Ngamukela Ukukhathazeka Kwami, Ngoba Kuyingxenye Yami

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• Uqale nini ukubona ukuthi ubhekene nobunzima bokukhathazeka?
• Walwa isikhathi esingakanani nayo yodwa ngaphambi kokuthola usizo?
• Kungani wawunqikaza ukuphumela obala ngokuba nokukhathazeka noma ukuthola usizo oludingayo?
• Ngabe yini inkinga?
• Babemukela kanjani abantu abakuzungezile ngeqiniso lokuthi unesifo sengqondo?
• Ucabanga ukuthi yini ukhiye wokunqoba ukucwaswa okuhambisana nokugula ngengqondo?
• Ucwaningo lwakamuva lukhombisa ukuthi ukugula ngengqondo kuyakhula, kodwa lokho kufinyelela ekwelashweni kuhlala kuyinkinga. Ucabanga ukuthi yini engenziwa ukushintsha lokho?
• Ngabe ucabanga ukuthi ubungalungisa ukukhathazeka kwakho ngaphambi kokuba izinto zifike engxenyeni enkulu uma umphakathi wonkana uvulelekile ngempilo yengqondo?
• Ungathini kumuntu osanda kutholakala ukuthi unenkinga yezempilo yengqondo noma muva nje?
• Ungaqhubekela kanjani phambili

I-China McCarney yayineminyaka engama-22 lapho kutholakala okokuqala ukuthi inesifo sokukhathazeka jikelele kanye ne-panic disorder. Futhi eminyakeni eyisishiyagalombili kusukela lapho, usebenze ngokungakhathali ukusula ukucwaswa okuzungeze ukugula kwengqondo nokuxhumanisa abantu nezinsizakusebenza abazidingayo zokulwa nazo. Ukhuthaza abantu ukuthi bangalwi noma bangazinaki izimo zabo (njengoba ayenzile), kodwa ukuthi bamukele izimo zabo njengengxenye yalokhu abayikho.

NgoMashi 2017, iChina yasungula i-Athletes Against Anxiety and Depression (i-AAAD) engenzi nzuzo. "Ngabona ukuthi ngidinga ukuthatha umthwalo wokusiza ukwakha ipulatifomu lapho abantu bezokwabelana khona ngendaba yabo," esho. "Ngabona ukuthi ngidinga ukusiza ukwakha umphakathi lapho abantu banikezwa amandla okwamukela amaphesenti ayi-100 abo."

Emkhankasweni wayo wokuqala wokunikela, i-AAAD yaqongelela imali ukuxhasa i-Anxiety and Depression Association of America (ADAA), ayibonga ngokumnika ukugxila nolwazi aludingayo ukubhekana ngqo nempilo yakhe yengqondo. Sihlangane neChina ukuze sifunde kabanzi ngohambo lwakhe ngokukhathazeka nokuthi kusho ukuthini ukuqwashiswa kwezempilo yengqondo kuye.

Uqale nini ukubona ukuthi ubhekene nobunzima bokukhathazeka?

I-China McCarney: Isikhathi sokuqala lapho ngaba nokuhlaselwa ukwethuka kwaba ngo-2009.Ngangike ngabhekana nokukhathazeka okujwayelekile nemizwa kuze kube yilelo phuzu, kepha ukuhlaselwa ukwesaba kwakuyinto engingakaze ngibhekane nayo. Ngangibhekene nengcindezi enkulu ngoshintsho emsebenzini wami we-baseball, futhi ngenkathi ngisendleleni eya eNyakatho California, ngazizwa sengathi ngizofa. Ngangikwazi ukuphefumula, umzimba wami wawuzwa sengathi uvutha ngaphakathi ngaphakathi, futhi kwakudingeka ngiphume emgwaqweni ukuze ngiphume emotweni ngithole umoya. Ngihambe amahora amabili noma amathathu ukuzama ukuziqoqa ngaphambi kokuthi ngishayele ubaba ucingo ukuthi eze azongilanda. Kube yinto ethintwayo nokuthinta kusukela ngalolo suku eminyakeni eyisishiyagalombili eyedlule, nobudlelwano obulokhu bukhula nokukhathazeka.

Walwa isikhathi esingakanani nayo yodwa ngaphambi kokuthola usizo?

