Abafana Namantombazane Kufanele Bangahlali Nini Ekamelweni Lokulala?

Thatha isikhathi sokwakha isikhala esikhethekile ezinganeni, futhi uzinikeze ubunikazi bomuntu siqu.

Kunempikiswano engahlelekile mayelana nokuthi izingane zakwethu zobulili obuhlukile kufanele zivunyelwe yini ukuba zisebenzise igumbi elilodwa futhi, uma kunjalo, isikhathi eside kangakanani. Kunemibono eminingi ngalesi sihloko njengoba kunabantu ababanikezayo, ngakho-ke sinqume ukucela uchwepheshe ozosiza aqede ukudideka.

Sixoxisane no-Emily Kircher-Morris, MA, MEd, PLPC, kanye nomeluleki oqeqeshiwe onikezwe amalayisense okwesikhashana eSt. besifuna ukuthi akhanyise ngesimo esivamile semindeni eminingi.

Q: Ngabe uneminyaka mingaki lapho uphakamisa ukuthi kwehlukaniswe amakamelo okulala abafana namantombazane?

IMP: Akukho ukunqunyulwa kweminyaka ethile okudinga ukuthi izingane zobulili obuhlukile zihlukanise amakamelo. Abazali kufanele baqaphe ukuthi izingane zabo zikuphi, ngokwentuthuko, futhi bathathe izinqumo lapho.

Imvamisa, lapho izingane zisesikoleni, ziqala ukuqaphela isidingo sesizotha futhi zingazizwa zingakhululekile ukushintsha phambi kwengane yobulili obuhlukile; kodwa-ke, kungenziwa indawo yokuhlala yalokhu, futhi izingane zingashintsha kwezinye izindawo noma ngezikhathi ezihlukile.

Kodwa-ke, ngesikhathi izingane zifinyelela ebusheni, kuzoba nzima kakhulu kubo ukuthi bazizwe bekhululekile ukwabelana nokwabelana ngendawo, futhi isidingo sobumfihlo nendawo kufanele sihlonishwe ngangokunokwenzeka.

Q: Yiziphi izici abazali okufanele bazibheke lapho benquma ukuthi kufanele bazihlukanise izingane?

IMP: Uma kukhona ukukhathazeka ngokuthi ingane yenza ngendlela enobudlova ngokocansi, kubalulekile ukuthi izingane zihlukaniswe. Uma eyodwa noma zombili izingane zike zahlukunyezwa ngokocansi, zingaba nobunzima bokuqonda imingcele ecacile ehambisana nobumfihlo.

Uma ingane izwakalisa ukukhathazeka mayelana nobumfihlo, imindeni izozuza ekuthatheni ngokungathi sína lokho okukhathazayo futhi isebenze ngokubambisana ukuthola isisombululo esifanele.

Q: Iyini imiphumela uma izingane zingahlukaniswa kusenesikhathi ngokwanele?

IMP: Eminye imindeni ingabona inzuzo enkulu ngokuba nezingane zabelana ngendawo yokulala phakathi nobusha bazo. Izingane zingaba nokuhlangana okuqinile komunye nomunye futhi zizizwe zikhululekile ukuhlanganyela izinto zazo. Izelamani nazo zingathola induduzo ngokulala egumbini elilodwa nomfowenu noma udadewabo.

Njengoba izingane zingena ebusheni, ukuba nendawo lapho zingazizwa zikhululekile khona ngemizimba yazo kubalulekile. Ukukhathazeka ngomfanekiso womzimba kungaholela enganeni ezizwa ingakhululekile noma engaqiniseki ngomzimba wayo, [futhi] ukuba negumbi elilodwa kungakhulisa imizwa yokukhathazeka ngaphakathi kwengane.

Umbuzo: Abazali bangabhekana kanjani nalesi simo uma bengenayo indawo eyanele yokubahlukanisa? (Yiziphi ezinye izindlela?)

IMP: Imindeni ehlanganyela amakamelo ngesidingo ingathola izixazululo zezinkinga. Izingane zinganikezwa indawo yazo ebekiwe yokugcina izingubo namathoyizi egumbini lokulala. Ukunikeza enye indawo yokushintsha izingubo, njengendlu yangasese, noma isheduli yegumbi lokulala, kungasiza nezingane ukuthi zifunde imingcele efanele ubumfihlo phakathi kobulili.

Umbuzo: Abazali kufanele bakuchaze kanjani ukwahlukana ezinganeni ezingathandi ezijwayele ukuba segumbini elilodwa?

IMP: Ngokugcizelela izinzuzo zokuba nendawo yabo, abazali bangakhuthaza izingane ezingathandi ukwamukela ushintsho ezinhlelweni zokulala. Ngokuthatha isikhathi sokwakha isikhala esikhethekile ezinganeni, abazali bangasiza izingane ukuthi zizizwe zijabule ngoshintsho futhi zizinikeze ubunikazi kule ndawo entsha.

Q: Kuthiwani uma umfana nentombazane bengabazala? Ngabe lokho kuyaziguqula izinto (kubo bobabili izingane zakubo ezisondelene ngokweminyaka nalabo abaqhelelene ngeminyaka?)

IMP: Lokhu ikakhulukazi kungaba ukukhathazeka okuhlobene nobudala lapho izingane zaba izingane zakubo. Uma behlanganiswa ndawonye besebancane ... isimo besizofana kakhulu nezingane zakwabo. Izingane ezindala zizohlomula ngokuba nendawo yazo.

Q: Kuthiwani uma izelamani zibonana izikhathi ezimbalwa kuphela ngonyaka? Ingabe lokhu kuyaziguqula izinto?

Impendulo: Futhi, lokhu kuzosebenza ngokuya ngeminyaka yezingane zakubo nokuthi babe ngabazala nini. Lapho ingane ifinyelela ezingeni lapho isiqonda khona isidingo sesizotha nobumfihlo, kungaba nzima ukulindela ukuthi babelane ngendawo. Kodwa-ke, ukube bekuyizikhathi ezimbalwa kuphela ngonyaka isikhathi esifushane, bekungaba nomthelela omkhulu ezinganeni ngaphansi kokwabelana kwesikhathi eside. Uma izingane ziqhelelene ngeminyaka, kungenzeka ukuthi sekusondele ekubeni yisikhathi sokuthomba, noma enye iveze isidingo esiningi sobumfihlo kunenye kufanele ibe nendawo ehlukile.