Ukudla Kwami Okuphazamisekile Kukhulisa Kanjani Izinkathazo Zosuku Lokuqala

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• Ukukhetha ozokudla ngosuku lokuqala cishe kubuhlungu njengokuthumela umyalezo wokuqala
• Ukudla ngosuku lokuqala kungazizwa njengokugwinya uqobo lwakho
• Ingcindezi engashiwongo yokubukeka iphelele, noma ngabe ayicelwanga ukuthi ibe njalo

"Angiyazi imikhuba yakho yokudla okwamanje," kusho indoda engiyithole ikhanga ngenkathi iwisa isiduli esikhulu se-pesto pasta phambi kwami, "kodwa ngiyethemba ukuthi lokhu kwanele."

Imicabango eyisigidi yavela emqondweni wami ngenkathi ngibeka imfoloko ku-caloric mass. Hhayi okwamanje. Akukabi yisikhathi. Isoso ebeliconsa phansi ingubo yami bekungokuncane kokukhathazeka kwami. Esikhundleni salokho, bekuwumcabango wokuzivumela udle ngempela -ukuphonsa emuva futhi ulangazelele ukulamba lesi senzo esihle - esihluphe ingqondo yami. Kubonakale kungenakwenzeka ukuthi kwenzeke njengoba ngihlebela kuye izimfihlo ezimnyama kakhulu, ezijulile zomphefumulo wami.

Futhi ngiyazi ukuthi angingedwa kulokhu.

Ukukhetha ozokudla ngosuku lokuqala cishe kubuhlungu njengokuthumela umyalezo wokuqala

Kwabesifazane, ukuthandana nomuntu omusha kufana nokwenza iqhinga lomlingo lezinyanga zonke. Kancane kancane sivumela labo esingahlanganyela nabo amazwibela amancane ezimpilweni zethu, sibanikeze imininingwane eyanele ukuze ilingane nabantu esibathandayo.

Kunzima ukwenza sengathi le mpikiswano yangaphakathi ephathelene nokudla ayikho kwabesifazane abaningi. Kubukeka sengathi kuyinto engenamsebenzi ukwahlulela umuntu ngokuya ngalokho akudlayo ngosuku lokuqala, kepha kuyenzeka. Ngisho nangaphambi kokushintshaniswa kwamagama anenjongo, esikwenzayo noma esingakudliyo kumele lokho esiyikho.

Eqinisweni, ocwaningweni olwenziwe yi-Aarhus University, bakhombise abafundi bezikole ezingama-80 izithombe zabantu futhi bacela ukuzikala ngokuya ngokukhanga. Engxenyeni yesibili yocwaningo, babe sebebuzwa ukuthi bazimisele ukusebenzisa malini kumaswidi nokudla okulula nokudla okunempilo.

Lapho abesifazane belinganisa amadoda athwetshulwe njengabakhangayo, babenamathuba amaningi okuba basebenzise imali ngokudla okunempilo. Abesifazane ababengazizwa bedonswa yilesi sihloko, nawo wonke amadoda ngokujwayelekile, babengajwayele ukwenza lezo zinqumo ezinempilo.

Yize kungaziwa ukuthi laba besifazane banenkinga yokudla, ubudlelwano obuyinkimbinkimbi bokudla, ukubukeka komzimba, nokuvela kokuqala bekulokhu kuhlangene.

Ijuba likhiphe ucwaningo olunzulu ngo-2016 mayelana nokuzethemba nokuzethemba, kukhulunywa nabesifazane abayi-10 500 emazweni ayi-13. Bathola ukuthi amaphesenti angama-85 abesifazane kanye namaphesenti angama-79 amantombazane bazokhetha ukuphuma emisebenzini lapho bengayithandi indlela ababukeka ngayo. Ukuzibona kwabo kuthinte nendlela abathatha ngayo izinqumo.

• Amantombazane ayi-7 kwangu-10 anokuzenyeza komzimba abike ukuthi ngeke aqine ezinqumweni zawo
• Abesifazane abangu-9 kwabangu-10 babike ukuthi bazoyeka ukudla noma babeka impilo yabo engcupheni

Ukudla ngosuku lokuqala kungazizwa njengokugwinya uqobo lwakho

U-Amelia S., 27, waseWashington D.C., unqenqemeni lohlangothi olukhawulela kakhulu ukudla kwakhe, kangangoba waze wehla kusukela kohlaka lwemisipha kuya kondonda. Sekuyiminyaka, ukuvinjelwa kuveza uhlelo oluqondile, olungavumeli indawo yokuthandana. Uma nje isisindo sihlala phansi, wayephephile.

Lokho wukuthi, waze wahlangana noQuentin endaweni yokudlela kathisha emsebenzini. “Ngibe nesabelo sasemini sezingane kanye ne-apula eliluhlaza, njengoba ngenza nsuku zonke. Ngemuva kokukhuluma nokugigitheka, ngafaka ipuleti lami eligcwele kudoti ngagcina i-apula lami eliluhlaza ukuze ngilisebenzise kamuva. ” Ulayini wawudwetshwa esihlabathini: wayemthanda, wayezibona naye, ngakho-ke wayengakabonakali edla.

Isikhathi sokuqala lapho echitha ubusuku, wezwa ukuthi i-ex yakhe inamakhosi amathathu ne-PhD. Ngokushesha, u-Amelia wazizwa engelutho. Kepha emqondweni wakhe, wahlala "engcono" kuneyangaphambili ngomqondo owodwa: wayemncane ngomzimba.

