Yini i-Bigger Orgasm Killer? Ukukhathazeka noma Imithi Elwa Nexhala?

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• Kungani ukukhathazeka kungaholela empilweni yobulili enganelisi kangako - kanye nama-orgasms
• Izimpawu zokukhathazeka ezingangena endleleni yeBig O
  
• Kunzima ukungena kumzwelo
• Ukubamba-22: Imithi yokukhathazeka nayo yenza kube nzima - kwesinye isikhathi kungenzeki - ku-orgasm
• Imithi yokukhathazeka ikwenza kube nzima kanjani ukugcotshwa
  

Abesifazane abaningi babhajwe kuCatch-22 engajabulisi kangako.

U-Liz Lazzara akazizwa elahlekile ngaso sonke isikhathi ngesikhathi socansi, ehlulwa yimizwa yokuzijabulisa kwakhe.

Esikhundleni salokho, uzizwa ecindezelwa ngaphakathi ku-orgasm ngokushesha ukuze agweme ukucasula umlingani wakhe, okuvame ukwenza kube nzima ngaye ukuvuthwa.

“Yize iningi lozakwethu lingakatholi ukucasuka noma ukuphelelwa isineke ngokuthi ngiza ngokushesha kangakanani, abanye bakwenzile lokho. Lezo zinkumbulo zihlala engqondweni yami, zenze ukukhathazeka kwami ​​kufike emvuthwandaba kuqhubeke, ”usho kanje.

U-Lazzara, oneminyaka engama-30 ubudala, une-generalized disorder disorder (GAD) - isimo esinemibala eminingi yokuhlangenwe nakho kwakhe kocansi.

Ochwepheshe bathi labo abane-GAD bangakuthola kunzima ukuphumula, babe nobunzima bokutshela abalingani babo ukuthi bathanda ini, noma bagxile kakhulu ekujabuliseni umlingani wabo ukuze bangazithokozisi.

Yize impilo yezocansi kaLazzara ithintekile ukukhathazeka, abesifazane abaningi abaphatha ukukhathazeka kwabo ngemithi bakuthola kuyinselele ukugcina izimpilo ezanelisayo zocansi.

Ngenkathi ukugijimisa imicabango noma ukuzwa ubugovu kusenomthelela empilweni yezocansi kaLazzara, ubuye aqaphele ukuthi imishanguzo yokulwa nokukhathazeka yehlise idrive lakhe lokuya ocansini futhi yenze kwaba nzima kakhulu kuye ukufika kuvuthondaba.

Njengoba imithi elwa nokukhathazeka futhi ivimbela izimpilo zabantu zocansi njengomphumela wecala, kuyinkinga engabonakala ingenaso isixazululo esihle.

Ngabesifazane abaphindwe kabili kunabesilisa abathintwe ukukhathazeka, abesifazane abaningi laphaya bangabhekana nenkinga okungakhulunywa kangako ngayo.

Kungani ukukhathazeka kungaholela empilweni yobulili enganelisi kangako - kanye nama-orgasms

Udokotela wezifo zengqondo uLaura F. Dabney, MD uthi esinye sezizathu sokuthi abantu abanexhala bangalwela ukuthola izimpilo ezanelisayo zocansi kungenxa yezinkinga zokuxhumana nabalingani babo.

UDabney uthi umnyombo wokukhathazeka uvame ukweqisa, ukuzizwa unecala elingadingekile ngokuthola imizwa ejwayelekile, efana nentukuthelo noma isidingo. Abantu abane-GAD ngokungazi bazizwa sengathi kufanele bajeziswe ngokuba nale mizwa.

"Lokhu kuba necala kubenza bangakwazi ukuveza imizwa yabo kahle - noma nhlobo - ngakho-ke kaningi abakwazi ukutshela abalingani babo ukuthi yini ebasebenzelayo nengabasebenzeli yona, ngokwemvelo, engakusizi ukusondelana," UDabney uthi.

Ngaphezu kwalokho, uthi abantu abaningi abanexhala bagxila kakhulu ekujabuliseni abanye baze behluleke ukubeka phambili injabulo yabo.

"Impilo ekahle yocansi, nobudlelwano kukonke, kuvikela injabulo yakho bese kusiza umlingani wakho ukuthi ajabule - beka imaskhi yakho ye-oxygen kuqala," kusho uDabney.

Ngaphezu kwalokho, imicabango yokujaha evame ukuhlotshaniswa nokukhathazeka ingavimbela injabulo yezocansi. ILazzara inezinkathazo, kanye ne-post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). Uthi zombili lezi zimo sezenze kwaba nzima ukuthi akwazi ukugcoba ngesikhathi socansi.

