Ungaluhlinzeka Kanjani Ucansi Olukhulu Lomlomo

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• 1. Yiba nomdlandla!
• 2. Yabelanani ngokuthi yimaphi amagama/imisho/izichasiso enizithandayo.
• 3. Khombisa (futhi usho) okukulethela injabulo.
• 4. Vulela.
• 5. Sebenzisa i-lube.
• 6. Shintsha inqubo yakho.
• 7. Letha izandla zakho zokwenza isipele.
• 8. Cabanga ngale (er, ngemuva) kwezitho zangasese.
• 9. Dlala ngezikhundla.
• 10. Zama ukugcona ngamazinyo akho.
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Ku inkolelo, ucansi lomlomo luzwakala njengokuvala imvilophu: khwifa, khotha, phinda. Kodwa-ke, uma kwenzeka ungaqaphelanga, izimvilophu zangasese ≠. Futhi, ngenkathi wonke umuntu uthola indebe yokubamba iqhaza ngemizamo yabo, lapho kuyinto into enjengobulili obubi bomlomo. (Yebo, sishilo! Ngenkathi ukuyo, bheka lawa amanye amathiphu ocansi avela kochwepheshe.)

Faka, lo mhlahlandlela wezocansi ngomlomo. Lapha, uzofunda ukuthi ungaluhlinzeka kanjani ucansi lomlomo futhi uthole nezeluleko eziyi-10 ezinhle kakhulu zocansi lomlomo ongazisebenzisa kubantu banoma yibuphi ubulili, ngqo kusuka kochwepheshe. Jabulela. (Kepha ngaphambi kokuthi wenze noma yini, qiniseka ukuthi uyakwazi ukubhekana nezifo ezithathelwana ngocansi ngomlomo.)

1. Yiba nomdlandla!

Uma kuziwa ekunikezeni ubulili bomlomo, "intshiseko isebenzisa amasu angama-99.9 amaphesenti wesikhathi," kusho umfundisi wezocansi nomqeqeshi wobudlelwano u-Andre Shakti, umsunguli we-IAmPoly.net. Cabanga ngakho: Ngubani akunjalo bafuna izinqamu zabo zikhothwe/zidliwe/zidliwe/njll. ngathi bayisidlo endaweni yokudlela enezinkanyezi ezinhlanu iMichelin? Impela. Ngakho-ke, uma ungenawo umdlandla ngokuya edolobheni, ungakwenzi. "Ukunikeza ikhanda ngoba uzizwa unesibopho sokuletha imibuzo yemvume," kusho uShakti. (Funda futhi: Ungabhekana Kanjani Uma Ozakwenu Engafuni Ukuya Kuwe)

Lapho usuthole ukuthi ufuna ukwehla, ngenkathi ulapho, kungani ungaphonseli umlingani wakho amagama okuvuma? Zama: "Unambitheka kamnandi," noma "Ngiyayithanda indlela onuka ngayo," noma "Ngiyathanda ukwehla nge-X yakho."

Impela, ungahle ugxile kumasu akho wezocansi ngomlomo, kepha ungabi namahloni ngokububula, ukububula, ukuxegisa, noma ukukhala nokuvuka njengoba ukufuna. Akukona nje kuphela ukuthi imisindo yakho ingadala ukudlidlizela okumnandi ngokumelene nezinsimbi zayo, kodwa "futhi kuyashisa impela ukuzwa umlingani wakho engenela ukukunika injabulo, futhi kukhombisa ukuthi nabo bayazijabulisa," kusho uShakti.

Kubanikazi bezitho zobulili ikakhulukazi, ngubani ( * faka uhlangothi emphakathini * *) abakhuliswe ukuthi bacabange ukuthi ubumnandi babo abubalulekile kangako kunabalingani babo, le misindo ingabasiza bazizwe bekhululeke ngokwengeziwe ekutholakaleni. (Okuhlobene: Uma Ungakhululekile Ukuthola Ucansi Lomlomo, Awungedwa - Nansi Indlela Yokuphumula)

