Ngibhekana Kanjani 'ne-Chemo Brain' Ngaphandle Kokuzenyeza?

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• 1. Ungavuleleka yini ekufundeni ezinye izinhlelo ezintsha zenhlangano?
• 2. Uzizwa kanjani ngokuvulela abantu abaningi izingqinamba zakho?
• 3. Ungayiphonsela kanjani inselelo indlela wena, nabanye abakuzungezile, okulindeleke ukuthi bahambisane ngayo?

Sifaka imikhiqizo esicabanga ukuthi ilusizo kubafundi bethu. Uma uthenga ngezixhumanisi ezikuleli khasi, singathola ikhomishini encane. Nansi inqubo yethu.

Kulula kakhulu ukuzisola ngezibazi esiziphethe - ngokomzimba nangokwengqondo.

Q: Noma ngiqede i-chemo ezinyangeni ezimbalwa ezedlule, ngisalwa nobunzima obusabekayo be "chemo brain" Ngizithola ngikhohlwa izinto ezinhle kakhulu, ezifana nezinhlelo zezemidlalo zezingane zami namagama abantu engisanda kuhlangana nabo.

Uma kungenjalo ngekhalenda elisefonini yami, angazi ukuthi ngiyoke ngigcine kanjani ama-aphoyintimenti noma izinhlelo engizenze nabangane noma unkosikazi wami - futhi kulapho kuphela lapho ngikhumbula ukufaka izinto ocingweni lwami ukuqala ngazo. Umphathi wami uhlala engikhumbuza ngemisebenzi yomsebenzi ebengiyikhohliwe ngokuphelele. Angikaze ngibe nohlelo lwenhlangano noma ngigcine uhlu lwezinto okufanele zenziwe ngoba angikaze ngidinge, futhi manje ngizizwa ngicindezeleke kakhulu futhi nginamahloni okufunda ukuthi ngikwenza kanjani.

Kepha ngokwazi noma ngubani ngaphandle komndeni wami, ngiyaxolisa futhi konke kuhle. Ukufihla ukwehluleka kwami ​​kokuqonda kuyakhathala. Usizo?

Ngiyaziqhenya ngawe ngokuthola ukwelashwa futhi uphuma ngakolunye uhlangothi usazimisele ngokwenza okulungile ngomkakho, abangane bakho, izingane zakho, nomsebenzi wakho.

Ngoba singakhuluma ngalokho isikhashana? Angifuni ukunciphisa imizabalazo yakho yamanje kube bonke - kepha lokho odlule kukho kufana nokuningi. Ngiyethemba abantu abasempilweni yakho bayakubona lokho futhi bazimisele ukukusika kancane kancane uma ukhohlwa igama noma i-aphoyintimenti.

Futhi nami bengikhona. Ngiyazi ukuthi yize lokho kungumcabango omuhle, akwenele. Naphezu kwakho konke esidlule kukho, imvamisa kulula kakhulu ukusola thina ngezibazi esiziphethe - ngokomzimba futhi ngokwengqondo.

Ngakho-ke, nazi izinto ezintathu okufanele uzibuze zona:

1. Ungavuleleka yini ekufundeni ezinye izinhlelo ezintsha zenhlangano?

Yize kunokuningi okuhlukile ngokuhlangenwe nakho kokwelashwa komdlavuza, umuzwa wehlazo nokukhungatheka ngokuzungeza "ukwehluleka" ekuhlelweni nasekugxileni kukwabelwana ngakho ngabantu abaningi ababhekene nezifo ezahlukahlukene nezimo zokuphila.

Abantu abadala abasanda kutholakala bene-ADHD, abantu ababhekene nokuncishwa ubuthongo okungapheli, abazali abasha abafunda ukuphatha izidingo zomuntu omncane kanye nezabo: Bonke laba bantu kufanele babhekane nokukhohlwa kanye nokungahleleki. Lokho kusho ukufunda amakhono amasha.

Ezinye zezeluleko zenhlangano ezinesihawu futhi ezisebenza kakhulu ongazithola empeleni ziyizinto ezenzelwe abantu abane-ADHD. Ubuchopho beChemo bungalingisa izimpawu ze-ADHD ngezindlela eziningi, futhi ngenkathi lokho akusho wena manje unayo I-ADHD, kusho ukuthi amakhono afanayo okubhekana nalokhu kungenzeka asize.

Ngizincoma impela izincwadi ezithi “ADD-Friendly Ways to Organize Your Life” nethi “Mastering Your Adult ADHD.” Le ncwadi yokugcina yenzelwe ukuthi igcwaliswe ngosizo lwe-Therapist - okungaba umqondo omuhle kuwe uma ukwazi ukuyithola - kepha kuyenzeka wedwa. Lezi zincwadi zifundisa amakhono asebenzayo azokusiza ukulandela umkhondo wezinto futhi uzizwe unengcindezi futhi ungakwazi.

Ukusetha uhlelo olusha, lokuhlanganisa umndeni wonke futhi kuyindlela enhle yokubandakanya obathandayo ekusizeni ubhekane nakho.

Awuzange usho ukuthi izingane zakho zineminyaka emingaki, kodwa uma zikhule ngokwanele ukuthi zingadlala imidlalo yangemva kwesikole, kungenzeka ukuthi sezikhulile ngokwanele ukuthi zingafunda ukuphatha amashejuli azo. Yilokho umndeni wonke ongakwenza ndawonye. Isibonelo, yiba nekhalenda elinemibala ebhodini elimhlophe ekhishini noma egumbini lomndeni, futhi ukhuthaze wonke umuntu ukuthi anikele kulo.