Njengoba ubudlelwano babo bukhula, babe "kakhulu ungabuzi, ungatsheli indlela yokudla." Kancane kancane, ngemuva kwezinyanga zokubopha, ukwethembana, nokuvuleka, umuzwa wokuphepha ka-Amelia wakhula. Ukudla okwakungavunyelwe ngaphambilini, kusuka kuMcDonalds kuya ekudleni kwaseThai, kancane kancane kwaba umdlalo olungile.

Kodwa akuzange kuhlale. Ngobusuku abahlukana ngabo, wageza amabhokisi ayisishiyagalombili e-ayisikhilimu ezansi nomsele.

"Ngesikhathi ekhushulelwa esikhundleni futhi ngingakwenzi, ukukhathazeka kwami ​​kwakukubi ngokwanele ukuthi ngangingafuni ukudla noma kunjalo," u-Amelia wabelana. “Ngaphandle kwakhe, ngingenza noma yini engiyifunayo. Njengamanje, idla ama-calories. ”

Kepha imvamisa, ubudlelwane obuthuthukisiwe, obusekelanayo buwukuthuthuka kwezimpawu nokubuyiselwa ezinkingeni zokudla. Yilokho okwenzeka noPenny C., 24, waseMichigan.

UPenny C waba ne-bulimia nervosa ezinyangeni zokuqala zobudlelwano bakhe obusha nendoda endala. "Ukuze angigcine -" intombazanyana engenangqondo "- ngabona kufanele nginciphe." Futhi wakwenza, kungaba ngokuhlanza noma ukukhawulela noma yikuphi ukudla akudlayo ngaphandle kwakhe.

“Ngimi eceleni kwakhe, ngazizwa nginesiyezi futhi ngingenamqondo, kodwa ngizacile ukuba ngibe ngumlingani wakhe. Ngazivumela ukuthi ngidle ukudla esasinakho ndawonye: i-pizza, ipasta, konke ukudla ‘okungavunyelwe’ empilweni yami ejwayelekile. Kwakumnandi ukungakhathali ngawo wonke amakhalori. Naye, angizange ngizizwe nginecala elingaka. Kancane kancane, lapho izimpilo zethu zihlangana futhi sihlala ndawonye futhi saba ngabalingani, ukuhlanzwa kwanqamuka. ”

Ekugcineni, uPenny watshela umlingani wakhe nge-bulimia yakhe, esusa umngcele wokugcina phakathi kwabo. “Ekugcineni lapho ngimtshela, ngangimvumela ukuthi angibone ngeqiniso okokuqala. Ekugcineni waba nombono ophelele. Akazange angilahle. ”

Ingcindezi engashiwongo yokubukeka iphelele, noma ngabe ayicelwanga ukuthi ibe njalo

UMegan K., 26, wase-Indianapolis, akacabangi kakhulu ngokudla ngosuku futhi akakaze abe nenkinga yokudla. "Bengihlala ngicabanga ukuthi uma umlingani wami engakwazisi ukwehlisa i-burger enkulu nami, khona-ke kungcono ngizitike ngedwa," esho. "Ngingahle nginga-odi okuthile okuxakile ezinsukwini ezimbalwa zokuqala, kodwa ngaphandle kwalokho, akunjalo."

KuMegan, umgoqo usondele kokuthile okwenzekile emndenini wakhe. Lapho eneminyaka engu-16, umama wakhe washona ngokuzibulala. "Angimkhulisi umama noma ukuthi washona kanjani," kuvuma uMegan. “Labo abangakaze bafunde bebengafanele ukuthola. Abasoze bangazi ngempela. ”

Vele, yilokho ukudla nosuku olusha kwehlela, akunjalo? Uhlobo lokuphenywa ngemibuzo, “ukuhogela.” Ukudla kuyisisusa sengxoxo, ucezu lokwazana nothile. Singacasha ngemuva kokulunywa, ukugwinya amagama esifuna ukuwasho ekugcineni - ngemuva kokuthatha isinqumo sokuthi ngabe lowo ohleli ngaphesheya kwethu ukufanele yini ukuwezwa.

Ngokugigitheka nokuhleka, phakathi kokulunywa okuncane kwe-pesto pasta, ngikhulisa isifikisi sami esikhangayo, ngibuke ulimi lomzimba kanye ne-banter ukuthola izimpawu zamafulegi abomvu, nganoma yini engalungile. Ukubuka, ukulinda, ukuthi athole isizathu sokungangithandi futhi.

Lapho ukwesaba kungaphenduki iqiniso, ngithatha okunye ukuluma.

Bese kuba omunye.

Ngoba abantu esihlangana nabo lapho sithandana kungenzeka kube ngabantu esibakhetha ukuthi sihlangane nabo empilweni. Zingaba ngesinye sezizathu sokuthi sizikhulule futhi sithole ukuthula. Konke lokhu ukuphola nokudla nempilo kungaqala ngokungaphelele, kepha kusengaphela ngobuqotho.

Ngabe umuntu angadla i-pesto pasta futhi abuke esibukweni amahora kamuva ngaphandle kokuzisola? Impendulo mhlawumbe. Sonke sinakho ukuzama.

Ukuphazamiseka kwemikhuba yokudla yizifo ezingathi sína ezingaholela ezinkingeni ezisongela impilo ngenxa yokungondleki noma ukushoda kwezakhi. Izimpawu ze- ukuphazamiseka kokudla kungafaka ukungabikho kokuya esikhathini kwabesifazane, ubuthakathaka bemisipha, izinwele eziphuka nezinzipho, nokuningi. Ukuthola ukwesekwa, thintana ne-Helpline yeNational Eating Disorders Association ku-1-800-931-2237. Ukuthola ukwesekwa kwamahora angama-24, thumela umyalezo othi “NEDA” ku-741741.

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