2. Yabelanani ngokuthi yimaphi amagama/imisho/izichasiso enizithandayo.

Yimaphi amagama umlingani wakho athanda ukuwasebenzisa ezithweni zakhe zomzimba? Ingabe abafuni neze ukuthi izitho zabo zangasese zibizwe njenge-pussy ngokwesibonelo? "Le yingxoxo ebalulekile okufanele nibe nayo uma wena noma umlingani wakho nishintshana noma ningezona ezokudla, kepha kubaluleke kakhulu kubantu be-cisgender," kusho uShakti. Isibonelo, uma uthola ukuthi amagama athile ayacasula, bese umlingani wakho ewasho phakathi nocansi lomlomo, kuzokonakalisa imizwa. (Okuhlobene: Kusho Ukuthini Ngempela Ukuba Uketshezi Lobulili noma Ubulili Obungeyona Kanambambili)

Kufanele futhi ubheke ukuthi bathanda ukubhekisa kanjani ocansini lomlomo. "'Ngingakudlela ngaphandle' kungazizwa kuhluke ngempela kokuthi 'ngingathanda ukukunambitha,'" kusho u-Shakti. Kuyafana nokuthi "ngingakuvuthela" uma kuqhathaniswa nokuthi "ngingakuncela" noma "ngifuna ukwenze uze ngomlomo wami."

Ngenkathi ukuyo, babuze ukuthi iziphi izichasiso abazithandayo ezazichaza wonke umzimba wabo, nazo. Unamandla, uyakwazi, unamandla? Ithambile, ibushelelezi, ibe namanzi amaningi? Imisipha, iqinile, iqinile? Ngeke ufune ukutshela u-boo wakho ukuthi amajika awo anamanzi ayavula lapho ethanda ukuwacabanga njengemisipha eqinile, eqinile. (I-BTW: Lokhu futhi kuyithiphu enhle ngaphambi kokukhuluma ngokungcolile ngombhalo noma ngocingo.)

3. Khombisa (futhi usho) okukulethela injabulo.

"Ukwabelana ngalokho ebenikuthokozela ngenkathi nitola ucansi lomlomo esikhathini esedlule kungasiza ekuvimbeleni ukuthi nizizwe sengathi niyaqagela nje uma nihlisana," kusho uShakti. Vele kuzoba khona ijika lokufunda nabo bonke abalingani abasha, kepha la ma-convos angakusiza ukukhuphuka ngokushesha futhi ufunde ukuthi ungalujabulisa kanjani ucansi lomlomo. (Okuhlobene: Izindlela Eziyi-10 Zokunyusa Impilo Yakho Yocansi)

Eminye imibuzo ongase uyibuze:

• Ngabe uvame ukukhetha ukugqugquzela okuqondile okuqondile? Uzwela kangakanani?
• Yini oyidingayo ukuze uphumule ngesikhathi socansi lomlomo?
• Uke wazama futhi/noma wajabulela i-G-spot noma i-P-spot stimulation ngenkathi uthola ngomlomo?
• Ngabe kukhona amathoyizi othanda ukuwafaka?

Enye inketho: Cela umlingani wakho azithinte phambi kwakho. Ingabe bayazithinta ngaphezulu kwe-clitoral hood yabo noma bathinta ngqo? Ingabe basebenzisa imivimbo emide, ephakeme naphezulu, noma ukunyakaza okukhonjwe ngaphezulu? Bafaka ingcindezi engakanani? Zonke lezi zinto zingakukhomba endleleni yokunikeza ucansi lomlomo abazoluthanda.

Lesi futhi yisikhathi esihle sokubheka izimpawu zabo zobumnandi. Ingabe izinzwane zabo ziyagoqeka lapho okuthile kuzwakala kukuhle? Ingabe imilenze yabo iyaguquguquka? Emuva lwaleli? Amajwabu amehlo ayaphapha? Uzofuna ukuvumelana nalezi zinkomba lapho uwena lowo obanika injabulo… okuletha leli phuzu elilandelayo.