Impela, kungahle kube nokulungiswa okuncane uma ubuhlala ukwazi ukukhumbula konke ngaphambili. Kodwa futhi kuyisikhathi esihle sokufundisa izingane zakho ngokubaluleka kokulinganisela umsebenzi ongokomzwelo emndenini nokuthatha isibopho ngezidingo zakho.

Futhi ngikhuluma ngokubandakanya abanye…

2. Uzizwa kanjani ngokuvulela abantu abaningi izingqinamba zakho?

Kuzwakala sengathi ukucindezela kwakho okuningi njengamanje kuqhamuka emzameni wokuzenza ngathi "konke kuhle." Kwesinye isikhathi lokho kunzima kakhulu kunokubhekana nenkinga yangempela ozama kanzima ukuyifihla. Unokwanele epuletini lakho njengamanje.

Okubi kunakho konke, uma abantu bengazi ukuthi udonsa kanzima, ilapho-ke lapho kungenzeka kakhulu ukuthi bafike eziphethweni ezingezinhle nezingafanele ngawe nokuthi kungani ukhohlwe lowo mhlangano noma isabelo.

Ukucaca, bona akufanele. Kufanele kube sobala ngokuphelele ukuthi kungathatha abantu isikhashana ukululama ekwelashweni ngomdlavuza. Kepha akubona bonke abantu abazaziyo lezi zinto.

Uma unanoma yini efana nami, ungahle ucabange, "Kodwa akusizo izaba nje lezo?" Cha akunjalo. Njengomuntu ophethwe umdlavuza, unemvume yami yokukhipha igama elithi "izaba" olimini lwakho lwamagama. (Ngaphandle kokuthi “Uxolo, iyiphi ingxenye yokuthi‘ Ngempela nganginomdlavuza ’ongayiqondi?”)

Kungabonakala sengathi abantu bayakucasula noma bakucasule kakhulu kwesinye isikhathi ukuthi ukubanikeza incazelo ngeke kwenze mehluko. Kwabanye abantu bekungeke, ngoba abanye abantu bayamunca.

Gxila kulabo abangakwenzi. Kubo, ukuba nomongo othile wezinkinga zakho zamanje kungenza umehluko phakathi kokukhungatheka nozwela lwangempela.

3. Ungayiphonsela kanjani inselelo indlela wena, nabanye abakuzungezile, okulindeleke ukuthi bahambisane ngayo?

Uthathe kanjani isinqumo sokuthi ukukhumbula amashejuli ezikhathi zangaphandle zezingane zakho namagama abo bonke ohlangana nabo kuyinto okufanele ukwazi ukuyenza?

Angiklolodelwa. Nginethemba lokuthi uzocabanga ukuthi kwenzeka kanjani ukuba ufake ngaphakathi lokhu okulindelwe kokukwazi ukukhumbula konke nokuphatha izimpilo zabantu abaningi ngaphandle kosizo.

Ngoba uma ume ucabange ngakho, empeleni akukho lutho "olujwayelekile" noma "lwemvelo" ngomqondo wokuthi kufanele sikwazi ukwenza kalula izinto ezinjalo enkumbulweni.

Asilindeli ukuthi abantu bagijime ama-60 miles ngehora ukuze baye emsebenzini; sisebenzisa izimoto noma izinto zokuhamba zomphakathi. Asilindeli thina ngokwethu ukugcina ngokunembile isikhathi ezingqondweni zethu; sisebenzisa amawashi namawashi. Kungani silindele ukuba sibambe ngekhanda amashejuli ezemidlalo nezinhlu ezingapheli zokwenziwayo?

Ubuchopho bomuntu abujwayele ukwenziwa ngekhanda ukuthi yiziphi izinsuku nezikhathi uJosh aneModeli UN nokuthi u-Ashley unomkhuba webhola lezinyawo.

Futhi isikhathi eside, isikhathi eside emlandweni wesintu, amashejuli wethu awazange anqunywe amawashi nezikhathi okuvunyelwene ngazo. Babenqunywa ukuphuma nokushona kwelanga.

Angiyena owelendwangu yesiliva, kepha uma kukhona okuzotholakala lapha, yilokhu: Ukwelashwa kwakho nemiphumela yako emibi elandelwayo bekubi kakhulu futhi kubuhlungu, kepha mhlawumbe ungabavumela kube yisizathu sokuzikhulula emasikweni angenangqondo okulindelwe okuncela ngokwethembeka - kuwo wonke umuntu.

Ozithobayo,

UMiri

UMiri Mogilevsky ungumbhali, uthisha, kanye nodokotela osebenza eColumbus, e-Ohio. Baphethe i-BA kwezengqondo evela eNyakatho-ntshonalanga Yunivesithi kanye ne-master's kwezenhlalakahle evela e-Columbia University. Batholakala ukuthi banomdlavuza webele wesigaba 2a ngo-Okthoba 2017 futhi baqeda ukwelashwa entwasahlobo ka-2018. UMiri ungumnikazi wamawigi ahlukene angama-25 kusukela ezinsukwini zabo ze-chemo futhi uyakujabulela ukuwasebenzisa ngendlela ehlelekile. Ngaphandle komdlavuza, babhala nangempilo yengqondo, ubunikazi benkosikazi, ucansi oluphephile nemvume, nengadi.