Kuyini Okunamathiselwe Okugwema?

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• Kuyini okunamathiselwe okugwema?
• Yini ebangela ukunamathela kokugwema?
• Kubukeka kanjani?
• Ungakuvimbela okunamathiselwe okugwemayo?
• Yini ukwelashwa?
• Ukudla okudlela endlini

Kuyaziwa kahle ukuthi ubudlelwano ingane eyakha eminyakeni yokuqala yokuphila kwayo bunomthelela omkhulu enhlalakahleni yabo yesikhathi eside.

Lapho izingane zikwazi ukufinyelela kubanakekeli abafudumele, abaphendulayo, kungenzeka zikhule ngokunamathela okuqinile, okunempilo kulabo banakekeli.

Ngakolunye uhlangothi, lapho abantwana bengenakho lokho kufinyelela, kungenzeka bahlakulele ukunamathela okungenampilo kulaba banakekeli. Lokhu kungathinta ubudlelwano abakha phakathi nesikhathi sokuphila kwabo.

Ingane enamathele ngokuphephile kumnakekeli wayo iba nezinzuzo ezahlukahlukene, kusuka ekulawulweni okungcono okungokomzwelo nasezingeni eliphakeme lokuzethemba kuya ekhonweni elikhulu lokubonisa ukunakekela nozwela kwabanye.

Lapho ingane inamathele ngokungaphephile kumnakekeli wayo, noma kunjalo, ingahle ibhekane nezinselelo eziningi zobudlelwano bempilo yonke.

Enye indlela ingane enganamathela ngayo ngokungavikelekile kumzali wayo noma kumnakekeli kungokunamathiselwe okugwemayo.

Kuyini okunamathiselwe okugwema?

Okunamathiselwe okugwema kwakheka ezinganeni nasezinganeni lapho abazali noma abanakekeli bengatholakali ngokomzwelo noma bengaphenduli isikhathi esiningi.

Izingane nezingane banesidingo esijulile sangaphakathi sokuba seduze nabanakekeli babo. Kodwa-ke bangafunda ngokushesha ukumisa noma ukucindezela ukubonakaliswa kwabo kwangaphandle kwemizwa. Uma izingane zazi ukuthi zizokwenqatshwa kumzali noma umnakekeli uma ziveza imizwa yazo, ziyavumelana nezimo.

Lapho izidingo zabo zangaphakathi zokuxhuma nokusondelana komzimba kungafinyelelwanga, izingane ezinokunamathiselwe okugwemayo ziyeka ukufuna ukusondelana noma ukuveza imizwa.

Yini ebangela ukunamathela kokugwema?

Kwesinye isikhathi, abazali bangazizwa bekhungathekile noma bekhathazekile lapho bebhekene nezidingo ezingokomzwelo zengane, bese bezivala ngokwabo ngokomzwelo.

Bangase bangazinaki ngokuphelele izidingo noma imizwa yengane yabo yokuxhumana. Bangaziqhelelanisa nengane lapho befuna uthando noma induduzo.

Laba bazali bangaba nokhahlo ikakhulukazi noma banganaki lapho ingane yabo ihlangabezana nesikhathi sesidingo esikhulu, njengalapho besaba, begula noma belimele.

Abazali abagqugquzela ukusondelana okugwema izingane zabo bavame ukungakudaluli ngokusobala ukubonakaliswa kwangaphandle kwemizwelo, njengokukhala lapho ukudabuka noma injabulo enomsindo lapho ujabulile.

Futhi banamathemba angenangqondo okuzimela ngokomzwelo nangokoqobo ezinganeni ezisencane kakhulu.

Ezinye izindlela zokuziphatha ezingakhuthaza okunamathiselwe okugwema izinsana nezingane kufaka phakathi umzali noma umnakekeli:

• ujwayele ukwala ukwamukela ukukhala kwengane yabo noma eminye imibukiso yosizi noma yokwesaba
• kucindezela ngenkuthalo ukubonisa kwengane yabo imizwa ngokuzitshela ukuthi ziyeke ukukhala, zikhule, noma ziqinise
• Iyathukuthela noma yehlukane ngokomzimba nengane lapho ikhombisa izimpawu zokwesaba noma zokucindezeleka
• ihlazisa ingane ngokuboniswa kwemizwa
• unamathemba angenangqondo okuzimela ngokomzwelo nangokoqobo enganeni yabo

Kubukeka kanjani?

Okunamathiselwe okugwemayo kungakhula futhi kubonwe zisencane.

Kokunye ukuhlolwa okudala, abacwaningi babenabazali abaphuma kafushane egumbini ngenkathi izingane zabo zidlala ukuhlola izitayela zokunamathisela.

Izinsana ezinokunamathiselwe okuphephile zakhala lapho abazali bazo behamba, kodwa zaya kubo futhi bathola ngokushesha lapho bebuya.