4. Vulela.

Akukho okudlula ukuxhumana ngomlomo. Futhi uma wena noma umlingani wakho ningazizwa nikhululekile ukukhuluma lapho okuthile kumnandi/kubi/kuvaliwe/kubuhlungu/n Noma kunjalo, umzimba womlingani wakho uzokwenza "ukukhuluma," futhi. (Okuhlobene: Okushiwo Yakho - Noma Umlingani Wakho - Imisindo Yocansi Isho Ngempela)

"Udinga ukuthi unake ukushukuma komzimba womlingani wakho," kusho uCarly S, ofundisa ngocansi neThe Pleasure Chest. "Bayaliqhelisa ikhanda lakho? Noma balisondeza eduze? Ingabe basusa isinqe sabo ukuze bashintshe indawo okukhona kuyo umlomo wakho? Ingabe bavale imilenze yabo noma bayisakaze phakathi?" Ezimpendulo zale mibuzo, uzothola izinkomba mayelana nokuthi yini okungasebenzi nokungasebenzi. Lungisa ngokufanele.

5. Sebenzisa i-lube.

Ngiyazi, mhlawumbe uyazibuza: "Kungani ngisebenzisa i-lube lapho sengikhafule….?" Yebo, "kuyefana nomehluko phakathi kokukhotha izindebe zakho nokusebenzisa i-chapstick lapho unezindebe ezomile; enye isebenza kangcono kakhulu," kusho uCarly S.

Uma unomlomo owomile ongapheli, "i-aloe vera ingasiza, ngakho-ke i-lube efana ne-Sliquid Satin (Buy It, $20, ellaparadis.com) enenhlaba kuyo ingaba yinto eshintsha umdlalo," esho.

Futhi, yebo, "cishe wonke ama-lubes ayadliwa futhi aphephile ukuwangenisa," kepha yenza konke okusemandleni akho ukugwema noma yimiphi imikhiqizo ene-glycerin, eyehla ishukela futhi ingakhuphula ubungozi bokutheleleka ngemvubelo, usho kanjalo. Futhi khumbula: Akufanele usebenzise i-lube esekwe ngabicah ngethoyizi le-silicone. Ngakho-ke uma wenza ngomlomo ku-dildo noma ufaka isidlidlizi noma indandatho yeqhude eyi-silicone, sebenzisa i-lube elisuselwa emanzini. (Okuhlobene: ILube Elihle Kakhulu Lanoma Yisiphi Isimo Sobulili)

6. Shintsha inqubo yakho.

I-TBH, uma ulalele umlingani wakho, uphendula amazwi abo nolimi lomzimba, futhi uya kuwo ngomdlandla, inqubo yakho yobulili bomlomo ngqo ayinandaba kangako - umlingani wakho kungenzeka ukuthi usenesikhathi esimnandi. Kepha uma ufuna ukuqondiswa okuthe xaxa kokuthi ungalunikeza kanjani ucansi lomlomo, lezi zeluleko zingasiza. (I-BTW, bewazi ukuthi ama-clitorises namapipi empeleni awahlukile kangako?)

• Zama ukudala imizwa ehlukene. Khotha phansi noma phansi isitho sangasese noma ishaft ngemivimbo emide, ebanzi; thinta ingxenye yolimi lwakho ku-clit yabo (inub ebucayi phezulu kwe-vulva) noma i-frenulum (indawo ebucayi lapho ijwabu lihlangana khona ngaphansi kwepipi); noma uzame ukuzungeza ulimi uzungeze i-clit noma ikhanda lomthondo. Uma umlingani wakho ene-clit, ungazama ukumunca ngobumnene kuyo noma ucindezele umlomo wakho esithweni sabo sangasese. Uma umlingani wakho enepipi, ungayithatha yonke into uyifake emlonyeni wakho (njengoba nje ukhululekile) futhi wehle uye phansi futhi kushaft, noma unikeze amabhola abo ukunaka okuncane ngolimi nomlomo wakho, futhi.
• Gxila ku-clit.Uma umlingani wakho enesitho sangasese futhi uzizwa ukhungathekile, ukugxila emzameni wakho kwi-clit ukubheja okuhle; ngaphezu kwamaphesenti angama-80 abantu abane-clits badinga ukukhuthazwa lapho ku-orgasm.
• Shintsha i-tempo yakho. Uma uke wasebenzisa ithoyizi elidlidlizayo ngaphambili, uyazi ukuthi ukuzwa ijubane elifanayo nomuzwa isikhathi eside ungaphazanyiswa kungagcina kuyeke ukujabulisa. Shintsha i-tempo yakho nengcindezi ukuze ugcine inoveli yemizwa futhi uvumele injabulo yakheke. Uma umlingani wakho eyeka ukuphendula ngentshiseko, kungahle kube yisikhathi sokushintsha amasu. Lokho kusho ukuthi, uma uzwa umlingani wakho esondela, kungaba ngcono ukunamathela kulokho okwenzayo ukuze ubenze bafinyelele kuvuthondaba.

