Umsubathi we-CrossFit u-Emily Breeze On Kungani Ukuzivocavoca-Ukuhlazisa Abesifazane Abakhulelwe Kudinga Ukuma

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Ukuzivocavoca umzimba bekulokhu kuyingxenye yempilo yami isikhathi eside engikukhumbulayo. Ngadlala ezemidlalo ngiseyingane futhi ngisesikoleni esiphakeme, ngangingumdlali weDivision I ekolishi, ngabe sengiba umqeqeshi. Ngike ngaba umgijimi ozimisele. Nginesitudiyo sami seyoga, futhi ngincintisane emidlalweni emibili yeCrossFit. Ukuqina bekungumsebenzi wami kule minyaka eyishumi eyedlule - ngamaphesenti ayi-100 umkhuba nendlela yokuphila kimi.

Kakhulu ukuba ngumsubathi kumayelana nokuhlonipha umzimba wakho nokuwulalela nje. Ngesikhathi ngikhulelwa ingane yami yokuqala ngo-2016, ngazama ukuhambisana nesiqubulo esifanayo. Bengingazi ukuthi ngilindeleni, kepha benginobudlelwano obuhle futhi obude impela ne-ob-gyn yami, ngakho-ke ukwazile ukungisiza ukuthi ngihambe ngokuphephile nokuthi umzimba wami uyakwazi ini uma kukhulunywa ngokuzivocavoca ngenkathi ngikhulelwe. Okunye ayehlale ekusho okuhlala ehlala kimina ukuthi ayikho incwadi yempilo yokukhulelwa. Akusayizi-ofanele-konke kubo bonke abesifazane noma ngisho nokukhulelwa ngakunye. Konke kumayelana nokuhambisana nomzimba wakho nokuthatha usuku olulodwa ngesikhathi. Ngawulandela lowo mthetho ngokukhulelwa kwami ​​kokuqala futhi ngazizwa ngimnandi. Futhi manje njengoba nginamasonto angu-36 kanye nesibili sami, ngenza okufanayo.

Okuthile engingasoze ngakuqonda kahle? Kungani abanye bezwa isidingo sokuhlazisa abesifazane abakhulelwe ngokwenza lokho okubenza bazizwe bengcono kakhulu.

Ukuvezwa kwami ​​okokuqala ekuhlazekeni kwaqala lapho nganginamasonto angama-34 ngikhulelwe okokuqala futhi kwavela isisu sami. Ngangisanda kuncintisana emidlalweni yami yokuqala ye-CrossFit ngisenezinyanga eziyisishiyagalombili ngikhulelwe, futhi lapho abezindaba bebamba indaba yami ne-akhawunti yami ye-Instagram, ngaqala ukuthola impendulo engemihle kokuthunyelwe kwami ​​kokufaneleka. Cishe kwakubonakala kunesisindo esikhulu kwabanye abantu, ababecabanga ukuthi, "Lo mqeqeshi onezinyanga eziyisishiyagalombili okhulelwe angakwazi kanjani ukuphakamisa amakhilogremu angu-155?" Kodwa ababengakwazi ukuthi empeleni ngangisebenza kumaphesenti angu-50 we-rep yami evamile yangaphambi kokukhulelwa. Noma kunjalo, ngiyaqonda ukuthi ingabukeka ixakile futhi isangene ngaphandle.

Ngangena ekukhulelweni kwami ​​kwesibili kancane ngikulungele ukugxekwa. Akuxhunyiwe ku-inthanethi, lapho ngisebenza ejimini yami, ukuphendula kusekuhle kakhulu. Abantu bazokuza kimi bathi, "Hawu! Angikholwa ukuthi wenze nje lawo ma-handstand push-up ubheke phansi ukhulelwe!" Bethuke nje noma bamangele. Kepha ku-inthanethi, kube namazwana amaningi kabi engiwatholile kokuthunyelwe kwami ​​ku-Instagram noma kuma-DM afana nokuthi, "Le yindlela elula yokukhipha isisu noma ukukhipha isisu" noma "Uyazi, uma ubungafuni ingane bekufanele Angikaze ngiye ocansini kwasekuqaleni. " Kubi. Kuyaxaka kimi ngoba angisoze ngasho into enjalo kunoma yimuphi omunye umuntu, ingasaphathwa eyowesifazane obhekana nesipiliyoni esinamandla nesingokomzwelo sokukhulisa umuntu ngaphakathi kubo.

Amadoda amaningi azongiphawula nami, kube sengathi angazi ukuthi ngenzani. Kungiphatha kabi lokho ikakhulukazi ngoba abazithwali izingane! Eqinisweni, ngithole umlayezo oqondile ngelinye ilanga ovela kudokotela wesilisa engimaziyo emphakathini wangakithi ebuza inqubo yami futhi engitshela ukuthi akuphephile. Vele, lapho unesisindo esingamakhilogremu angama-30 nebhasikidi evuvukele khona lapho esiswini sakho, kuzofanele ushintshe noma uguqule ukunyakaza. Kepha ukungabaza ukuthi eyami i-ob-gyn ingitshela ukuthi kuphephile? (Okuhlobene: Imininingwane Eyi-10 Yabesifazane Indlela Abachazwe Ngayo E-Gym)

