Ukudana Kwesimo Sezocansi Kujwayelekile - Nansi Indlela Yokuphatha

-Delile

• Okokuqala, yazi ukuthi awuwedwa
• Lokho obhekene nakho kungahle kube yi-post-coital dysphoria
• Kubangelwa yini?
• Ama-hormone akho
• Imizwa yakho ngocansi
• Imizwa yakho ngobudlelwano
• Izinkinga zomzimba
• Ukuhlukumezeka kwangaphambilini noma ukuhlukunyezwa
• Ukucindezeleka noma okunye ukucindezeleka kwengqondo
• Yini okufanele uyenze uma uzizwa ucindezelekile?
• Finyelela kumhlinzeki wezokunakekelwa kwempilo
• Yini okufanele uyenze uma umlingani wakho ezizwa ecindezelekile?
• Okubalulekile

Okokuqala, yazi ukuthi awuwedwa

Ubulili kufanele bukushiye uzizwa wanelisekile - kepha uma uke wazizwa udabukile ngemuva kwalokho, awuwedwa.

“Imvamisa ucansi lukhuphula imizwa ngenxa yokukhishwa kwe-dopamine nokwanda kwe-serotonin, okuvimbela ukucindezeleka,” kusho uLea Lis, MD, udokotela wezifo zengqondo ogxile kwezocansi nomkhuba eSouthampton, eNew York.

Noma kunjalo, uthi, ukuzizwa ucindezelekile ngemuva kocansi - ngisho nokuvumelana, ubulili obuhle - kuyinto abantu abaningi abazizwa ngayo esikhathini esithile sempilo yabo.

Ucwaningo lwango-2019 luthole ukuthi amaphesenti angama-41 abantu abanepipi bathola lokhu empilweni yabo. Olunye ucwaningo luthole ukuthi amaphesenti angama-46 wabanikazi bezitho zangasese bakuthola okungenani kanye empilweni yabo.

Lokho obhekene nakho kungahle kube yi-post-coital dysphoria

“I-Postcoital dysphoria (PCD) ibhekisa emizweni esukela ekubeni lusizi kuye ekukhathazekeni, ukuyaluza, intukuthelo - ngokuyisisekelo noma imuphi umuzwa omubi ngemuva kocansi okungalindelekile,” kuchaza uGail Saltz, MD, onguprofesa ohlangene wezifo zengqondo e-NY Presbyterian Hospital Weill -Isikole Sezokwelapha saseCornell.

Kungakwenza ngisho nokukhala.

I-PCD ingahlala noma kuphi ukusuka emizuzwini emi-5 kuye emahoreni ama-2, futhi kungenzeka nge-orgasm noma ngaphandle kwayo.

Isibonelo, ngithole ukuthi izimpawu ze-postcoital zazikhona ngemuva kocansi oluvunyelwe, kanye nokwenza ucansi jikelele nokushaya indlwabu.

Kubangelwa yini?

"Impendulo emfushane ukuthi asazi ukuthi yini ebangela i-PCD," kusho uDaniel Sher, isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo emitholampilo kanye nomelaphi wezocansi online. "Akukabi bikho ucwaningo oluqinile olwenziwayo okwamanje."

Abaphenyi banemibono ethile nakuba:

Ama-hormone akho

"Kungaba okuhlobene namahomoni ahilelekile othandweni nasekunamathiselweni," kusho uSher. "Ngesikhathi socansi, izinqubo zakho zamahomoni, zomzimba nezomzwelo ziya ngokuya zanda."

"Uhlangabezana nezinga elingakholeki lokukhuthaza, ngokomzimba nokunye," eqhubeka. “Bese kuthi, kungazelelwe, konke kume futhi umzimba nengqondo yakho kudinge ukubuyela kwisisekelo. Yilesi ‘sokwehla’ somzimba esingaletha umqondo we-dysphoria. ”

Imizwa yakho ngocansi

"Enye inkolelo ukuthi abantu abanamacala amaningi ngokungazi ngocansi bebonke bangaba ne-PCD ngenxa yalokho," kusho uSher. "Lokhu kungenzeka kakhulu kubantu abakhulele ezimeni ezibucayi noma zokulondoloza imikhuba, lapho ucansi luye lwakhiwa njengolubi noma olungcolile."

Ungase futhi udinga nje ikhefu kwezocansi.

