Imininingwane Eyi-10 Yabesifazane Ukuthi Babechazwa Njani EGym

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• "Wabe esengilandela ejimini ukuze ngizivocavoce wonke ukuze 'abuke ifomu lami.'
• "Ngaphambi kwe wami , uchaze ngokusobala ukuthi ayikho kulezi zinyathelo ezophumelela. "
• "Unqamule okunamathiselwe kwami."
• "Ukube bengifuna iseluleko sakhe, bengizobuza."
• "Uthathe izintambo zempi ezandleni zami."
• "Amadoda angayilungisa ifomu lami kodwa angasinaki isimo esibi sabanye abafana."
• "Umfana wangitshela ukuthi ngiphakamise izinsimbi ezilula."
• "Ubengazi ukuthi yini into ebulala abantu eRomania."
• "Utshele owesifazane omise kahle, ophakathi kweminyaka engu-20 ukuthi 'angasindi kakhulu.'"
• "Ngesikhathi ebona isethi yami yokuqala yokusebenza engamaphawundi angama-245, wavele washintsha inhliziyo yakhe."
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Konke kwaqala ngesikhathi sokuhlolwa okufana no-Dwayne "The Rock" Johnson. Ngangihleli emshinini werowu yekhebula, ngenza ukuzivocavoca kokugcina kokuzivocavoca emuva kukaDJ-isibulali samandla sokubamba esigcwele imigqa, ukudonsa izintambo, namahlombe e-dumbbell. Ngalesi sikhathi, amandla ami okubamba adutshulwa, ngakho-ke ngenkathi ngiphumula phakathi kwamasethi wami wokugcina amabili, ngabheka izandla zami. Umnumzane osekhulile osebenza emshinini olandelayo unquma, okwamanje, ukuthi kimi: "Yebo, lawo ngama-callus!" sengathi angikaze ngibabone ngaphambili empilweni yami.

I-WTF? Ngangifake ama-headphones anomculo ogcwele umsindo. Ngiyazi ukuthi kufanele ngiziphathe kanjani egumbini lesisindo. Futhi ukuba khona kwama-callus ngokuqinisekile kuwela ngaphansi kwesambulela "solwazi olujwayelekile." Asikho isizathu esisodwa esiqondakalayo sokuthi kungani lo mfana ebeke la mazwana.

Kepha noma ngabe akukho kulezi zinto bekuyiqiniso, lolo hlobo lokuphawula okungacelwanga-lokho ithoni-ayikaze ilunge. Ukuchasisa akulungi neze. Nasendaweni yokuzivocavoca umzimba, lapho abesifazane bakha khona imizimba eqinile, emibi yokulwela ubukhokho? Ngokuqinisekile njengoba isihogo akufanele sindiza. (Kulungile lapha: Inkinga Enkulu ngoDudes Mansplaining eGym.)

Noma kunjalo, ukuhleleka kwehla phansi ngesikhathi sokuzivocavoca kwabesifazane njengokujuluka ngesikhathi sekilasi le-spin. Lapho ngibuza abangani bami be-Facebook ukuthi bake babekezelela yini isimo esifanayo ngenkathi bezivocavoca, kwabonakala sengathi bonke abesifazane abasebenza ejimini kunethiwekhi yami babenaso. okungenani indaba eyodwa mayelana nama-dudes mansplaining esihogweni ekusebenzeni kwawo. (Akumangalisi ukuthi abanye besifazane besaba igumbi lesisindo.)

Izindaba eziyiqiniso ezingezansi zizokwenza uvale isibhakela sakho, uvule amehlo akho, futhi ufune ukubhalisela isigaba sesibhakela - kepha futhi kungakwenza uqaphele ukuthi uke waba yisisulu sokuchaselwa isikhathi esisodwa noma ezimbili ngokwakho.

