Abantu Abengeziwe Bathola Ukukhathala Kobubele Ekuhlukanisweni. Nansi Indlela Yokubhekana Nesimo

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• Lapho uhlala uyinsika yokondla abanye, ungaqala ukuzwa ukukhathala kozwela.
• Kepha uma ungazinakekeli ngenkathi unakekela abanye, usengozini yokusha.
• Izimpawu zokukhathala kobubele
• Ngingazisiza kanjani uma ngihlangabezana nokukhathala kobubele?
• Zijwayeze ukuzinakekela okungaguquguquki
• Hlakulela ukuqonda okuqondakalayo
• Funda ukuthi ungalucela kanjani usizo
• Ithula futhi igcwalise futhi
• Futhi, njengenjwayelo, ukwelashwa

Ukuba nozwela ngokungapheli, kuyilapho kuncomeka, kungakwenza ungene odakeni.

I-bandwidth engokomzwelo iyindlela yokuphila kulezi zikhathi - futhi abanye bethu banokuningi kunabanye.

Lowo mkhawulokudonsa ubaluleke kakhulu manje. Wonke umuntu uyabhekana okuthile njengoba sijwayela lolu shintsho olukhulu (kodwa lwesikhashana!).

Sivame ukuthembela kuzwelo lwabathandekayo bethu ezikhathini ezinjengalezi. Ngemuva kwakho konke, wonke umuntu udinga ihlombe azokhala kulo.

Kodwa kwenzekani lapho uhlala uyihlombe eliqinile, umnakekeli, onesisombululo sezinkinga zawo wonke umuntu?

Lapho uhlala uyinsika yokondla abanye, ungaqala ukuzwa ukukhathala kozwela.

Ukukhathala kwesisa kungumthwalo ongokomzwelo nangokomzimba odalwa ukunakekela labo abasosizini. Ukuphela okuphelele ngokomzwelo.

Labo ababhekene nokukhathala kobubele bavame ukulahlekelwa ukuxhumana nozwela lwabo. Bazizwa bekhungathekile futhi bengaxhumene kangako nomsebenzi wabo nabathandekayo babo.

Lokhu kuyinto evame ukubhekana nodokotela, abasebenzi bezenhlalakahle, abaphenduli bokuqala, nabanakekeli babagulayo. Ngenkathi kuyingozi emsebenzini kubasebenzi bezokunakekelwa kwezempilo, noma ngubani angathola ukukhathala kobubele.

Ngobhadane, sithembela komunye nomunye ngokuya ngokwengeziwe ukudlula usuku ngalunye. Kuyinto evamile ukufuna ukunakekela abantu obathandayo ngalesi sikhathi.

Kepha uma ungazinakekeli ngenkathi unakekela abanye, usengozini yokusha.

Ukukhathala kobubele ngesikhathi se-COVID-19 kungabukeka njengomama enza umsebenzi wasekhaya, ukuba ngumzali nokufunda izingane zakhe, manje ocashe endlini yangasese ukuze athole ukuthula.

Kubonakala kubantu abadala obekufanele bazikhulise bona, izingane zakwabo, nabazali abangabaphumelelanga, manje benqikaza ukuphendula ucingo lapho umuntu ohlangothini oluthile ebekezelela ukuncibilika kwabo kwesine kweviki.

Kungodokotela nabahlengikazi be-ER abangakwazi ukubamba iso lokulala phakathi kwamashifu asebenza ubusuku nemini, noma oshade naye ephuza ngaphezu kwesilinganiso ukubhekana nokunakekelwa komlingani wakhe othole leli gciwane ngo-24/7.

Ukuba nozwela ngokungapheli, kuyilapho kuncomeka, kungakwenza ungene odakeni.

Ukukhathala kobubele kuvame ukuthinta labo abanozwela olukhulu. Kwesinye isikhathi, labo abahlangabezana nokukhathala kozwelo bangaba nokuhlukumezeka kwabo okwedlule, okuholele ekukhokhweni ngokweqile kokutholakala kwabanye.

Labo abanomlando wokufuna ukuphelela, amasistimu wokusekela angazinzi, kanye nokubeka imizwa yabo phezulu basengozini yokukhathala kobubele.

