Kuthathe Ukuba Nengane Yesihlanu Ekugcineni Ungifundise Ubudlelwano Obunempilo Nokuzivocavoca

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• Ukuzivocavoca umzimba akuyona into ebengiyicabanga

Nginezingane ezinhlanu angikwazi ukuzwa njalo ngicabanga, kepha bekuwufanele umzamo wokufunda ukulalela umzimba wami.

“Donsa umnyombo wakho ndawonye bese wenza i-breaatthheeee… ”Kusho uthisha ekhombisa ukuphuma kwakhe ngamandla ngezindebe.

Wama phezu kwami, wama kancane wabeka isandla esiswini sami esisalokhu simile. Ebona ukukhungatheka kwami, wamomotheka futhi wangikhuthaza ngobumnene.

"Uyafika lapho," kusho yena. “I-abs yakho iyahlangana.”

Ngibeke ikhanda lami emuva kumata wami, ngidedela umoya wami ungene kwi-whoosh engenasihlonipho. Ngabe ngangifika lapho ngempela? Ngoba ngokuthembeka, izinsuku eziningi, bekungazwakali.

Kusukela nginengane yami yesihlanu cishe ezinyangeni eziyisithupha ezedlule, ngikhubazekile ekuqapheleni kokuthobeka nokuvula amehlo ukuthi konke ebengicabanga ukuthi ngiyakwazi ngokuzivocavoca akulungile neze.

Ngaphambi kokukhulelwa, ngiyavuma ukuthi ngangiwuhlobo lokuzivocavoca “ngalo lonke isikhathi, ngaso sonke isikhathi”. Engqondweni yami, lapho kunzima ukuzivocavoca umzimba, kwaba ngcono kimi. Lapho imisipha yami ishisa ngokwengeziwe, ukuvivinya umzimba kuphumelela ngokwengeziwe. Lapho ngivuka ngokwengeziwe, ngibuhlungu kakhulu ngisho nokunyakaza, ngaba nobufakazi obuningi bokuthi ngangisebenza kanzima ngokwanele.

Ukukhulelwa ingane yami yesihlanu ngineminyaka engama-33 (yebo, ngaqala kusenesikhathi, futhi yebo, izingane eziningi) akuzange kungiyeke - ezinyangeni eziyi-7 ngikhulelwe, ngangisakwazi ukukhipha amakhilogremu angama-200 futhi ngangiziqhenya ngokwami ​​ekukwazini kwami ​​ukuqhubeka nokuphakamisa izinsimbi ezisindayo kuze kube sekulethwa.

Kepha-ke, ingane yami yazalwa futhi njengekhono lami lokulala ubusuku bonke, isifiso sami sokunyathela kunoma yiluphi uhlobo lokuzivocavoca sanyamalala ngokuphelele. Ngokokuqala ngqá empilweni yami, ukujima akuzange kuzwakale kukude kakhulu. Konke engangifuna ukukwenza kwakuwukuhlala ekhaya ngigqoke izingubo zikanokusho futhi ngigaxe ingane yami.

Ngakho-ke uyazi ukuthi yini? Yilokho kanye engikwenzile.

Esikhundleni sokuziphoqa ukuthi "ngibuyele esimweni" noma "ngibuyele emuva," nginqume ukwenza okuthile okuhle kakhulu kimi: Ngithathe isikhathi sami. Ngithathe izinto kancane. Angizange ngenze noma yini engingafuni ukuyenza.

Futhi mhlawumbe okokuqala ngqa empilweni yami, ngafunda ukulalela umzimba wami futhi ngisaqhubeka, ngabona ukuthi kudinga ukuba nomntwana wesihlanu ekugcineni, ekugcineni ngibe nobudlelwano obuhle nokuzivocavoca umzimba.

Ngoba yize le nqubo ihamba kancane ngokukhungathekisayo, ukufunda kabusha ukuzivocavoca ekugcineni kuvule amehlo ami eqinisweni elinzima: Nganginakho konke okungalungile ngokuphelele.

Ukuzivocavoca umzimba akuyona into ebengiyicabanga

Ngenkathi bengilokhu ngicabanga ngokuzivocavoca njengokufeza okuthile kanye nomgubho wokuthi ngikwazi kangakanani yenza - ukuthi ngingaphakamisa isisindo esingakanani, noma i-squat, noma ibhentshi, ngigcine ngibonile ukuthi esikhundleni salokho, ukuzivocavoca umzimba kumayelana nezifundo ezisifundisa zona mayelana nokuphila impilo yethu.

Ukuzivocavoca “okudala kimi” kwakusebenzisa indlela yokubaleka, noma indlela yokuzibonakalisa kimi ukuthi kukhona engikufezayo, ukuthi ngangibaluleke kakhulu ngoba ngangikwazi ukufinyelela izinhloso zami.

Kepha ukuzivocavoca akufanele kube ngokushaya imizimba yethu ukuze izithobe, noma ukushayela kanzima nangokushesha ejimini, noma ngisho nokuphakamisa izinsimbi ezithe xaxa. Kufanele kube mayelana nokwelashwa.

Kufanele kube ngokwazi ukuthi uzithathe nini izinto ngokushesha - nokuthi uzithathe nini kancane. Kufanele kube ngokwazi ukuthi kufanele ucindezele nini nokuthi uphumule nini.

Okokuqala, okubaluleke kakhulu, kufanele kube ngokuhlonipha nokulalela imizimba yethu, hhayi ukuyiphoqa ukuthi yenze into esicabanga ukuthi kufanele "bayenze".

Namuhla, yimi engibuthakathaka ngokomzimba engake ngaba khona. Angikwazi ukwenza i-push-up eyodwa. Ngangicindezela umqolo wami lapho ngizama ukukhipha isisindo sami "esijwayelekile". Futhi bekufanele ngilayishe ibha yami ngesisindo ebenginamahloni okuthi ngisibuke. Kepha uyazi ini? Ekugcineni nginokuthula lapho ngikhona ohambweni lwami lokuqina.

Ngoba yize ngingasafaneleki njengakuqala, nginobuhlobo obunempilo kunakuqala ngokuzivocavoca umzimba. Ekugcineni sengifundile ukuthi kusho ukuthini ukuphumula ngokweqiniso, ukulalela umzimba wami, nokuwuhlonipha kuzo zonke izigaba - noma ngabe kungangenzela "okungakanani".

UChaunie Brusie ungumhlengikazi wezabasebenzi kanye nowokubeletha ophenduke umbhali nomama osanda kuqanjwa wabahlanu. Ubhala ngayo yonke into kusuka kwezezimali kuye kwezempilo ukuthi ungaphila kanjani ngalezo zinsuku zokuqala zobuzali lapho konke ongakwenza ukucabanga ngakho konke ukulala ongakutholi. Mlandele lapha.