Ukuba Nomntwana ku-50: Ingabe ama-50 ama-40 amasha?

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• Kuya ngokuya kujwayelekile
• Ziyini izinzuzo zokuba nomntwana kamuva empilweni?
• Kepha kunezinto okufanele uzicabangele
• Ungakhulelwa kanjani lapho uneminyaka engama-50
• Usebenzisa amaqanda afriziwe
• Kusetshenziswa isithwali sokukhulelwa
• Ukuhlukanisa phakathi kwezimpawu zokukhulelwa kanye nokunqamuka kokuya esikhathini
• Ukukhulelwa kuzoba njani?
• Ngabe kukhona ukukhathazeka okukhethekile okuphathelene nomsebenzi nokulethwa?
• Ukuthatha

Kuya ngokuya kujwayelekile

Ukuba nengane ngemuva kweminyaka yobudala engama-35 kuvame kakhulu kunakuqala, kepha impunzi ayigcini lapho. Abesifazane abaningi baneminyaka engama-40 no-50, futhi.

Sonke sizwile nge umkhaza, umkhaza yalelo "washi lezinto eziphilayo," futhi kuyiqiniso - iminyaka ingenza umehluko ngokuya ngokukhulelwa kwemvelo. Kepha ngenxa yobuchwepheshe bokuzala, imvelo eyodwa kanye nokulinda kuze kube isikhathi silungile - noma ngabe lapho uku-40s noma ngabe usuthole i-5-0 enkulu - kungaba yindlela yangempela.

Uma ucabangela ingane eneminyaka engama-50, noma uma uneminyaka engama-50 futhi ulindele, mhlawumbe unemibuzo eminingi. Ngenkathi udokotela wakho kufanele abe ngumuntu ohamba naye ukuthola izimpendulo, nakhu abanye kumele babe nolwazi ukuze uqalise.

Ziyini izinzuzo zokuba nomntwana kamuva empilweni?

Ngenkathi ngokwesintu abantu beba nezingane ezineminyaka engama-20 nengama-30, abaningi banomuzwa wokuthi kunezinzuzo ezithile zokulinda - noma ukwengeza enye ingane eminyakeni yomndeni ngemuva kokuba ube neyakho yokuqala.

Ungafisa ukuhamba, ukusungula noma ukuqhubekisela phambili umsebenzi wakho, noma ukhululeke ngokwengeziwe ngobunikazi bakho ngaphambi kokuqala umndeni. Lezi zonke izizathu ezidumile zokuyeka ukuba ngumzali okokuqala.

Noma, ungathola umlingani kamuva empilweni bese unquma ukuthi ufuna izingane ndawonye. Noma - futhi lokhu kusemthethweni ngokuphelele! - ungahle ungafuni izingane lapho usemncane, bese ushintsha umqondo wakho.

Lapho uku-40s no-50s wakho, mhlawumbe kungenzeka ukuthi ube nokuzinza kwezezimali nokuguquguquka okungenza kube lula ukunakekela izingane. Uzoba nokuhlangenwe nakho okuningi kokuphila. (Vele ungacabangi ukuthi lokhu kusho ukuthi uzoba nazo zonke izimpendulo uma kukhulunywa ngokuba ngumzali - asikaze sihlangane nomuntu okwenzayo!)

Ukuba nezingane ezinegebe elikhulu eminyakeni yabo nakho kunezinzuzo ezikhanga imindeni eminingi. Ukuhlanganiswa kwezingane ezindala nezincane kuvumela asebekhulile ukuthi babambe iqhaza elibonakalayo ekunakekeleni omncane omncane.

Futhi uma usuvele unezingane lapho ukhulelwa kuma-40s akho noma ngisho nama-50s, uzothanda injabulo yobuzali futhi - futhi ngokunokwenzeka unengcindezi encane kunangesikhathi sokuqala!

Kepha kunezinto okufanele uzicabangele

Ngenkathi ukuthola ingane kamuva empilweni kungaba lula kwezinye izici, futhi kungaba nzima ukukhulelwa. Ukukhulelwa kwakho nakho kuzobhekwa ngokuzenzakalela njengengozi enkulu.

