Lokho Wonke Umuntu Owesifazane Okufanele Akwazi Nge-Self Esteem

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U-Lisa Leslie, intombazane eyafinyelela ubude obungamafidi angu-6 ebangeni lesi-6, wayegqoka isicathulo sika-size 12 eneminyaka engu-12 ubudala, futhi wathola ingxenye yakhe yokuthi "kunjani umoya lapho?" amahlaya abengagcina ngomqondo ongaphansi kokuziqhenya wokuzethemba. Kodwa u-Leslie uncoma umuzwa wakhe onempilo wokuzethemba ngomzimba-kanye nesifiso sakhe sokubona wonke amantombazane ethuthukisa eyodwa-kumama wakhe 6'3" (kanye nobaba 6'4" owathi, "sibusiswe ngokwanele ukuthi sikhule ngaphakathi futhi ngaphandle. "

Sibambe lo mdlali obaluleke kakhulu weWNBA kathathu kanye nendondo yegolide yama-Olimpiki amahlandla amane eThe Women's Conference eCalifornia, ngemuva nje kwephaneli ebelibanjelwe iDove ngokuzihlonipha. Amathiphu akhe okwakha ukuzethemba:

1. Bhala uhlu lwezimpahla zakho-bese ukholwa kuzo

“Abanye abantu banamaphimbo amahle, futhi angikwazi nhlobo ukucula,” kusho uLeslie. "Akulona ithalente lami lelo." Ukuze uzithobe endaweni efanele, uthi, "udinga ukwenza lokho onakho. Yazi ukuthi unezinwele ezithile, amehlo athile, izindebe ezithile futhi kuyilokho okuyikho." Thola izinto ozithandayo. Bhala ngosonhlamvukazi. ULeslie wayengazizwa ehlekisa ngobude bakhe. Esikhundleni salokho, uthi, "lo mzimba ungitholele izindebe ezithile."

Kuphaneli efanayo, u-Katherine Schwarzenegger uchaze ukuwohloka okuphakathi kokuthi "Ngizonda yonke into ngami" kanye nento emkhiphe kukho. Umama kaKatherine ocabanga ngokushesha, u-Maria Shriver, wathi makenze uhlu lwazo zonke izinto azithandayo nangazithandi ngaye. “Ekugcineni, uhlu lwabathandwayo belulude kunohlu lwabangathandwa,” usho kanje. Ungalizwa ikamelo lenza amanothi ukwenza uhlu olufanayo ngokwabo, ishumi nambili noma cha.

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2. Thola umeluleki, ngisho nasencwadini

Kuthiwani uma umndeni wakho ungakwazisanga lokho onakho, njengoba kwenza uLisa Leslie? "Amantombazane angenakho lokho kusekelwa ahlupheka ngempela ngenxa yothando. Kulawo mantombazane amancane, ngicabanga ukuthi ukufuna izincwadi zokuzisiza kungasiza. Angizami ukumpompa umyeni wami [uMichael Lockwood], kodwa ungumbhali wencwadi ebizwa ngokuthi. Abesifazane Banamandla Onke, Kubi Abakwazi Lokho futhi kusiza intsha ukuthi iqonde amandla ayo isencane. Okunye okungenziwa amantombazane ukufuna umeluleki komama babanye abantu. "

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3. I-biggie: Zibekele imigomo

“Isihluthulelo esingisizile wukuthi ngaqala ukubhala phansi izinhloso zami, ngisefunda ibanga lesi-9 ngaqala ukubhala izinjongo zesikhashana engangifuna ukuzifeza ungakapheli unyaka ngase ngilandela imigomo yesikhathi eside, okuyiyona engangifisa ukuyifinyelela. eminyakeni emi-5." Ohlwini olufushane ngalowo nyaka: Ukuthola i-3.5 GPA futhi ube ngumdlali ovelele esizweni (kwenziwe, ngendlela). Isikhati eside? Ukumela i-USA kuma-Olimpiki. "Ngenxa yokuthi nganginalezi ziqondiso engangigxile kuzo kakhulu, ukuthi ubuncane babantu ababekhuluma ngami babusezingeni eliphansi kakhulu empilweni yami. Kwadingeka ngigxile kwezinye izinto." Yena nomyeni wakhe basazibekela imigomo yezezimali, izinhloso ngazinye, izinhloso njengombhangqwana, kanye nezinhloso zezingane zabo. Okulandelayo ngokulandelayo? Ukuqedela lezo zifundo ezimbili zokugcina ze-MBA yakhe ngenkathi enza konke okunye-kufaka phakathi ukufundisa izingane zakhe ezimbili ukugcina ukuzethemba kwazo kuphakeme.

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