Kusho Ukuthini Ukuba Kokubili Nge-Aromantic ne-Asexual?

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• Ingabe ziyefana?
• Kusho ukuthini ukuba nephunga?
• Kusho ukuthini ukuba yi-asexual?
• Kusho ukuthini ukukhomba ngazo zombili?
• Ngabe kukhona obunye ubunikazi ngaphansi kwesambulela se-asexual / aromantic?
• Ngabe lokhu kubukeka kanjani ekusebenzeni?
• Kusho ukuthini lokhu ebudlelwaneni obuhlukanisiwe?
• Ingabe kulungile ukungafuni nhlobo ubuhlobo?
• Kuthiwani ngocansi?
• Wazi kanjani ukuthi kulapho ulingana khona ngaphansi kwesambulela se-ace, uma kunjalo?
• Ungafunda kuphi kabanzi?

Ingabe ziyefana?

"I-Aromantic" ne "asexual" azisho into efanayo.

Njengoba amagama asikisela, abantu abanephunga elimnandi abakutholi ukuheha kothando, futhi abantu abathandana nabobulili obufanayo abakutholi ukuheha kocansi.

Abanye abantu bakhomba njengokubili okunephunga elimnandi ne-asexual. Kodwa-ke, ukukhomba ngeyodwa yalawo magama akusho ukuthi uzibandakanya nomunye.

Nakhu odinga ukukwazi ngokuba ne-aromantic, asexual, noma kokubili.

Kusho ukuthini ukuba nephunga?

Abantu abangama-aromantic bathola okuncane kokuheha kothando. Ukuheha kwezothando kumayelana nokufuna ubudlelwano bokuthandana nothile.

Incazelo "yobudlelwano bezothando" ingahluka kumuntu nomuntu.

Abanye abantu abanamakha banobudlelwano bothando noma kunjalo. Bangafuna ubudlelwano bothando ngaphandle kokuzwa ukukhanga kothando kumuntu othile.

Okuphambene nephunga - okungukuthi, umuntu ohlangabezana nokuheha kothando - ngu "alloromantic.“

Kusho ukuthini ukuba yi-asexual?

Abantu abathandana nabantu bobulili obufanayo abathandwa kangako ngocansi. Ngamanye amagama, abazizwa benesidingo sokuya ocansini nabanye abantu.

Lokhu akusho ukuthi abakaze baye ocansini - kuyenzeka ukuthi ulale nomuntu ngaphandle kokuzizwa ukhangwa nguye.

Okuphambene nocansi - okungukuthi, umuntu ohehwa ngokocansi - "ungowobulili bonke."

Kusho ukuthini ukukhomba ngazo zombili?

Akubona bonke abantu abathandana nabesilisa abesilisa nabesilisa abangamabomu, futhi akubona bonke abantu abane-aromantic abama-asexual - kepha abanye abantu bobabili!

Abantu bobabili abanamakha nabama-asexual abanakho ukukhangwa ngokocansi noma kothando. Lokho akusho ukuthi abangeni ebudlelwaneni bezothando noma ocansini.

Ngabe kukhona obunye ubunikazi ngaphansi kwesambulela se-asexual / aromantic?

Kunamanye amagama amaningi abantu abawasebenzisayo ukuchaza ubunikazi babo bobulili nobothando.

Okunye ukwaziswa okungaphansi kwesambulela se-asexual noma se-aromantic kufaka:

• Ngabe lokhu kubukeka kanjani ekusebenzeni?

  Wonke umuntu one-aromantic asexual uhlukile, futhi umuntu ngamunye unolwazi oluhlukile uma kukhulunywa ngobudlelwano.

  Kodwa-ke, uma nobabili ninama-aromantic futhi ni-asexual, ungahle ukhombe ngokunye noma ngaphezulu kokulandelayo:

  • Ube nesifiso esincane sobudlelwano bezocansi noma bezothando nomuntu othize.
  • Unenkinga yokucabanga ukuthi kunjani ukuba sothandweni.
  • Uthola ubunzima bokucabanga ukuthi inkanuko izwakala kanjani.
  • Lapho abanye abantu bekhuluma ngokuzizwa ukhangwa ngocansi noma ngothando kothile, awukwazi ukuhlobana ngempela.
  • Uzizwa ungathathi hlangothi noma ucasulwe umqondo wokuya ocansini noma wokuthandana.
  • Awunaso isiqiniseko sokuthi uzwa kuphela isidingo sokuya ocansini noma ukuba kubudlelwano ngoba yilokho okulindeleke kuwe.

  Kusho ukuthini lokhu ebudlelwaneni obuhlukanisiwe?

  Abantu be-aromantic asexual kungenzeka babe nobudlelwano bezothando noma bobulili, kuya ngemizwa yabo.

  
  

  Kukhona, ngemuva kwakho konke, izisusa eziningi zokuya ocansini nothile noma ukungena ebudlelwaneni - akukhona konke ukukhangwa yibo.