Ezinye izingozi zokuthola izingane ezineminyaka engama-50 zifaka:

• i-preeclampsia (uhlobo lomfutho wegazi ophakeme okhula ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa okungasongela impilo)
• isifo sikashukela sokukhulelwa
• ukukhulelwa kwe-ectopic (lapho iqanda linamathiselwe ngaphandle kwesibeletho sakho)
• ubungozi obukhulu bokudinga ukulethwa ngokuhlinzwa
• ukukhulelwa kwesisu
• ukuzala ingane ishonile

Kukhona nezinguquko zokuphila okufanele uzicabangele. Ngenkathi abanye besifazane bemukela ama-50s abo njengethuba lokuhlola "isikhathi sami," ukuba nomntwana kungakuphazamisa lokhu. Ungathola ezinye izigaba ezijwayelekile ezingaphansi kwendabuko futhi, njengokuthatha umhlalaphansi okuzayo noma ukuhamba.

Ngokwengeziwe, kunezici zobungozi eziphathelene nengane yakho. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi empilweni unengane, inkulu ingozi yokuba:

• ukukhubazeka ekufundeni
• ukukhubazeka kokuzalwa
• umehluko ohlobene ne-chromosome, njenge-Down syndrome
• isisindo sokuzalwa esiphansi

Kuwukuhlakanipha ukuthola ukwelulekwa ngaphambi kokukhulelwa ukuze uxoxe ngezinhloso zakho zokuzala nodokotela wakho. Bangangena emininingwaneni eminingi ngobungozi nokucatshangelwa.

Ungakhulelwa kanjani lapho uneminyaka engama-50

Ukukhuluma ngokwemvelo, sizalwa nawo wonke amaqanda esizoke sibe nawo. Uma sesifikile ebusheni futhi siqala ukuya esikhathini, ngokujwayelekile sizokhipha iqanda elivuthiwe umjikelezo ngamunye. Kepha ukwehla kwesibalo samaqanda kumangalisa kakhulu kunalokho, futhi amanani ethu azokwehla unyaka nonyaka size sifike esikhathini sokunqamuka kokuya esikhathini.

Eqinisweni, kulinganiselwa ukuthi owesifazane ojwayelekile unama-oocyte ayi-1 000 kuphela (abizwa nangokuthi amangqamuzana amaqanda) lapho efika eminyakeni yobudala engama-51. Lokhu ukwehla okukhulu kusuka kuma-500,000 ngesikhathi sokuthomba kanye nama-25,000 aphakathi kweminyaka engama-30.

Ngenkathi ukukhulelwa ngamaseli amaqanda ambalwa kungenzeki, kungasho ukuthi uzoba nenkinga ethe xaxa ngokukhulelwa ngokwemvelo.

Ikhwalithi yeqanda nayo iyancipha njengoba sikhula, okungenza ukukhulelwa kube nzima noma kwandise ubungozi bokungajwayelekile kwe-chromosomal, okungenza ukulahleka kokukhulelwa kwasekuqaleni kube lula kakhulu.

Iseluleko esijwayelekile ukubona uchwepheshe wezenzalo uma uke wazama ukukhulelwa ngokwemvelo izinyanga eziyisithupha ngaphandle kwemiphumela futhi ungaphezu kweminyaka engama-35.

Kodwa-ke, uma uzama ngenkuthalo ukukhulelwa eminyakeni yakho yama-50s, ungahle uthande ukukhuluma nodokotela wakho ngokubona uchwepheshe wenzalo ngokushesha okukhulu, ngenxa yokuncipha okusheshayo kwama-oocyte.

Isazi singaqala siphakamise ukuthi uthathe imishanguzo yokuzala ukuze uqinisekise ukuthi uyavuthwa. Lokhu kungasiza kakhulu ngesikhathi sokuphela kwesikhathi, lapho imijikelezo yakho iya ngokuya ingalindeleka.

Kwesinye isikhathi, ukuthatha le mithi kwanele ukuholela ekukhulelweni okuyimpumelelo ngemuva kwesikhathi esincane kakhulu. Le mithi ingakhuphula inani lamaqanda avuthiwe owakhiphayo phakathi nomjikelezo, ngakho-ke idala "imigomo" eminingi yesidoda.

Noma - uma usenenkinga yokukhulelwa - uchwepheshe wakho wokuzala uzokutshela ngezinye izinketho. Bangancoma ukukhuleliswa kwe-in vitro (IVF), indlela ebuyisa amaqanda emzimbeni wakho bese ewafaka isidoda ngokwahlukana ebhodini ngaphambi kokuwajova abuyele esibelethweni.