Bafo, yekani. Futhi bantu besifazane, masilwe. Ngoba kunezinhlamvu ezanele ~ okufanele ubhekane nazo ejimini-futhi, isihogo, amadoda asabekayo okufanele ubhekane nawo ngaphandle wokuzivocavoca umzimba kanye nomchazi we-Workout akufanele abe ngomunye wabo.

"Wabe esengilandela ejimini ukuze ngizivocavoce wonke ukuze 'abuke ifomu lami.'

Ngesinye isikhathi, ngangikwenza ukuhlanza amandla ejimini (engikufunde ukwenza kahle njengomgijimi wezingoma oqeqeshiwe onamandla nomqeqeshi wokulungisa isimo). Ekupheleni kwamasethi ami, umqeqeshi weza kimi futhi wangitshela ukuthi mhlawumbe ngiphakamisa kakhulu wabe esezama ukungithengisa iphakheji yokuqeqesha naye ukuze "ngifunde okwengeziwe ngokuphakamisa." Ngathi, "yebo... ngilungile." Ngemuva kwalokho wabe esengilandela ezungeza ijimu ukuze ngizilolonge ngokuphelele ukuze "ngibuke ifomu lami." Ngangididekile ngokuthi uzozama ukungikhokhela ukuqeqeshwa ngenkathi ngenza nje ukuzilolonga kwami. Angikaze ngibuyele kuleyo jimi ngoba ngangicasukile." -UKristin, 26, eNew York City

"Ngaphambi kwe wami , uchaze ngokusobala ukuthi ayikho kulezi zinyathelo ezophumelela. "

Ngangifundisa ikilasi le-hip-hop isibhakela sokuxuba kanye nothisha wekilasi lesibhakela ngaphambi kokuthi lingene lizobuka. Phambi kwekilasi lami (eligcwaliswa njalo kuze kube sezingeni eliphakeme, futhi engikudalile, ngakulithuthukisa, ngalicwaninga futhi ngaklama ngomdwebo) wachaza ngokusobala ukuthi ayikho yalezi zinyathelo ezobasiza empini. Uthe bonke bangamanyathelo enziwa ngesihloko samanga esithi "isibhakela." Uh, alungile, ngoba ngubani ongenza i-twerking bese eyehla ayokwenza i-burpee ukuhamba kwabo kokulwa? -Kelley, 31, New York City

"Unqamule okunamathiselwe kwami."

Umnumzane osekhulile weza kimi ngenkathi ngisebenza kwenye yamakholomu ekhebula ngenza izandiso ze-triceps ezingaphezulu ngisebenzisa okunamathiselwe kwezintambo ezimbili. Ngangiphumule phakathi kwamasethi lapho le ndoda ifika, yakhumula okunamathiselwe kwami, futhi yanamathisela okunamathiselwe kwe-pushdown. Uma lokho kwakungacasuli ngokwanele, waqhubeka wabonisa okwakhe technique futhi waphakamisa ukuthi ngisebenzise okunamathiselwe kwakhe esikhundleni sami. Ngenkathi ngizama ukuzigcina ngipholile, ngachaza ukuthi ngincamela indlela yami yokwenza izinto njengoba bengilandela inqubo ethile yokuqeqesha futhi yilokho obekukudinga. Akushiwo ukuthi le ndoda ayizange ikujabulele ukuvalelwa yahamba. Ngashintsha i-attachment yami futhi ngayibeka eceleni. Uma uzonikeza iseluleko ongasicelanga… ungakwenzi nje. -U-Abby, 25, eBoston

"Ukube bengifuna iseluleko sakhe, bengizobuza."

Ngesinye isikhathi ejimini ngangikwenza ama-biceps curls ngama-dumbbells angamakhilogremu ayi-15. Lomfana wayelokhu engibhekile futhi kwakungenza ngingakhululeki. Ekugcineni, weza wazongichazela indlela "efanele" yokwenza ama-curls. Ngacasuka; ukube ngangifuna iseluleko sakhe, ngangizobuza. Ngazizwa ngidelelekile ngokuba ngomunye wabesifazane kuphela abaphakamisa isandla kuleso sigaba kanye nesibindi sakhe sokuza "ukuzongisiza".-UBiz, 23, eNew York City

"Uthathe izintambo zempi ezandleni zami."

