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Ukucabangela kuyathrenda ngenxa yesizathu esithile: Umkhuba wokuhlala ukhona uboniswe ukuthi unezinzuzo ezinkulu zezempilo, kusukela ekusizeni ulahlekelwe isisindo kuye ekudambiseni ikhanda elibuhlungu. Ukuzindla sekungene emakilasini akho e-HIIT. Kepha ngenkathi ucabanga ukuthi ukucabanga njengento oyenzayo kumata we-yoga, kuthiwani uma sithi nayo inendawo efanelekile phakathi kwamashidi? Ngokusho kocwaningo olusha, ukuthola isimanga kungaletha izinzuzo ezinkulu zokucabanga.

Abacwaningi abavela eNyuvesi yaseNyakatho Illinois babheke ngokuqondile ukuhlangana kocansi kwesitayela se-BDSM-the Ama-50 Shades eGrey uhlobo lwezikhathi zokuya ocansini ezivumelanayo ezibandakanya ukugqilazwa, ukuyalwa / ukubusa, ukuzithoba / usizi, ozankosi, iziswebhu nakho konke okuphakathi. Ngokusho kukaBrad Sagarin, Ph.D., umbhali oholayo ocwaningweni ocwaninga ezinye izinhlobo zocansi, abasebenza nge-BDSM bavame ukubika ngokungananazi ukuthi bangena "esimweni sokugeleza" sokucabanga, okufana nabasubathi be-mindset ababika lapho baphakathi indawo, noma umuzwa ongase ube nawo phakathi neqhawe eligxile ngokukhethekile II. “Ukugeleza kuyisimo esijabulisayo nesithokozisayo abantu abangena kuso uma benza umsebenzi odinga ikhono eliphezulu,” kusho uSagarin. "Yisimo lapho umhlaba wonke uphela khona futhi othile ugxile kakhulu kulokho abakwenzayo."

Ukuhlola amandla ocansi ukuze kwakheke isimo sokugeleza, ithimba labacwaningi liqashe imibhangqwana eyisikhombisa futhi labeka ngokungahleliwe umlingani oyedwa ukuthi abe "phezulu" (umuntu onikeza imiyalo) futhi omunye abe "phansi" (umlingani olalelayo ). Abaphenyi babe sebebabona beya ocansini (yep, ababambiqhaza abanesibindi!), Bephawula izinhlobo zemisebenzi eyenzeka ngenkathi kulinganiswa imizwa, izinga lokucindezeleka, imizwa yokusondelana, amazinga e-cortisol, amazinga e-testosterone, kanye nesipiliyoni se- "state state" (kulinganiswa nge Ucwaningo oluqinisekisiwe) lomhlanganyeli ngamunye. Bathole ukuthi into "yesimo sokugeleza" phakathi nalolu hlobo locansi ingokoqobo-bonke abantu babike imizwa engcono, babonise amazinga aphansi okucindezeleka, futhi bathole amaphuzu aphezulu esikalini sombuso wokugeleza.

Ngenkathi uSagarin nethimba lakhe bebheka kuphela ukuhlangana ngocansi kwesitayela se-BDSM, lokho okutholakele kungahle kube nomthelela kulabo abaphila ngokuya ocansini olungenazintshisekelo, usho kanjalo. "Ukunakwa okunakwa abantu komunye nomunye esimweni sesigcawu se-BDSM kunezinye izinhlobo zokuxhumana ngokocansi.Uma abantu begxile komunye nomunye nokuhlangenwe nakho okuhle komlingani wabo, singabona izinhlobo ezifanayo zemiphumela, "usho kanje. Ngamanye amazwi, ukugxila ekubeni sesikhathini ngokuphelele esikhathini esizayo lapho umatasa kungaba yinto entsha indlela yokuletha ukucabanga empilweni yakho ngaphandle kokubeka uzwane kumata we-yoga noma umcamelo wokuzindla.

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