Indlela Yokwenza Ucansi Lwezandla Olumangalisayo Nganoma Imuphi Umzimba

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• 1. Okokuqala, qiniseka ukuthi bayayifuna!
• 2. Cabanga ngombhede womunwe noma igilavu.
• 3. Sebenza kusuka ngaphandle ku.
• 4. Linga ngemivimbo ehlukene.
• 5. Dlala umdlalo wombukiso bese usho.
• 6. Faka i-lube!
• 7. Cabanga ngentokozo yakho.
• 8. Zama izindlela ezintsha zocansi.
• 9. Engeza iminwe embalwa (noma ngaphezulu...) iminwe.
• 10. Ngenisa umnyango ongemuva.
• Buyekeza kwe-

Ukuthola izandla. I-hanky-panky yesandla. Shayela ucansi lwezandla noma ngabe yini oyifunayo, vele uyeke ukulusunduza eceleni (noma ulubuyisele esikoleni esiphakathi) sengathi aluyifanelekeli indawo evamile empilweni yakho yocansi.

"Ngikholelwa ngokuqinile ukuthi amathoyizi ocansi ahamba phambili emhlabeni empeleni asezandleni zakho — izandla zakho," kusho uthisha wezocansi uSarah Sloane, obeqeqesha amakilasi amathoyizi ocansi eGood Vibrations nasePleasure Chest kusukela ngo-2001. "Angabamba , bamba, hamba ngokushesha noma ngokunensa, gxuma, stoke, indilinga, thepha. " Futhi (!) Bangakwazi ukuzivumelanisa ngokuya ngokuthi umlingani wakho usabela kanjani. "Ngomzuzwana ohlukanisayo, ungakwazi ukwandisa (noma unciphise) ingcindezi, isivinini, nesigqi ngokusekelwe ekuphenduleni kwabo." (Awukho umthunzi kumathoyizi ocansi, kepha asikho isidlidlizi esingasabela lickity-split kanjalo.)

Uzibuza ukuthi ungamthinta kanjani umuntu ngomunwe noma ungayinikeza kanjani i-handjob ejabulisa kangaka ukuthi ingasebenza njengesifundo esiyinhloko? Nakhu konke odinga ukukwazi — kusuka kochwepheshe abadlala ngesandla nazo zonke izinto zobumnandi — ngokunikeza umlingani wakho isandla (i-orgasm).

1. Okokuqala, qiniseka ukuthi bayayifuna!

Izinsana, ukuhlaselwa okwenziwa ngesandla kukhonaukuhlasela. Ngakho ngiyacela, ngenxa yothando lwemvume, qiniseka ukuthi i-boo yakho ifuna ukujatshuliswa isandla sakho ngaphambi kokungena phakathi kwemilenze yabo. K? Futhi uma uhamba ngaphandle kokusho, kodwa qiniseka ukuthi nawe ucacile ngalokho wena funa kulo mnyango ngaphambi kokuthi umlingani akuthinte nawe.

Olunye ulayini ongazama:

• "Ngingathanda ukuzwa ukuthi [ufaka isichasiso esinjengokuthi hard, wet, slick, thick, etc] ngesandla sami. Ngingakwazi ukukhumula iphenti lakho ngikuthinte?"
• "Ufuna ngikuphulule ngaphansi kwengubo yakho yangaphansi?"
• "Ingabe ufuna ukukhumula lezi [*ukukhombisa impahla yangaphansi/ibhulukwe*] ukuze ngizokugcona ngezandla zami?"

2. Cabanga ngombhede womunwe noma igilavu.

I-PSA: Ingozi iphansi, kepha yona kuyinto kungenzeka ukutheleleka ngesifo socansi ngesandla - ikakhulukazi uma izandla / iminwe yalowo onikezayo inokusikeka okuncane (ama-hangnails, ukusika amaphepha, njll.).

Izifo ezithathelwana ngocansi nazo ziyingozi. Isandla singasebenza njengevekhtha, kuchaza uSloane. "Uma umlingani wakho ene-STI bese uyamthinta, bese uzithinta ungagqokile igilavu ​​noma ugeze isandla kuqala, ukutheleleka kungasakazeka."