"Ukuzizwa ucindezelekile ngemuva kokuya ocansini kungavele kubangelwe ukuthi awukakulungeli ngokomzimba noma ngokomzwelo ukuya ocansini," kusho owelapha ngezocansi uRobert Thomas. "Ukuzizwa unecala futhi ukude nemizwa ngemuva kocansi kungaba inkomba yokuthi awunakho ukuxhumana okujule ngokwanele nomlingani wakho."

Imizwa yakho ngobudlelwano

"Ukuya ocansini kuyinto esondelene kakhulu, futhi ukusondelana kungenza ukuthi sazi kakhulu ngemicabango nemizwa engazi lutho, okubandakanya imicabango edabukisayo noma ethukuthele," kusho uSaltz.

Uma usebudlelwaneni obungagcwalisi, ugcine imizwa yokucasukela umlingani wakho, noma uma kungenjalo uzizwe uphoxekile kubo, le mizwa ingakhuphuka phakathi naphakathi nangemva kocansi, ikwenze uzizwe udabukile.

Ukuxhumana okungekuhle ngemuva kocansi nakho kungadala.

"Ukungajabuli ngesipiliyoni socansi kungaba umthwalo emoyeni, ikakhulukazi uma okulindelwe kungafezwanga ngesikhathi sokuya ocansini," kusho uThomas.

Uma kungukuma kobusuku obubodwa noma ukuxhumana okungajwayelekile, ungahle uzizwe udabukile uma ungamazi ngempela umlingani wakho. Mhlawumbe uzizwa unesizungu noma mhlawumbe uyazisola ngokuhlangana kwakho.

Izinkinga zomzimba

Kungaba nzima ukukhohlwa ngezinkinga zomzimba ongaba nazo.

Uma uzizwa unamahloni noma unamahloni ngendlela obukeka ngayo, kungadala izimpawu ze-PCD, ukudabuka, noma ukucindezeleka.

Ukuhlukumezeka kwangaphambilini noma ukuhlukunyezwa

Uma uke wahlangabezana nokuhlukunyezwa ngokocansi noma ukuhlukunyezwa esikhathini esedlule, kungakhuphula imizwa eminingi yokuba sengozini, ukwesaba nokuzizwa unecala.

“[Abantu] abake bahlukunyezwa ngokobulili bangase bahlobanise ukuhlangana ngokocansi kamuva - ngisho nalabo abavumelana noma okwenzeka ebudlelwaneni obusondelene - nokuhlukumezeka kokuhlukunyezwa,” kusho uLis.

Lokhu kungaholela emizweni yehlazo, yecala, yokujeziswa, noma yokulahlekelwa, futhi kungathinta indlela ozizwa ngayo ngocansi - noma ngabe isikhathi eside ngemuva kokuhlukumezeka kokuqala.

Izindlela ezithile zokuthintwa noma izikhundla nakho kungadala, ikakhulukazi uma ubhekana ne-PTSD.

Ukucindezeleka noma okunye ukucindezeleka kwengqondo

Uma usuvele uzizwa ucindezelekile, ukhathazekile, noma ungajabule empilweni yakho yansuku zonke, ucansi lungahle lunikeze ukuphazamiseka kwesikhashana. Kunzima ukubeka le mizwa eceleni isikhathi eside.

Uma uhlala nesifo sokukhathazeka noma ukucindezeleka, ungahle ube namathuba okuthola izimpawu ze-PCD.

Yini okufanele uyenze uma uzizwa ucindezelekile?

Okokuqala, yazi ukuthi noma yini oyizwayo, akufanele uzizwe sengathi kufanele wenze sengathi ujabulile ngomlingani wakho noma ufihle ukuthi uzizwa kanjani ngempela. Kulungile ukuzivumela uhlangabezane nosizi.

USher uthi: “Kwesinye isikhathi ingcindezi yokuzama ukuqeda ukudabuka yenza kube nzima kakhulu ngomuntu ukuzizwa ephilile.

Okulandelayo, hlola ngokwakho futhi uqiniseke ukuthi uzizwa uphephile, emzimbeni nasengqondweni.

Uma uzizwa ukhululekile, zama ukukhuluma nomlingani wakho ngendlela ozizwa ngayo. Uma wazi, batshele ukuthi yini ekukhathazayo. Kwesinye isikhathi, ukunika izwi nje ukuthi uzizwa kanjani kuzokukwenza uzizwe ungconywana.

Uma ukhetha ukuba wedwa, kulungile futhi.

