Ukukhubazeka Kwami Ekudleni Kungikhuthazile Ukuba Ngudokotela Obhalisiwe Wezokudla

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Ngake ngaba yintombazane eneminyaka eyi-13 eyabona izinto ezimbili kuphela: amathanga okuduma nezingalo ezixegayo lapho ezibuka esibukweni. Ubani ongake afune ukuba nobungane naye? Bengicabanga.

Usuku nosuku ngigxile esisindweni sami, nginyathela esikalini izikhathi eziningi, ngilwela usayizi 0 ngaso sonke isikhathi ngicindezela konke okwakungilungele empilweni yami. Ngilahlekelwe kakhulu (funda amakhilogremu angu-20+) esikhathini esiyizinyanga ezimbili. Ngilahlekelwe yisikhathi sami. Ngilahlekelwe abangani bami. Ngilahlekelwe mina.

Kepha, bheka, kwakukhona ukukhanya okukhulu! Ithimba labangalaliswanga iziguli-udokotela, isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo kanye nodokotela ongondliwe-kwangibuyisela endleleni efanele. Ngesikhathi ngilulama, ngagcina ngixhumana ngokusondelene nodokotela wezokudla obhalisiwe, owesifazane owayezoshintsha impilo yami unomphela.

Ungikhombisile ukuthi ukudla kwakukuhle kanjani uma ukusebenzisela ukondla umzimba wakho. Ungifundise ukuthi ukuhola impilo enempilo akuqukethe ukucabanga okunamandla nokubhalwa kokudla njengokuhle "kuqhathaniswa" nokubi. Wangiphonsela inselelo yokuthi ngizame ama-chip amazambane, ngidle isemishi nesinkwa. Ngenxa yakhe, ngifunde umyalezo obalulekile engizowuphatha impilo yami yonke: Wenziwe kahle futhi wenza ngokumangalisayo. Ngakho, lapho sengineminyaka engu-13 ubudala, ngagqugquzelwa ukuba ngithathe indlela yami yomsebenzi we-dietetics futhi ngibe uchwepheshe wezokudla obhalisiwe.

Flash phambili futhi manje sengiphila lelo phupho futhi ngisiza abanye ukuthi bafunde ukuthi lingaba lihle kangakanani uma wamukela umzimba wakho futhi wazisa izipho zawo eziningi, nalapho uqaphela ukuthi ukuzithanda kuvela ngaphakathi, hhayi enombolweni esikalini.

Ngisasikhumbula isikhundla sami sokuqala njengochwepheshe wezokudla omusha sha wohlelo lwe-Eating Disorder (ED). Ngahola iseshini yokudla yeqembu edolobheni laseChicago eyayigxile ekukhuthazeni intsha nemindeni yayo ukuba ijabulele ukudla ndawonye endaweni elawulwayo. Njalo ngoMgqibelo ekuseni, abantu abayishumi nambili bangena emnyango wami futhi ngokushesha inhliziyo yami yancibilika. Ngazibona ngiphakathi kwazo. Yeka ukuthi ngayibona kahle kangakanani intokazi eneminyaka engu-13 ubudala eyayizobhekana nokwesaba kwayo okubi kakhulu: ukudla ama-waffles namaqanda nobhekeni phambi komndeni wayo kanye neqembu labantu angabazi. (Ngokuvamile, izinhlelo eziningi ze-ED ezingalalisiwe zinohlobo oluthile lomsebenzi wokudla owakhiwe kanjena, imvamisa ontanga noma amalungu omndeni akhuthazwa ukuba abe khona.)

Ngalezi zikhathi, besihlala futhi sidle. Futhi, ngosizo lomelaphi wabasebenzi, sicubungule imizwa ukudla okuvele kubo. Izimpendulo ezithinta inhliziyo ezivela kumakhasimende ("lokhu kuxokozela kuqonde ngqo esiswini sami, ngizwa umqulu ...") bekuyisiqalo nje sokucabanga okusontekile la mantombazanyana ahlupheka, avame ukwenziwa abezindaba futhi imiyalezo ababeyibona usuku nosuku.

Khona-ke, okubaluleke kakhulu, saxoxa ngokuthi lokho kudla kwakuquketheni-indlela lokho kudla okubanikeza ngayo uphethiloli wokuqhuba izinjini zabo. Ukudla kubondle kanjani, ngaphakathi nangaphandle. Ngabasiza ukubabonisa ukuthi kanjani konke ukudla kungalingana (kuhlanganise nalezo zidlo zasekuseni ze-Grand Slam ngezikhathi ezithile) uma udla ngokuqonda, okuvumela ukulamba kwakho kwangaphakathi nokusutha ukuthi kuhole endleleni odla ngayo.

Ukubona ithonya enganginalo kuleli qembu labesifazane abasebasha kwangiqinisekisa futhi ukuthi ngase ngikhethe indlela efanele yomsebenzi. Lokho bekungikuphela kwami: ukusiza abanye babone ukuthi zenziwe kahle futhi zimangalisa.

Angiphelele neze. Kunezinsuku lapho ngivuka khona ngiziqhathanise nosayizi 0 onobuhle engibabona ku-TV. (Ngisho nama-dietitians abhalisiwe awavikelekile!) Kodwa lapho ngizwa lelo zwi elibi lingena ekhanda lami, ngikhumbula ukuthi kusho ukuthini ngempela ukuzithanda. Ngizisho kimi, "Wenziwe kahle futhi ngendlela emangalisayo," ukuvumela lokho kugubuzele umzimba wami, ingqondo nomphefumulo. Ngiyazikhumbuza ukuthi akuwona wonke umuntu ohloselwe ukuba usayizi othile noma inombolo ethile esikalini; sihloselwe ukufutha imizimba yethu ngendlela efanele, ukudla okunomsoco, ukudla okunomsoco lapho silambile, ukuma lapho sisuthi, futhi siyeke isidingo somzwelo sokudla noma ukukhawulela ukudla okuthile.

Kuyinto enamandla eyenzekayo uma uyeka ukulwa nomzimba wakho futhi ufunde ukuthanda isimangaliso esikulethela sona. Kuwumuzwa onamandla nakakhulu uma uqaphela amandla eqiniso okuzithanda-ukwazi ukuthi kungakhathaliseki ubukhulu noma inombolo, unempilo, wondlekile, futhi uyathandwa.

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