Imibuzo eyi-10 Udokotela Wakho Wesaba Kakhulu Ukukubuza (nokuthi Kungani Udinga Izimpendulo)

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Ubabona kanye ngonyaka noma lapho usezinhlungwini eziningi, ngakho-ke akumangazi ukuthi unzima ukukhuluma ne-doc yakho. (Futhi ngeke sikhulume nangobunzima bokuzama ukubuza u-doc wakho umbuzo ngenkathi ugqoke isikhwama sephepha esikhazinyulisiwe!) Kepha lokho kungaphatheki kahle kungahamba ngazo zombili izindlela, ngokusho kocwaningo olusha olutholile ukuthi odokotela bakuthola kunzima ukubuza imibuzo enzima yabo iziguli. Futhi lokho kungaba nomthelela omkhulu empilweni yakho. (Psst! Ungaphuthelwa yile Miyalo Kadokotela Emi-3 Okufanele Uyibuze.)

Abacwaningi baseNyuvesi yaseCalifornia, eSan Diego bathola ukuthi okuhlangenwe nakho kwabantu kwasebuntwaneni kuthonya kakhulu ingozi yesifo senhliziyo, ukukhuluphala ngokweqile, isifo sikashukela, ukugula ngengqondo, nezinye izinkinga zempilo.Beza nemibuzo ye-Adverse Childhood Experience (ACE) ebuza abantu imibuzo eyi-10 ngokuhlukunyezwa kwezingane, ukusetshenziswa kwezidakamizwa, nodlame lwasekhaya futhi yanikeza umuntu ngamunye amaphuzu. Ukuphakama kwamaphuzu, kungenzeka ukuthi lowo muntu ahlupheke ngezinkinga ezahlukahlukene zezempilo.

Ngenkathi abacwaningi beqikelela ukuthi lokhu kuhlolwa akulona ibhola lekristalu lempilo yakho, bathole ukuhlobana okuqinile ngokwanele, okuphakamisa ukuthi le mibuzo kufanele ibe yingxenye yazo zonke izivivinyo zomzimba ezijwayelekile. Manje kungani ingekho vele? "Abanye odokotela bacabanga ukuthi imibuzo ye-ACE ihlasela kakhulu," uVincent Felitti, M.D., omunye wabacwaningi abahamba phambili kulo msebenzi, utshele i-NPR. "Bakhathazekile ngokuthi ukubuza imibuzo enjalo kuzoholela ekukhaleni nasekuhlukumezeni ingqondo ...

Izindaba ezimnandi: Lokhu kwesaba akudingekile kusho uJeff Brenner, MD, ophumelele umklomelo weMacArthur Fellows nomgqugquzeli omkhulu we-ACE. Iziguli eziningi azidangali, futhi amaphuzu e-ACE, uBrenner uchaze ukuthi, "isesona sibikezelo esihle kakhulu esisitholile sokusetshenziswa kwezempilo, ukusetshenziswa kwezempilo; ukubhema, ukuluthwa utshwala, ukusebenzisa kabi izidakamizwa. Iqoqo lezinto ezinhle kakhulu ukunakekelwa kwezempilo kukhuluma ngaso sonke isikhathi. "

Umlayezo abacwaningi abafuna ukuthi iziguli nodokotela bawuthathe: Uhlobo lwekhaya esakhulela kulo—kanye nezinto esiye sabhekana nazo njengezingane—zibalulekile empilweni yethu, ngakho-ke kudingeka siqale ukuba nalezi zingxoxo. Ngisho nokwenza nje iziguli ukuthi zicabange ngempilo yazo namuhla njengoba kuhlobene nokuhlukumezeka kwengane kuyisinyathelo sendlela efanele. Ngakho-ke ekuhlolweni kukadokotela wakho olandelayo, uma udokotela wakho engalethi, mhlawumbe kufanele.

