Uzoba Nini "Nenkulumo" nezingane zakho

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• Iqiniso Mayelana Nesikhathi
• Yimiphi Imibuzo Engingayilindela?
• Ungazilungiselela Kanjani Lezi zingxoxo
• Ungalutholaphi Usizo
• Amaphuzu Okukhuluma Okusemqoka
• Kuthiwani Uma Ngingakwazi Ukuphendula Umbuzo?
• Ukuthatha

Kwesinye isikhathi ibizwa ngokuthi "izinyoni nezinyosi," "inkulumo yezocansi" esabekayo nezingane zakho nakanjani izokwenzeka ngesikhathi esithile.

Kepha yisiphi isikhathi esihle sokuthola? Ngenkathi ungahle ulingeke ukukubambezela isikhathi eside ngangokunokwenzeka, ukukhuluma nezingane zakho kusenesikhathi futhi imvamisa kuyindlela engcono yokuqinisekisa ukuthi benza izinqumo ezinhle ngokuthomba kanye nocansi ngenkathi bekhula.

Kubalulekile ukuthi usukulungele ukuphendula imibuzo yezingane zakho njengoba zivela, kepha asikho isidingo sokufaka yonke into engxoxweni eyodwa. Ingxoxo izoguquka njengoba ingane yakho ikhula.

Iqiniso Mayelana Nesikhathi

UMnyango Wezempilo kanye Nezinsizakalo Zabantu e-U.S. Uthola ukuthi akukaze kusheshe kakhulu ukuqala ukuba nalezi zinhlobo zezingxoxo nezingane zakho.

Lapho ingane yakho isencane, ungaqaphela ukuthi imvamisa izothinta izitho zayo eziyimfihlo. Ukuziphatha okunjalo ilukuluku elijwayelekile hhayi ezocansi. Noma kunjalo, ungahle uthande ukubhekana nale nkinga ukuze uqiniseke ukuthi ingane yakho ayikwenzi esidlangalaleni. Ungahle ufune ukuqondisa kabusha ukunaka kwabo kwenye indawo, noma umane uvume ukuthi lokhu kuyimfihlo futhi akufanele kwenziwe esidlangalaleni. Ungathethisi noma ujezise ingane yakho encane ngalezi zenzo. Lokho kungabenza bathuthukise ukugxila okwandayo ezithweni zabo zobulili noma bazizwe benamahloni okukhuluma ngezocansi. Qiniseka ukuthi ufundisa ingane yakho encane igama elifanele lezitho zayo zangasese, ukuze bakwazi ukukutshela ngokunembile uma kukhona okubuhlungu noma okubahluphayo.

Ngokusho kweMayo Clinic, uma ingane yakho ihlale ishaya indlwabu noma izithinta, ingakhombisa inkinga. Kungenzeka ukuthi abakutholi ukunakwa okwanele. Kungaba ngisho uphawu lokuhlukumeza ngokocansi. Qiniseka ukuthi ufundisa ingane yakho ukuthi akekho umuntu ovunyelwe ukuthinta izitho zakhe zangasese ngaphandle kwemvume.

Uma ingane yakho ingakubuzi imibuzo ngezocansi noma ngezitho zayo zomzimba, ungayilindi. Qiniseka ukuthi uqala ingxoxo uma nje befika eminyakeni yabo eyishumi nambili. Isikhathi esiphakathi kobuntwana nokuba mdala sibizwa ngobusha. Ingane yakho izothomba ngalesi sikhathi futhi umzimba wayo ushintsha kakhulu. Ihlukile emantombazaneni nakubafana.

• Amantombazane: Ukuthomba kuqala phakathi kweminyaka eyi-9 nengu-13 Ngenkathi amantombazane amaningi ethola isikhathi sokuya esikhathini aneminyaka ephakathi kwengu-12 kuya kwengu-13, kungaqala eseneminyaka yobudala engu-9. Kubalulekile ukuthi abazali bakhulume namadodakazi abo ngokuya esikhathini ngaphambi kokuba baye esikhathini. Ukubona kwegazi kungethusa kakhulu intombazanyana.
• Abafana: Ukuthomba kuqala phakathi kweminyaka yobudala eyi-10 nengu-13. Khuluma nabafana ngokujula kwabo okokuqala kule minyaka, noma ngabe bengabonakali sengathi bayathomba.

