Izici Ezi-3 Zobuntu Ezimbi Ezinezinzuzo Eziqondile

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Masikuvume: Sikhona konke sinezimfanelo ezingezinhle nemikhuba emibi (ukuluma ngezipikili! Ukuba sekwephuzile ngokungapheli!) esingaziqhenyi ngakho impela. Izindaba ezimnandi? Isayensi ingaba ekhoneni lakho: Izifundo eziningi zakamuva zithola izinzuzo ezinhle zalezo zimfanelo ezingaphansi kokuthopha (kulungile, hhayi konke wabo). Futhi ngenkathi eminye imikhuba emibi-ukubhema, ukweqa ijimu, noma ukuyenza njalo ngokweqile ngokudla okungakulungeli-yilokho nje: kubi, ngokuzayo lapho umuntu ekubiza ngokuthi unelungelo (noma uyize, noma uzicabangela wena, noma Debbie downer), bakhombise lokhu. Ngezansi, ukukhuphukela kuzimpawu ezine ezibizwa ngokuthi "ezingezinhle".

1. Ukuzizwa unelungelo kukhulisa ubuhlakani bakho. Abaphenyi baseCornell naseVanderbilt bathole ukuthi abantu abanemizwa yokuthola amalungelo bakwazile ukwenza izindlela zabo ngokwenza imisebenzi ethile. Uma uzizwa unelungelo elifanele, uyakwazisa ukwehluka-okuholela ekutholeni amajusi wokudala, kusho abalobi bezocwaningo. (Ngezinye izindlela zokuthuthukisa ubuhlakani bakho nokuningi, bona Izindlela Ezinhle Zokudonsa Imisipha Yakho Yengqondo.)

2. Ukuziphatha kobugovu kungakusiza ukuhola. Thatha lesi seluleko somsebenzi ngalokho okufanele: Ocwaningweni olushicilelwe ku Ijenali Yobuntu Nenhlalakahle Yengqondo, abantu abenze ngobugovu ekuhlolweni komdlalo babonwa njengabanamandla kakhulu kunalabo abasiza abanye abadlali. Futhi lapho ababambiqhaza befakwa endaweni yokuncintisana, bakhetha abantu abavelele njengabaholi.

3. Abantu abanethemba lokuphila bangaphila impilo ende, enempilo. Ucwaningo lwaseJalimane luthole ukuthi abantu ababenamathemba amahle ngekusasa kungenzeka ukuthi bafe eminyakeni eyishumi ezayo. Incazelo eyodwa engaba khona abacwaningi abayiphakamisayo: Uma ubona "ikusasa elimnyama" uthatha ezinye izindlela zokuzivikela. Ngemuva kwakho konke, uma ucabanga ukuthi awusoze wagula, awuthambekele ekutholeni umkhuhlane kunokuba ucabanga ukuthi usengozini enkulu. .

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