7. Letha izandla zakho zokwenza isipele.

Uma kukhulunywa ngenqubo yakho yangempela yocansi lomlomo, enye yezinto ezinhle kakhulu ongayenza ukufaka izandla zakho ekuxubeni. "Umlomo nesandla sakho kungasebenza futhi kufanele kusebenze njengeqembu," kusho isazi sezocansi esiqinisekiswe yibhodi uLanae St. John, umbhali we Funda Mina: Isisekelo Sabazali se-'The The Talk '. "Bazokwazi ukukunikeza injabulo eyengeziwe kunomlomo wakho wedwa."

Uma umlingani wakho enesitho sangasese, uncoma ukuthi usebenzise iminwe yakho "ukudlala ngokuzungeze ingaphandle kulesitho sangasese futhi uma bekujabulela ukungena, ngisho nokungena esithweni sangasese ngenjabulo eyengeziwe." Ngenkathi ungaphakathi, ungazama ukuhambisa iminwe yakho ngaphakathi nangaphandle, noma ngokuxhuma umunwe wakho phezulu uzizwe nge-G-spot yabo. (Ukuthola amanye amathiphu okuthi ungamfaka kanjani omunye umuntu ngomunwe, bheka lo mhlahlandlela wocansi wabesifazane abathandana nabanye besifazane.)

Uma umlingani wakho enepipi, ukusebenzisa izandla zakho kungasiza ekudaleni umuzwa ofanayo ekujuleni - okuyinto ngokuphelele * hhayi * okumelwe uyenze ye-fallatio emnandi. Qala ngokujikijela inani elinenhliziyo le-lube esandleni sakho. Bese, "sebenzisa isandla sakho kushaft, ngenkathi ugxilisa umlomo wakho nolimi ekhanda naku-frenulum [ukhalo olungaphansi kwekhanda] lomthondo, okuyizitho ezibucayi kakhulu," kusho uSt.

"Ungasebenzisa futhi iminwe yakho ukudala iringi eqhude ezansi, okuzosiza ukuyigcina ilukhuni uma ilwa nalokho," kunezela uShakti.

Futhi uma umlingani wakho eboshiwe, u-Shakti uthi ungase ugoqe izandla zakho e-dildo bese ucindezela ukuze isisekelo se-dildo sikhuthaze indunduma noma i-clit yomlingani wakho ngaphansi. (FYI, ama-dildos awuhlobo olulodwa lwethoyizi locansi. Nazi ezinye eziyi-11).

8. Cabanga ngale (er, ngemuva) kwezitho zangasese.

Kungani ulinganisela i-lick-a-thon yakho ngaphambili komzimba kuphela lapho kukhona umhlaba wonke wokuzithokozisa okungenzeka ube 'emuva? "Ingquza iyisifunda esinemizwa eminyene kubantu babo bonke ubulili futhi ukuyifaka esenzweni ngolimi, ngomunwe, ne-lube, noma nge-butt plug kungakhulisa ulwazi," kusho uShakti. (Bheka: Indlela Yokuhlola Ukushaya Indlwabu Endunu)

Kubantu abanepipi, ukunamathisela umunwe esinqeni (nokuyigoba ubheke ngaphambili komzimba womamukeli) kungasiza ekuvuseleleni indlala yesinye. I-P-spot iyisigaxa sezicubu esihle kunenye futhi izingcezu zayo lapho. Abantu abahlukene bakhetha imivimbo ehlukene, ngakho-ke kuzomele uzame ukuhambisa umunwe wakho ubheke eceleni, uthephe kancane, usebenzise ukucindezela okungaguquki, nokunyakazisa umunwe wakho ukuze uthole ukuthi yini umlingani wakho ayithanda kakhulu. (Noma zama ukungeza ipulaki yezinqe.)