Yilapho kusebenza khona amakhondomu omunwe namagilavu ​​e-latex. "Lezi zithiyo zocansi eziphephile zidlula iminwe yakho ngesikhathi socansi lwedijithali, ukuvimbela uketshezi lomzimba ukuthi lungapheli esikhumbeni sakho sangempela," usho kanje. (Bheka: Luyini Ucansi Oluphephile, Ngokuqondile?)

Ngisho noma lingekho ithuba lokuthi kudluliswe i-STI phakathi kwakho nomlingani wakho (aka senivivinyiwe nobabili futhi ninobaba oyedwa) futhi izandla zomnikeli bezisanda kwenziwa nje, usengacabanga ukunikela ngeglavu ukuze kudlalwe ngesandla. Kungani? Ngoba amagilavu ​​enza izandla zakho zibe bushelelezi. "Ukufaka igilavu ​​kukunikeza ukushelela kwethoyizi locansi lengilazi, kodwa ubuciko bokusebenzisa iminwe yakho," kusho uSloane.

Ngaphandle kwalokho, ukufaka amasigilavu ​​kumlingani wakho ukuthi ufuna ukubakhonza ngesandla sakho, usho kanjalo. "Emiphakathini yekink, ikakhulukazi, iglavu lifanekisela ukuthi sekuzokwenzeka indawo eshisayo. Isetshenziswa njengethuluzi lokwakha ukulangazelela."

3. Sebenza kusuka ngaphandle ku.

Lokhu ngokungangabazeki iseluleko esisodwa esingcono kakhulu sokuthi ungamfaka kanjani omunye umuntu ngesandla noma indlela yokwenza umsebenzi ojabulisayo: "Iphutha elikhulu abantu abalenzayo ngesikhathi socansi lwezandla lihamba kahle ukuze bathole imali," kusho uSloane. Esikhundleni sokuphulula masinyane shaft yomlingani wakho, wenze imibuthano ku-clit yabo, noma ukujula kuyo, uchithe isikhathi esithile ubhuqa amathanga abo angaphandle nangaphakathi, isisu, isiduli se-pubic, ne-labia. Lokhu kuzokhuphula ukulangazelela futhi kwakhe ukuvuka. "Ngaphambi kokuthi wazi, bazobe becela ukuthi ubambe noma ungene ngaphakathi," kusho u-Searah Deysach, uthisha ofundisa ngocansi isikhathi eside futhi ongumnikazi we-Early to Bed, inkampani ekhiqiza ukuzijabulisa e-Chicago ethumela emhlabeni wonke.

Uma uthola ilambu eliluhlaza, ungathinta ne-perineum yabo — isikhumba esiphakathi komgodi omkhulu nezitho zangasese. "Lesi sicucu sesicucu sivamise ukuphendula kahle uma sishaywa ngoba siminyene," kusho uSloane. Futhi kubantu abanezindlala, ivuselela indlala ngokungaqondile. (Related: 8 Male Erogenous Zones You're I ignored during the sex)

"Abaningi abaphethe ipipi bathola ukuthi ukufaka amasende lapho esebenza kungaba ibhonasi enhle yokusebenzisa izandla zakho," kunezela uDeysach.

4. Linga ngemivimbo ehlukene.

"Kungakhathalekile ukuthi isitho sangasese somlingani wakho sinjani, ukusebenzisa imivimbo ehlukahlukene kuyindlela enhle yokuqala imisebenzi yakho yezandla," kusho uDeysach.

Uma umlingani wakho enepipi, "zama ukusebenzisa imivimbo emide ubheke phezulu naphansi kushaft, uphendukise isihlakala sakho kancane nje njengesifo sohlangothi," esho. "Noma bamba shaft ngezandla zombili bese usebenzisa izithupha zakho ukwenza imibuthano engaphansi kwepipi lakhe, khona kanye kwi-frenulum [emaphethelweni ekhanda] lapho abantu abaningi bezwela khona kakhulu."

Uma umlingani wakho ene-vulva, zama ukuphulula kusuka phezulu kuya phansi uma umlingani wakho ene-clit ezwelayo, futhi phansi-phezulu uma umlingani wakho ethanda ukukhuthazwa okuqondile, kuphakamisa uSloane. "Ungazama ukuhambisa iminwe yakho kwimibuthano ephikisana newashi, iziyingi ezihambisana newashi, kanye ne-diagonally unqamule i-clitoris," usho kanje. "Futhi uma umlingani wakho ekujabulela ukungena futhi ekufuna, ungazama ukubabamba ngomunwe." (Okuhlobene: Umhlahlandlela Wangaphakathi Wokulala Nomunye Umuntu wesifazane Okokuqala ngqa)

P.S. Unganqikazi ukufaka izandla zombili esenzweni. "Ungazama ukufaka iminwe emibili (noma ngaphezulu) esithweni sangasese sophathina wakho ngenkathi usebenzisa esinye isandla sakho ukuphulula i-clit yabo. Noma uthathe amasende womlingani wakho ngesandla esisodwa ngenkathi uphulula phansi kushaft ngesinye," kusho uDysach.