Kubi kakhulu ukuthi abesifazane abaningi badinga ukuhlazeka (kwanoma yiluphi uhlobo nangokuthi noma yini) ngoba wonke umuntu unemizwa. Akunandaba ukuthi ungubani futhi noma ngabe unabalandeli abangaki, akekho (kubandakanya nami) ofuna ukuzwa umuntu ongabazi noma isizinda sakhe sokuqina enza imibono engemihle noma asho ukuthi balimaza ingane yabo. Ikakhulukazi owesifazane kuya kowesifazane, kufanele sinikeze amandla, singahlulelani. (Okuhlobene: Kungani Ukuhlambalaza Umzimba Kuyinkinga Enkulu Kangaka-nokuthi Ongakwenza Ukukumisa)

Umbono omkhulu ongaqondile ngami ukuthi ngizama nje ukugunyaza ukuphakamisa okunzima noma iCrossFit. Kepha akunjalo. Ngisebenzisa i-hashtag #moveyourbump ngoba ngifuna abantu bazi ukuthi ukuhamba ngenkathi ukhulelwe kungaba noma yini-ukuhamba nenja noma ukudlala nezinye izingane uma unazo. Noma kungaba yisigaba esinjenge-Orangetheory noma i-Flywheel, noma yebo, kungaba yi-CrossFit. Kumayelana nokwenza noma yiluphi uhlobo lokunyakaza olukwenza ujabule-noma yikuphi ukunyakaza okukhuthaza impilo enhle ngokomzimba nangokwengqondo. Ngikholwa ngokweqiniso ukuthi umama ophilile uzokwakha ingane enempilo. Kwakunjalo kimi ngengane yami yokuqala futhi ngizizwa ngijabule nakulesi sikhathi. Akukholakali kimi ukuthi kusenodokotela abathile (futhi mbumbulu- "odokotela") abatshela ukuthi balindele abesifazane ukuthi abakwazi ukuphakamisa amakhilogremu angama-20 ngaphezulu kwekhanda labo noma lezi ezinye izindaba zamakhosikazi amadala ngokungasebenzi ngenkathi ukhulelwe. Kuningi okungelona iqiniso laphaya. (Okuhlobene: U-Emily Skye Uphendula Abagxeki Ngesikhathi Sokukhulelwa)

Ngakho-ke, ngijabule ukuhola ngesibonelo-ukukhombisa abantu ukuthi ukuzivocavoca ngenkathi ukhulelwe kubukeka kwehlukile kuyo yonke iminyaka, kuwo wonke amandla, nangobukhulu bonke. Kulo nyaka nje kuphela ngiqeqeshe abesifazane abane abakhulelwe abahlukene. Bonke bake bakhulelwa phambilini (abanye balindele ingane yabo yesithathu noma yesine), futhi ngamunye uzwakalise ukuthi ukuhlala esimweni esihle nokuhamba ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa kwabo kubasizile ukuthi bazizwe engcono kakhulu kuyo yonke inqubo yezinyanga eziyisishiyagalolunye. (Okuhlobene: Izizathu Ezi-7 Ezisekelwa Isayensi Kungani Ukujuluka Ngenkathi Ukhulelwe Kungumqondo Omuhle)

Ingxenye ebanda kunazo zonke yokuqina komzimba ukuthi wonke umuntu usebenzela enhlosweni yempilo nempilo enhle, nokuthi ufika kanjani lapho kukhona uhambo lwakho. Futhi-ke, uma ufuna ukukhululeka futhi umane ungene ezinyangeni eziyisishiyagalolunye ezilandelayo kusofa, kulungile futhi. Ungalimazi omunye umuntu ngamazwi anokhahlo noma ngemibono enqubweni. Esikhundleni salokho, gxila ekusekeleni abanye omama ezindleleni zabo ngazinye.

Yingakho ngibhale okuthunyelwe ku-Instagram ngesonto eledlule ngithi, ngaphambi kokuthi ubuke le vidiyo futhi ungihlanyise, qaphela ukuthi ngingumuntu wangempela lapha onemizwa. Ukuthi ngikhetha ukubhala uhambo lwami akusho ukuthi ngizama ukuliphoqa komunye umuntu. Okungenza ngiqhubeke futhi ngihlanganyele emphakathini wokuqina yimilayezo engiyithola nsuku zonke evela kwabesifazane abangitshela ukuthi bayabonga ukuthi ngifakazela ukuthi umuntu wesifazane angaba namandla amakhulu kangakanani futhi ngibasize bathande imizimba yabo kanye nabo uqobo. Abesifazane bangithinta bevela emazweni aseMpumalanga Ephakathi bathi, "Ngiyakuthanda ukukubuka nokubuka lawa mavidiyo. Asivunyelwe ukwenza lokhu esidlangalaleni lapha, kodwa singena egumbini lethu elingaphansi futhi senza ukunyakaza komzimba futhi usenza sizizwe unikwe amandla. " Ngakho-ke noma ngabe ngithola imibono engakanani enenzondo, ngizoqhubeka nokukhombisa abesifazane ukuthi bangaba namandla futhi babe namandla. (Okuhlobene: Abadali Bephrojekthi Yomzimba Onesibindi Banomlayezo Wama-Shamer Body-Shamers aku-inthanethi)

Into yami enkulu engifuna abanye omama besifazane noma ngenye indlela-bayisuse kokuhlangenwe nakho kwami ​​ukuthi kufanele uhloniphe uhambo lwawo wonke umuntu ungabahlazisi noma ubabeke phansi ngoba kuhlukile kokwakho. Mane ucabange ngaphambi kokukhuluma.

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