  Khumbula ukuthi ukuba ne-aromantic ne-asexual akusho ukuthi umuntu akakwazi ukuthanda noma ukuzibophezela.

  Ngaphandle kokuheha ngokocansi, abantu bangafuna ukuya ocansini ukuze:

  • khulelwa izingane
  • nika noma wamukele ubumnandi
  • isibopho nomlingani wabo
  • bonisa uthando
  • ukuhlolwa

  Ngokufanayo, ngaphandle kokuheha kwezothando, abantu bangafuna ukuba nobudlelwano bezothando ukuze:

  • umzali osebenza nomuntu
  • zinikele kumuntu abamthandayo
  • hlinzeka futhi uthole ukwesekwa okungokomzwelo

  Ingabe kulungile ukungafuni nhlobo ubuhlobo?

  Yebo! Awudingi ukuba ebudlelwaneni bezothando noma bezocansi ukuze ujabule.

  Ukusekelwa komphakathi kubalulekile, kepha ungakuthola lokho ngokuhlakulela ubungani obuseduze nobudlelwano bomndeni - okufanele sonke sikwenze, noma ngabe sisebudlelwaneni noma cha.

  "Ubudlelwano be-Queerplatonic," igama eliqanjwe umphakathi onuka kamnandi nowe-asexual, lisho ubudlelwano obuseduze obungekhona obothando noma obocansi. Basondelene kunobungani obumaphakathi.

  Isibonelo, ubudlelwano be-queerplatonic bungabandakanya ukuhlala ndawonye, ​​ukukhulisa izingane ngokubambisana, ukunikezana ukusekelana ngokomzwelo nangokwenhlalo, noma ukwabelana ngezezimali kanye nemithwalo yemfanelo.

  Kuthiwani ngocansi?

  Yebo, kulungile ukungafuni ukuya ocansini. Akusho ukuthi kukhona okungahambi kahle kuwe noma ukuthi inkinga okufanele uyilungise.

  Abanye abantu abenza ucansi bayaya ocansini, kanti abanye bashaya indlwabu. Abanye abalwenzi ucansi.

  Abantu abathandana nobulili obufanayo bangaba:

  • Ukuya ocansini, okusho ukuthi abafuni ukuya ocansini futhi bathola umcabango ungathandeki
  • Ubulili-budedengu, okusho ukuthi abazizwa beqinile ngocansi nganoma iyiphi indlela
  • Kuyajabulisa ocansini, okusho ukuthi bajabulela ezinye izici zocansi, noma ngabe bengakutholi lokho kukhanga

  Abantu bangathola ukuthi imizwa yabo ngocansi iyaguquguquka ngokuhamba kwesikhathi.

  Wazi kanjani ukuthi kulapho ulingana khona ngaphansi kwesambulela se-ace, uma kunjalo?

  Akukho vivinyo lokunquma ukuma kwakho kwezocansi noma kwezothando - futhi lokho kungenza kube nzima kakhulu ukukuthola.

  Uma ungenasiqiniseko sokuthi ulingana ngaphansi kwesambulela se-asexual / aromantic, ungacabanga ngokulandelayo:

  • Joyina izinkundla noma amaqembu - njengezithangami ze-AVEN noma izinkundla zeReddit - lapho ungafunda mayelana nokuhlangenwe nakho kwabanye njengabantu abathandana nabesilisa nabesilisa. Lokhu kungakusiza ukuthola imizwa yakho.
  • Khuluma nomngane othembekile oqondayo ukuthi kuyini i-asexuality ne-aromanticism.
  • Joyina amaqembu e-LGBTQIA + asexual- futhi anephunga elimnandi ukuze uxhumane nabantu abanomqondo ofanayo mathupha.
  • Yenza ukuzazisa okuncane futhi ucabangele imizwa yakho ngokuheha ngokocansi nangothando.

  Ekugcineni, nguwe kuphela onganquma ukuthi ungubani.

  Khumbula ukuthi wonke umuntu we-asexual noma we-aromantic uhlukile futhi umuntu ngamunye unokuhlangenwe nakho nemizwa yakhe ehlukile uma kukhulunywa ngobudlelwano.

  Ungafunda kuphi kabanzi?

  Kunezinsizakusebenza eziningi eziku-inthanethi zabantu abafuna ukufunda kabanzi nge-asexuality ne-aromanticism.

  Nazi ezimbalwa:

  • I-Asexual Visibility and Education Network, lapho ungasesha khona izincazelo zamagama ahlukene ahlobene nezocansi nokuzikhethela
  • IPhrojekthi yeTrevor, enikela ngokungenelela kwezinhlekelele nokusekelwa okungokomzwelo entsheni esencane, kufaka phakathi abantu abasha abenza ucansi nabanuka kamnandi
  • Ama-Asexual Groups, iwebhusayithi ebala amaqembu asexual emhlabeni wonke, njengoba kwenza i-Aces & Aros
  • amaqembu asexual noma ama-aromantic endawo namaqembu e-Facebook
  • izinkundla ezifana nesithangami se-AVEN ne-Asexuality subreddit

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