5. Dlala umdlalo wombukiso bese usho.

Uma uyazibuza ukuthi umunwe umlingani wakho noma kanjani ukunikeza handjob ukuthi uzoba nakanjani njengokuthi, "indlela engcono kakhulu yokujabulisa umlingani wakho ukuqonda ukuthi uthanda ukuthintwa kanjani futhi kuphi," kusho u-Rebecca Alvarez Story, M.A., isazi sezocansi kanye nomsunguli wemakethe yokunakekelwa kwabaseduze e-Bloomi. Indlela engcono kakhulu yokufunda? Babuke beshaya indlwabu. "Kukunikeza isihlalo esingaphambili seseshini yokuqeqesha abantu abanobulili obufanayo," usho kanje. (Okuhlobene: Umhlahlandlela Wokusiza Ukushaya Indlwabu (I-Ha!)

Uma umlingani wakho ene-vulva: Ingabe bathanda uhlangothi lwesokudla lwe-clit yabo noma lwesobunxele? Ingabe bathinta phezu kwe-clitoral hood, noma bachitha isikhathi esiningi behlikihla i-labia yabo? Ingabe bayazithinta noma bayigcina ingaphandle?

Uma umlingani wakho enepipi: Ingabe basonta isandla sabo njengoba bephulula behla benyuka ku-shaft yabo noma behamba ngomugqa oqondile? Ngabe bavuselela amabhola abo noma i-perineum ngezikhathi nesikhathi? Konke lokhu kuyi-Intel yakho!

Uma umlingani wakho esohlangothini olunamahloni, ungabeka isandla sabo phezu kwesakho ukuze bakwazi ukukuholela esigqi abasithandayo. Kusho uSloane.

"Ungaze usiphendule isikhathi sokushayana indlwabu lapho nobabili nibuka enye indlwabu," kusho uDeysach. Maphakathi, mhlawumbe nobabili niyoshintsha kusukela ekuthinteni imizimba yenu nize nithintane, usho kanjalo.

6. Faka i-lube!

Phinda emva kwami: Asikho isenzo socansi esenziwe * hhayi * esenziwe ngcono nge-lube. "Uma somile, isikhumba esikhunjeni sithinta ukungqubuzana okungaba buhlungu kakhulu," kuchaza uDeysach. ILube isiza iminwe yakho ukundiza phezu kwamabhithi wesithandwa sakho ngokungafani nokunamathela kuyo nokuyibamba. Hhawu. (Futhi, kuyadingeka uma uhlela ukufaka i-anus—kodwa sizofika kulokho ngezansi.)

Ngokuvamile, uDeysach uncoma i-lube esekwe ngabicah njenge-Uberlube yocansi lwesandla. "Ihlala isikhathi eside, ngakho-ke akudingeki ukuthi uyisebenzise kaningi." Kodwa-ke, i-lube engasuselwa ku-silicone ayinakusetshenziswa namathoyizi abicah, ngakho-ke uma unezinhlelo zokuletha isidlidlizi sabicah kusihlwa, uzofuna ukukhetha i-lube elisuselwa emanzini (njenge-Sliquid Sassy esikhundleni salokho.

"Uma umlingani wakho enesitho sangasese, ungazama i-lube elenziwe nge-CBD, elingasiza ukuletha ukugeleza kwegazi liye ezithweni zangasese ukunciphisa izinhlungu ngesikhathi sokungena noma ukukhulisa ukuzwa," kusho uDeysach. (Noma thola amafutha avusa inkanuko, anomphumela ofanayo.) Uma usebenzisa amagilavu ​​e-latex noma uhlela ukusebenzisa amakhondomu e-latex kamuva kusihlwa, khetha i-GoLove CBD Lube, esekelwe emanzini. Ngaphandle kwalokho, ama-lubes e-CBD asuselwa kuwoyela afana neForia Awaken kanye neQuim Intimate Serum alungile. “Amaluba anambithekayo nawo ayisinqumo esihle kakhulu socansi lwezandla oluzoshintsha lube noma luhlanganiswe nocansi lomlomo,” usho kanje.

