Okudingeka Ukwazi Ngobuhlakani Bemizwa

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• Kuyini ukuhlakanipha okungokomzwelo?
• Izakhi zobuhlakani obungokomzwelo
• Izibonelo zobuhlakani obungokomzwelo
• Ngabe kungafundwa ukuhlakanipha okungokomzwelo?
• Kungani ukuhlakanipha okungokomzwelo kubalulekile emsebenzini
• Ubuholi bobuhlakani obungokomzwelo
• Ukudla okudlela endlini

Ukubuka konke

Iningi labantu lijwayele ubuhlakani obujwayelekile, okuyikhono lokufunda, ukusebenzisa ulwazi, nokuxazulula izinkinga. Kodwa lolu akulona ukuphela kohlobo lobuhlakani. Abanye abantu banokuhlakanipha ngokomzwelo.

Kwabaningi, ukuhlakanipha ngokomzwelo kungumqondo omusha. Funda ukuze ufunde kabanzi ngalesi sici, kufaka phakathi incazelo yaso nezindlela zokukufeza.

Kuyini ukuhlakanipha okungokomzwelo?

Ukuhlakanipha ngokomzwelo kuyigama noma umqondo owenziwe wathandwa ngabaphenyi ngawo-1990. Lo mqondo uhlukile kobuhlakani obujwayelekile.

Ukuhlakanipha ngokomzwelo yikhono lokuqonda nokuphatha imizwa yakho. Abantu abanalesi sici banekhono lokuqonda nokuthonya imizwa nokuziphatha kwabanye.

Futhi ngalokhu kuqonda, abanye bayakwazi ukujabulela impumelelo enkulu empilweni.

Izakhi zobuhlakani obungokomzwelo

Izakhi ezinhlanu zichaza ubuhlakani obungokomzwelo. Lezi zingxenye zifaka:

Izibonelo zobuhlakani obungokomzwelo

Abanye abantu abahlakaniphe ngokomzwelo abayiboni le mfanelo kubo ngokwabo. Ngakho-ke, umbuzo uhlala: Ubukeka kanjani ubuhlakani obungokomzwelo?

Nazi izimpawu ezimbalwa ezingabonisa ukuhlakanipha ngokomzwelo:

• uthathwa njengomuntu onozwela ngabanye
• Isixazululi senkinga esihle kakhulu
• ungesabi ukuba sengozini futhi wabelane ngemizwa yakho
• setha imingcele futhi awesabi ukuthi "cha"
• ungazwana nabantu ezimeni ezahlukahlukene
• ngikwazi ukukhipha umzuzu omubi bese ngiqhubeka
• buza imibuzo evulekile
• angamukela ukugxekwa okwakhayo ngaphandle kokwenza izaba noma ukusola abanye
• umlaleli ovelele
• ungesabi ukuvuma amaphutha akho bese uxolisa
• ukuzikhuthaza
• qonda izenzo zakho nokuziphatha kwakho

Ngokwengeziwe, izimpawu ezimbalwa zingakhombisa ukungabi bikho kobuhlakani obungokomzwelo:

• unenkinga yokuqina noma ukuphatha
• ungayiphathi kahle impendulo
• ubambe amagqubu
• awukwazi ukudlulisa amaphutha akho
• uzizwe ungaqondakali
• ukwahlulela, ukucasuka kalula, nokuba nobunzima ekugcineni ubudlelwane
• ungayiqondi imizwa yakho

Ngabe kungafundwa ukuhlakanipha okungokomzwelo?

Abanye abantu abanobuhlakani bemizwa bazalwa benjalo. Kulabo abangekho, lesi sici singafundwa ngokuzijwayeza.

Ukwenza ngcono ukuxhumana kwakho nabanye kungenye yezindlela zokufunda ukuhlakanipha kwemizwa. Ukuba nozwela akuzi ngokwemvelo kuwo wonke umuntu. Yenza umzamo ohlangene wokuzibeka ezicathulweni zabanye. Ngokwenza njalo, kuzoba lula ukuzwelana nezimo zabo futhi uqonde ukuthi kungani bephendula ngezindlela ezithile.

Enye indlela yokwakha ubuhlakani obungokomzwelo ukwenza ukuthobeka futhi unikeze abanye ithuba lokugqama ngokufeza kwabo. Funda ukuthi ungazifeza kanjani izinhloso zakho ngaphandle kokunakwa noma ukunconywa.