Amaqanda amaningi athathwa ngasikhathi, ngoba akuwona wonke okulindeleke ukuthi avundiswe ngempumelelo. Ungagcina unemibungu engu-zero, eyodwa, noma eminingi ngemuva kokuqeda umjikelezo we-IVF.

Uma uneminyaka engama-50, udokotela wakho angase asikisele ukuthi unembungu engaphezu kweyodwa edlulisiwe (uma unayo) ukuze wandise amathuba akho okuthi omunye wabo “anamathele”.

Kodwa-ke, kungenzeka ngokuphelele ukuthi yonke imibungu oyidlulisile izofakelwa - okuholele ekukhulelweni ngezimpinda! Ngoba lokhu kwenza ukukhulelwa okuyingozi kakhulu, qiniseka ukuthi uxoxa ngokungenzeka nodokotela wakho nomlingani wakho.

Ngeke siyi-sugarcoat it - iminyaka yakho izoba isihloko sengxoxo phakathi nale nqubo. (Lokhu kuyiqiniso ngisho nakwabesifazane abaseminyakeni yabo yama-30 ephezulu.) Ngenxa yekhwalithi yeqanda ephansi, ungakhuthazwa ukwenza ukuhlolwa kofuzo embungwini (emibungu) ophuma kunqubo ye-IVF.

Lokhu kungabiza, futhi imiphumela ayinakuqinisekiswa ngokunemba okungamaphesenti ayi-100. Kepha ukukhetha imibungu engcono kakhulu - engenakho ukungajwayelekile okutholakele kwezofuzo kulesigaba - kungakunika amathuba amakhulu okuphumelela ekukhulelweni.

Usebenzisa amaqanda afriziwe

Ukuqanda amaqanda akho (cryopreservation) lapho usemncane kuyindlela enhle uma ucabanga ukuthi ungafuna ukwengeza emndenini wakho kamuva empilweni. Lokhu kufaka ne-IVF. Umqondo ukuthi unamaqanda (noma imibungu) afriziwe uze ulungele ukuwasebenzisa, uma kunjalo.

I-Cryopreservation ayiqinisekisiwe ukudala ukukhulelwa okuphumelelayo, kepha njengoba sishilo, ikhwalithi yeqanda lakho ijwayele ukuba phezulu uma usemncane. Ehlangothini le-flip, amanani okuzalwa aphilayo aphansi ukusuka kumaqanda afriziwe.

Kusetshenziswa isithwali sokukhulelwa

Ama-50s akho angaletha izingqinamba ezimbalwa zokukhulelwa, kufaka phakathi ukungakwazi ukukhipha amaqanda, ukungabikho kokukhulelwa, kanye nengozi eyengeziwe yokukhulelwa kwesisu.

Kulezi zimo, ungahle ubheke umuntu othwala okhulelwe, omunye wesifazane ongasiza ukuthwala ingane yakho isikhathi. Buza udokotela wakho ukuthi ungamthola kanjani umuntu ozomela ngokwesivumelwano.

Isithwali sokukhulelwa singakhulelwa nge-IVF sisebenzisa imibungu eyenziwe ngamaqanda abanikeli noma owakho. Izinketho zakho zizoya ngokuncamelayo nakwimpilo yokuzala.

Ukuhlukanisa phakathi kwezimpawu zokukhulelwa kanye nokunqamuka kokuya esikhathini

Ukuhlolwa kokukhulelwa - okwenziwa ekhaya bese kuqinisekiswa ehhovisi likadokotela wakho - ukuphela kwendlela eqinisekile yokuthola ukuthi ukhulelwe ngempela yini.

Awufuni ukuhamba nezimpawu wedwa ngoba izimpawu zokuqala zokukhulelwa zingafana nalezo zokunqamuka kokuya esikhathini. Lokhu kufaka phakathi ukuguquka kwemizwelo nokukhathala - okungakhombisa nokuthi isikhathi sakho siyeza, ngalokho.

Khumbula lokho iqiniso ukunqamuka kokuya esikhathini akwenzeki uze uhambe ngaphandle kwesikhathi sakho izinyanga eziyi-12 zilandelana. Uma izikhathi zakho zishayekile futhi zaphuthelwa, ungaba sesigabeni sokunqamuka lapho usenamaqanda asele khona.