Ungalindi ukuthi ube nenkulumo eyodwa enkulu. Ukuba nezingxoxo eziningi ezincane ngocansi kwenza isipiliyoni kube lula ukusisingatha futhi kunikeza ingane isikhathi sokuzindla ngephuzu ngalinye. Ingane yakho ingesaba ukukhuluma nawe mayelana nokuthomba. Ngokuvamile kuyisikhathi esididayo nesicindezelayo ezimpilweni zabo. Lokhu kujwayelekile impela.

Kuyasiza ukuqala ingxoxo ngokubakhumbuza kaningi ukuthi lokhu ababhekene nakho kujwayelekile futhi kuyingxenye yokukhula. Batshele ukuthi nawe udlule kukho. Lapho ingane yakho seyijwayele ukwabelana nawe ngalolu lwazi nemibono, kuzoba lula kakhulu kini nobabili ukuqhubeka nikhuluma njengoba ingane yenu idlula esigabeni sayo sobusha nangaphezulu.

Yimiphi Imibuzo Engingayilindela?

Akunakwenzeka ukwazi konke okungenzeka ukuthi ingane yakho izibuza ngocansi nangobudlelwano. Noma kunjalo, ungazilungiselela ukuthola eminye yemibuzo ebuzwa kakhulu.

• Zivelaphi izingane?
• Kungani nginamabele? Zizokhula nini?
• Kungani unezinwele phansi lapho?
• Kungani ngingakasitholi isikhathi sami? Kungani ngiba nesikhathi? Kungani abafana bengenaso isikhathi?
• Kusho ukuthini ukuba yisitabane noma isitabane?
• Ingabe ucansi lomlomo lubhekwa njengobulili, futhi?
• Ngingazi kanjani ukuthi ngine-STD?
• Ngingakhulelwa nje ngokuzikhohlisa?
• Umngani wami ukhulelwe, kumele enzenjani?

Eminye yale mibuzo ingabonakala inzima noma kunzima ukuphendula. Vele uzame ukuphendula umbuzo ngendlela eqondile. Ingane yakho mhlawumbe iyokwaneliswa ngolwazi oluncane ngesikhathi.

Ungazilungiselela Kanjani Lezi zingxoxo

Kufanele uzilungiselele futhi ulungele ukuphendula imibuzo ezayo. Uhlobo lwemibuzo ebuzwa ingane yakho lungakunika umbono omuhle ngalokho abakwaziyo vele. Izeluleko ezilandelayo zingakusiza ukuthi uqalise.

• Yazi ukwakheka komzimba. Funda amagama afanele engxenye ngayinye yomzimba. Lokhu kusebenza kuzinhlelo zokuzala zesilisa nezesifazane.
• Thembeka. Ungesabi ukuvuma enganeni yakho ukuthi uzizwa unamahloni okukhuluma ngayo futhi. Lolu hlobo lozwela lungasiza ingane yakho ukuthi izizwe ikhululekile futhi ibuze imibuzo eminingi.
• Landisa. Xoxa izindaba ngokuhlangenwe nakho kwakho siqu lapho ukhula.
• Ukubonakala kwekheli. Khuphula izinduna, ukushintsha kwemizwelo, ukukhula kokukhula, nezinguquko zehomoni nokuthi lezi zinto zingenzeka kanjani ngezikhathi ezahlukahlukene ezinganeni ezahlukahlukene nokuthi kujwayelekile kanjani lokho.
• Vula izindlebe zakho. Lalelisisa futhi ubabheke emehlweni. Ungabuzi imibuzo eminingi futhi uyigcine ijwayelekile uma wenza njalo.
• Yiba nomusa. Ungalokothi uklolodele, usole, noma ubukele phansi imibono nemizwa yengane yakho.
• Hlonipha. Khetha indawo ethule, eyimfihlo ozokhuluma kuyo. Hlonipha izifiso zabo zokukhuluma kuphela noMama noma uBaba ngezihloko ezithile.
• Nikeza izinsiza. Dala uhlu lwamawebhusayithi nezincwadi ezinikeza imininingwane ngezocansi ocabanga ukuthi zinembile.

Ungalutholaphi Usizo

Kunamawebhusayithi amaningi athembekile nathembekile anikezela ngemininingwane enembile ngempilo yezocansi nentuthuko. Ngemuva kokukhuluma nengane yakho futhi uyazise ukuthi ulapha ukuzophendula noma imiphi imibuzo engase ibe nayo, ungayinikeza lezi zinsiza.

