Buyini ubungqingili futhi bunjani ubuhlobo be-asexual

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• Yini ebangela i-asexuality
• Bunjani ubudlelwane be-asexual
• Ungahlukanisa kanjani i-asexuality ekuntulekeni kwesifiso sobulili
• Umehluko phakathi kwe-asexuality nokungashadi

Ubungqingili buhambisana nokuya ocansini okubonakala ngokungabi nentshisekelo kwezocansi, yize ethokozela ukusondelana, ngakho-ke, umuntu ocansini uyakwazi ukuthanda nokuzibandakanya ngokomzwelo nomlingani wakhe, ukugcina ukuthandana noma umshado ngaphandle kokuxhumana ngocansi okungena kakhulu, iningi zesikhathi, yize ukushaya indlwabu nobulili bomlomo kungenzeka.

Lolu hlobo lobudlelwano obungenabulili lungenziwa nabantu bobulili obufanayo noma cha futhi luba lula lapho bobabili abantu abashadile be-asexual. Ukuya ocansini kwabantu bobulili obufanayo kungukuziphatha kobulili okufana nobungqingili, ubungqingili noma ubungqingili, ngakho-ke, umuntu akufanele ahlulele noma aphathe kabi laba bantu, ngoba bonke bafanelwe ukuphathwa ngenhlonipho nangesithunzi.

Yini ebangela i-asexuality

Ngenkathi kunokuphazamiseka kwezocansi kanye nokuphazamiseka kungahle kube nezici ezithintekayo njengokucindezeleka, ukudana, ukungqubuzana kwezenkolo, ukusetshenziswa kwemithi eyehlisa i-libido, kanye nezifo zehomoni ezifana ne-hypothyroidism kanye ne-hypogonadism, ku-asexuality imbangela ayinakuchazwa ngoba azikho izimbangela eziphilayo noma izindaba ezingokwengqondo ezihilelekile.

Udokotela wezocansi ongumtholampilo unguchwepheshe wezempilo ofanele kakhulu ukwelapha ukuphazamiseka okuhlobene nezocansi futhi, ngakho-ke, uma umuntu ezwa ukuthi unohlobo oluthile lokuphazamiseka oludinga ukwelashwa, kufanele abheke lochwepheshe ukuze azuze inhlalakahle engokomzimba, engokomzwelo nengokomzwelo ezocansi.

Bunjani ubudlelwane be-asexual

Abantu abathandana nabobulili obufanayo bangaba nobudlelwano obujwayelekile, lapho kukhona khona uthando, intshisekelo, ukubandakanyeka ngisho nokusondelana, kufaka phakathi ukuhlangana okungavamile ngokungena, ukushaya indlwabu noma ucansi lomlomo, noma kunjalo, noma kunjalo, oxhumana nabo bezocansi abavamile. Lokhu kungenxa yokuthi abathandana nobulili bakholelwa ukuthi uthando aluhlangene neze nocansi, ngakho-ke, abasizwa isidingo sokuzizwa beheheka ngokocansi ukuze babe sebudlelwaneni.

Yize ukungena ngesikhathi sokuya ocansini kungavamile ukwenzeka ngokuya ocansini, ngenxa yokushoda kwesithakazelo, ukushaya indlwabu kungasetshenziswa ngabesilisa ukuze kuqedwe isidoda esiningi, njengoba umzimba wabo uqhubeka nalokhu kukhiqiza kukho konke ukuphila kwendoda. Ngakho-ke, ukushaya indlwabu kungenzeka phakathi kwabantu abathandana nabesilisa nabesifazane ngaphandle kwesifiso sobulili abathintekayo futhi ngaphandle kwemicabango ehlobene nocansi, okuyisenzo nje.

Ungahlukanisa kanjani i-asexuality ekuntulekeni kwesifiso sobulili

Ukuphazamiseka kwesifiso sobulili okungenangqondo kuyisifo esivezwa ukuntuleka kwemicabango yezocansi kanye nokungathandi ukuba nobudlelwano obusondelene, obudala usizi nokuhlupheka. Kulokhu, lo muntu wayenenkanuko yocansi kepha ngesikhathi esithile, yehla noma yaphela ukuba khona. Kulezi zimo, inkanuko yezocansi ingakhuphuka ngokwelashwa, lapho kutholakala khona imbangela yokuncipha kwe-libido, ngaphezu kwezinyathelo zemvelo. Bheka ezinye izinketho zamakhambi asekhaya ukukhulisa isifiso sobulili.

Endabeni yokuphelelwa yisikhathi, zonke izitho nezinhlelo zisebenza kahle, kepha umuntu akanaso isifiso noma isidingo sokuya ocansini olungena ngaphakathi, futhi akanandaba nakho, ngakho-ke abukho usizi noma ukuhlupheka okuhilelekile. Lapho kunezimpawu ezinjengokudabuka nokuhlupheka, lesi sibonakaliso singakhombisa ukungahambi kahle kwesifiso sobulili, isifo esinezimbangela eziningana futhi esingelashwa ngezinyathelo ezilula.

Umehluko phakathi kwe-asexuality nokungashadi

Ukungashadi kungukukhetha lapho umuntu engenabo oxhumana naye kodwa akusekho ukuthandana noma umshado futhi yingakho umuntu engenalo uhlobo lokusondelana noma ukusondelana, ahlala engashadile impilo yakhe yonke. Isibonelo esivamile abapristi nezindela abanquma ngezizathu zenkolo ukuthi bangabi nalo uhlobo lobudlelwano bezothando, noma kunjalo bangasigcina isifiso sobulili futhi balwe nalesi sifiso, basicindezele.

Endabeni yobungqingili, umuntu akanalo uhlobo lwesifiso ngakho-ke akadingi ukulwa nalezi zinkanuko, ngoba azikho. Lokhu kubizwa ngokuthi yi-asexual futhi lesi yisimo esingapheli esihlala impilo yonke, kepha kungahle kube nokuthandana nokushada, kepha hhayi ngaso sonke isikhathi ucansi.