Ukuzethemba Umzimba

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Minyaka yonke, cishe abesifazane abangama-25 babuthana ekuseni ekuphumeni kwelanga ukuze bathathe uhambo olude lwehora. Umuntu obuka ngaphandle kwalo mbuthano wayengeke abe nomkhondo wokuthi yiziphi izibopho ezibopha umama wabathathu abavela eLos Angeles nodokotela wezengqondo waseKansas noma umqeqeshi wezempilo waseBaltimore.

Nokho, kusukela ngo-1996, leli qembu labesifazane abavela kulo lonke elaseMelika liye lathumela izingcingo nama-e-mail, laqabula abathandekayo babo, base belibangisa ngaphandle kwedolobha ukuyosula izingqondo nezinhliziyo zabo izinsuku ezine e-Shape's Body Confident (eyaziwa ngaphambilini. njengohlelo Lomzimba Olungile). Umgomo wezinsuku ezine? Ukwenza abesifazane bakwazi ukuguqula izithombe zomzimba wabo.

Yethulwe ngo-1996, i-Shape's Body Confident igxile ekutheni abesifazane bazizwa kanjani ngabo nangemizimba yabo nokuthi bangayikhulisa kanjani leyo mizwa. Usuku olujwayelekile lubandakanya izingxoxo ezisebenzisanayo ezingqikithini ezihlobene nezithombe zomzimba, ukuzivocavoca umzimba (kusuka ku-Spinning kuye ekuhambeni izintaba kuya e-yoga), izindlela zokufunda zokuphumula, nokulalela izikhulumi ezihlokweni ezinjengobulili, umsoco nokuqina komzimba.

Ekuseni kuqala ngokuhamba kweqembu noma ukunyuka okunwetshiwe. Abahlanganyeli babe sebehlangana engxoxweni yeqembu eholwa isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo kanye nochwepheshe bezithombe zomzimba u-Ann Kearney-Cooke, Ph.D., umqondisi we-Cincinnati Psychiatric Institute. Iningi lama-alumnae lithi bathola ukusebenzisana nokuvuleleka okwabiwe ngabesifazane ababhekane nezimpi zesithombe somzimba ezifanayo ingxenye ebaluleke kakhulu yohlelo. Abesifazane bahlobanisa imizwa esukela ehlazweni, yecala nentukuthelo iye ekubeni nethemba, injabulo kanye nokuzamukela.

Ngoba okuhlangenwe nakho kwabesifazane kusebenzisa i-gamut kusuka ku-anorexic yangaphambili kuya kokuzivocavoca okuphoqelela noma ukudla ngokweqile, wonke umuntu angazwana nothile eqenjini. Futhi ngokukhuthaza ukubhalwa kwamaphephabhuku ngamunye, ukubonwa ngamehlo kanye nengxoxo yeqembu, uKearney-Cooke usiza laba besifazane ukuthi babone izindawo zabo zokukhathazeka futhi bahlole izindlela ezithile zokuziphatha eziqhubekisela phambili ukunganaki emizimbeni yabo. Uphinde wethule isu lesinyathelo nesinyathelo sokudweba kabusha isithombe somzimba esinempilo abahlanganyeli abangasiyisa ekhaya.

Ingabe I-Body Confident iyasebenza? Lo ngumbuzo mhlawumbe ophendulwe kangcono ngabesifazane asebebuyile iminyaka. Njengoba uzobona ngokufunda okunye kobufakazi obunamandla babafundi, inselele yangempela bonke ababhekana nayo ijula ​​kunemizimba yabo. Leyo nselele iwukuzizwa kangcono ngokuthi bangobani. Nakhu okwenzekile kubo ngonyaka olandela izingqungquthela zabo zokuqala zokuQiniseka komzimba - nokuthi umzimba uqiniseka kanjani ukuthi udlale indima enkulu ekwenzeni lezo zinguquko zenzeke.

"Ngiphume ekucindezelekeni kwami."

- UJulie Robinson, eLos Angeles

Ngo-1996, uRobinson waya emhlanganweni wokuqala wokuQiniseka Komzimba, owabanjwa ngemuva nje kokushona kukanina. “Ukushona kukamama kungenze ngashayeka edwaleni ngoba ngabona ukuthi angikwazanga ukumjabulela noma ubuntwana bami,” usho kanje. "Bengingaphezu kokuzisiza futhi bengidinga ukushintsha impilo yami."