I-CM: Nginenkinga yokukhathazeka iminyaka eminingi ngaphambi kokuthola usizo. Ngangibhekane nakho ngacima, ngakhoke bengingacabangi ukuthi ngidinga usizo ngoba belungahambelani. Kusukela ekupheleni kuka-2014, ngaqala ukubhekana nokukhathazeka ngokungaguquki futhi ngaqala ukugwema izinto engangizenze impilo yami yonke. Izinto engangizijabulele impilo yami yonke ngokuzumayo zaqala ukungishayisa ngovalo. Ngakufihla izinyanga, kwathi maphakathi no-2015, ngangizihlalele emotweni yami ngemuva kokuhlaselwa ukwethuka futhi ngathatha isinqumo sokuthi kwanele. Kwakuyisikhathi sokuthola usizo lochwepheshe. Ngafinyelela kumelaphi ngalolo suku futhi ngaqala ukwelulekwa ngaso leso sikhathi.

Kungani wawunqikaza ukuphumela obala ngokuba nokukhathazeka noma ukuthola usizo oludingayo?

I-CM: Isizathu esikhulu sokuthi ngangingafuni ukuphumela obala ngokuba nokukhathazeka yingoba nganginamahloni futhi ngizizwa nginecala lokuthi ngangibhekene nakho. Bengingafuni ukubizwa ngokuthi “ngijwayelekile” noma yini efana naleyo. Ukukhula kwezokusubatha, uyakhuthazwa ukuthi ungakhombisi imizwa, futhi ube "ongenamizwa". Into yokugcina obufuna ukuyivuma ukuthi ubukhathazekile noma unovalo. Into ehlekisayo ukuthi, enkundleni, ngangizizwa ngikhululekile. Angizange ngizwe ukukhathazeka noma ukwethuka enkundleni. Kwakungaphandle kwenkundla lapho ngaqala khona ukuzizwa ngiba mubi ngokwengeziwe ngokuhamba kweminyaka, futhi ngazifihla izimpawu nezinkinga kuwo wonke umuntu. Isigcwagcwa esihambisana nezinkinga zempilo yengqondo kuholele ekutheni ngigqibe ukungavikeleki kokukhathazeka ngokusebenzisa kabi utshwala nokuphila impilo ebanzi.

Ngabe yini inkinga?

I-CM: Ingqinamba ebenginayo lapho bengingakwazi ukwenza imisebenzi ejwayelekile, ejwayelekile, yansuku zonke, nalapho ngiqala khona ukuphila impilo yokugwema. Ngangazi ukuthi ngidinga ukuthola usizo futhi ngiqale uhambo olubheke kimi uqobo. Lolo hambo lusashintsha nsuku zonke, futhi angisalwi ukuzama ukufihla noma ukulwa nokukhathazeka kwami. Ngilwela ukuwamukela njengengxenye yami futhi ngamukele amaphesenti ayi-100 ami.

Babemukela kanjani abantu abakuzungezile ngeqiniso lokuthi unesifo sengqondo?

I-CM: Lokho kube ushintsho oluthokozisayo. Abanye abantu babemukela kahle, kanti abanye bengazange. Abantu abangakwazi ukuqonda bayazisusa empilweni yakho, noma ubasuse. Uma abantu bengeza ekucwaswa nasekukhathazekeni kodaba lwezempilo yengqondo, akukho okuhle ngabo ukuba seduze. Sonke sibhekene nokuthile, futhi uma abantu bengakwazi ukuqonda, noma okungenani bezama ukuba khona, ukucwaswa ngeke kuze kuphele. Sidinga ukunikezana amandla ukuze sibe ngamaphesenti ayi-100 ethu, singazami ukwenza ubuntu babanye buvumelane nezimpilo zethu kanye nezinto esizifunayo.

Ucabanga ukuthi yini ukhiye wokunqoba ukucwaswa okuhambisana nokugula ngengqondo?

I-CM: Ukunikezwa amandla, ukuxhumana, kanye namaqhawe azimisele ukwabelana ngendaba yawo. Kufanele sizinike amandla thina nabanye ukuze sabelane ngezindaba zethu ngalokho esibhekene nakho. Lokho kuzoqala ukwakha umphakathi wabantu abazimisele ukuxhumana ngokukhululeka nangokwethembeka ngezimpi zabo zempilo yengqondo. Lokhu kuzokwenza ukuthi abantu abaningi ngokwengeziwe bakwazi ukuza phambili futhi babelane ngendaba yabo yokuthi baphila kanjani impilo yabo ngenkathi futhi belwa nendaba yezempilo yengqondo. Ngicabanga ukuthi lowo ngomunye wemibono eyiphutha enkulu: Abantu abazizwa ukuthi ungaphila impilo ephumelelayo kanti futhi ulwa nodaba lwezempilo yengqondo. Impi yami nokukhathazeka ayikapheli, ukude nayo. Kodwa ngenqaba ukubambezela impilo yami futhi ngilinde ukuzizwa “ngiphelele.”

