Kungani KULUNGILE Uma Ungazange Ufinyelele Zonke Izinjongo Zakho Kulo nyaka

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Sonke sinemigomo. Kukhona emincane, yansuku zonke (njengokuthi, "Ngizogijima imayela elilodwa ngaphezulu namuhla"), bese kuba nemigomo emikhulu, yonyaka wonke esiyigaxa ngaphansi kwelebula elisabisayo "isinqumo." Lapho uchaza izinqumo zakho zango-2016, kungenzeka ukuthi ubucabanga ukuthi manje, ezinyangeni eziyi-12 kamuva, ngabe wehle usayizi ngenxa yesisindo obukade unaso okufanele ukulahlekelwa noma ukuthi ekugcineni ungazinqamula izifiso zakho zikashokolethi ngokuhle. Lapha sisonqenqemeni luka-2017, futhi mhlawumbe awukho eduze nalapho ubucabanga ukuthi uzoba khona. Mhlawumbe kuthatha isikhathi eside kunalokho obekulindelwe, noma mhlawumbe ubonile ukuthi ngeke kwenzeke nhlobo.

Kulungile. "Kwesinye isikhathi izinqumo azisebenzi," kusho uGina Van Luven, isikhulumi sezempilo, umbhali nomqeqeshi. Ngokuvamile uma lokho kwenzeka, uyazishaya. Futhi leyo nqubo, uma ucabanga ngayo, ayikusondezi ekufinyeleleni ezinhlosweni zakho. Vele kukukhathaza. "Ukuzihlambalaza kuwukuzihlula wena," kusho uVan Luven.

Isixazululo esingcono: Thola indlela yokudlulela phambili. U-Erin Clifford, umqeqeshi wezempilo jikelele, uthi kufana nokulwa nomlingani wakho. Uyazi ukuthi akunempilo ukuqhubeka uvuselela impikiswano efanayo kaninginingi, futhi leso simo sengqondo kufanele sisebenze lapho ufinyelela ezinhlosweni zakho. “Akusizi muntu ukuzishaya ngento ebingenzeki phambilini,” usho kanje.

Ungase ulingeke ukugwema ukuphoxeka ngokuphelele ngokweqa izinqumo kulo nyaka. Kodwa kukhona inzuzo esenzweni sokudala imigomo nokusebenza ukuze ufinyelele kuyo, ngisho noma ungafinyeleli kuyo. "Enye yezingcaphuno zami engizithandayo ukuthi, 'Kumayelana nenqubekela phambili hhayi ukuphelela,'" kusho uClifford. (Okuhlobene: Ochwepheshe abangama-25 Babelana Ngamathiphu Ukuze Bafeze Noma Yimuphi Umgomo)

Ake sithi uqalise unyaka ngenhloso yokwehlisa amakhilogremu ayi-10, kanti ulahlekelwe izithandani kuphela. "Gubha amakhilogremu ama-2 owalahlile!" UVan Luven uthi. Inhloso yakho yokwehlisa isisindo kungenzeka ukuthi ikusizile wakha imikhuba enempilo. Mhlawumbe manje ushaya ijimu njalo noma ulangazelela isaladi phezu kwama-cheeseburgers. Lezo yizinto okufanele siziqhenye ngazo, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi isikali sithini. "Kukhona ukukhetha okuhle okwenziwa ohlelweni okwenza kube nesipiliyoni esizuzisayo, ngakho-ke gxila kulezo zinto," kusho uVan Luven.

Ngemva kokucabangisisa ngezinto ozitholile kwesokudla, cabanga ngokuthi kungani izinhloso zingakusebenzelanga. "Uma uhlala njalo ungahlangabezani nezinhloso zakho, udinga ukubuza ukuthi kungani," kusho uVan Luven. Ingabe umgomo wawuphakeme kakhulu noma wawungenakulinganiswa? Ingabe kwakungenangqondo ngokuphelele? Ingabe ubuzenzela wena kanzima? "Yilapho imilingo ikhona: ukumba bese uthola ukuthi kungani uthatha izinqumo ezimbi kunokukhetha ezinempilo," kusho uVan Luven.

Thatha lezo zifundo futhi uzisebenzise ukubumba izinqumo zakho zango-2017. Qala ngokucacisa ngangokunokwenzeka. Uma ufuna ukunciphisa isisindo, ngena kokungakanani ofuna ukukulahla nokuthi uzokwenza kanjani. "Yilapho izinqumo nezinhloso zabantu eziningi zehluleka khona phambilini, uma bengenalo uhlelo lwangempela," kusho uClifford. Uzojoyina ijimu noma uqashe umqeqeshi? Noma weqa ukushayela kwakho kwasekuseni okujwayelekile nge-breakfast bese wenza i-oatmeal esikhundleni salokho? Setha uhlelo olungokoqobo, futhi uqiniseke ukuthi luzosebenza kahle nendlela yakho yokuphila. Isibonelo, uma ungeyena umuntu wasekuseni, ungazibophezeli ekusebenzeni ngaphambi kokuya ehhovisi, kusho uClifford.

Zibuze ukuthi kungani leso sinqumo sibalulekile kuwe. Kungathatha ukucabanga okuthile (UClifford uncoma ukuthi ukushicilela izindaba kuvele nokuthi "kungani"), kepha ukuthola isizathu senhloso kungakusiza ukuthi uhlale ukhuthazekile lapho izikhathi ziba nzima. Ungakwazi futhi ukuhlala usendleleni ngokubona ngeso lengqondo ukuthi impilo yakho izoba njani uma usufinyelele umgomo. Bhala phansi eminye imicabango kuleyo jenali noma ubeke izingcaphuno ezikhuthazayo noma izithombe eduze kwendlu yakho noma kuvisor yemoto yakho lapho ungazibona khona zonke izinsuku, kusho uClifford. Ekugcineni, thola amalungu omndeni noma abangane abazongena nawe futhi bakwenze uziphendulele. "Bafana nabalandeli bakho," kusho uClifford.

Ungacabangi futhi ukuthi yini akazange kwenzeke ngo-2016. Ngunyaka omusha, futhi uqala zisuka nje. "Uzibophezele manje," kusho uClifford. "Uyaqala manje." Futhi zonke izinsuku osondela kuzo kunoma yini oqonde ukufeza ukuwina ngokwakho.

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