Ngangisejimini nodadewethu futhi wayenza ukuqeqeshwa kokumelana nokukhanya futhi ngangenza ama-HIIT stuff-box jumps, ama-burpees, izintambo ezinzima, njalo njalo. Laba bantu ababili bebekhona futhi bekubonakala sengathi omunye "uqeqesha" omunye kodwa ngokusobala akayena umqeqeshi ovela ejimini. Bebelokhu bemosha nje, kulungile, kodwa umfana "oqeqeshayo" uphendukela kimi futhi aqale ukuqhulula amahlaya. Ngivele ngakushaya indiva ekuqaleni, kodwa wabe esethi, "Lapha ake ngikubonise ukuthi ungakwenza kanjani lokho" futhi wakhipha izintambo zempi ezandleni zami futhi wangikhombisa ukushwibeka kwengalo eyodwa (ngendlela esabekayo) futhi kufana nokucula nokutshela. mina kanjani ukugcina beat? Ngemuva kwalokho uzibuyisela kimi bese elinda ukungibuka ukuze ngenze izinguquko zakhe. -UDanielle, 22, eLong Island

"Amadoda angayilungisa ifomu lami kodwa angasinaki isimo esibi sabanye abafana."

Lapho ngisesikoleni somthetho, ngangena ngempela ekuphakamiseni. Ngenza i-CrossFit isikhashana kodwa ikakhulukazi ngangiya ejimini engaphansi yesikole sami. Ngabona owesifazane egumbini lesisindo mhlawumbe kanye ngenyanga.

Into engangiyithanda kakhulu kwakungama-squats. Babenendawo yokuphaka yangempela (hhayi umshini wakwaSmith) futhi ngangigxavuna cishe zonke izinsuku futhi ngangizikhipha njengengxenye yesethi yami yokugcina. Ezikhathini eziningi, umfana othile ongahleliwe wayeza azame ukukhuluma nami ngefomu lami, angisize ngibuyisele ibha ngemuva kokuqeda kwami, noma ngiyisuse.

Okokuqala, ifomu lami lihle. Njengomdansi wangaphambili, i-cheerleader, i-tumbler, mina yazi ifomu. Okubili, kwakukhona ama-squat racks amabili futhi kwakukhona njalo lawa ma-dudes ahlala ngasikhathi sinye ayenefomu elibi! Njengo, onemihlane eyindilinga noma ezinzwaneni zabo futhi ecoboshayo a enkulu inani lamapuleti. Ngakho-ke kwakuyi-BS ephelele noma yimuphi umfana owayezofika alungise ifomu lami lapho umfana odlula kimi esezothola i-hernia. Okokugcina, uma ngikhiphe leyo mali, awucabangi ukuthi ngingakwazi ukubuyisela ibha ngedwa? Kungani ucabanga ukuthi ngidinga usizo lokuphakamisa amaphawundi angu-45? -UNina, 29, eNew York City

"Umfana wangitshela ukuthi ngiphakamise izinsimbi ezilula."

Ngingowendawo yokuzivocavoca enhle futhi ngangikolunye lwezindawo zokuxakekisa ngelinye ilanga ngama-headphone ami.Umfana weza emva kwami ​​wama lapho kwaze kwaphela isethi yami, wabe esengicela ukuthi ngikhiphe ama-headphone ami wangitshela ukuthi ngibukeka sengathi ngilwa nobunzima besisindo nokuthi mhlawumbe kufanele ngehlise. Ngambheka, ngamomotheka, ngathi, "Ngiyaphila, ngiyabonga" (ngokumamatheka). Uqede ngokuthi, "Noma kunjalo, kubukeka sengathi umsebenzi uyakhokha." Ngihlahle amehlo ngafaka ama-headphone ami. Wabe esengilandela lapho ngihamba wabuza ukuthi angayithola yini inombolo yami angikhiphe ngesinye isikhathi. Ngihleke ebusweni bakhe ngiphume lapho!-Sage, 23, Chicago

"Ubengazi ukuthi yini into ebulala abantu eRomania."