Izinsana ezinokunamathiselwe okugwemayo zibonakala zizolile ngaphandle lapho abazali behamba, kepha zigwema noma zenqaba ukuxhumana nabazali bazo lapho zibuya.

Ngaphandle kokubonakala ukuthi bebengamdingi umzali noma umnakekeli wabo, izivivinyo zikhombisile ukuthi lezi zingane zazicindezeleke kakhulu ngesikhathi sokuhlukana njengezingane ezinamathele ngokuphepha. Zivele azibonisanga.

Njengoba izingane ezinesitayela sokunamathisela esivikelekile zikhula futhi zikhula, zivame ukubonakala zizimele ngaphandle.

Bajwayele ukuncika kakhulu kumasu okuzithambisa ukuze bakwazi ukuqhubeka nokucindezela imizwa yabo futhi bagweme ukufuna okunamathiselwe noma ukwesekwa kwabanye abangaphandle kwabo.

Izingane kanye nabantu abadala abanesitayela sokunamathisela esivikelekile nabo bangaba nobunzima bokuxhumana nabanye abazama ukuxhuma noma ukwakha isibopho nabo.

Bangakujabulela ukuba nabanye kodwa basebenze ngenkuthalo ukugwema ukusondelana ngenxa yomuzwa wokuthi abadingi - noma akufanele - badinge abanye empilweni yabo.

Abantu abadala abane-attachment evikelayo bangase babe nobunzima bokukhuluma uma benesidingo esingokomzwelo. Bangashesha ukuthola amaphutha kwabanye.

Ungakuvimbela okunamathiselwe okugwemayo?

Ukuqinisekisa ukuthi wena nengane yakho niba nokunamathiselwe okuphephile, kubalulekile ukuthi wazi ukuthi uhlangabezana kanjani nezidingo zabo. Qaphela ukuthi ubathumelela yiphi imilayezo ngokukhombisa imizwa yabo.

Ungaqala ngokuqinisekisa ukuthi uhlangabezana nazo zonke izidingo zabo eziyisisekelo, njengendawo yokuhlala, ukudla, nokusondelana, ngokufudumala nothando.

Bahlabelele njengoba ubanyakazisa balale. Khuluma ngokufudumele nabo njengoba ushintsha inabukeni labo.

Zithathe ukuze uziduduze lapho zikhala. Ungabaphoxi ngenxa yokwesaba okuvamile noma amaphutha, njengokuchitheka noma izitsha eziphukile.

Yini ukwelashwa?

Uma ukhathazekile ngokwazi kwakho ukukhulisa lolu hlobo lokunamathiselwe okuphephile, umelaphi angakusiza ukuthi wakhe izindlela zokukhulisa ezinhle.

Ochwepheshe bayaqaphela ukuthi iningi labazali abadlulisa okunamathiselwe okugwema ingane yabo bakwenza ngemuva kokwenza eyodwa nabazali babo noma ababheki lapho besezingane.

Lezi zinhlobo zamaphethini ezizukulwane ezingaba yinselele ukugqashuka, kepha kungenzeka ngokuxhaswa nokusebenza kanzima.

Abelaphi abagxila ezindabeni zokunamathiselwe bavame ukusebenza babodwa nomzali. Bangabasiza:

• zinengqondo yobuntwana bazo
• baqala ukukhuluma ngezidingo zabo ezingokomzwelo
• qala ukuthuthukisa ukusondelana, okuyiqiniso ngokwengeziwe nabanye

Abelaphi abagxile kokunamathiselwe nabo bazovame ukusebenza nomzali nengane ndawonye.

Umelaphi angasiza ekwenzeni uhlelo lokuhlangabezana nezidingo zengane yakho ngemfudumalo. Banganikeza ukusekelwa nokuholwa ngezinselelo - nenjabulo! - eza ngokuthuthukisa isitayela esisha sokuba ngumzali.

Ukudla okudlela endlini

Isipho sokunamathisela okuphephile kuyinto enhle ngabazali ukuthi bakwazi ukunikeza izingane zabo.

Abazali bangavimbela izingane ekuthuthukiseni okunamathiselwe okugwema futhi zisekele ukukhula kwazo kokunamathiselwe okuphephile ngenkuthalo, ngokuzikhandla nangemfudumalo.

Kubalulekile futhi ukukhumbula ukuthi akukho ukuxhumana okukodwa okuzokwakha isitayela sonke sokunamathiselwa kwengane.

Isibonelo, uma ujwayele ukuhlangabezana nezidingo zengane yakho ngemfudumalo nangothando kodwa ziyeke zikhale esikhungweni sazo sokulala okwemizuzu embalwa ngenkathi uthambekele kwenye ingane, yehla uyophefumula, noma uzinakekele ngenye indlela, kulungile .

Umzuzwana lapha noma lapho awususi esisekelweni esiqinile osakhayo nsuku zonke.

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