URobinson ushiye isemina yakhe yokuqala ye-Body Confident efunga ukuthi uzohlela kabusha ingqondo, umzimba nomoya wakhe. Ngokukhethekile, wayefuna ukusebenzela ekungazethembi kwakhe kanye nokucindezeleka okungapheli okusezingeni eliphansi, izici ezabelwe umama wakhe ongasekho. URobinson uthi lolu hlelo lumenze wakwazi ukuphuma ekucindezelekeni ngokumbonisa ukuthi angawahambisa kanjani amandla kude nokukhathazeka kwakhe ngokomzimba. "Lapho sengidlulile ukunakekela ukubukeka kwami, kwakukuningi kakhulu empilweni engangikuvumela ngikujabulele. Ngemuva kokuzethemba komzimba, ngavuma le ngxenye yami enomlilo nesifiso," uyaphakamisa. "Angisakuvumeli ukwesaba ukuthi kungiphazamise. Leso sinyathelo sasikhona sonke isikhathi, kodwa angizange ngibone ngoba ngangibanjwe ukucindezeleka."

URobinson uthathe isinyathelo ngokuhlela iklabhu yezincwadi ukuze abandakanye ingqondo yakhe futhi akhe uhlelo olungcono lokusekela. Ngokomzimba, wanquma ukuzibekela imigomo eqondile kunokuya ejimini izinsuku ezinhlanu ngesonto. Ngakho-ke yena nomngani wakhe baqeqeshelwa futhi baqeda i-triathalon ngo-1997. Kwathi-ke, ngemuva konyaka ehambele umhlangano wakhe wesibili woMzimba Wokuqiniseka, wawela entanjeni yokugibela ibhayisikili le-AIDS ngamamayela angu-560 esuka eSan Francisco eya eLos Angeles.

URobinson kamuva weza umbuthano ogcwele ekululameni kwakhe ekufeni kukanina. Uhlanganyele incwadi nabanye asebebambe iqhaza eTucson ngemuva kokushona kwakhe ayibhalele umama wakhe. “Incwadi yami engiyibhalele umama imtshela ngazo zonke izinto engizijabulelayo manje,” kuchaza uRobinson. "Sengifinyelele ephuzwini enganginalo naye. Sengingakwazi ukunikeza izingane zami injabulo yempilo manje ngoba nginayo."

"Lapho ngikholelwa kakhulu kimina, yilapho ngizwa sengathi ngingakwazi ukuzinakekela, futhi yilapho ngizwa sengathi umzimba wami awumubi kangako."

- UMary Jo Castor, uBaltimore

Sekuyiminyaka uCastor azi ukuthi kukhona okungahambi kahle ngomzimba wakhe. “Ngaso sonke isikhathi uma ngizibuka esibukweni, ngangibona amathanga amabili akhuluphele,” ekhumbula. "Ngiye kuBody Confident ngoba bekumele ngibe nokuthula nomzimba wami."

Kujenali yango-1997, u-Castor, ummeli wokuqina impilo yonke, wachaza ngobuciko ukukhathazeka kwakhe lapho edingida izindaba zesithombe somzimba ekuqaleni kwakhe I-Body Confident kanye nezinzuzo ezitholakala ngokwenza lokho: "[Uhlelo] bekuyibhodi lami lokutshuza phakathi nokuphila. Ngabona. ukuthi indlela engizizwa ngayo ngomzimba wami ayihlangene ngalutho nomzimba wami. Uma ucwila ujule bese uvuka, uthathe umoya wokuqala bese uqalaza, konke kubonakala kuhlanzekile futhi okusha futhi okusha. "

Isinyathelo sokuqala sikaCastor kwaba "ukuqala ukunaka kakhulu lokho engangifuna ukukwenza futhi kancane kulokho abanye abafuna ngikwenze," esho, ekhumbula iseluleko sikaKearney-Cooke sokuthi aqale ukugxila ezidingweni zakhe - noma ngabe lokho kusho ukuthatha isikhathi kude nomndeni nabangane isikhashana. UCastor ubonane nodokotela wezokudla, futhi namhlanje, uzilolonga njalo nomyeni wakhe, udla ukudla okunempilo futhi ugxile kowesifazane omusha amtholile.

Namuhla, uma uCastor ezithela esibukweni, kungenzeka angawaboni lawo mathanga. “Ngidlula lapho manje,” kusho yena. "Ikakhulu engikubonayo ukuthi nginamandla impela."

"Ngiqale umjaho wamabhayisikili."

- UBeth McGilley, Ph.D., Wichita, Kan.