Ngiwumqeqeshi wami ejimini, kepha ngenkathi ngisezingutsheni zami eziqeqeshiwe futhi ngenza ukuzilolonga, kwaqhamuka indoda ezongisiza "ukulungisa" ifomu lami lokufa. Wayengazi ukuthi, ngangisusa abantu eRomania futhi ngingaludingi usizo lwakhe, "ngazi ukuthi ngingawagoba kanjani kahle amadolo ami abe ngama-90 degrees" ngesikhathi sokufa. Kuyahlekisa ukuthi wayecabanga ukuthi angangilungisa kanjani, kodwa wayengakaze ezwe ngokubulawa kwabantu baseRomania. O, futhi wabuza ukuthi ubengakaze yini ezwe ngokufa kwabantu baseRomania ngoba "kwabesifazane." Kuhle. -UMelissa, 22, Ithaca, NY

"Utshele owesifazane omise kahle, ophakathi kweminyaka engu-20 ukuthi 'angasindi kakhulu.'"

Ngake ngezwa umuntfu ongaphethe kahle, ogijimayo ukugijima, owesilisa ophakathi nendawo ngokukhohlisa atshele owesimame, ophakathi kweminyaka yama-20s ukuthi angabi "nesisindo kakhulu" lapho ephakamisa.

Bese kuba nesikhathi lapho umshayeli wami we-Uber angazisa khona ukuthi angifanele ngiziqhenye ngama-biceps asonga amaphawundi angama-30 engalweni ngayinye nokuthi kufanele ngenze okungenani ama-40. Ungitshele ukuthi angizami "ngokwanele," futhi ukuthi uma "ngiphakamisa kabili ngesonto" njengoba enza, ngizokwazi ukwenza angama-40 njengaye. -UMarissa, 29, eSan Francisco

"Ngesikhathi ebona isethi yami yokuqala yokusebenza engamaphawundi angama-245, wavele washintsha inhliziyo yakhe."

Ngangigqoke i-hoodie yami, ngigqoke ibhulukwe, ngifakile izinwele, ngafaka ama-headphone, ngivalelwe ngaphakathi. Ukubukeka kwami ​​ngedwa bekufanele ngabe kumemeza, "Nope, hhayi yena. Musa nokubukeka. Ungakhulumi nokukhuluma." Ngiqale amasethi ami okuzifudumeza e-squat rack futhi ngezwa umfana ebubula "Ugh…." Kuleli qophelo, kuba nzima ngokwengeziwe ukunganaki ubukhona bakhe lapho ngathi, "Ngingakusiza?" Impendulo yakhe: "Usele ngamalini?" engithi kuyo, "Awu, ngisanda kuqala cishe amasethi ayi-6, kepha ungangena." Uyamomotheka bese ethi, "Ngizolinda nje," ecabanga ukuthi amasethi wami angu-6 ngeke azikhathaze ngoba kuyisisindo se "girlie" kuye. (Manje, abangani bami abavele bangibize nge-Quadzilla mahhala." Njengoba ngifudumala, ngakhumula izithukuthuku zami futhi ngaveza amasondo amabi aselungele ukufaka umsebenzi. Lapho ebona isethi yami yokuqala yokusebenza engu-245 pounds, kungazelelwe. ngashintsha inhliziyo. Wahamba wathi, "Hawu, nginesihlungu, kuzovele kube yinto ecasulayo ukushintsha izinsimbi ukuze ngenze enye into." HA. Kulungile, impela, mngani. -UJennifer, 32, eNew York City

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