Ngokwengeziwe, sebenzela ekuthuthukiseni indlela ozisingatha ngayo izimo ezinzima.

Uma uvame ukucasuka, ucindezeleke, noma uthukuthele, zijwayeze ukuhlala uzolile. Zibuze imibuzo embalwa ukuze uqonde umsuka wemizwa yakho. Ukuhlala uzolile kungadinga ukusuka esimweni noma ukuphefumula kanzima.

Ukhiye ukufunda ukulawula imizwa yakho, futhi ungavumeli imizwa yakho ikulawule.

Futhi, thatha umthwalo wezenzo zakho nokuziphatha kwakho. Ukugxekwa okwakhayo nempendulo kuyingxenye yempilo. Esikhundleni sokusola noma ukubeka izaba, lalela impendulo. Vuma umbono womunye umuntu, bese wenza ukuthuthuka okudingekayo noma ukulungisa okuthile.

Ezimweni eziningi, ukugxeka okwakhayo akukhona okomuntu siqu. Kwenzelwe ukukusiza ukuthi ukhule njengomuntu ngamunye.

Ukuthuthukisa amakhono akho okuxhumana nomphakathi nakho kungakusiza ukuthi uhlakaniphe ngokwengeziwe ngokomzwelo. Uma ungumsebenzisi osindayo wezokuxhumana, thatha ikhefu kokuxhumana nabantu isonto elilodwa noma amabili bese ugxila ekusebenzisaneni ubuso nobuso.

Kungani ukuhlakanipha okungokomzwelo kubalulekile emsebenzini

Ukuhlakanipha ngokomzwelo kuzuzisa izindawo ezahlukahlukene zempilo, kepha kubaluleke kakhulu emsebenzini. Eqinisweni, ukuba nalesi sici kungakuthatha kuqhubeke nomsebenzi wakho.

Amandla wokwamukela ukugxekwa okwakhayo ngaphandle kokusoleka angakusiza ukuthi ukhule njengesisebenzi futhi uchume emkhakheni wakho. Ubuhlakani obungokomzwelo buyasiza futhi emsebenzini ngoba mancane amathuba okuthi wenze izinqumo noma izinqumo ezingezinhle ezingathinta ukusebenza.

Esikhundleni salokho, uzosebenzisa ukuqonda nokucabanga ukucabanga ngemiphumela yesinqumo ngaphambi kokuphendula.

Ukuhlakanipha ngokomzwelo kuhlangene nempumelelo emsebenzini. Laba bantu banekhono elikhulu lokuphatha ukucindezeleka, ukuxazulula izinkinga eziyinkimbinkimbi, nokubambisana nabanye.

Ubuholi bobuhlakani obungokomzwelo

Ukuhlakanipha ngokomzwelo kuyasiza nasezikhundleni zobuholi. Emsebenzini, abaholi baqondisa futhi baphathe abantu, futhi le mfanelo iba nomthelela ekutheni bangene kalula, babe nomthelela futhi bathathe izinqumo.

Ukuhlakanipha ngokomzwelo ebuholini kuvame ukusho amandla okubhekana nezimo ezicindezelayo nokubhekana nezinkinga ngaphandle kokumemeza noma ukusola abanye. Inhloso ukukhuthaza indawo ekhuthaza abanye ukuthi baphumelele.

Abaholi abahlakaniphe ngokomzwelo bayakwazi ukubhekana nengxabano ngendlela egqugquzela iqembu labo, kunokuba balidumaze. Bayazi futhi ukuthi kungani abadlali beqembu labo bephendula ngendlela ethile.

Ukusebenza kwesinye isikhathi kuhlanganiswe nemizwa, futhi abaholi abahlakaniphile ngokomzwelo banamandla okuqonda ukuthi yini eyenza iqembu labo lijabule. Ukukhuthaza indawo enenjabulo kungathuthukisa umkhiqizo.

Ukudla okudlela endlini

Abanye abantu bazalwa benesipho sobuhlakani bemizwa, kepha abanye kufanele basifunde. Kunoma ikuphi, amandla okuzazi nokuqonda imizwa yabanye angaba nomthelela omuhle ebudlelwaneni bakho futhi akusize uphumelele kuyo yonke imikhakha yempilo.