Njengomthetho wesithupha, uma usesikhathini, usenamaqanda futhi ungakhulelwa kahle kakhulu.

Ngakho-ke uma usathola izikhathi futhi uzama ukukhulelwa, qiniseka ukuthi ulandelela imijikelezo yakho bese uthola ukuhlolwa kokukhulelwa uma uphuthelwe yisikhathi. Ukugula kwasekuseni kungenye yezimpawu zokuqala zokukhulelwa ezingenzeki ngokunqamuka kokuya esikhathini.

Ukukhulelwa kuzoba njani?

Njengoba umzimba wakho uguga, ukuthwala omunye umuntu ngaphakathi kuwe kungaba inselele enkulu. Ungase uthambekele nakakhulu ekukhulelweni kokukhulelwa okufana nalokhu:

• ukukhathala
• ubuhlungu bemisipha
• ubuhlungu obuhlangene
• ukuvuvukala kwemilenze nezinyawo
• ukucasuka nokucindezeleka

Kepha bonke abesifazane abakhulelwe banokungakhululeki okuthile - akusikho ukuhamba epaki kwengane eneminyaka engama-25, noma. Njengoba konke ukukhulelwa kwehlukile, ingane ngayinye onayo idala izimpawu ezahlukahlukene.

Uma ngabe ubenengane ekuqaleni kwempilo (noma ngisho muva nje), yiba nomqondo ovulekile ngenqubo yokukhulelwa futhi ulungele ukuyithola ngokuhlukile ngalesi sikhathi.

Umehluko owodwa ophawulekayo ukuthi ukukhulelwa kwakho kuzobhekwa kakhulu lapho usumdala. Ungase uzwe noma ubone amagama athi "ukukhulelwa okubelethayo" - aphelelwe yisikhathi, ngiyabonga okuhle! - kanye "nobudala bomama obuthuthukile" obusetshenziselwa ukubhekisa ekukhulelweni kwakho okuyingozi kakhulu. Ungakhubeki - lawa amalebula asetshenziselwa abesifazane abakhulelwe abaqala eminyakeni yabo engama-30!

Ngaphezu kwakho konke, gcina i-OB-GYN yakho iluphu mayelana nazo zonke izimpawu zakho nokungakhululeki ukubona ukuthi ingakunikeza yini usizo.

Ngabe kukhona ukukhathazeka okukhethekile okuphathelene nomsebenzi nokulethwa?

Ngemuva kweminyaka yobudala engama-50, kunezinye izingozi okufanele uzicabangele ezihlobene nokusebenza nokubeletha. Unamathuba amaningi okulethwa ngokuhlinzwa ngenxa yobudala bakho kanye nokwelashwa kwangaphambili kokuzala, okungadala i-preeclampsia.

Esinye isizathu sesigaba se-c yi-placenta previa, isimo lapho i-placenta ihlanganisa umlomo wesibeletho. Ukuzalwa kwangaphambi kwesikhathi nakho kungenzeka kakhulu, okungadinga isigaba se-c, futhi.

Uma udokotela wakho ekunikeza ukuqhubekisela phambili ukulethwa kwesitho sangasese sowesifazane, bazokuqapha eduze ngengozi yokopha.

Ukuthatha

Yize kungelula kangako, uma ufuna ukuba nomntwana oseminyakeni yakho yama-50 futhi ungakafiki esikhathini sokuya esikhathini, ngokuqinisekile unezinketho. Ngaphambi kokuba uzame ukukhulelwa, khuluma nodokotela wakho ngempilo yakho nokuthi ngabe zikhona yini izinto ezinobungozi ezingaphazamisa.

Inani lamaqanda oye wehla ngokwemvelo ngokubonakalayo kuwo wonke ama-40s nama-50s akho. Ngakho-ke uma ungakabi nenhlanhla yokukhulelwa ngokwemvelo ezinyangeni ezimbalwa, cela i-OB-GYN yakho ukuthi idluliselwe kuchwepheshe wezokuzala. Uma ungenayo i-OB-GYN, ithuluzi leHealthline FindCare lingakusiza ukuthi uthole udokotela endaweni yangakini.

Ungacabangi ukuthi "sekwephuze kakhulu" - sithuthuka olwazini ngaso sonke isikhathi, futhi imindeni iza nezinhlobo eziningi. Isinqumo sakho sokungeza esakho singesomuntu siqu esinemiklomelo eminingi engaba khona!