Ucwaningo lwakamuva lukhombisa ukuthi ukugula ngengqondo kuyakhula, kodwa lokho kufinyelela ekwelashweni kuhlala kuyinkinga. Ucabanga ukuthi yini engenziwa ukushintsha lokho?

I-CM: Ngikholwa wukuthi udaba luthinta abantu abafuna ukufinyelela ekutholeni imishanguzo. Ngicabanga ukuthi ukucwaswa kudikibalisa abantu abaningi ekufuneni usizo abaludingayo. Ngenxa yalokho, ayikho imali eningi nezinsiza ezakhiwe. Esikhundleni salokho, abantu bayazelapha futhi abalutholi njalo usizo lweqiniso abaludingayo. Angisho ukuthi ngimelene nemithi, ngicabanga nje ukuthi abantu baphendukela kulokho kuqala ngaphambi kokuhlola ukwelulekwa, ukuzindla, ukudla okunomsoco, nolwazi kanye nezinsizakusebenza ezinikezwa yizinhlangano ezinjengeHealthline ne-ADAA.

Ngabe ucabanga ukuthi ubungalungisa ukukhathazeka kwakho ngaphambi kokuba izinto zifike engxenyeni enkulu uma umphakathi wonkana uvulelekile ngempilo yengqondo?

I-CM: Amaphesenti ayikhulu. Ukube ngikhula bekunemfundo eyengeziwe nokuvuleleka mayelana nezimpawu, izimpawu zokuxwayisa, nokuthi ungaphi lapho ubhekene nokukhathazeka noma ukudangala, angizizwa sengathi inhlamba ibiyimbi kangako. Angicabangi ukuthi izinombolo zemithi zizoba zimbi kangako. Ngicabanga ukuthi abantu bavame ukuya ehhovisi likadokotela wangasese ukuyothola imishanguzo esikhundleni sokufuna ukwelulekwa ngokomqondo noma ukukhuluma nabathandekayo babo ngoba banamahloni futhi ayikho imfundo eningi ekhulayo. Ngiyazi, kimina, usuku engaqala ngalo ukuzizwa ngingcono kulapho ngakwamukela ukuthi ukukhathazeka kwakuyingxenye yempilo yami futhi ngaqala ukuhlanganyela ngokukhululekile mayelana nendaba yami kanye nezingqinamba zami.

Ungathini kumuntu osanda kutholakala ukuthi unenkinga yezempilo yengqondo noma muva nje?

I-CM: Iseluleko sami kungaba ukungabi namahloni. Iseluleko sami kungaba ukuthi ngiyamukele le mpi kusukela ngosuku lokuqala bese ngibona ukuthi kunezinsizakusebenza eziningi laphaya. Izinsizakusebenza ezinjenge-Healthline. Izinsizakusebenza ezinjenge-ADAA. Izinsizakusebenza ezinjenge-AAAD. Ungabi namahloni noma uzizwe unecala, futhi ungazifihli ngezimpawu. Izimpilo eziphumelelayo nezimpi zempilo yengqondo akudingeki zihlukane. Ungayilwa impi yakho nsuku zonke ngenkathi futhi uphila impilo ephumelelayo futhi uphishekela amaphupho akho. Nsuku zonke kuyimpi yawo wonke umuntu. Abanye abantu balwa impi yangempela. Abanye abantu balwa impi yempilo yengqondo. Ukhiye wokuphumelela ukwamukela impi yakho nokugxila ekwenzeni okusemandleni akho nsuku zonke.

Ungaqhubekela kanjani phambili

Izinkinga zokukhathazeka zithinta abantu abadala abangaphezu kwezigidi ezingama-40 e-United States kuphela - cishe amaphesenti ayi-18 wabantu. Yize kuyindlela ejwayelekile yokugula ngengqondo, cishe ingxenye eyodwa kwezintathu yabantu abanokukhathazeka abake bafune ukwelashwa. Uma unexhala noma ucabanga ukuthi ungahle uthinte izinhlangano ezinjenge-ADAA, ufunde ezindabeni zabantu ababhala ngokuhlangenwe nakho kwabo nalesi simo.

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