala, futhi njengoba uqhubeka nokukhulisa imisebenzi yakho, ngena nabo ukuze uqiniseke ukuthi bafuna ukuqhubeka, kusho uBryan. "Siphinde sisho okuningi ngemizimba yethu kunalokho esikwenzayo ngamazwi ethu, ngakho-ke uma nganoma yisiphi isikhathi phakathi nocansi uthola isimo somzimba noma isimo sobuso esibonisa ukuthi omunye umuntu akakhululekile, ngena," usho kanje. Futhi uma bengakuniki u- "yebo" onentshiseko - okusho ukuthi bathi "anginasiqiniseko" noma "lokhu akuzwakali kahle" - misa imisebenzi yakho lapho, engeza uBryan. Khumbula: Wena noma uzakwenu ninamandla okuhoxisa imvume noma nini. (Futhi ngaso sonke isikhathi kuwumqondo omuhle ukungena ngemuva kocansi - aka aftercare - ukuxoxa nganoma yini eyenze noma engahambanga kahle nokuthi nobabili nizizwa kanjani ngezinto.)

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