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1. Ungena ephathini lapho wazi khona umninikhaya kuphela. Wena:

a.

ukuhlala eduze kwetafula le-buffet - ungakhetha ukulahla ukudla kwakho kunokuphoqeleka ukuba ukhulume nabantu ongabazi!

b. qala ukuxoxa ngosuku lwakho nomuntu oseduze kwakho.

c. khuphukela eqenjini labantu ababukeka benentshisekelo futhi ubeke amazwana afanele ngesikhathi esihle.

Ukuqonda okusheshayo Impela, akumnandi kangako lapho ungazi noma ngubani, kepha ungalilahli leli thuba lokuhlangana nabantu abasha. Hlola indawo yesehlakalo bese ukhombe abantu ababonakala bengeneka, bekhetha iqembu elincane kunelikhulu. Uma kubonakala sengathi ingxoxo ayimile, suka uye uzethule. "Yiba ngokwemvelo futhi uvulekele," kusho uJudith McManus, umongameli weJudith McManus, LLC, nomqeqeshi wezokuxhumana kwezamabhizinisi eTucson, e-Ariz. "Tshela iqembu ukuthi umusha, bese ubuza imibuzo evulekile [labo abangakwazi ' ngiphendule ngoyebo noma cha] njengoba abantu bazethula."

2. Usanda kubuya ohambweni olumangazayo oluya eHawaii ofela ukutshela abangane bakho ngakho. Wena:

a. ungasho lutho. Ubani ngempela onendaba nohambo lwakho?

b. qhubeka nohambo kunoma ngubani ozokulalela.

c. wethula isihloko, bese uhlanganyela nabanye ngohambo abaluthathile.

Ukuqonda okusheshayo Ukwabelana ngendaba yomuntu siqu, ikakhulukazi leyo ekujabulisayo, kungasiza ukuqala izingxoxo ezintsha. Qaphela nje ukuthi awugxili kukho konke ukunaka kuwena. Futhi, gwema lokho uSusanne Gaddis, Ph.D., isikhulumi esiphrofeshinali kanye nomqeqeshi ophezulu e-Chapel Hill, N.C., akubiza ngokuthi i-OOPS eyodwa (indaba yethu siqu) -ubudoda. "Uma uhlala uthatha i-adventure enkulu noma uthola isivumelwano esingcono, ungumuntu o-OOPSing," kusho uGaddis. Esikhundleni salokho, yabelana ngendaba yakho bese ulinganisela ingxoxo ngokubuza ukuthi ngabe omunye umuntu uke waya yini eHawaii noma unohambo oluthokozisayo ekugcineni. "Lwela ukulingana okuhle kwengxoxo ngokukhuluma amaphesenti angama-40 wesikhathi futhi ulalele amaphesenti angama-60," kusho uGaddis.

3. Umi nabanye besifazane abathathu embuthanweni lapho ubona ukuthi omunye wabo akakhulumi. Wena:

a. uzwele yena; ngemuva kwakho konke, awunikeli kakhulu wena.

b. qhubeka nengxoxo, ecabanga ukuthi uzongena.

c. umbandakanye ngokubheka iso, ukumamatheka futhi umbuze umbuzo.

Ukuqonda okusheshayo Buka isimo somzimba wesifazane futhi ubone ukuthi uyakwazi yini ukuzwa lokho akuzwayo. Ingabe ubonakala enelisekile ngokulalela nje? Uma ebonakala engakhululekile noma ethukile, mfake ekunakeni kwakhe bese ningena engxoxweni yomuntu oyedwa. Gcina ingxoxo ilula. "Ukuhlekisa kuyithuluzi elihle kakhulu kunoma yisiphi isimo, ikakhulukazi uma uzama ukukhipha umuntu," kusho uMcManus.

4. Uxoxa nomuntu omaziyo ongayeki ukukhuluma ngaye. Wena:

a. lalela ngesizotha.

b. mthungele futhi afune izaba zokuyilahla phansi ingxoxo.

c. ngena lapho ukwazi futhi uthathe ithuba lokuxoxa indaba yakho.

Ukuqonda okusheshayo Isazi sezingxoxo esinobungcweti sisebenza ngokulinganisela kokubuka, ukubuza nokudalula. Yize ukubuza imibuzo kwenza izingxoxo ziqhubekele phambili, ukucela amandla amaningi kakhulu ukuthi udele phansi. "Izikhathi eziningi sicabanga ukuthi abantu bayayixoxisa, kodwa esikhundleni salokho, sivele sayeka isikhathi sethu sokukhuluma," kusho uSusan RoAne, umeluleki wezokuxhumana eSan Francisco nombhali wencwadi ethi How to Create Your Own Luck (John Wiley & Amadodana, 2004). Ukulungisa? Buza umbuzo, ulalele impendulo yakhe, bese ugxumela ukuxoxa indaba yakho. Uma namanje engafuni ukuba ukhulume, buza umbuzo ozokwenza ukuthi uphendule ngoyebo noma cha bese uthatha ithuba lakho.

5. Emcimbini wakho wokudla kwakusihlwa osebenza naye, uhlezi eduze kwendoda ongayazi. Uzethule, kepha awukwazi ukwenza ukuthi ingxoxo iqhubeke. Wena:

a. chitha iningi kusihlwa uzithulele uthule.

b. yenza imibono ehlukahlukene ngokudla noma izivakashi, noma ngabe ubonakala enentshisekelo yini.

c. yethula izihloko eziningi ezahlukene ubusuku bonke ngomzamo wokumenza avule isifuba ngaye.

Ukuqonda okusheshayo Uma uhlezi eduze kwale ndoda, ukuba nengxoxo yobungane kungase kwenze ukudla kwakho kubekezeleleke kakhudlwana. Okokuqala, vula ngokulula, "Sawubona, uqhuba kanjani?" Bese ubuza imibuzo evusa izimpendulo eziyiqiniso, njengokuthi, "Umazi kanjani umphathi wendawo yokuhlala?" noma "Uhlala kuphi?" Uma usathola impendulo encane kuye, qhubeka ugxumela ezihlokweni ezehlukene uze uthole indawo yokuxhumana.

Amaphuzu

Uma uphendule kakhulu o-A, uku:

> Ngamahloni kakhulu Noma mhlawumbe umane nje awuzethembi. Okokuqala, yeka umbono wokuthi akekho onendaba nalokho ozokusho noma ukuthi akukho onganikela ngakho. Ukuze uhlale uqala izingxoxo, bhalisela iphephandaba noma ubone ama-movie akamuva bese uza emibuthanweni ucabanga ngezihloko ezintathu.

Uma uphendule kakhulu ama-B, uku:

> Ukubusa Ingxoxo Zibuse futhi uyeke ukulawula izingxoxo. Ngenkathi abantu befuna ukuzwa izindaba zakho, bafuna nokuhlanganyela ezabo. Nikeza abanye abantu ithuba lokukhuluma -- amazwi abo azoveza ukuthi yini abathanda ukuxoxa ngayo.

Uma uphendule ikakhulukazi ama-C, uku:

> Unesiphiwo Sokudlala Ulalela kakhulu kunokukhuluma, futhi amandla akho amakhulu ukwenza abantu bazizwe sengathi ugxile kubo kuphela lapho bekhuluma. Akungabazeki ukuthi usohlwini lwezivakashi zawo wonke umuntu, ngakho-ke qaphela ukuthi ungazisabalalisi uzinze ngalesi sikhathi samaholide!

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