Izinto Ezi-8 Abantu Abanokucindezeleka Okusebenza Kakhulu Abafuna Ukwazi

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• 1. Uzwa sengathi uhlala "uyikhohlisa"
• 2. Kufanele ukhombise ukuthi udonsa kanzima futhi udinga usizo
• 3. Izinsuku ezimnandi “zijwayelekile”
• 4. Kodwa izinsuku ezimbi azibekezeleleki
• 5. Ukudlula ezinsukwini ezimbi kudinga inani elikhulu lamandla
• 6. Ungalwela ukugxila, futhi uzizwe sengathi awenzi ngokusemandleni akho
• 7. Ukuphila nokudangala okusebenza okuphezulu kuyakhathaza
• 8. Ukucela usizo kuyinto enamandla ukwedlula yonke ongayenza

Noma kungahle kungabonakali, ukudlula osukwini kuyakhathala.

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Kungaba nzima ukubona izimpawu zomuntu onokudangala okusebenza okuphezulu. Lokho kungenxa yokuthi, ngaphandle, bavame ukubonakala belunge ngokuphelele.Baya emsebenzini, bafeze imisebenzi yabo, futhi baqhubeke nobudlelwano. Futhi njengoba bedlula emigudwini yokugcina impilo yabo yansuku zonke, ngaphakathi bayamemeza.

"Wonke umuntu ukhuluma ngokudangala nokukhathazeka, futhi kusho izinto ezihlukile kubantu abahlukene," kusho uDkt. Carol A. Bernstein, uprofesa wezifo zengqondo nezinzwa e-NYU Langone Health.

“Ukucindezeleka okusebenza kahle akusona isigaba sokuxilonga ngokombono wezokwelapha. Abantu bangazizwa becindezelekile, kepha umbuzo onengcindezelo ungowesikhathi esingakanani, futhi kuphazamisa kangakanani amandla ethu okuqhubeka nempilo [yethu]? ”

Awukho umehluko phakathi kokucindezeleka nokudangala okusebenza kakhulu. Izinga lokudangala lisuka kumnene ukuya kokulingene kuya kwesinzima. Ngo-2016, cishe abantu baseMelika abayizigidi eziyi-16.2 babene okungenani isiqephu esisodwa sokucindezeleka okukhulu.

"Abanye abantu abanengcindezi abakwazi ukuya emsebenzini noma esikoleni, noma ukusebenza kwabo kuhlupheka kakhulu ngenxa yakho," kusho u-Ashley C. Smith, isisebenzi sezenhlalakahle somtholampilo onelayisense. “Akunjalo ngabantu abanenkinga yokusebenza kwengqondo ephezulu. Basengasebenza empilweni, ingxenye enkulu. ”

Kepha ukukwazi ukudlula osukwini akusho ukuthi kulula. Nakhu okushiwo ngabantu abayisikhombisa mayelana nokuthi kunjani ukuhlala nokusebenza ngokuxineka okusebenza okuphezulu.

1. Uzwa sengathi uhlala "uyikhohlisa"

“Sizwa okuningi manje mayelana ne-imposter syndrome, lapho abantu bezwa ukuthi 'bayayenza' nje futhi abahlangene njengoba abantu becabanga. Kukhona ifomu lalokhu kulabo ababhekana nokudangala okukhulu nezinye izinhlobo zokugula ngengqondo. Uba nekhono ‘lokudlala wena,’ udlala indima yomuntu siqu abantu abaseduze kwakho abalindele ukukubona nokuhlangenwe nakho kwabo. ”

- UDaniel, intatheli, eMaryland

2. Kufanele ukhombise ukuthi udonsa kanzima futhi udinga usizo

“Ukuphila nokucindezeleka okusebenza ngamandla kunzima kakhulu. Noma ungadlula emsebenzini nasempilweni futhi ikakhulukazi wenze izinto zenziwe, awuzenzi ngokwamandla akho aphelele.