Uthunjana ezinganeni ezinhlanu, uMcGilley washonelwa ngunina ngokuzibulala ngenkathi uMcGilley eneminyaka engu-16 nje kuphela. Uthi: “Ukuba yindodana eyiqhawe kwakuyindima yami,” usho ngeminyaka engaphambi nangemva kokuba umama wakhe ezibulele. "Ngangiwumsizi nomnakekeli futhi ngangithwalisa wonke umuntu imithwalo, ngakho-ke ngangingahloselwe ukufuna okuningi."

Iworkshop Yokuzethemba Yomzimba, kanye nokwelashwa, kusize uMcGilley ukuthi azinikeze yena kuqala. Lapho omunye umhlanganyeli we-Body Confident embona ekilasini le-Spinning ngo-1997 futhi waphakamisa ukuthi azame umjaho wamabhayisikili, uMcGilley washeshe wabambelela embonweni. "Bengilokhu ngixolele futhi nginganakekeli impilo yami, ngakho-ke enye yezinhloso zami bekuwukuwenza ngamabomu umjaho wamabhayisikili," esho.

Ngemva kokuqeqeshwa, uMcGilley wajoyina iqembu lendawo e-Wichita futhi wangenela umjaho wakhe wokuqala e-Oklahoma City. "Umjaho wamabhayisikili unginikeze indawo yokubhekana nezinselelo zempilo, kufaka phakathi nokuhlangenwe nakho okungokomzwelo engibhekane nakho ngesahlukaniso sami esisanda kwedlula," esho. "Ukugibela ngokumelene no-20-30 mph umoya kukunikeza umuzwa wokwazi ukuthi ukuphi -- ukuziphusha udlulele endaweni obungacabangi ukuthi ungaya kuyo. Ukugibela ibhayisikili kungenze ngazizwa nginamandla ngomzimba wami kanye nami ngokwami."

Emjahweni wakhe wokuqala wamabhayisikili ngo-1998, uMcGilley wangena endaweni yesine engxenyeni yomgwaqo yomjaho onezigaba ezintathu. Ubelokhu egijima kusukela lapho.

"Nginqume ukugijima isigamu semarathon."

- U-Arlene Lance, Plainsboro, NJ

"Uma ngikhuluma iqiniso, bengingalindele ukuthola lutho ohlelweni. Bengifuna ukuya endaweni ye-spa," kusho uLance ehambele i-Body Confident ngo-1997. "Ngenhlanhla, bekungaphezu kwalokho ebengikulindele."

ULance ukhumbula umhleli we-SHAPE oyisikhulu uBarbara Harris ekhuthaza iqembu ngokubatshela ukuthi "bathande umzimba wakho ngalokho ongakwenzela khona."

"Lokho kwangikhuthaza," kukhumbula uLance. "Bengihlala ngizwa sengathi nginekhono elingaphansi kwesilinganiso somzimba, futhi bengizizwa ngibuthakathaka ngokomzimba. Ngakho-ke, kuleyo workshop yokuqala yokuQiniseka ngomzimba, ngaziphusha ngempela: ngagijima. Ngathatha i-Spinning. Ngaya ezifundweni ezintathu zokuzivocavoca. Kwakujabulisa futhi kwakha ukuzethemba kwami. "

Lapho ebuyela eNew Jersey, uLance wanquma ukuziqeqeshela ukugijima isigamu semarathon. "Ngikwenzile, ngamamayela angu-13.1, ePhiladelphia," uyabika. "Kusukela ngiziqeqesha futhi ngincintisana, ngizizwa ngingcono. Ngingumdlali kwezemidlalo, nginamandla. Ngibheka umzimba wami ngalokho ongangenzela khona."

Lokho kuzethemba kuye kwangena kwezinye izingxenye zempilo kaLance. "Emhlanganweni wami wokuqala weBody Confident, ngangisanda kuqala ukubuyela esikoleni ukuze ngithole iziqu kwezamabhizinisi futhi ngangingaqiniseki ngokuqeda," kusho uLance. "Ngikholelwa impela ukuthi ukuqeda uhhafu wemarathon kungishintshile. Ngesikhathi ukuzethemba kwami ​​bekuphansi, benginobunzima bokulandela izinto kusukela ekuqaleni kuze kube sekugcineni. Kodwa angizange ngiyeke isikole [wathola iziqu zakhe ngonyaka odlule], futhi manje senginethemba lokuthola iziqu ze-bachelor kwezemali. "

"Ngifunde ukulwa nesifo sami."

-Tammy Faughnan, Union, N.J.