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Amaphuzu Okukhuluma Okusemqoka

Izingane zizoba nemibuzo ehlukene nokukhathazeka ngezocansi, ukuthomba, kanye nemizimba yazo eguqukayo njengoba zikhula. Hlela izimpendulo zakho emibuzweni ethile abayibuzayo, kodwa qiniseka ukumboza okulandelayo uma kufanelekile ukwenza kanjalo ngaleso sikhathi engxoxweni.

• Lapho ingane yakho isencane futhi iqala ukuqonda ukuthi "inezitho zangasese," qiniseka ukuphinda ukuthi akekho, ngisho nomngani noma ilunga lomndeni, onelungelo lokuthinta lezi zindawo.
• Ulwazi mayelana nokukhulelwa kanye nama-STD (izifo ezithathelwana ngocansi), njenge-gonorrhea, i-HIV / AIDS, ne-herpes, noma ngabe ucabanga ukuthi ingane yakho ayikabi ocansini okwamanje.
• Imininingwane yokuthi ungazivikela kanjani kuma-STD nokuthi ungakugwema kanjani ukukhulelwa.
• Ungakusebenzisa kanjani ukuvikela (njengamakhondomu) ngesikhathi socansi nokuthi ungawathenga kuphi.
• Yini ongayilindela ngokuya ngokushintsha komzimba, njengezinwele zasesidlangalaleni nezingaphansi kwekhwapha, ushintsho lwezwi (abafana), noshintsho lwamabele (amantombazane).
• Ungasisebenzisa nini futhi kanjani isiqedaphunga.
• Yini ongayilindela ebudlelwaneni nokuthi yini okufanele uyibheke kumlingani othandana naye. Ungasetha imithetho yokuthi kulungile yini ukuqala ukuphola. Qiniseka ukuthi ingane yakho ibeka okulindelwe okungokoqobo ebudlelwaneni bayo bokuqala.
• Yini okufanele bayenze uma bezizwa bephoqelekile ukuba baye ocansini bengakakulungeli.
• Kumantombazane, yini okufanele bayenze okokuqala lapho bethola isikhathi, kufaka phakathi ukuthi bangalisebenzisa kanjani iphedi netampon nokuthi yini abangayilindela ngobuhlungu.
• Kubafana, yini okufanele bayenze uma bekhipha umjovo noma babe "nephupho elimanzi."
• Ngaphezu kwakho konke, kwacaca ukuthi akukho okubaluleke kakhulu kuwe kunokuphepha kwabo nenhlala-kahle yabo.

Kuthiwani Uma Ngingakwazi Ukuphendula Umbuzo?

Uma wena nengane yakho ninenkinga yokukhulumisana, cela usizo kudokotela wezingane. Bangakwazi ukukhuluma nengane yakho ngqo, noma bangakudlulisela kumeluleki womndeni ogxile kulezi zinhlobo zezinkinga. Ingane yakho ingahle ingazethembi mayelana nezinduna zayo nezinye izinguquko ekubukekeni kwazo. Bathathe bayobona udokotela wesikhumba, indawo yokwenza izinwele, noma i-orthodontist uma beqala ukukhathazeka kakhulu ngokuthi babukeka kanjani.

Kukhona nezincwadi eziningi ezinhle ezitholakalayo ezikhuluma ngezocansi ezingeni elifanele iminyaka yengane yakho. Buza isikole sengane yakho mayelana nekharikhulamu yayo emfundweni yezocansi ukuze ukwazi ukuzihlola futhi uzilungiselele ukukhuluma ngayo ekhaya.

Ukuthatha

Khumbula ukuthi akukaze kusheshe kakhulu noma kwephuze kakhulu ukuqala lezi zingxoxo. Ukuthi ingane yakho ayibuzi noma ayikhulisi ngqo kuwe akusho ukuthi sezivele ziyazazi izimpendulo. Ngokuvamile abakwenzi. Noma kungenzeka ukuthi bathola imininingwane engaqondile kubangani babo. Ukubazisa nje ukuthi uyatholakala ukuthi ukhulume noma kunini kunganele ukwenza ingxoxo iqhubeke.

Ekugcineni, zama ukungabaniki imininingwane eminingi ngasikhathi sinye. Uma isihloko sisengqondweni yabo futhi baqala ukuzizwa bekhululeke kakhudlwana ukukhuluma nawe ngakho, bangabuya ngokuhamba kwesikhathi nemibuzo eminingi.