Cishe uke wezwa ukuthi ukuya phambili naphambili phakathi kwendunu nesitho sangasese sowesifazane kuyinto engathi sína ngoba ukwethula amabhaktheriya asuka emnyango wakho wangemuva uye phambili kungadala izifo ezifana ne-bacterial vaginosis. Nakuba ingozi ikhona hhayi I-MIA ngesikhathi socansi lomlomo, u-Carly S. uphawula ukuthi incane ingozi ehamba phambili naphambili phakathi kwe-cunnilingus ne-rimming kunokuhamba uye phambili phakathi kwesitho sangasese sowesifazane kanye nokudlala ukungena kwendunu. (Okuhlobene: Ungalulungiselela Kanjani Ucansi Lwendunu)

Noma kunjalo, uhlelo lwakho lokusebenza ngaphambi kokuphindela emuva lapho, okokuqala, ukubuza-ngoba imvume akunakuxoxiswana ngayo. Iba nengxoxo nophathina wakho mayelana nokudlala indunu ngaphambi ulimi lwakho lungamayintshi kude nezinqe zabo (njengokuthi, uma ugqoke ngokuphelele futhi * hhayi * egumbini lokulala). Uma kuyinto eniyithandayo nobabili, zama omunye wale migqa uma sekuyisikhathi:

• Ngingakwazi ukukhotha phakathi kwezihlathi zakho?
• Ngingathanda ukuqhubeka nokukhotha ngezansi, ngabe ulungile ngalokho?
• Nginedamu lamazinyo. Ungazizwa kanjani ngathi uma ngiyisebenzisa ngenkathi ngikushutha?

9. Dlala ngezikhundla.

"Emadolweni Akho" kungaba isikhundla sokuya ocansini ngomlomo. Kepha kungani ungazami ngama-engeli amasha? Nansi eyodwa: "Yenza umlingani owamukelayo alale phansi imilenze yakhe ilenga eceleni kombhede, ikhawunta, noma itafula. Bese, donsa isihlalo noma isihlalo, noma ngisho namadolo uma uthanda, futhi ube matasa, "kusho uSt. UJohane. (Nayi ithani lezikhundla zobulili ongazama ngalo ngocansi olungena ngaphakathi, futhi.)

Enye inketho: Shintsha izindawo nomlingani wakho, ukuze wena, njengomnikezeli, ube embhedeni emhlane wakho. "Lala nekhanda lakho onqenqemeni lombhede, uvule umlomo, bese uhambisa umlingani wakho ekhanda lakho bese uzithoba ezindebeni zakho," uphakamisa. Uma umlingani wakho enepipi, lokhu kungakusiza ugweme i-gag reflex ngoba umphimbo ngokwemvelo uvuleke kakhulu kule ndawo, usho kanje. (Nayi eminye imibono yezikhundla ezinhle zobulili bomlomo zabanikazi bezitho zobulili.)

Futhi-ke, ungazama njalo ukubheka ubuso bakho noma u-69-ing. (Bona Okuningi: Konke Odinga Ukukwazi Mayelana Nesikhundla esingu-69).

10. Zama ukugcona ngamazinyo akho.

Kungenzeka ukuthi njengoba ubuwazi ukuthi ucansi lomlomo luyini, utshelwe ukuthi uvale ama-chompers akho ngenkathi ulucula. Ngokuvamile, kuyindlela enhle yokuya ocansini ngomlomo ukusonga izindebe zakho emazinyweni akho ngenkathi ubhekene nesikhumba esithambile sangasese. Kepha (!) "Abanye abantu bathanda ukuzwa kwamazinyo ngaphakathi naseduze kwezitho zabo zangasese," kusho uCarly S. Uzofuna ukuthola imvume yomlingani wakho ngaphambi kokubamangaza nge-nips kuma-bits abo, kepha uma imfucumfucu kazakwenu ngokuvamile ingekho ezwela, ukucindezela okuncane kwamazinyo kungazizwa kumnandi, uthi.

Amazinyo akho angasetshenziswa futhi njengethoyizi kwezinye izindawo zomlingani wakho ezifana namathanga, izinqe, amathambo e-hip, nentamo. Ngakho-ke, ngaphambi kokuba ufike Emcimbini Omkhulu Womlomo, kungani ungaklolodeli amathanga ozakwenu ngokukhotha nangoluma lothando (olumnene)? (I-BTW: Ubuwazi ukuthi akufanele uxubhe amazinyo ngaphambi kokwenza ucansi lomlomo?)

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