Udlame Lwasekhaya: Ukulimaza Umnotho Kanye Nabahlukunyeziwe

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• Udlame Lomlingani Olusondelene Naye: Ukuluchaza
• Izindleko eziqondile nezingaqondile
• Izindleko Zasemsebenzini
• Izindleko Zokunakekelwa Kwezempilo
• Izindleko Ezinganeni
• Ungamsiza Kanjani Umuntu Ethintwa yi-IPV?
• Ngingalutholaphi Ukuze Ngithole Usizo?

Udlame lwasekhaya, kwesinye isikhathi olubizwa ngokuthi udlame phakathi kwabantu (IPV), luthinta ngqo izigidi zabantu e-United States minyaka yonke. Eqinisweni, cishe owesifazane oyedwa kwabane, nowesilisa oyedwa kwabangu-7, uhlangabezana nodlame olunzima lomzimba oluvela kumlingani osondelene naye esikhathini esithile empilweni yabo, ngokwe-CDC

Lezi zilinganiso cishe ziphansi. Ngenxa yenhlamba esabalele yomphakathi ehambisana ne-IPV, abantu abaningi abathinteke ngqo kuyo akunakwenzeka ukuthi bayibike, ngenxa yokusolwa kwabahlukunyezwayo, ukucwasana ngokobuhlanga, ukuzonda abathandana nabobulili obufanayo, i-transphobia nolunye ubandlululo oluhlobene nalo.

Ucwaningo luthole kaninginingi ukuhlangana phakathi kwemicimbi ethile namaholide, namazinga emibiko yodlame lwasekhaya. Ucwaningo olulodwa lweminyaka eyi-11 olubheke cishe izehlakalo ezingaba ngu-25,000 zokuphathwa kabi kozakwethu lubone ama-spikes abalulekile e-IPV abikiwe ngeSuper Bowl ngeSonto. Izibalo zaziphakeme nangosuku lonyaka omusha nosuku lwenkululeko.

Ngo-2015, iNational Football League yabambisana nomkhankaso we-No More wokukhombisa indawo yokulwa nodlame lwasekhaya ngesikhathi somdlalo. Ibinekholi yangempela eya ku-911 isisulu se-IPV, obekufanele yenze sengathi iyala i-pizza kanti empeleni ikhuluma nomphathi wamaphoyisa wendawo.

Lesi bekuyisimo esingajwayelekile, nesidingeka kakhulu, sodlame lwasekhaya esethulwa njengodaba oludinga ukubhekana ezingeni likazwelonke. I-IPV ivame ukuvezwa njengodaba oluyimfihlo ngabezindaba kanye nohlelo lobulungiswa bobugebengu. Eqinisweni, udlame olunje - olungadingi nokuthi lube ngokomzimba - ludala imiphumela emibi efinyelela kuyo yonke imiphakathi nangale kwayo. Njengoba silindele ukuqala ku-Super Bowl 50,

Udlame Lomlingani Olusondelene Naye: Ukuluchaza

Umlingani osondelene kakhulu yinoma ngubani umuntu "anobudlelwano obusondelene naye", ngokusho kwe. Lokho kungafaka phakathi abalingani bezocansi noma abathandanayo abakhona manje nabangaphambili.

Ubudlova bomlingani obusondelene yiphethini yokuziphatha okuphoqelelayo noma kokulawula. Lokhu kungathatha noma iyiphi (noma iyiphi inhlanganisela) yamafomu alandelayo:

• udlame lomzimba
• udlame lwezocansi, kubandakanya ukudlwengulwa, ukuxhumana ngokocansi okungafuneki, imizwa engafuneki yocansi (njengokuchayeka ezithombeni ezingcolile), ukuhlukunyezwa ngokocansi, nokusongelwa ngodlame locansi
• ukucupha
• ukuhlukumezeka ngokwengqondo, okuwukusetshenziswa kokuxhumana ngamazwi nangaphandle komlomo ukuze kulawule omunye umuntu, kanye / noma inhloso yokubalimaza ngokwengqondo nangokomzwelo. Lokhu kungabandakanya ukulawula okuphoqayo, ngokukuhlukanisa nabangani nomndeni, ukunciphisa ukufinyelela kwabo emalini, ukuvimbela ekusebenziseni ukulawulwa kokuzalwa, noma ukuxhaphaza ubungozi (njengokubasabisa ngokuxoshwa)

Izindleko eziqondile nezingaqondile

Uma sicabanga ukuthi udlame lwasekhaya lubiza malini, sithambekele ekucabangeni ngezindleko eziqondile. Lokhu kungafaka ukunakekelwa kwezokwelapha, nezindleko zamaphoyisa, ukuboshwa nezinsizakalo zomthetho.