Esikhundleni sokuzizwa elahlekile okwamanje nomunye wakhe obalulekile - anqotshwe inkanuko nenjabulo njengoba esondela kwi-orgasm - uLazzara kufanele alwe nemicabango engathandeki, ngamunye inhlamvu ebulala i-libido.

"Ngijwayele ukuba nemicabango yokujaha ngenkathi ngizama ukuvuthwa, okungiphazamisa ekuzizweleni ngijabule noma ngikuyeke," esho. “Le micabango ingaba ngezindaba zansuku zonke, njengezinto engidinga ukuzenza noma ukukhishwa kwemali. Noma bangangena kakhulu, njengezithombe zami zobulili ezinabantu abahlukumezekile noma abangenampilo. ”

Izimpawu zokukhathazeka ezingangena endleleni yeBig O

• imicabango yokujaha engena ezikhathini zakho ezijabulisa kakhulu
• ukuzizwa unecala lokuba nemizwa ejwayelekile
• ukuthambekela kokugxila enjabulweni yabanye abantu, hhayi eyakho
• ukuxhumana okungekuhle nomlingani wakho mayelana nokuthi yini oyithandayo
• ukungazizwa esimeni sezocansi kaningi

Kunzima ukungena kumzwelo

USandra *, oneminyaka engama-55 ubudala, ulwe ne-GAD impilo yakhe yonke.Uthi phezu kokukhathazeka kwakhe, ubelokhu enempilo enempilo, esebenzayo yocansi nomyeni wakhe weminyaka engama-25.

Kuze kube yilapho eqala ukuthatha iValium eminyakeni emihlanu eyedlule.

Imithi yenza kube nzima kakhulu kuSandra ukuthi abe ne-orgasm. Futhi kwamshiya cishe akakaze abe nesimo sokuya ocansini.

Uthi: “Kwakungathi enye ingxenye yami iyeke ukulangazelela ukuya ocansini,” kusho yena.

UNicole Prause, PhD, ungudokotela wezengqondo onelayisense futhi ungumsunguli weLiberos Center, isikhungo socwaningo lwezocansi eLos Angeles. Uthi abantu abanexhala bavame ukuthola kunzima ukuphumula ekuqaleni kocansi, ngesikhathi sokuvuka.

Ngalesi sigaba, ukukwazi ukugxila kwezocansi kubalulekile ekuzijabuliseni. Kepha uPrause uthi abantu abanokukhathazeka okuphezulu kakhulu bangakuthola kuyinselele ukulahleka okwamanje, futhi esikhundleni salokho bazocabanga ngokweqile.

Ukwehluleka ukuphumula kungaholela ekubukeni, uPrause uthi, okwenzeka lapho abantu bezizwa sengathi bayazibuka benza ucansi esikhundleni sokucwiliswa okwamanje.

USandra kuye kwadingeka enze umzamo oqondile wokunqoba i-libido yakhe ephansi, ngoba uyazi ukuthi ucansi lubalulekile empilweni yakhe nasempilweni yomshado wakhe.

Yize elwela ukuzizwa evuswa, uthi uma izinto seziqala ukufudumala nomyeni wakhe embhedeni, uhlala ezijabulisa.

Kuyindaba yokuzinika leso sikhumbuzi somqondo sokuthi noma engazizwa evuliwe manje, uzothi lapho yena nomyeni wakhe beqala ukuthintana.

"Ngisaphila impilo yocansi ngoba ngikhetha ukwenza ngokwengqondo," kusho uSandra. “Futhi uma usuhamba, konke kuhle futhi kulungile. Ukuthi nje angisakhangwa yiyona njengakuqala. ”

Ukubamba-22: Imithi yokukhathazeka nayo yenza kube nzima - kwesinye isikhathi kungenzeki - ku-orgasm

Abesifazane abaningi abane-GAD, njengoCohen, babhajwe ku-Catch-22. Banokukhathazeka, okungaba nomthelela omubi ezimpilweni zabo - kufakwe nezocansi - futhi bafakwa emithini ebasizayo.

Kepha leyo mithi inganciphisa i-libido yabo futhi ibanikeze i-anorgasmia, ukungakwazi ukufinyelela kwi-orgasm.

Kodwa ukuphuma emithini akuyona inketho ngaso sonke isikhathi, njengoba izinzuzo zayo zidlula i-libido ephansi noma i-anorgasmia.

Ngaphandle kwemithi, abesifazane bangaqala ukuhlangabezana nezimpawu zokukhathazeka ezazibenza bangazitholi i-orgasm kwasekuqaleni.

Kunezinhlobo ezimbili eziyinhloko zemithi enqunyelwe ukwelapha i-GAD. Owokuqala ama-benzodiazepines afana ne-Xanax noma i-Valium, okuyimithi evame ukuthathwa ngendlela edingekayo ukwelapha ukukhathazeka.

