Ukuqina kweBlogger kubhala okuthunyelwe okuhambayo ngemuva kokubizwa njalo emigwaqweni

-Delile

• Buyekeza kwe-

Uma ungomunye wezigidigidi zabesifazane abakha amaphesenti angama-50 enani labantu emhlabeni, kungenzeka wake wahlangabezana nohlobo oluthile lokuhlukunyezwa empilweni yakho yansuku zonke. Kungakhathaleki ukuthi uluhlobo luni lomzimba wakho, ubudala, uhlanga, noma ukuthi ugqokani––ubulili bethu bubodwa busenza sithonywe ukuhalaliswa, ukugqolozelwa kanye nokuphawula okuqondiswe kwabesifazane emgwaqweni. U-Erin Bailey, i-blogger yokuqina eneminyaka engu-25 ubudala yaseBoston, naye unjalo.

U-Bailey uke wabizwa izikhathi eziningi ngenkathi ezivocavoca, futhi ukhathele yikho. Ukusuka emapaki omphakathi ukugijima emgwaqeni, uBaley uchaza okunye okuhlangenwe nakho kwakhe okubi kakhulu nabahlukumezi kokuthunyelwe kwebhulogi kwakamuva, futhi izindaba zifundeka kakhulu futhi zijwayeleke kakhulu kwabanye besifazane.

"Amajika enginawo akhiwe ngamahora, izinyanga neminyaka engiyichithe ngisebenza ejimini," evula. Ugqoka izikhindi ezicindezelayo ze-Nike ezincane ezinosayizi wakhe lapho ezivocavoca ngenxa yokuthi "izimpahla ezigugile zivele zingiphazamise emsebenzini wami wokujima," okuyisizathu esiqondakalayo sokuthi akhethe ukugqoka ubhodisi wezemidlalo ngenkathi egijima. "Kungama-degree angama-85 nomswakama ongu-50% kanti ngiziqeqeshela umgamu wemarathon ngakho-ke amakhilomitha angu-7 kuya ku-10 kulokho kushisa okunezendlalelo kubi ngesihluku," esho. Sonke besikhona.

Ngisho noma izingubo azigqokayo akufanele zibe nandaba, u-Bailey ukhetha ukudalula leyo mininingwane ngaphambi kokuchaza izikhathi ezithile aye wahlukunyezwa ngazo emigwaqweni.

"Ngibhekise epaki lendawo ... ngiyoziphoqelela ekuzivocavoca umzimba ngaphandle kwekhempu ebengihlola isonto elizayo lamakilasi engiwafundisayo," kubhala yena. "Ngafika umfana kimi ovela ngaphesheya kwepaki futhi waqala ukukhuluma nami ekude ngamamitha ambalwa. Ngakhipha ama-headphone ami ngicabanga ukuthi kukhona engibuza kona, kunalokho izindlebe zami zazigcwele izinto ezinenhlamba "afuna ukuzenza mina".

Kwesinye isigameko, ukhumbula isisebenzi sasegaraji lokupaka simbiza ngemuva kokumomotheka okungenabungozi ngenkathi sigijima. Ngesinye isikhathi, owesilisa uzame ukumlandela emgwaqeni ngemuva kokumvulela umnyango endaweni yangomhlaka-7/11, lapho ayeyothenga khona u-ayisikhilimu.

Ukulandisa ezinye izehlakalo ezimbalwa lapho ahlukunyezwa khona futhi walulazwa ngabantu angabazi-ejimini, ukuphuma nabangani bakhe, noma ukuhamba nje emgwaqweni-uBaley ubuza umbuzo obalulekile kwabanye abantu besifazane: yini esiyifanele? Bese ephendula:

"Sikufanele ukungazizwa sithuliswa ukumemeza kwakho. Sifanele ukuzizwa sinamandla okuzithuthukisa. Sifanele ukuzizwa sinomdlandla esikhunjeni sethu ngaphandle kokuzwa sengathi silapha ukukuheha. Sikufanele ukwahlulelwa ngokufaneleka kwethu, hhayi izingubo zethu. Sifanelwe ngaphezulu. Konke okuningi. "

Ukuhlukumezeka emgwaqweni kukhona naphezu kwezingubo zezisulu noma ukubukeka kwazo– futhi futhi akekho noyedwa okufanele, isikhathi. Okuthunyelwe kuka-Bailey kukhulumela bonke abesifazane ababhekana ne-misogyny nsuku zonke, abaphikiswa ngaso sonke isikhathi uma becatshangelwa. Ngenxa kaBailey, izinkulungwane zabaphawuli sezivele zigqugquzelwe ukuthi zikhulume izindaba zazo, futhi impendulo isekela ngokumangalisayo.

Funda konke okuthunyelwe kubhulogi "Yini Esiyifanele" kuwebhusayithi yakhe, bese ubheka iHollaback! ukuthola izeluleko ngokulwa nokuhlukunyezwa emgwaqweni.

Buyekeza kwe-