Ukuthatha Ukukhathazeka Kobhadane Kongoti Bosizi

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• Okokuqala, Luyini Ukukhathazeka, Ngqo?
• Yini Engase Ibe Umsuka Wokukhathazeka Kwakho RN
• Isixhumanisi Phakathi Kokukhathazeka Nosizi
• Ungabhekana Kanjani Nale Loss
• Indlela Yokuthoba Ukukhathazeka Okwamanje
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Akumangazi ukuthi wonke umuntu uzizwa ekhathazekile kakhulu kulo nyaka, ngenxa yobhadane lwe-coronavirus kanye nokhetho. Kepha ngenhlanhla, kunezindlela ezilula zokuyigcina ingaphumi ekulawuleni, kusho uClaire Bidwell Smith, ingcweti yosizi nombhali Ukukhathazeka: Isigaba Esingekho Sosizi (Buy It, $15, bookshop.org). Nansi indlela yokuphatha.

Okokuqala, Luyini Ukukhathazeka, Ngqo?

"Ukwesaba okuthile kwangempela noma okucatshangwayo. Lapho sikhathazeka, impendulo yethu yokulwa noma indiza ingena futhi amaphampu ethu e-adrenaline, inhliziyo yethu iqala ukushaya ngokushesha, nezicubu zethu zesisu ziyaxinana. Ukukhathazeka kubonakala ngezindlela ezimbili. Lapho yizimpawu zomzimba, ezingabadida abantu futhi zibenze bacabange ukuthi kukhona okungahambi kahle ngabo.Angikwazi ukukutshela ukuthi mangaki amaklayenti enginawo agcina esegunjini labezimo eziphuthumayo ecabanga ukuthi amelwa yinhliziyo.Umuzwa ukuba nekhanda elikhanyayo, ukugedlezela, noma isicanucanu nakho kuvamile. Futhi ungazizwa ukhathazekile emgodini wesisu sakho - kuyesaba, njengokuthile okubi okuzokwenzeka.

Indlela yesibili uhlangothi lwayo lwemizwa - imicabango engapheli esingangena kuyo lapho sikhathazekile. Isibonelo uhlobo lokucabanga okuyinhlekelele okusenza seqe esimweni esibi kakhulu. Ngakho-ke uma umyeni wakho ephuzile ukufika ekhaya, ngokwesibonelo, ucabanga ukuthi ubekwingozi yemoto. "(Okuhlobene: Izinto Ezi-8 Okudingeka Ukwazi Uma Umlingani Wakho Enenkathazo, Ngokusho Kwezobuchwepheshe)

Yini Engase Ibe Umsuka Wokukhathazeka Kwakho RN

"Enye yezinto ezinzima kakhulu ngalolu bhubhane ukuthi kunokungaqiniseki okuningi. Ukube besinosuku lokuphela kwale nto noma besazi kabanzi ngokuyivimba, lokho kungasiza. Kodwa nsuku zonke siyavuka futhi asinalo nhlobo ulwazi lokuthi isimo sizovela. Ngaphambi kuka-COVID-19, besizizwa siphephile nokuthi besilawula imvelo yethu. Manje asisakwazi. "

Isixhumanisi Phakathi Kokukhathazeka Nosizi

"[Usizi] alufani nalokhu esibhekene nakho nobhubhane. Uma ulahlekelwa umuntu omthandayo, kufana nokuthi phansi kuphonseka phansi. Impilo yakho ayibuyeli emuva ngendlela eyayiyiyo; konke kubukeka kwehlukile. Kulezi zikhathi ezimbalwa ezidlule. izinyanga, bekuyinqubo yokuthi abantu bazinike imvume yokudabuka.

Ekuqaleni, nakuba sasiqaphela ukuthi sasikhathazekile, asizange sikuhlanganise nosizi esasiphuthelwa. Kepha njengoba isimo siqhubeka, futhi sabona nezinga lalokho ebesikulahlekelwa khona - amaholide, imibuthano yomndeni, imisebenzi - saqala ukukuqonda lokho njengosizi. "

Ungabhekana Kanjani Nale Loss

"Kufanele sizivumele sizwe lonke usizi oluqhamukayo futhi sililele izinto esiziyekayo kanye nezimpilo ebesinazo. Uma sesikwenzile lokho, singadlulela kukho. Ukuzindla nokuba nengqondo kungamanye amathuluzi anamandla kakhulu. singasebenzisa ukubhekana nokukhathazeka nosizi ngoba kusisiza ukuba siphile esikhathini samanje.Njengamanje, sichitha isikhathi esiningi esedlule nesikhathi esiningi ngokuzayo. Sicabanga ukuthi zazinjani izinto futhi sizibuza ukuthi kuzokwenzekani. Ukuletha ukuqwashisa kwethu nokugxila kulesi sikhathi samanje kuyasiza ekugxileni kwethu. "

Indlela Yokuthoba Ukukhathazeka Okwamanje

"Ukuzivivinya kokuphefumula okujulile kusiza ngempela. Uma sikhathazeka, siyakhula, okusenza sizizwe sisaba. Uma uhlezi ngokuthula futhi uphefumula kakhulu, kuthumela imiyalezo emzimbeni wakho ukuthi konke kuhamba kahle futhi uhlale uzolile.

Elinye isu engilincomayo ukwenza okuthile okuyisisekelo - ngokwesibonelo, geza noma hamba uyoshaywa umoya. Yidla ucezu lukashokoledi noma wenze itiye. Ukwenza noma yini enengxenye yezinzwa kuzobuyisela ukwazi kwakho esikhathini samanje."

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