Kepha i-IPV ibuye inikeze nenqwaba yezindleko ezingaqondile. Le yimiphumela yesikhathi eside yodlame ethinta ikhwalithi yempilo yesisulu, ukukhiqiza, namathuba. Ngokwe-World Health Organisation (i-WHO), lokhu kungafaka izindleko zengqondo, ukukhiqiza okunciphisiwe, amaholo alahlekile nezinye izindleko ezingezona ezezimali.

Ngokuya ngocwaningo lwango-2004 oluvela ku-, izindleko eziphelele ze-IPV ezibhekiswe kwabesifazane e-United States zidlula u- $ 8.3 billion unyaka nonyaka.

Lolo cwaningo lwaluthembele kwimininingwane yango-1995, ngakho-ke kumadola ka-2015, le nombolo kungenzeka ibe phezulu kakhulu.

Emhlabeni jikelele, ngokusho kweCopenhagen Consensus Center nokusebenzisa idatha yango-2013, izindleko zaminyaka yonke ze-IPV emhlabeni wonke zingu- $ 4.4 trillion, okungamaphesenti acishe abe ngu-5.2 weGDP yomhlaba. Abaphenyi baqaphela ukuthi isibalo sangempela mhlawumbe siphezulu kakhulu, ngenxa yokubika okungaphansi.

Izindleko Zasemsebenzini

Ukuqonda ukuthi imiphumela ye-IPV idlulela ngalé kwekhaya, asidingi ukubheka kude kunendlela ekhokhwa yi-IPV emsebenzini. Imininingwane evela kuNational Violence Against Women Survey (NVAWS) eshicilelwe yizilinganiso zokuthi abesifazane e-United States balahlekelwa cishe izinsuku eziyizigidi eziyi-8 zomsebenzi okhokhelwayo unyaka nonyaka ngenxa ye-IPV.

Lokho kulingana nemisebenzi yesikhathi esigcwele engama-32,114. Futhi i-IPV ithinta nomsebenzi wasendlini, ngokulinganiselwa okungeziwe Izinsuku eziyizigidi eziyi-5.6 zilahlekile.

Ngaphezu kwezinsuku zokusebenza ezilahlekile, i-IPV yenza kube nzima kakhulu ngezisulu ukugxila emsebenzini, okungahle kube nomthelela omkhulu ekukhiqizeni. Ucwaningo lukazwelonke olwenziwa yiCorporate Alliance to End Partner Violence (CAEPV) ngo-2005 lwathola ukuthi amaphesenti angama-64 ezisulu ze-IPV abona sengathi amandla abo okusebenza okungenani ayengumphumela wobudlova basekhaya.

Izindleko Zokunakekelwa Kwezempilo

Izindleko zezempilo zomzimba ezenziwe yi-IPV zombili zesikhathi esiseduze nezesikhathi eside. Ngokuya ngemininingwane yango-2005, kulinganiselwa ukuthi i-IPV ibangela ukulimala kwezigidi ezimbili kwabesifazane, kanye nokufa kwabantu abangu-1,200.

Ukwelashwa kokulimala okuhlobene ne-IPV kuvame ukuqhubeka, okusho ukuthi izisulu zidinga ukufuna usizo lwezempilo kaningi. Ngokuya ngocwaningo lukazwelonke lwango-2005, abesifazane abahlangabezana nokulimala okuhlobene ne-IPV kuzodingeka bavakashele igumbi labezimo eziphuthumayo amahlandla amabili, babone udokotela isilinganiso esiphindwe ka-3.5, bavakashele udokotela wamazinyo isilinganiso sezikhathi ezi-5.2, futhi bavakashele i-19.7 ekwelashweni ngokomzimba.

Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ngokomzimba noma ngokwengqondo, i-IPV iyadabukisa. Imininingwane evela kowe-1995 ikhombisa ukuthi oyedwa kwabathathu izisulu zokudlwengulwa kwabesifazane, izisulu ezingaphezu kwezingu-1 kwezingu-4 zokuhlukunyezwa ngokomzimba, futhi cishe isisulu esisodwa kwababili abalandelayo bafuna usizo lwezempilo yengqondo. Inani lokuvakashelwa ngokwesilinganiso lisukela kwayisishiyagalolunye kuye kwewu-12, kuya ngokuhlukumezeka okwenzekile.

Kunzima ukubeka inani ledola ekuvakasheni okunjalo kunikezwe ubunzima besistimu yezokunakekelwa kwezempilo yase-U.S., Kodwa kulinganiselwa kusuka kukhomba ukuthi i-IPV ingabiza noma yikuphi phakathi kuka- $ 2.3 kuye ku- $ 7 billion “ezinyangeni zokuqala eziyi-12 ngemuva kokuhlukunyezwa.”