Bese kuba khona ama-SSRI (ama-serotonin reuptake inhibitors akhethiwe) nama-SNRIs (i-serotonin-norepinephrine reuptake inhibitors), amakilasi ezidakamizwa kwesinye isikhathi abizwa ngokuthi ama-antidepressants - njengeProzac ne-Effexor - nawo anqunyelwe ukwelapha ukukhathazeka isikhathi eside.

"Akukho sigaba semithi esingcono ekuqedeni ama-orgasms," kusho uPrause ngama-SSRIs.

Eqinisweni, kutholakale ukuthi ama-SSRI amathathu abekwe ngokujwayelekile, "anciphise kakhulu i-libido, ukuvusa inkanuko, ubude be-orgasm, namandla we-orgasm."

USandra waqala ukuthatha i-antidepressant emasontweni amathathu edlule ngoba odokotela abeluleki ngokuthatha iValium isikhathi eside. Kodwa imithi iye yaba yingxenye enkulu ekuphathweni kokukhathazeka kukaSandra kangangokuthi ucabanga ukuthi kuzoba nzima ukuthi kuphele.

Uthi: “Ngicabanga ukuthi kufanele ngibe semithini yokwelashwa. “Bengingeke ngibe kuyona, kodwa ngingumuntu ohlukile ngaphandle kwayo. Ngingumuntu odabukisayo. Ngakho kufanele ngibe lapho. ”

Kubantu abangakwazi ukwenza i-orgasm njengomphumela oseceleni wale mithi, uPrause uthi okuwukuphela kokulungisa ukushintsha imishanguzo noma ukuphuma emithini bese uzama ukwelashwa.

Awukho umuthi ongawuthatha, ngaphezu kwe-anti-depressant, okwenza kube lula ku-orgasm, usho kanjalo.

Imithi yokukhathazeka ikwenza kube nzima kanjani ukugcotshwa

• Izifundo zibonisa ukuthi ama-SSRIs aphansi ocansini wokushayela kanye nobude namandla we-orgasms
• Imithi yokulwa nokukhathazeka nayo ingenza kube yinselele, noma cishe kungenzeki, kwabanye abantu ukuvuthwa
• Ochwepheshe bakholelwa ukuthi lokhu kungenxa yokuthi ama-SSRI aphazamisana nesistimu yezinzwa ezwelayo
• Abantu abaningi basathola ukuthi izinzuzo zemithi zidlula imiphumela emibi, ngakho-ke khuluma nodokotela wakho ngezimpawu zakho

ULazzara uzwile imiphumela ye-libido eyehlisiwe ngenxa ye-Effexor, i-antidepressant ayithathayo. "I-Effexor yenza kube nzima kakhulu kimi ukwenza i-orgasm, kokubili kusuka ekuvuseleleni ngokweqile nokungena, futhi kunciphisa ukushayela kwami ​​ubulili," esho.

Uthi i-SSRI ayekuyo phambilini yaba nemiphumela efanayo.

Kepha njengoCohen, umuthi ububalulekile ekuphathweni kukaLazzara kokukhathazeka kwakhe.

ULazzara ufunde ukubhekana nezinkinga abhekene nazo empilweni yakhe yezocansi ngenxa yokuphila ne-GAD. Isibonelo, uthole ukuthi ukugqugquzela izingono, izidlidlizi, nokubuka ngezikhathi ezithile izithombe zobulili ezingcolile nomlingani wakhe kumsiza ukuthi afinyelele ku-clitoral orgasm. Futhi uzikhumbuza ukuthi ukukhathazeka akuyona inkinga okufanele ixazululwe - kepha kunalokho iyingxenye yempilo yakhe yezocansi ngendlela efanayo nezisu, amathoyizi, noma izikhundla azithandayo kungaba yingxenye yempilo yocansi yomunye umuntu.

"Uma uhlala nokukhathazeka, ukwethembana, induduzo, nokufukulwa kubalulekile uma kukhulunywa ngempilo yakho yezocansi," kusho uLazzara. "Kumele ukwazi ukudedela umlingani wakho ukuze nivimbele ukungezwani, imicabango engenakuphumula, nokuphazamiseka kwengqondo okungahlanganiswa nobulili obukhathazayo."

Igama lishintshiwe

UJamie Friedlander ungumbhali nomhleli ozimele onothando lwezempilo. Umsebenzi wakhe uvele kwiThe Cut, Chicago Tribune, Racked, Business Insider, naku-Success Magazine. Lapho engabhali, uvame ukutholakala ehamba, ephuza kakhulu itiye eliluhlaza, noma ezulazula e-Etsy. Ungabona amasampula amaningi womsebenzi wakhe kuwebhusayithi yakhe. Mlandele ku-Twitter.