Ingqondo Yakho Ivuliwe: Uthando

-Delile

• Buyekeza kwe-

Uthando olusha lungenza uzizwe sengathi uyahamba uyahlanya. Awukwazi ukudla noma ukulala. Ufuna ukukuthola ku ...konke isikhathi. Abangani bakho balahla amagama afana nokuthi "uthathekile" (futhi awubaphiki). Kodwa noma ngabe usunamashumi eminyaka unothile, uthando luyaqhubeka lushukumisa ingqondo yakho ngezindlela ezimangalisayo, ingasaphathwa eyokuthi Ubuhlobo Bakho Buyithinta Kangakanani Impilo Yakho. Ngokusobala, uthando luya ngqo ekhanda lakho-ngokoqobo. Thola ukuthi ubuchopho bakho buhileleke kanjani kwezothando lwakho.

Uthando Olusha

Abanye bakubiza ngokuthi "isigaba senkanuko." Kepha ezinye zezindlela uthando olusha oluthinta ngayo ubuchopho bakho zizoqhubeka inqobo nje uma ukulingane wakho-noma ngabe ubudlelwane benu buhlala iminyaka engama-50, kusho uHelen Fisher, Ph.D., isazi semvelo somuntu nombhali Kungani Sithanda.

Kulesi sigaba sokuqala, uFisher uthi indawo enkulu yokusebenza kobuchopho obuhlobene nothando yindawo ye-ventral tegmental (VTA). Ilawula uhlelo lwakho lokuklomelisa, futhi idlala indima enkulu emizweni yakho yesifiso, ikhono lakho lokugxila, kanye namazinga akho wamandla. Kanjani? I-VTA yakho ivuselela ukukhiqizwa kwe-dopamine-isikhuthazi semvelo esigcwala ezinye izifunda zekhanda lakho futhi sikhiqize ukuphakama okufana nezidakamizwa, kusho uFisher. "Uzizwa ujabule futhi ujabule, futhi mhlawumbe ngisho nokuthatheka kancane lapho ucabanga ngomlingani wakho," echaza.

Uthi kunomsebenzi endaweni yobuchopho bakho obizwa nge-insular cortex, elawula imizwa yokukhathazeka. Lokhu kuchaza uhlangothi olunzima ngezinye izikhathi, oluncane kakhulu lothando olusha olungenza kube nzima ukuthi ulale noma udle ngendlela evamile, uFisher uyanezela.

Izinyanga Eziningana Ebudlelwaneni obunothando

I-cortex yakho engaphakathi ihlanganisiwe, okusho ukuthi uyi-nutso encane kunalokho owawuyikho lapho uthando lwakho luthatha iphiko. Cishe uzozizwa ungakhathazekile futhi unamathele kakhulu kunangaphambili, futhi isifiso sakho sokulala nokulala kungenzeka ukuthi kubuyele emigedeni yabo ejwayelekile, kusho uFisher.

Kusekhona ukwanda ekukhiqizeni kobuchopho bakho i-dopamine evuselelayo noma nini lapho ucabanga ngomlingani wakho. Kodwa angase angabuzi imicabango yakho ngendlela enza ngayo lapho niqala ukuthandana, kusikisela uFisher.

Ucwaningo oluvela e-UK lukhombisa i-hormone elawula amazinga e-cortisol ebuchosheni bakho - anyuka lapho ucindezelekile-futhi athanda ukukha phezulu uma ungekho nomlingani wakho. UFisher uthi kunengqondo ukuthi ungazizwa uvikelekile kancane futhi ucindezelekile uma uhlukene nothando lwakho. (Lezi ezinye Izinzuzo Zempilo Ezi-9 Zothando zingase zisimangaze futhi).

Uthando Lwesikhathi Eside

Yize abanye besho okuhlukile, ucwaningo lukaFisher lukhombisa ukuthi i-VPA yakho isavutha uma ucabanga ngomuntu wakho. "Ngisho nangemva kweminyaka eminingi, sabona uhlobo olufanayo lokukhishwa kwe-dopamine kanye nenjabulo lapho abantu becabanga ngabalingani babo," esho. Futhi umsebenzi ku-ventral pallidum yakho ithuthuke kancane-leso sifunda singaxhunyaniswa nemizwa yokunamathela okujulile, kusho uFisher.

"Kukhona futhi umsebenzi ezifundeni ezimbili ezixhumene nomuzwa wokuzola nokukhululeka kobuhlungu," echaza, ebhekise ku-raphe nuclei kanye ne-periaqueductal grey. Uthi kukhona ngisho ucwaningo olukhombisa ukuthi abantu abathandanayo bangakwazi ukubekezelela ubuhlungu obungaphezu kwabangashadile.

Ngakho-ke noma ngabe uthando lwakho lusha noma selukhulile, imicabango yomlingani wakho ithinta ubuchopho bakho ngezindlela ezimangalisayo. “Uthando alushintshi ngendlela abantu abangase bacabange ngayo, ngisho nangemva kweminyaka eminingi,” kusho uFisher. Futhi ungayivuselela ngempela leyo nhlansi yothando olusha futhi ukhulise i-orgasm yakho ngokuhlola eyodwa yale Mikhiqizo Eyisi-6 Yocansi Olugangile ekamelweni....noma yikuphi ngempela (zama nje ukuthi ungabanjwa!).

Buyekeza kwe-