Ngaphandle konyaka wokuqala, i-IPV iyaqhubeka nokukhokha izikweletu zezokwelapha. Ukuthi izisulu zodlame lwasekhaya zinengozi engamaphesenti angama-80 yokuba nesifo sohlangothi, ingozi engaphezulu ngamaphesenti angama-70 yesifo senhliziyo, ingozi engamaphesenti angama-70 yokuphuza ngokweqile, kanye nengozi ephezulu ngamaphesenti angama-60 yokuhlaselwa yisifuba somoya.

Izindleko Ezinganeni

I-IPV futhi ithinta ngqo izingane ezivezwe kuyo, nangezindlela eziningi. I-IPV nokuhlukunyezwa kwezingane kuhlangana emaphesentini angama-30 kuye kwangama-60 amacala ase-U.S, ngokusho kombiko wango-2006 ovela kwiNational Institute of Justice.

Ngo-2006, i-UNICEF ilinganisela ukuthi izingane eziyizigidi ezingama-275 emhlabeni wonke zazichayeke ebudloveni emakhaya; lelo nani kungenzeka lenyukile. Ukuthola kwabo kuphakamisa ukuthi izingane ezivezwa ubudlova zingaba nezinkinga ezingokomzwelo noma zokuziphatha, zisengozini enkulu yokuhlaselwa ngokomzimba noma ngokocansi, futhi zingaba namathuba okulingisa izindlela zokuziphatha ezihlukumezayo. (Qaphela: Ukuhlukumeza kuhlala kuyisinqumo esenziwa ngumenzi wobubi; akuzona zonke izingane ezibona ukuhlukunyezwa eziqhubeka nokuhlukumeza.)

Lokhu okutholakele kugcizelela iqiniso lokuthi udlame akuyona inkinga yangasese, kepha empeleni umjikelezo othinta izingane, ontanga yabo, indawo yokusebenza, futhi, ngokwengeziwe, sonke.

Kubalulekile ukuphindaphinda ukuthi izindleko zodlame kunzima ukuzinciphisa ngezizathu ezahlukahlukene, futhi izilinganiso ezinikezwe lapha cishe ziphansi. Kuthathwe kanye nokukhokhelwa ngokomzwelo nangokomzimba emindenini yezisulu, abangani, nasemiphakathini, izindleko ze-IPV e-United States ziyisikweletu esingeke sikwazi ukusikhokha.

Ungamsiza Kanjani Umuntu Ethintwa yi-IPV?

Uma umngane noma umuntu omkhathalelayo ehlukunyezwa ngumlingani wakhe, la macebiso alandelayo angenza umehluko omkhulu:

• Khuluma nabo. Yazisa umngane wakho ukuthi uyabakhathalela futhi ukhathazekile ngenhlalakahle yabo. Umngani wakho angaphika ukuthi uyahlukunyezwa. Bazise nje ukuthi ukhona ngabo.
• Gwema ukwahlulela. Thembela kulokho umngani wakho akushoyo ngokuhlangenwe nakho kwabo; izisulu eziningi ziyesaba ukuthi ngeke zikholwe. Qonda ukuthi abantu abahlangabezana nokuhlukumezeka bangazibeka icala ngakho noma bazame ukuthethelela ukuhlukunyezwa ngezinye izindlela. Futhi qonda ukuthi abantu abahlukunyezwa bangamthanda umhlukumezi wabo.
• UNGABASOLI. Ukuhlukumeza akulona iphutha lesisulu, yize umhlukumezi wabo engakusho. Yazisa umngane wakho ukuthi akulona iphutha lakhe; akekho umuntu ofanelwe ukuhlukunyezwa.
• Ungabatsheli ukuthi bahambe. Noma kungaba nzima kanjani, umngani wakho uyazi ukuthi yini elungele bona. Lapho izisulu zishiya umhlukumezi wazo, ingozi yokufa; kungahle kungaphephi ukuthi umngani wakho ahambe, yize wena ucabanga ukuthi kufanele. Esikhundleni salokho, banike amandla okuzenzela izinqumo.
• Basize bahlole izinketho zabo. Izisulu eziningi zizizwa zodwa futhi zingenakuzisiza, noma zinomuzwa wokuthi akuphephile ukubheka izinsiza emakhaya azo. Cela ukubheka izingcingo ezishisayo nabo noma ubagcinele izincwajana.

Bheka Isikhungo Sokuqwashisa Ngokuhlukunyezwa Kobudlelwano ukuthola amathiphu amaningi ngokusekela umngani (noma osebenza naye) ohlukunyezwayo.

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