Nayi eminye imibuzo okufanele uzibuze yona:

• Ngabe kukhona okuthile okuthile umlingani wami akwenzile ukuvusa imizwa yami yokudangala?
• Yini engizizwa ngicindezelekile ngayo?
• Ngabe ngiye ngakhumbula isehlakalo esihlukumezayo noma esibuhlungu?
• Ngabe lokhu kwenzeka kakhulu?

“Uma lokhu kwenzeka ngezikhathi ezithile, ungakhathazeki ngakho, kodwa cabanga ngalokho okungenzeka ukuthi kwenzekani noma okukhuliselwa wena ngokomzwelo. Kungaba wusizo kuwena, ”kusho uSaltz.

Finyelela kumhlinzeki wezokunakekelwa kwempilo

Ngenkathi ukucindezeleka ngemuva kocansi kungeyona into engavamile, kuhle kakhulu ukuba uzizwe ucindezelekile ngemuva kokwenza ucansi njalo.

Ucwaningo lwango-2019 luthole ukuthi amaphesenti ama-3 kuye kwangama-4 abantu abanepipi bazizwa becindezelekile njalo. Kwesinye isifundo, amaphesenti angu-5.1 abantu abanemomozi bathi bathe bebeyizwa izikhathi ezimbalwa emasontweni amane edlule.

Ngokusho kukaLis, "uma kwenzeka kaningi kakhulu, akufanele inganakwa."

Lokhu kuyiqiniso ikakhulukazi uma ukucindezelwa kwakho ngemuva kocansi kuphazamisa ubudlelwano bakho, kukwenza wesabe noma ugweme ukusondelana ngokuphelele, noma uma unomlando wokuhlukunyezwa kwangaphambilini.

Udokotela, udokotela wezifo zengqondo, noma omunye uchwepheshe wezempilo yengqondo uzokwazi ukukusiza uthole ukuthi kwenzekani futhi uhlole izindlela zokwelashwa nawe.

Yini okufanele uyenze uma umlingani wakho ezizwa ecindezelekile?

Uma ubona ukuthi umlingani wakho uzizwa ecindezelekile ngemuva kocansi, into yokuqala - futhi engcono kakhulu ongayenza ukubheka izidingo zabo.

Babuze ukuthi bafuna ukukhuluma ngakho yini. Uma bekwenza, lalela. Zama ukungahluleli.

Buza ukuthi ngabe kukhona ongakwenza ukusiza ukubaduduza. Abanye abantu bathanda ukubanjwa lapho bezizwa bedabukile. Abanye bafuna nje ukuthi umuntu abe seduze.

Uma bengafuni ukukhuluma ngakho, zama ukungaphatheki kabi. Kungenzeka bangakakulungeli ukuvula mayelana nokuthi yini ebahluphayo.

Uma becela isikhala, banike - futhi, zama ukungalimali ngokuthi abakufuni lapho.

Uma bethi abafuni ukukhuluma ngakho noma bacele isikhala, kulungile ukubalandela ngokuhamba kosuku noma ngezinsuku ezimbalwa. Kubalulekile ukubazisa ukuthi ukhona lapho ubalungele khona.

Uma lokhu kwenzeka kakhulu, kulungile ukubabuza ukuthi ngabe bake bacabanga yini ukukhuluma nomelaphi noma omunye uchwepheshe wezempilo yengqondo. Yiba mnene lapho ubuza, futhi uzame ukungacasuki uma benqaba lo mbono. Awufuni ukubenza bazizwe sengathi uthi baphukile noma benze imizwa yabo ingasebenzi.

Ungahlala ubabuza ngokuthola usizo futhi emuva kwesikhathi uma usakhathazekile.

Into engcono kakhulu ongayenza njengomlingani osekelayo ukuthi ube khona ngabo nganoma iyiphi indlela abadinga ukuba ube yiyo.

Okubalulekile

Ukuzizwa ucindezelekile ngemuva kocansi kuyinto evamile. Kepha uma kwenzeka njalo, kuphazamisa ubudlelwano bakho, noma kukwenze ugweme ukuya ocansini nokusondelana ngokuphelele, cabanga ukufinyelela kumelaphi.

USimone M. Scully ungumbhali othanda ukubhala ngazo zonke izinto zezempilo nezesayensi. Thola uSimone kuwebhusayithi yakhe, ku-Facebook naku-Twitter.