Unentshisekelo kumiphumela yakho ye-ACE? Thatha umbuzo:

1. Ngaphambi kosuku lwakho lokuzalwa lwe-18, ingabe umzali noma omunye umuntu omdala ekhaya kaningi noma kaningi…

- ukuthuka, ukuthuka, ukukubeka phansi, noma ukukuhlaza?

NOMA

- yenza ngendlela ekwenze wesaba ukuthi ungase ulimale emzimbeni?

2. Ngaphambi kokuzalwa kwakho kweminyaka eyi-18, ingabe umzali noma omunye umuntu omdala ekhaya ngokuvamile noma kaningi...

- Phusha, bamba, shaya ngempama, noma uphonsa okuthile kuwe?

NOMA

- wake wakushaya kanzima waze waba namamaki noma walimala?

3. Ngaphambi kosuku lwakho lokuzalwa lwe-18, ngabe umuntu omdala noma umuntu okungenani uneminyaka emihlanu ukwedlula wena…

- bakuthinte noma bakuphathe noma uthinte imizimba yabo ngendlela yocansi?

NOMA

- uzame noma ulale nawe ngomlomo, ngendunu, noma ngesitho sangasese sowesifazane?

4. Ngaphambi kosuku lwakho lokuzalwa lweshumi nesishiyagalombili, ingabe wawuvame ukuzwa noma uvamise ukuzwa ukuthi...

- akekho emndenini wakho omthandayo noma ocabanga ukuthi ubalulekile noma ukhethekile?

NOMA

- umndeni wakho ubungabhekani, uzizwe usondelene, noma usekelane?

5. Ngaphambi kosuku lwakho lokuzalwa lwesi-18, ingabe uke wazizwa kaningi noma kaningi…

- wawungenakho ukudla okwanele, kwakufanele ugqoke izingubo ezingcolile, futhi ungenabani wokukuvikela?

NOMA

- abazali bakho babedakwe kakhulu noma bephakeme kakhulu ukuthi bangakunakekela noma bakuyise kudokotela uma uyidinga?

6. Ngaphambi kosuku lwakho lokuzalwa lwe-18, ngabe umzali wakho wokuzalwa ulahlekile kuwe ngesahlukaniso, ngokulahlwa, noma ngesinye isizathu?

7. Ngaphambi kokuzalwa kwakho kweminyaka eyi-18, bekungunyoko noma usingamama:

- imvamisa noma ivame ukusunduzwa, ukubanjwa, ukushaywa ngempama, noma kukhona okuthile okuphonswe kuye?

NOMA

- kwesinye isikhathi, kaningi, noma kaningi ukukhahlelwa, ukulunywa, ukushaywa ngenqindi, noma ukushaywa ngento enzima?

NOMA

- uke washaya ngokuphindaphindiwe okungenani imizuzu embalwa noma wesatshiswa ngesibhamu noma ummese?

8. Ngaphambi kosuku lwakho lokuzalwa lwe-18, ngabe ubuhlala nanoma ngubani obenenkinga yokuphuza noma ophuza ngokweqile, noma osebenzisa izidakamizwa zasemgwaqweni?

9. Ngaphambi kosuku lwakho lokuzalwa lwe-18, ngabe ilungu lomndeni lalicindezelekile noma ligula ngokwengqondo, noma ngabe ilungu lomndeni lazama ukuzibulala?

10. Ngaphambi kokuba uhlanganise iminyaka engu-18, ingabe ilungu lasekhaya laya ejele?

Isikhathi ngasinye lapho uphendula ngokuthi "yebo", zinike iphuzu elilodwa. Hlanganisa ndawonye ukuze uthole amaphuzu asuka kuziro kuye ku-10. Uma isikolo sakho siphezulu, ziba nkulu izingozi zempilo yakho-kodwa ungathuki okwamanje. Abaphenyi banezela ukuthi imibuzo iyisiqalo nje; akunaki noma yikuphi ukwelapha okwenzile noma iziphi izinto ezinhle zasebuntwaneni owake waba nazo. Ukuthola eminye imininingwane ngezingozi ezithile, vakashela indawo yokufunda ye-ACE.

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