“Ngaphandle kwalokho, akekho umuntu okholelwa ngempela ukuthi udonsa kanzima ngoba impilo yakho ayikapheli. Ngangizibulala futhi ngisondele ekuqedeni konke enyuvesi futhi akekho owayengangikholwa ngoba ngangingaphumeleli esikoleni noma ngigqoka njengodoti ophelele. Emsebenzini, kuyafana. Sidinga ukukholelwa kubantu lapho becela ukwesekwa.

“Okokugcina, izinsizakalo eziningi zezempilo yengqondo zinezidingo ezisuselwa ezidingweni, lapho kufanele uvele khona inani elithile labacindezelekile ukuthola ukwesekwa. Noma ngabe umoya wami uphansi impela futhi ngihlala ngicabanga ukuzibulala, kufanele ngiqambe amanga ngokusebenza kwami ​​ukuze ngikwazi ukuthola izinsiza. ”

- U-Alicia, isikhulumi / umbhali wezempilo yengqondo, eToronto

3. Izinsuku ezimnandi “zijwayelekile”

“Usuku oluhle ukuthi ngikwazi ukuvuka ngaphambi noma ngakwesokudla kwi-alamu yami, ngigeze futhi ngigqoke ubuso bami. Ngiyakwazi ukuqhubeka nabantu, njengoba umsebenzi wami njengomqeqeshi wesoftware ungibizela kuwo. Angihlanyi noma ngigcwele ukukhathazeka. Ngiyakwazi ukudlula kusihlwa futhi ngibe nezingxoxo nabantu engisebenza nabo ngaphandle kokuzizwa ngiphelelwe yithemba ngokuphelele. Ngosuku oluhle, ngiba nokugxila nokucaca kwengqondo. Ngizizwa njengomuntu onekhono, okhiqizayo. ”

- UmKristu, umqeqeshi wesoftware, iDallas

4. Kodwa izinsuku ezimbi azibekezeleleki

“Manje ngibe nosuku olubi… Ngilwa nami ukuze ngiphaphame futhi kumele ngizihlaze ngempela ngokugeza ngizihlanganise. Ngifaka izimonyo [ngakho angi] qaphelisi abantu ngezinkinga zami zangaphakathi. Angifuni ukukhuluma noma ukuhlushwa yinoma ngubani. Ngiyazikhohlisa ukuba ngumuntu, njengoba nginezentela zokukhokha futhi angifuni ukwenza impilo yami ibe nzima ukwedlula lokhu eyikho.

“Ngemuva komsebenzi, ngifuna ukuya egumbini lami lehhotela bese ngiphenya ku-Instagram noma ku-YouTube ngingenangqondo. Ngizodla ukudla okungenamsoco, futhi ngizwe sengathi ngilahlekile futhi ngiyehlisa isithunzi.

“Nginezinsuku ezimbi kakhulu kunezinhle, kodwa ngithole okuhle ngokukukhohlisa ngakho amaklayenti ami acabanga ukuthi ngiyisisebenzi esihle. Ngivame ukuthunyelwa ama-kudos ngokusebenza kwami. Kodwa ngaphakathi, ngiyazi ukuthi angizange ngilethe ezingeni engazi ngalo ukuthi ngingakwazi. ”

- UmKristu

5. Ukudlula ezinsukwini ezimbi kudinga inani elikhulu lamandla

“Kuyakhathaza kakhulu ukudlula osukwini olubi. Ngiyawuthola umsebenzi, kepha akukhona okungcono kwami. Kuthatha isikhathi eside ukufeza imisebenzi. Kuningi okugqolozele esikhaleni, ukuzama ukubuyisa ukulawula kwengqondo yami.

“Ngizithola sengikhungatheka kalula ngabantu engisebenza nabo, yize ngazi ukuthi ayikho indlela abazi ngayo ukuthi nginosuku olunzima. Ngezinsuku ezimbi, ngigxeka ngokweqile futhi angithandi ukukhombisa umphathi wami noma yimuphi umsebenzi wami ngoba ngesaba ukuthi uzocabanga ukuthi anginakho ukusebenza.