Ngo-February 1997, uFaughnan kwatholakala ukuthi unesifo iLyme, isifo sokuvuvukala esivame ukubangelwa ukulunywa umkhaza wezinyamazane. Lesi sifo nokwelashwa okunamandla kwama-antibiotic okusetshenziselwe ukwelapha lesi sifo kumenze walahlekelwa ithoni yemisipha, wazuza amakhilogremu angama-35, futhi wakhuthazelela isifo samathambo esilimazayo, ikhanda elibuhlungu nokukhathala okukhulu.

Uthi: “Ngaze ngehluleka ukulawula umzimba wami. "Kwaba ukuphaphama lapho umzimba wami wawungenzi ngendlela engangifuna ngayo."

UFaughnan waya kwi-Body Confident enethemba lokufunda amasu anempilo okubhekana nalesi sifo. “Ngaphambi kwalolu hlelo, isimo somzimba wami sasingesihle,” ekhumbula. "Bengidinga ukwenza okuthile - yize ukuzuza kwesisindo bekuyingxenye nje yendlela engiwubheka ngayo umzimba wami. Kwakungeyona into ebaluleke kakhulu; ukudlula usuku ngalunye kwaba, ukukwazi ukunyakazisa izingalo nemilenze nokusebenza empilweni yami yansuku zonke kwaba. "

Ekuzethembeni Komzimba, uFaughnan wafunda ukuthi angazithatha kanjani izinyathelo zomntwana zokuzivocavoca futhi. Uthi: “Ngesinye isikhathi ngake ngacabanga, ‘Uma ngikwazi ukuhamba ibangana nje, kungani ngizihlupha?’ kusho. Kwathi-ke, ngenkathi ehamba nezinye iqembu ekuseni, wakhuthazwa ukuba avele enze okulinganiselwe, esikhundleni sokucindezela kakhulu noma, okubi nakakhulu, ukuyeka ngokuphelele.

Wasilalela iseluleko sakhe. "Ngaso leso sikhathi lapho kutholakala abakwaLyme, mina nomyeni wami saya osebeni. Ngangingakwazi ukuhamba, ngakho-ke wavele wapaka imoto ngasemanzini," usho kanje. "Ngemuva konyaka, ngemuva kweBody Confident, lapho siphinda saya, ngahamba ngebhodi lendlela, amamayela amane, kwavele kwehla izinyembezi kimi.

"Ngokuxhaswa abanye besifazane eqenjini, ngafunda ukungalweli umzimba enganginawo ngenkathi ngineminyaka engu-21, kodwa ukuze ngibe nomzimba ophilile ngineminyaka engama-40," usho kanje. "I-Body Confident ingenze ngabona ukuthi kungakanani engikwaziyo ukulawula impilo yami nomzimba wami naphezu kwalesi sifo."

"Ngifunde ukulalela umyeni wami."

- UChandra Cowen, iKarmeli, i-Ind.

"Eminyakeni embalwa eyedlule, ngangizizwa ngendlela efanayo ngomzimba wami njengoba ngizizwa namuhla. Ngokomzimba, kunezinto engingathanda ukuzenza," kusho uCowen. "Kepha maqondana nangaphakathi nendlela engizizwa ngayo - lokho kushintshe kakhulu."

Iminyaka yakamuva yenze izinguquko ezinkulu emndenini kaCowen. Ngo-1997, umngani womndeni washona engozini yemoto. Ngenqubo yokudabuka, uCowen wathola ukuthi wayelalela umyeni wakhe kakhulu ngezikhathi ezinzima, kunokuba asheshe ukuthukuthela njengakuqala - ikhono abelisebenza ngokuzimisela.

Indlela entsha ka-Cowen ibonga ngokwengxenye ekuqondiseni kuka-Kearney-Cooke kumaseshini eqembu. “I-Body Confident yangisiza ngafunda ukukhuluma kangcono nomyeni wami, manje sengiyamvumela ukuba asuse izinto esifubeni sakhe,” usho kanje. "Lokho kuyangisiza ngoba angicindezelwa ngicabanga nje ukuthi ungicasukele."

Zimbalwa izingxabano zobudlelwano ezenze uCowen waba ngumuntu ozolile, ophethe ukuthi uzizwa kanjani lapho izinto zingahambi kahle. “Manje nginezinye izindlela lapho ngicindezeleka khona, njengokuchitha isikhathi nezingane zami, ukugibela ibhayisikili lami noma ukusebenza egcekeni, okunginika umuzwa wokuziqhenya nokufeza okuthile.

“Ukuzivocavoca kuyasiza futhi,” uyacabanga. "Angikho lapho engifuna ukuba khona kanye [nesisindo sami], kodwa ngizizwa ngingcono kakhulu ngami ngaphakathi. Sengikhule kakhulu."

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