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Udelela iseva yakho? Uhlola imibhalo yakhe njalo? Awukwazi ukuyeka ukukhuluma nge-ex yakhe? Zonke izimpawu ezicacile zokuthi unempahla yesoka elibi. Kodwa ochwepheshe bokuqomisana bayavuma ukuthi kunenqwaba yezimpawu ezicashile ezingaba amafulegi amakhulu abomvu—uma wazi ukuthi yini okufanele uyibheke. Hlala ubheke lezi eziyisikhombisa ezikhohlisayo ngosuku lwakho lokuqala futhi uzisindise ekuhlukumezeni okukhulu kwenhliziyo phansi komgwaqo.

Ukhohlisa kakhulu

Uyazi ukuthi ubukeka ushisayo, nokuthi "umuhle" noma ungaphansi komoya wakhe "wow" njengoba ungena emnyango kuyiqiniso. Kepha uma ehlala njalo ethi ungumuntu omuhle kakhulu, ohlakaniphe kunabo bonke, owesifazane othakazelisa kunabo bonke ake wahlangana nabo - futhi awukasiphothuli nesiphuzo sakho sokuqala - kungaba uphawu lokuthi uyakhohlisa, kuxwayisa uPatti Feinstein, Umqeqeshi wokuthandana waseChicago. Phela wena umuhle, kodwa akakakwazi kahle ukuthi akwazi lokho okwamanje. "Usebenzisa izincomo ukuze akwenze wehlise ukuqaphela kwakho. Ufuna ucabange ukuthi unguMnu. Right, ngakho-ke ngeke ube nenhloso yokuthi ngabe kufanelekile yini noma cha njengoba ubungaba njalo ukube" ngibe phansi kakhulu emhlabeni,” kuchaza yena.

Amathiphu Amakhulu

Impela, kungabonakala kungcono kunokulahla phansi amaphesenti ayi-10, kepha uma ekhanyisa izikweletu ezinkulu noma ebeka ngaphezulu kakhulu kwamaphesenti angama-20 ngensizakalo ejwayelekile, akukuhle, kuxwayisa uFeinstein. "Kungase kusho ukuthi uyi-narcissist. Ufuna ukubukeka sengathi ungumdubuli omkhulu, futhi ukhathalela kakhulu ukuthi ubukeka kanjani kunokuxhumana kwangempela, "kuchaza uFeinstein.

Uveze Ibhayi Kude Nendlu Yakhe

Kungenzeka ukuthi ukhethe ibha yewayini ekhanyayo, yothando, kepha izimpondo zakho kufanele zikhuphuke uma zisondele kakhulu lapho ahlala khona, kuxwayisa uMike Goldstein, umsunguli we-EZ Dating Coach, insizakalo yokuphola eseNew Jersey. Akukhona ukuthi kuwuhlelo lwakhe oluhle lokukubuyisela endlini yakhe (yize engase abe nakho lokho engqondweni yakhe) kodwa ukuthi umenzele izinto zibe lula, ngaphandle kokucabangela uhambo lwakho lokuya emsebenzini, kuchaza uGoldstein. Akuyona into enkulu uma kwenzeka kanye (hey, leyo bar ibibambene kahle) kodwa uma kunguwe njalo ohambayo, kuwuphawu lokuthi uyazicabangela yena.

Ungumuntu Ojwayelekile

U-bartender, iseva, netafula eliseduze nobabili niyalazi igama lakhe. Kungabonakala kumnandi, kepha kungaba yindlela yokulawula kwakhe ngobuqili. "Akuyona indawo engathathi hlangothi, okubeka ethubeni. Kungasho ukuthi izolokhu yenza izinto ngendlela yakhe," kusho uFeinstein. Uma edonsa lokhu kuhamba, kepha usamthanda, qinisa ukuthi ukhethe indawo yenombolo yesibili.

Uphatha kabi uBoss wakhe Wonke umuntu unezinsuku ezimbi, kepha ochwepheshe bayavuma ukuthi kungcono ukuqaphela umuntu ochitha iningi losuku lokuqala ekhononda. Noma izindaba zakhe ngehhovisi lakhe elingasebenzi kahle zikwenza uhleke, ukukhetha kwakhe ukugxila kokubi kuyisibonakaliso sokuthi iningi lamakhonsolo lizohla kanjani ngokuzayo, uma uqhubeka nokuqoma.

Uphakamisa amaShots

Kanye nokukhuluma ngozakwabo nokuxoxa izindaba ngezigemegeme zasendle yena nabangane bakhe abaphuza kakhulu, uku-oda ama-shots kuyisibonakaliso sokuthi kungenzeka angakulungeli ukuhlala phansi, kuxwayisa uGoldstein. Angaba mnandi kakhulu ukuhlanganyela naye, kepha kungenzeka angabi yizinto zobudlelwano okwamanje.

Akathukile

Usuku lokuqala, futhi kungenzeka ukuthi kukhona okungahambi kahle kuzokwenzeka. Kodwa uma ebonakala epholile kusukela esawubona okokuqala, kungase kube uphawu lokuthi uzithanda kakhulu, kuxwayisa uFeinstein. "Izikhathi ezimbalwa ezingezinhle zisho ukuthi nobabili nitshaliwe; ukuthi nobabili nifuna ukubeka unyawo lwenu olungcono kakhulu komunye umuntu," kuchaza uFeinstein.

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