Iba Ne-Orgasm Engcono: Susa Ukuphazamiseka
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Ngendlela efanayo ukucindezela ngokuzama ukwehla kungenza kube nzima kakhulu ukufinyelela enjabulweni ye-orgasmic, ukuphazamiseka-noma ngabe kungokwengqondo noma ngokomzimba-kungenza ukuthi kusondele ekufinyeleleni entanjeni.
"Imvamisa, abesifazane bazofinyelela ezingeni elithile lokuvuka futhi babe nokuqhunyiswa kwemicabango-Uma ngenza njalo? Kuthiwani uma ngingenjalo? Ngizokwazi ukuthi nginayo? Yonke le micabango iphikisana nokuvuka, "kusho u-Emily Nagoski, Ph.D., umbhali we Woza Njengoba Unjalo: Isayensi Entsha Emangazayo Ezoguqula Impilo Yakho Yezocansi. Pho yenzeni intombazane enemicabango ezulazulayo? Vuma ukuthi bakhona, bese ubavumela ukuba bahambe babuyele ezingeni ohlangabezana nalo, kusho uNagoski.
Futhi, yebo, siyazi ukuthi lokhu kulula ukukusho kunokukwenza. "Ukubona ukuzwa emzimbeni wakho kungenza kusebenze imicabango ebucayi ngomzimba wakho-ukuthi amafutha esiswini sakho ahamba kanjani, ukuthi amathanga akho abukeka kanjani, noma ngabe yini," kusho uNagoski.Yize lawa mazwi ejwayelekile futhi engokwemvelo, uthi, ukhiye wokuba ne-orgasm ukugxila enjabulweni, hhayi lelozwi eliphikisayo ekhanda lakho.
Njengoba ubuchopho buyisitho socansi esikhulu kunazo zonke, kubalulekile futhi ukuthi uzilungiselele umcimbi omkhulu, kusho u-Emily Morse, isazi sezocansi, kanye nomsakazi we-podcast ye-Sex With Emily. Khumbula izimo zocansi ezedlule ezacindezela izinkinobho zakho noma ucabange ngezimo owaziyo ukuthi zizokuvula. Ngale ndlela, lapho isenzo siqala, ubuchopho bakho (nomzimba) kuzobe sekuvele kuhamba kahle, uyeluleka.
Ngaphezu kwengqondo ezulazulayo, kukhona neziphazamiso ezingokomzimba - iselula yakho ibhuza ngokungaphezi, izingane zakho noma ohlala nabo kwelinye igumbi, ikati lakho liklwebheka emnyango, njll. banethezeke ngangokunokwenzeka, kusho uNagoski.
Case iphuzu? Abesifazane babesemathubeni amaningi kakhulu okufinyelela ku-orgasm lapho begqoke amasokisi, abacwaningi bocansi baseDutch bathola ocwaningweni olulodwa. Cha, amasokisi akuyona imfihlo-izinyawo zawo ezibandayo zazimane zibaphazamisa. (Ngezinye izinto ezixhaswe yisifundo, funda lezi zinto eziyi-8 ezimangazayo ezithinta impilo yakho yezocansi.) Ngakho-ke, noma ngabe kulungiswa i-thermostat noma uqinisekisa ukuthi ifoni yakho ayibonwa, hlela phambili ukuze ukwazi ukudala okujabulisayo, okukhathazayo nokuphazamiseka- imvelo yamahhala ezokuvumela ukuthi ugxile emsebenzini owenziwayo. "Umongo osiza i-orgasm enkulu wehlukile kuwo wonke umuntu, kepha udinga ukuwuthola futhi ukuthandaze futhi ukwenze kwenzeke," kusho uNagoski.
Ngoba uma kuziwa ocansini, udinga ukuphuma ekhanda lakho futhi ugxile emsebenzini owenzayo-noma yisiphi isitho somzimba esikwenza uzizwe ungcono.