7. Cabanga ngentokozo yakho.

Ukusebenzisa isandla sakho ukwenza umlingani wakho aklolode, aklabalase, futhi ngisho squirt kungaba H-O-T. Noma kunjalo, kulungile impela uma ufisa ukuvuselelwa kwezitho zakho zobulili, futhi!

Inketho eyodwa: Sebenzisa isandla esisodwa ukuzishaya futhi esinye ukushaya umlingani wakho. (Futhi, ukudluliswa kwe-STI kungaba yingozi uma usebenzisa isandla esifanayo kuwe nakuzakwenu).

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Uma unepipi, ungase uzame ukugqoka isidlidlizi esifana ne-Lelo Tor 2 (Buy It, $140, lelo.com), iringi yeqhude ekwazi ukuletha ukudlidliza okunomsindo emabholeni akho, noma i-MysteryVibe Tenuto (Buy It, $150 , mysteryvibe.com), eletha ukudlidliza kusuka ekhanda kuye-esakeni okungahle futhi kulawuleke uhlelo lokusebenza.

Futhi-ke, ungahlala ucela umlingani wakho ukuthi alule isandla.

8. Zama izindlela ezintsha zocansi.

Akunamahloni emdlalweni wezocansi wezithunywa zevangeli. Kodwa umamukeli emhlane wabo, i-stroker phakathi kwemilenze yabo akusona ukuphela kwe-sexy manual manual position. (PS akudingeki ushaye indlwabu endaweni efanayo njalo, noma.)

Isitayela se-Doggy siyindlela enhle kunoma yimuphi umamukeli othokozela ukuzwa ukuzithoba okuncane, nabanikazi bezitho zomzimba ezithokozela ukungena okujulile.

Uma uhlela ukufaka umlomo wakho (ikhanda lapha ukuthola amathiphu ochwepheshe bezocansi ngomlomo), ungahle ukuthi owamukelayo ahlale (noma ngezansi nje) kobuso bakho. Ngoba lokhu kungabeka amahlombe akho esimweni esingakhululekile, "shintsha izikhundla uma ungazizwa kahle!" Kusho uSloane. "Kuzoba ngcono futhi kujabulise nobabili uma ningacabangi ngengalo ebuhlungu noma ngesigaxa semisipha."

Ukunyonyoba ukuze uthole i-quickie yejazi? Noma ulungele ukumanziswa eshaweni? "Uma nje bobabili abalingani bekwazi ukuxhasa isisindo sabo somzimba isikhathi esithile, ukuma ocansini ngesandla kungamangalisa," kusho uSloane. Vele ufinyelele phakathi kwemilenze yabo ne-bada-bing, i-bada-boom. (Related: Indlela Yokwenza Ucansi Lweshawa Okumangazayo)

9. Engeza iminwe embalwa (noma ngaphezulu...) iminwe.

Umunwe owodwa noma emibili uzizwa kahle? Qhubeka ungeze enye. Futhi uma lokho kuzwakala kukuhle? Okunye. "Enye yezinto abanye abantu abayijabulelayo ngokungena ngaphakathi umuzwa wokugcwala," kusho uSloane. "Kwabanye abantu, ibhande leminwe emithathu noma emine lizwakala lilihle impela, kanti kwabanye, ibhande lesibhakela yilokho okuzizwa kungcono kakhulu."

Uma ungakaze uhlole isibhakela phambilini, kungenzeka ukuthi ucabanga isibhakela sangempela — njengaleso esisibonakalisweni Samandla Abesifazane. Kepha akuyona indlela esebenza ngayo. Esikhundleni salokho, cabanga ngendlela ongazihlanganisa ngayo izandla zakho uma uzozama ukungena embizeni ye-pickle ukuze ubambe lolo cezu lokugcina lwe-dill ngezansi. Cishe ungenza umumo ofana noqhwaku—lesi yisimo esifanayo ongasisebenzisa ukufaka yonke iminwe emihlanu kumsele wesitho sangasese sowesifazane.