“Enye yezinto engisiza kakhulu engiyenzayo ngezinsuku ezimbi ukubeka phambili imisebenzi yami. Ngiyazi ukuthi lapho ngiziqinisa ngokwengeziwe, maningi amathuba okuthi ngiwohloke, ngakho-ke ngiyaqiniseka ukuthi ngenza izinto ezinzima lapho nginamandla amakhulu. ”

- INkantolo, uchwepheshe wezokumaketha, eNorth Carolina

6. Ungalwela ukugxila, futhi uzizwe sengathi awenzi ngokusemandleni akho

Kwesinye isikhathi, akukho okwenziwayo. Ngingaba ku-daze ende ekhishwe usuku lonke, noma kuthatha usuku lonke ukuqedela izinto ezimbalwa. Njengoba ngisebudlelwaneni bomphakathi futhi ngisebenza nabantu nezinkampani ezixhasa inhloso enkulu, evame ukudonsa izinhliziyo zabantu, umsebenzi wami ungangifaka ekucindezelekeni okujulile.

“Ngingabe ngisebenza ngendaba, kanti ngenkathi ngithayipha nginezinyembezi ezigeleza ebusweni bami. Lokho empeleni kungasebenzela ukuzuzisa iklayenti lami ngoba nginezinhliziyo eziningi nentshisekelo ezungeze izindaba ezinengqondo, kepha kuyethusa impela ngoba imizwa ijula ​​kakhulu.

- UTonya, intatheli, eCalifornia

7. Ukuphila nokudangala okusebenza okuphezulu kuyakhathaza

“Kokuhlangenwe nakho kwami, ukuhlala nokudangala okusebenza kakhulu kuyakhathaza impela. Uchitha usuku lonke umamatheka futhi uphoqa ukuhleka lapho uhlushwa umuzwa wokuthi abantu oxhumana nabo babekezelela wena nobukhona bakho emhlabeni kuphela.

“Kuyazi ukuthi awunamsebenzi futhi uchitha umoya-mpilo… futhi wenza konke okusemandleni akho ukufakazela lokho okungalungile ngokuba yisitshudeni esihamba phambili, indodakazi ehamba phambili, nomsebenzi ongcono kakhulu. Kuqhubeka ngaphezu kosuku lonke nsuku zonke ngethemba lokuthi empeleni ungenza umuntu azizwe ukuthi usifanele isikhathi sakhe, ngoba awuzizwa unjalo. ”

- UMeaghan, umfundi wezomthetho, eNew York

8. Ukucela usizo kuyinto enamandla ukwedlula yonke ongayenza

“Ukucela usizo akukwenzi umuntu obuthakathaka. Eqinisweni, kukwenza ube okuphambene ngqo. Ukudangala kwami ​​kwavela ngokuthatheka okungathi sína ekuphuzeni. Okubucayi kakhulu, empeleni, ngichithe amasonto ayisithupha ekuvuseleleni kabusha e2017. Nginamahloni nje izinyanga eziyi-17 zokungabekezeli.

“Wonke umuntu angaba nemibono yakhe, kepha zonke izinhlangothi ezintathu zonxantathu wempilo yami yengqondo - ukuyeka ukuphuza, ukwelashwa kokukhuluma, kanye nemithi - bekubalulekile. Ngokuyinhloko, lo muthi ungisiza ngigcine isimo sisezingeni lami nsuku zonke futhi ube yingxenye eyindida yokuba ngcono kwami. ”

- UKate, umenzeli wezokuvakasha, eNew York

“Uma ukucindezeleka kuthinta kakhulu impilo yakho, uma ucabanga ukuthi kufanele uzizwe ungcono, funa usizo. Bona udokotela wakho oyinhloko mayelana nakho - abaningi baqeqeshiwe ekubhekaneni nokudangala - futhi bafune ukuthunyelwa kumelaphi.

“Yize kusenehlazo elibonakalayo elihambisana nokugula ngengqondo, ngingasho ukuthi siyaqala, kancane, ukubona lelo hlazo lincipha. Akukho lutho olungalungile ngokuvuma ukuthi unenkinga futhi ungasebenzisa usizo oluthile. ”

- UDaniel

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