Ukubopha ingane yakho esanda kuzalwa

Ukubopha kwenzeka lapho wena nengane yakho niqala ukuzwa ukunamathela okuqinile komunye nomunye. Ungase uzwe uthando olukhulu nenjabulo lapho ubheka ingane yakho. Ungazizwa uvikela ingane yakho kakhulu.

Lobu budlelwane bokuqala nawe obufundisa izingane ukuba zizizwe zivikelekile futhi zinhle ngabo nabanye abantu. Bafunda ukukuthemba ngoba bayazi ukuthi ubanakile futhi uyabanakekela. Izingane ezinezibopho eziqinile nabazali bazo maningi amathuba okuthi zithembe abanye futhi zibe nobudlelwano obuhle nabantu abadala.

Wena nengane yakho ningahlangana phakathi kwemizuzu embalwa, ngaphezu kwezinsuku ezimbalwa, noma amasonto ambalwa. Ukubopha kungathatha isikhathi eside uma ingane yakho idinga ukunakekelwa okunamandla kwezempilo lapho izalwa, noma uma wamukele ingane yakho. Yazi ukuthi ungasondelana nengane yakho yokutholwa kanye nabazali bokuzalwa isibopho nezingane zabo.

UNGAKHATHAZEKI noma uzizwe unecala uma kuthatha isikhathi esithe xaxa kunalokho obekulindelekile ukwakha ubuhlobo obuseduze nengane yakho. Lokhu akusho ukuthi ungumzali omubi. Uma nje unakekela izidingo eziyisisekelo zengane yakho, isibopho sizokwakheka.

Uma inqubo yokubeletha ihambe kahle, ingane yakho ingahle iqaphele lapho izalwa. Thatha lesi sikhathi ukubamba ubheke ingane yakho. Leli yithuba elihle lokubopha. Ezinye izikhathi zokubopha zingenzeka uma:

• Ubisi lwebele. Uma ukhethe ukuncelisa, ingane yakho izonamathela ephunga lakho nasekuthinteni ngesikhathi sokuphakelwa.
• Ukuphakelwa kwamabhodlela.Ngesikhathi sokuphakelwa kwamabhodlela, ingane yakho ingakwazi nokujwayela iphunga nokuthinta kwakho.
• Bamba ingane yakho, ikakhulukazi isikhumba esikhunjeni lapho ungakwazi.
• Bheka iso nengane yakho.
• Phendula ingane yakho lapho ikhala. Abanye abantu bakhathazeka ngokulimaza ingane. Kepha ngeke wonakalise ingane yakho ngokunakwa kakhulu.
• Dlala nengane yakho.
• Khuluma, funda futhi uhlabelele ingane yakho. Lokhu kumsiza ukuthi azi kahle umsindo wezwi lakho.

Lapho uletha ikhaya lakho elisanda kuzalwa, umsebenzi wakho ukunakekela ingane yakho nesibopho. Lokhu kulula uma unosizo ekhaya. Ungakhathala kakhulu ngenxa yemithwalo yemfanelo emisha eza nokuthola umntwana omusha. Vumela abangani nomndeni bathathe imisebenzi ejwayelekile njengokuwasha izingubo, ukuthenga ukudla nokupheka.

Ungaba nenkinga yokuhlangana nengane yakho uma:

• Ngibe nenqubo ende noma enzima yokubeletha
• Uzizwe ukhathele
• Thola ukuguquka kwemizwelo noma izinguquko ze-hormonal
• Bhekana nokucindezeleka kwangemva kokubeletha
• Yiba nomntwana odinga ukunakekelwa okukhethekile kwezokwelapha

Futhi, lokhu akusho ukuthi ungumzali ombi noma ukuthi awusoze wakha isibopho. Kungathatha isikhathi esiningi nomzamo.

Ngemuva kwamasonto ambalwa wokunakekela usana lwakho olusanda kuzalwa, uma ungazizwa sengathi uyabopha noma uzizwa unamathele noma uthukuthele ngengane yakho, khuluma nomhlinzeki wezokunakekelwa kwempilo. Uma unesifo sokucindezeleka kwangemva kokubeletha, qiniseka ukuthi uzitholele usizo lochwepheshe ngokushesha okukhulu.

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