"Uma isandla sakho sesingenile, ungazama iminyakazo ehlukahlukene yokunyakazisa noma yokushintshanisa ukusiza ukushaya izindawo ezishisayo zangaphakathi," kusho uSloane. (Bheka: Izindawo Eziyi-4 Zokujula Kwesitho Sobulili Okufanele Uzihlole) Futhi, ungaqala nokwelula isandla sakho ukuqinisa umuzwa wokugcwala kuze kufike ezingeni elikhulu nakakhulu. Isitho sangasese sawo wonke umuntu sinomumo ohlukile, ngakho-ke kungathatha ukulingwa okuncane nephutha nokuxhumana ukuthola ukuthi iyiphi iphethini le-engeli elifanele nokunyakaza, esho.

10. Ngenisa umnyango ongemuva.

Ah, yebo. Isikhubekiso. I-mecca evame ukunganakwa yamathuba okuzijabulisa. "Kuneziphetho eziningi ezizwelayo ku-anus, eduze kwe-anal sphincter, kanye naseqhumeni uqobo," kusho uDeysach. Futhi lokho kuyiqiniso kubantu bazo zonke izitho zangasese, yingakho ethi, "kubantu abaningi, ukwengezwa komdlalo we-butt ekuvuseleleni isitho sangasese okungaholela ekuholeni nasezintweni eziqhuma kakhulu." Kuhle kakhulu, cha? (Bona Okuningi: Ungayilungiselela Kanjani Ubulili Obuyisidunu, Ngokusho Kwezazi).

Manje, ngaphambi kokuba singene shí ngaphakathi * kanjani * ukufaka imbongolo esandleni sakho sokudlala, yazi lokhu: Akufanele uphinde usuke esinqeni ubuyele esithweni sangasese ngesandla esifanayo ngaphandle kokusihlanza. Ukwenza kanjalo kuzothatha amabhaktheriya asuka embotsheni ngaphezu kwesitho sangasese sowesifazane, okuthi, kubantu abane-microbiome ebucayi yesitho sangasese sowesifazane, adidane ne-pH yangasese futhi abangele izifo ezicasulayo ezifana nokutheleleka ngemvubelo, i-bacterial vaginosis, noma izifo zomgudu womchamo, kuchaza uSloane. "[Lezi zifo] zingasuswa zonke ngezindlela zokwelashwa, kodwa kungcono ukugwema ukutheleleka ngokuphelele," esho. Kulungile!

Uma umlingani wakho enesitho sangasese sowesifazane, isixazululo esisodwa ukuthi ube "nesandla sangasese" kanye "nesandla sendunu." Okunye ukufaka igilavu ​​ngaphambi kokuya emgodini ongemuva bese ulahla ngaphambi kokubuyela emgodini ongaphambili. Noma, ungasebenzisa umlomo wakho, ipulagi yezinqe, intambo yobuhlalu be-anal, noma i-massager ye-prostate ukukhuthaza ukuphela kwezinzwa ku-butt nokugcina isandla sakho lapho sikhona.

Uma umlingani wakho enepipi, nokho-ke, mancane amathuba okuba atheleleke. “Ukusebenzisa umunwe ogcotshwe kahle ukubhucunga izinzwa lapho kuvulwa i-anus kungazwakala kumnandi ngempela,” kusho uDeysach. "Uma umlingani wakho ejabulela lokho kuzwa futhi evuma ukungena, ungase wengeze i-lube bese uslayida umunwe wakho ngaphakathi kwembobo." Qala ngokusebenzisa imivimbo ehamba kancane, enesigqi ukusiza umlingani wakho ajwayele umuzwa wokugcwala.

Ngemuva kwesikhashana ulapho ungazama ukuthola i-prostate yabo (i-G-spot yowesilisa). "Itholakala cishe ngama-intshi amabili kuya kwamathathu ngaphakathi emzimbeni ibheke ngaphambili, ingcindezi ye-P-spot kanye nokuvuselela kungaholela ekuqhumeni, nokugcwala komzimba kwabanye abantu," usho kanje. (ICYWW: leso ngesinye sezizathu ezenza ukuthi ukupequlula kube mnandi kakhulu.)

O, futhi owemukelayo angahlala nje agqoke ipulagi yezinzwa ukuthola umuzwa oqinile wokugcwala kwendunu. Uma ungenawo amathoyizi ocansi lwendunu, bheka lolu hlu lwamathoyizi ezimpundu anconyelwa isexpert.

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