Izimpawu zokukhathala kobubele

• ukufuna ukuhlukanisa nokuzihlukanisa nabathandekayo
• ukuqhuma kwemizwa nokucasuka
• izimpawu zomzimba zokuthi ubambe ingcindezi njengomhlathi oshubile, amahlombe abuhlungu, isisu esithukuthele, noma ikhanda elingapheli
• izindlela zokuzelapha noma zokuphoqa njengokuphuza ngokweqile, ukugembula, noma ukudla ngokweqile
• inkinga yokugxila
• ukuqwasha noma ubunzima bokulala
• ukulahlekelwa ukuzethemba, ithemba, kanye nentshisekelo kokuzilibazisa

Ukukhathala kobubele akuyona ifa. Kungalungiswa. Kodwa-ke, kuvame ukungaqondakali kahle njengokucindezeleka nokukhathazeka.

Akufani futhi nokuphelelwa ngamandla kwakho. Ukuthatha ikhefu nokuya eholidini ngeke kuxazulule inkinga. Ukubhekana nokukhathala kwesihawu nakanjani kuhilela izinguquko zendlela yokuphila.

Ngingazisiza kanjani uma ngihlangabezana nokukhathala kobubele?

Zijwayeze ukuzinakekela okungaguquguquki

Asikhulumi nje ngama-bubble bath kanye nobuso buso. Ngenkathi kukuhle, kungama-balms wesikhashana odabeni olukhulu. Imayelana nokulalela umzimba wakho.

Ukucindezeleka kuphuma ngezindlela eziningi ezahlukene. Zibuze ukuthi yini oyidingayo ngempela, bese uzibophezele ukuyenza. Uma ungakwazi ukuzenzela okuthile okuhle nsuku zonke, usuvele usendleleni yokuphulukiswa.

Hlakulela ukuqonda okuqondakalayo

Qala ukuqonda okuyingozi kuwe, futhi ukusuka lapho, sebenzisa lokho kuqonda ukudala nokuqinisekisa imingcele.

Uma wazi ukuthi abanye bakuthinta kangakanani, ungafika ngaphambi kokukhathala kobubele ngokuzikhipha ezimweni zokudonsa.

Imingcele izwakala ngathi:

• “Ngiyakukhathalela okushoyo, kodwa anginawo amandla okuzibandakanya ngokugcwele kule ngxoxo njengamanje. Singakhuluma kamuva? ”
• "Angisakwazi ukuthatha isikhathi esengeziwe ngenxa yempilo yami, singawusabalalisa kanjani umsebenzi ngokulingana?"
• "Angikwazi ukukusiza ngalokho njengamanje, kodwa nakhu engingakunikeza khona."

Funda ukuthi ungalucela kanjani usizo

Lokhu mhlawumbe kungumbono wenoveli uma ujwayele ukuba yisandla esisizayo. Kanye, mhlawumbe, vumela omunye umuntu anakekele!

Ukucela othandekayo ukuba enze isidlo sakusihlwa, ukuhambisa umyalezo othile, noma ukuwasha impahla kuwenze lula umthwalo wakho. Kungakunika isikhathi esithe xaxa sokuzihlela kabusha.

Ithula futhi igcwalise futhi

Ukushicilela noma ukuvulela abangane bakho kungakusiza ukuthi ukhulule omunye umthwalo ongokomzwelo owuphethe. Ukwenza okuthile okujabulisayo, njengokuzilibazisa noma ukubukela ibhayisikobho, kungasiza ekuvuseleleni ikhono lakho lokunakekela abanye.

Futhi, njengenjwayelo, ukwelashwa

Uchwepheshe ofanele angakukhombisa izindlela zokuqeda ukucindezeleka futhi asebenze ngomthombo wangempela wenkinga.

Ukugwema ukukhathala kobubele, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi abantu bazibeke eqhulwini. Lapho ubizo lwakho luzosiza abanye, kungaba nzima.

Ekupheleni kosuku, noma kunjalo, uma ungakwazi ukuzisiza, ngeke ube usizo kwabanye.

UGabrielle Smith uyimbongi nombhali waseBrooklyn. Ubhala ngothando / ucansi, ukugula kwengqondo, kanye nokuhlangana. Ungaqhubeka naye ku-Twitter naku-Instagram.